File: ss+(2015-06-05+at+04.44.43).jpg (12KB, 161x162px) Image search:
[Google]
12KB, 161x162px
Hey /adv/. Need your opinion on something. Got offered a volunteering type of work to live in china for a year. The city is 1 hour away from Shanghai, and rent + utilities paid for. Salary is $2k usd a month. I get 2 weeks paid vacation too. The only issue is I'm still in college and I think finishing college is top priority right now but I always wanted to go abroad and see what it's like. Opinions?
16 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984380
id take it if you're itnerested in living there ever. chances like this dont come along often.
you can easily go back to college in a year.
>>
>>17984380
If you drop out or take a year off college, do you have to start making student loan repayments? I suggest you find out and let it influence your decision.
Do you speak any mandarin, or are you at least willing to learn? I suggest you take at least a beginners course before you go.
>>
>>17984380
What is the program? Is it reputable?
Anonymous
My mom tags me in "forever alone" memes. 2017-01-23 11:00:10 Post No.17984304
[Report] Image search: [Google]
My mom tags me in "forever alone" memes. 2017-01-23 11:00:10 Post No.17984304
[Report] Image search: [Google]
My mom tags me in "forever alone" memes.
Anonymous
2017-01-23 11:00:10
Post No. 17984304
[Report]
[View this topic]
How do i stop this?
18 Posts / 4 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984304
tell her she is insulting you to everybody she knows and if she doesn't stop counter attack with memes.
or find a partner
>>
>>17984307
Some my mom jokes and memes will stop her shit once she gets a taste of how it feels.
>>
>>17984304
>mom on social media
Wew.
Just block her.
File: 20170122_212936.jpg (3MB, 5312x2988px) Image search:
[Google]
3MB, 5312x2988px
I'm 21 year old girl and I lost a dime sized patch of hair to a scar. Its right on the top of my head. What should I do with my life now that love is dead to me? I can cover it up but he'll see it eventually... hah. Fuck my life.
62 Posts / 7 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984264
Wtf "love is dead to you" ?
You are not resume to a patch of lost hair, girl ! Your full person is still here and lovable.
>>
>>17984264
Nah, you're still fine. One small patch means nothing, trust me.
>>
>>17984278
It's a very obvious flaw. I can't imagine what kind of dude would want a deformed chick. I wasn't that pretty to be fine with but at LEAST I was outwardly fit and healthy. Again. Fml.
Anonymous
My boyfriend is becoming very sexist 2017-01-23 09:53:19 Post No.17984172
[Report] Image search: [Google]
My boyfriend is becoming very sexist 2017-01-23 09:53:19 Post No.17984172
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 14908301_198237897285636_8466805509698097288_n.jpg (33KB, 480x591px) Image search:
[Google]
33KB, 480x591px
My boyfriend is becoming very sexist
Anonymous
2017-01-23 09:53:19
Post No. 17984172
[Report]
[View this topic]
He started visiting sites like /r/ The Red Pill and is now going on about how women need to know their place, should be homemakers and the like.
He's been taken in by conservative and traditionalist rhetoric, and it's becoming increasingly an issue as he doesn't help with the housework or anything.
I personally believe things should be shared, and any variation from a 50/50 model in terms of housework and actual work should be maturely discussed and decided upon based upon any number of factors, such as income and personal preference.
However, he is not giving me any such chance. He used to think like me, or said he did. We're both young (early 20s) so marriage and kids aren't on the table yet. I really love this man, and initially thought he was the one, but now I'm not so sure.
What do I do /adv/? is there any way to change him back to the loving, caring, considerate person he was? Or should I just leave?
>inb4 "know your place woman"
Please kindly fuck off. I don't want that kind of a relationship.
213 Posts / 14 Images
View this topic
>>
What does he say when you talk to him about your ideas, and the ideas he had before ?
>>
>>17984178
Some variation of "It's what's right and natural, I know that I was wrong before".
>>
>>17984181
That not sounds good.. I don't know. As a girl too, I couldn't stay with someone who has sexists ideas. It makes me feel like a little piece of shit to know that he thinks I am not equal to him.
