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This girl is coming over to my place to "ask my genuine opinion" on something. I text her "should I be nervous?" and she says no, shes just trying to open up to me and she doesnt know why, I told her I like that she can trust me and ill see her then, she says ok and changes the subject to what my plans are for the week.
Some backstory: I met this girl a while ago through some friends. We hit it off pretty quick, she was easy to talk to and i felt we were getting really flirty, lots teasing and such. I ask her out one night and she says she doesn't see me that way. Basic friendzone. I try to stay friends but I lost interest so it kinda just petered out. Almost a year later I see her again and its like we had never lost touch. In the time since I've last seen her I lost some weight and have gotten fitter. She commented as much and complimented me on how good I look. We've been texting almost daily since.
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I'm really unsure of where we stand now, my friend tells me she likes the attention I give her since she knew I liked her before. Says the reason she texts me before she goes to bed all the time is shes bored and gets validation from it, she's just seeking attention and knows she'll get it from me, he tells me dont give it to her next time. It makes sense to me.
We text early in the week like usual, asks me to go on a run with her, decline cause im at the gym. Last time I heard from her until yesterday night. Shes going to a bar crawl with some friends, she texts me when shes drunk usually. This time isnt different. She sends a simple hi. I dont respond. 30 mins later she sends me an agitated text: ???? anger emoji.
I'm at a fuck buddys house and i ignore it keeping in mind what my friend told me, I told her about this situation and she agreed with my friend. So I dont get home till this morning and I text her that my phone died and that I was out all night with my friend and I made sure to say "she" didnt have a charger at her place, therefore I didnt see the text. I was trying to see if that would get some kind of reaction. I followed up with asking her how yesterday night went. She texted me back "lol its fine" and nothing else, she didnt even answer my question about her night.
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She texts me a few hours later asking how my weekend was. I mentioned I hung out with a friend and that I had messed up my leg playing basketball. She was really interested in what we did and all I mentioned was that we hung out and that she brought me back home in the morning. I kept it really vague.Then she tells me she wanted to hang out but I cant now cause of my leg, she jokes that she cant carry me anywhere. I told her she can always visit me in my crippled state. We make some jokes and then she says maybe tuesday, saying we can "touch base" on some things and I ask her what about, she says nvm and I jokingly say she has to tell me cause im disabled now, thats what leads to the conversation I mention at the beginning of the post.
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I guess what I'm asking is what to expect? Half of me thinks she's gonna talk about how she feels about me and the other half shes gonna cement this friendzone stuff with asking me for advice about guys shes actually interested in, which she did before when I first met her. I
I would just ask her out but I was so sure before and it feels the same as it did then, but I was wrong. I guess I'm just tired of being wrong about this stuff. its happened so often lately and whenever I think I make a connection its never romantic. Casual relations are easy, intimate ones are not.
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GOT KEKED
>Be me
>be 38yo
>married 5 years
>took a new job that required a long commute
>slept on a cot in the office one or two nights a weekto save maintenance/miles/money
>while at home in bed, find strange info on wifes phone
>totally bluff and said i already knew what happened
>she confessed
>im proud i stood up for myself but now i dont know what to do.
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Honor kill her, and fuck the bull to regain your status in society.
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>>17983691
>Honor kill her, and fuck the bull to regain your status in society.
Yes, fuck the alpha. Be the alpha.
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>>17983749
> OP here. Yea its done. Im more venting than anything. Im not sure how im gonna get my kids to school and shit like that.
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i have no idea who to turn to for advice, so i'm here. bear with me.
19. didn't finish high school due to family complications that'll be touched on throughout post. no income.
when i was 16, my father passed away and it devastated me and my mother. it rocked the entire household and left this incredibly large hole in our lives that we never got to address. shortly after he passed, my mother was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. grieving was put on hold with treatment in mind. over the course of the past three years, i've slowly become more and more unstable mentally and mom's health continued to deteriorate. chemotherapy wasn't working, and eventually, complications arose and she was in and out of the hospital. insurance would no longer pay for both physical therapy to get her back on her feet and her chemotherapy medication. she chose physical therapy, thinking that she could get back on her feet and not have to choose between the two once she got home. unfortunately, she was swapped inbetween the physical therapy center and the hospital multiple times due to blockages in her intestinal tract, a byproduct of the tumors. she died a couple of days ago; she held out just long enough for me to get there and say my goodbyes, then died the same day, three hours later.
i'm on my own and i have no idea what to do. i have no family that i can depend on in the slightest and i have no life plan as of yet. our family was living off of 2600 a month from ss/disability claims from the government in my mother's name, but now that she's passed, i can no longer claim these things and am stuck without rent and no way to pay utilities or for food.
i have approximately until the end of february before i'm going to be forced out of my home. i have no income, and so, i cannot be on the rent agreement by law.
cont. in comments. very short.
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tl;dr
i have no idea what i'm going to do or how to assert myself in the world. i planned on taking care of my mother until her death, but her death came way quicker than i anticipated and i've had no time to figure out how i'm going to get by in this life.
some kind of advice would be appreciated. thank you. anything helps, because the only other alternative that i can think of isn't pretty.
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Do you know any reliable friends you can crash with until you find a job to get some cash? Or friends who can help you out by putting you in contact with a job? Not sure where you are based, may I suggest contacting a free counselling service to help with the anxiety.
Write down a list of what you want to achieve and a time-frame to achieve it in. HTH.
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reddit.com/r/financialadvice
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Two men to chose from-what do I do /adv/? 2017-01-23 04:18:54 Post