File: Question-mark.png (35KB, 749x946px) Image search:
[Google]
35KB, 749x946px
I Have no clue what's going on with my gf. We had an argument (first one, which she took a lot more serious than me). I came over, tried to fix things and first thing she says is "I don't know If I can recover or" "I can't imagine being with or without you" when I try to help she pushes me away, but when I tell her she should do what she thinks is the best for her she attacks me for not fighting for her. I love her but this is too much, I'm disappointed that she had no problem telling me that she wants to quit, and the way she doesn't want to work together to solve this is too much. I feel bad and the longer it goes the more I consider leaving. Can somebody tell me what's going on?
31 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984171
What was the argument about ?
Maybe she can't leave you and is trying to make you leave her instead.
>>
>>17984183
I told her a lot of times that some of her actions made me feel bad. She agreed to change and then repeated the same things. She also expected me to change some things but she never gave any feedback, she always backlashed. I couldn't take it and lost my cool, told her that what I felt was wrong. When we were talking she agreed with me, but day after she didn't even talk to me and started acting guilty. I by no means say I didn't do everything perfectly, and I apologized for that. In response, she told me she has to think things through and that she can't imagine being with me anymore. She also basically forces me to give up on one of my childhood friends just because she's a girl.
She told me that she wants to try and fix things, then after I leave she tells me that she doesn't know what to do. I'm exhausted and disappointed. I didn't expect her back off like that after telling me how much she loves me.
>>
Shameless bump. Please help.
Anonymous
Part of my index finger is swollen 2017-01-23 09:47:31 Post No.17984161
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Part of my index finger is swollen 2017-01-23 09:47:31 Post No.17984161
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Part of my index finger is swollen
Anonymous
2017-01-23 09:47:31
Post No. 17984161
[Report]
[View this topic]
Why is this? It's freaking me out. It started two days ago in the afternoon. I didn't cut my finger nor seen or felt anything bite it. It is only swollen in the middle, not at the joint or as a whole. A day before that my fingers (all) were hurting at the joints and I figured it was from typing, clicking a lot, the cold and lifting heavy things wrong. So I gave my hands a rest and also switched from a touchpad to a mouse. The pain went away but then this happened. Pic related.
What can I do?
I avoided salty meals for a day and drank my weight in water but it hasn't gone away. It doesn't hurt unless I squeeze it and I can bend my finger with no problem.
6 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
Cartilage all fucked up, yo.
>>
Should be okay, yo.
It's inflammation, bro.
Take some ibuprofen and ice that shit.
Should be finger blasting bitches again in a week.
>>
so it would be weird for this to happen on your index finger but most peoples small finger looks like that because of how the hold their phones
File: helsinki.jpg (94KB, 858x536px) Image search:
[Google]
94KB, 858x536px
Why is my asshole always so itchy and uncomfortable? I'm poor and often wear the same pairs of underwear for days, is that it?
7 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984106
Yeah, you likely have pinworms. They're treatable, but unless you actually clean your shit up, you're going to keep getting them. Especially if you re-wear underwear and don't wash shit in your house like sheets and stuff.
>>
>>17984106
>wear the same pairs of underwear for days
I do too, but I'm rich and never had any problem
>>
>>17984121
Well, fuck. Thanks though.
File: 1484627665102.jpg (28KB, 720x510px) Image search:
[Google]
28KB, 720x510px
So, I'll just cut to the chase, my mom's leaving my dad. Technically my step dad, but I'm twenty-two and he and my mother have been married for nearly twenty years. He's a good family man, He's strong in his faith as a Christian, but apparently he's a poor lover. My mom and I are very close, probably uncomfortably close for most mothers and their children, so we tell each other lots of things. I knew she was going to leave him before he even knew. Besides him not giving her a good dicking in over two years, he apparently kisses like a kissless virgin and doesn't show any sexual interest in her. But here's the thing, she's a 'mature' woman now, granted he's not a spring chicken either, and she doesn't get it, that all marriages go sexless. Most much sooner than theirs has. Not to mention, and don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but God damn is she fat as fuck. Not curvy, not full figured, fat as a tub of lard. I've even explained this to her, obviously not as bluntly, and all she would say is he wouldn't even touch her.
Again, he's a good man. He spends time with his family, he cooks for his family, he has a shit job for his family (he's a store manager of six stores and doesn't make more than 25k a year). He's just not that romantic. So my mom's leaving him for another man who she admitted to exchanging kisses and "I love you"s with. And that's what she's admitted to, God forbid what else they've done. The guy is a friend of my mom's and is/was to me. She's known him for quite a few years, so who knows how long this has been going on. He's such a fake asshole though, you know the kids in puppy love who tell the cheesy "Did it hurt when you tell from heaven?" Pick up lines, he's just like that. I don't know what to do, I'll always love her, but I hate her for hurting my dad. For hurting the man who took an abandoned boy and raised him as his own. I almost hope her new boytoy hurts her and she tries crawling back.
>Inb4killyourself
>Inb4killyourmom
>Inb4fuckyourmom
6 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984080
You have to remember, regardless of how you feel about this situation, your mother is her own person. Let her live her life and go on with your own. Just because they are separating, that doesn't mean your own relationship with him has to end.
>>
>>17984108
honestly it should end with their mom instead. I know that isn't how it is going to work out by the sounds of it but the cheater deserves to lose the kids in my mind.
>>
How the hell is someone supposed to stay adamant and true when even the blob gets in on the "never good enough" fem-wave? Do people not want to live as a society anymore?
I swear that deep, hidden depression is in everyone and the only reason people don't admit it as a whole is because then we'd be the emotional equivalent of England.
Anonymous
Problems with my thoughts 2017-01-23 07:54:23 Post No.17984027
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Problems with my thoughts 2017-01-23 07:54:23 Post No.17984027
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: A-person-will-be-referred-to-diagnosis-only-if-the-symptoms-of-schizoaffective-disorder-are-seen-for-at-least-2-weeks.jpg (197KB, 473x608px) Image search:
[Google]
197KB, 473x608px
Problems with my thoughts
Anonymous
2017-01-23 07:54:23
Post No. 17984027
[Report]
[View this topic]
I´ve been having some trouble with my thinking. Since i was in high school i had some cannibalistic ideas that cause me anxiety, they are like images or movies that appear in my head of me losing control and start eating someone, Also i´ve been having anxiety when i look at fire or other items that can cause harm to others, like bricks of knifes, feeling that someone is giving me orders. I also have a necrophiliac fantasies, like having sex with a dismembered woman. I don´t know what's happening to me, my first therapist say that is some kind schizophrenia and my second one says that is some kind of dissociative disorder.
11 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17984027
It's called a weird fetish mate
Just watch weird porn of it and don't do it IRL and you are good
>>
>>17984040
Dumb post.
OP are you still seeing a therapist? To me it sound like schizophrenia but I'm not a professional. It sounds like you might need to be medicated. Schizophrenia usually makes itself apparent in the late teens to mid 20s.
>>
Yes, I´m still seeing my therapist. I´m 22, all this started when I was I teenage.
File: 1GNkuPT.jpg (36KB, 520x307px) Image search:
[Google]
36KB, 520x307px
I suddenly have trouble cumming during sex.
I never had this problem especially with this girl, but for the last few days I have a hard time cumming. It's sensitive, and it feels great but I either take a very long time or I lose my erection all together even though she tries her best.
Anyone encountered this problem before?
15 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
File: IMG_2451.jpg (71KB, 1080x1087px) Image search:
[Google]
71KB, 1080x1087px
>>
>>17984024
Hi, I'm a girl but I used to have a boyfriend who had the same problem than you. He couldn't cum. He said it was since his previous girlfriend who didn't like him cuming (wtf btw) so he started trying not to cum, had been used to it and couldn't cum until this day. I don't know what to tell you to do.
>>
>>17984024
Are you cut?
Anonymous
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2017-01-23 07:36:04 Post No.17984000
[Report] Image search: [Google]
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2017-01-23 07:36:04 Post No.17984000
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 166153488[2].jpg (30KB, 449x381px) Image search:
[Google]
![166153488[2].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/HFe1YOn.jpg "166153488[2]")
30KB, 449x381px
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
Anonymous
2017-01-23 07:36:04
Post No. 17984000
[Report]
[View this topic]
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
333 Posts / 11 Images
View this topic
>>
Okay so just so you know, I have almost no experience with girls and I'm coming off of about a decade of complete lack of self-esteem and vert strong self hate. I'm still building myself up and accepting that people might actually like me for who I am and that's been a challenge in itself but I've made really good progress in the couple of years and I'm trying to build on that.
So I'm a guy, and me and my roommates were having a small get together with some friends on Saturday. One female friend invited some of her friends, and obviously we were happy to have more girls over. One of my male friends was flirting with one of my female friend's friends the entire night but it wasn't going so well for him I guess. Eventually the girl starts talking to me, and it was either the beer or me but I was getting her to laugh and keeping good conversation. Me and one other roommate ended up walking this girl and her roommate home and I got the balls to kiss this girl and we were making out in front of her apartment for a little while. She stopped it because she didn't wanna get too deep into a PDA and I was respectful and pulled myself back. I guess I was too drunk to try and press things further so I let her and her roommate go back up. I did get her number though. I'm just not sure how to go about texting her though. I've gotten into a similar position once before and tried to ask the girl out afterwards and she turned me down so I don't wanna just ask this girl out, but I'm wondering if I should just text her like in the middle of the week and try and keep her interested or if I should wait until closer to next weekend when I'm actually doing something fun and invite her over then and try and pick things up.
Also other question, girls, if a guy you've known and maybe flirted with for a little while invites you over to a party, are you expecting something to happen between you guys or are you just accepting a friendly invitation
>>
Romance is a lie.
>>
>>17984007
Great question.
File: images (2).jpg (9KB, 300x168px) Image search:
[Google]
9KB, 300x168px
This is a stupid way to open up a thread but whatever, I'm going for it.
I'm a 23 year old female who is attractive. Met a guy Friday who told me I look great in photos but even better in person. Everything was going great until Saturday night. We decided to drink alcohol. I told him I do not drink much because alcohol puts me into a dark place and I already screwed up by opening a locked picture folder in my phone while drunk and looking at old photos and videos of me and my ex lover (never dated, spent 2 years together, mentally messed up after that and seeing a professional). Guy kind of sh*ts on me. Makes me feel guilty for bringing ex lover up and I deserved that. I wanted to cry but I didn't. Instead I pretended to "go yandere" to get my revenge. Well, he sh*ts on me even more and doesn't see it as funny or a game. My heart is aching in my chest. All I can do is hear ex lover's voice and see his face and muscles when I close my eyes. Run upstairs to bathroom to hold my head and cry, blasting music on my phone. Dude opens the door which I don't hear in my state of obvious autistic psychosis. I ask to go home after trying to jump out of the window. Now he won't text me back. I believe he needs space but I'm so bummed. I've confessed many a time I have wonderful qualities but there's some crazy trapped inside of me that I'm working on, he says he can handle it but he has ghosted me. I don't blame him and I'm not sure what to do after apologizing. I want things to work out because we're cute together and he allows me to read books while we watch shows together, we often talk about things that we're both interested in instead of him being completely one sided and whoring the conversation with /pol/itics or whatever the heck alphas want to center their convos around. Idk what advice I'm really asking for.
49 Posts / 13 Images
View this topic
>>
You're a fucking weirdo. My only advice to you is to not date anyone and focus on helping yourself first before you fuck up anyone else's life.
>>
>>17983922
Leave the poor guy alone and see a psychologist. Seriously. You are insane.
>>
File: 1476554377628.png (164KB, 427x358px) Image search:
[Google]
164KB, 427x358px
Yeah you need a therapist before you consider dating. Just consider it a loss and work on the shit that made you have a mental breakdown over seeing your ex.
On top of that, why the ever loving fuck do you still have an entire folder dedicated to your ex to begin with? You slapped a password lock on it so we can't even pretend you have no emotional bullshit tied to them. That's like breakup 101. No guy is really going to be ok with that.
Anonymous
Should I ask a Christian Girl out? 2017-01-23 06:06:24 Post No.17983846
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Should I ask a Christian Girl out? 2017-01-23 06:06:24 Post No.17983846
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Should I ask a Christian Girl out?
Anonymous
2017-01-23 06:06:24
Post No. 17983846
[Report]
[View this topic]
20yo male.Currently at uni taking a semester off to work full time.
>Saw a girl that went to my highschool for the first time in two years
>Her brother and I used to be Roomates
>She's a bio major wanting to become a vet
>She's definitely into me
She's a super conservative Christian whose dad died when she was 13 due to cancer. I'm sure there's some emotional baggage. She, like me, has never dated or had sex to my knowledge. Also has cats, which I hate. She's cute, but I'm not religious and a bit of an asshole to most people. I wouldn't mind dating her, but I don't know what love feels like or how relationships work. She's the opposite of the girls I've tried to pursue with regards to status and sexual activity. I feel like it could work tho.
17 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
Sounds like a terrible idea to start a relationship that's bound to fail long term.
Might be alright for a little while, but it will not work forever.
>>
If she's never dated and religious there is a chance relationships are 100% serious business to her. Unless you want to go down the serious relationship road, I'd advise not making a move
Plus, baggage. Trust me, you don't want or need to solve her insecurities.
>>
>>17983878
Yeah the thing is I've never dated either. I've turned down 5 girls in the last 4 months, I just haven't met someone I'm ecstatic about. Long term relationships don't scare me, it's relationships seem boring to me. Most girls I meet bore me rather quickly. It's the same old routine with over and over. Idk. Maybe I'm just fucked up.
File: ert678456.jpg (63KB, 540x483px) Image search:
[Google]
63KB, 540x483px
Is there anyway to get someone to stop being late all the time? I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and every single time I've planned stuff with him hes been late, he was even late to our first date! I'm not even exaggerating when I say every time either. I've been patient and considerate but after nearly 2 years this shit is getting really old because its not late by a few minutes its late like by 30 minutes to an hour, sometimes even longer. The reasons are always either he fell asleep or got distracted. Can I do anything to help him stop doing this or is it useless?
19 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>17983821
i drop people like that.
>have friend
>always at least an hour late
>to everything
>sometimes will say 'ill be right back' then just never comes back
>insists i go play dodgeball with him
>i hate it but agree
>its only 2 hours long
>he shows up an hour fucking late
>'dont bother coming man, you already missed half of it'
>'i dont mind man'
>'i dont care what YOU mind, you made me come here and play something i hate for an hour, were done'.
havent seen him since
>>
>>17983821
Have you tried telling him it bothers you? Like really really bothers you?
Then you need to decide if you can live with it or break up.
>>
>>17983821
As a guy who is 300% more punctual than I used to be, I can say probably not.
The only thing that taught me to be punctual was dire consequences for being late. It was when I developed the fear, that's when I forced out the discipline necessary. After being disciplined for a while, it became a habit. I still have the fear, but it's good fear and I keep it with me because it's healthy and useful. I like being on time.
File: 1321060951734.jpg (29KB, 498x600px) Image search:
[Google]
29KB, 498x600px
>hang out with friend (girl)
>get drunk
>she's too drunk
>walk her home
>she tells me she wishes i could stay over
>she stares at me when we're at her doorstep
>she kisses me twice
Does she like me? When she's sober she acts indifferent and shits on me.
6 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
You asked this question already
>>
Don't fuck drunk chicks.
You're opening up a bad can of worms there.
>>
>>17983783
This. I had a friend brag to me how he made out with this chick and got to finger her a bit when they were on their first date and got drunk. The night ends and he texts her the next day and gets ghosted hard. We later found out that she had regretted what she did so badly the next day she didnt want to even deal with the texts and just ignored him, hasnt seen him to this day.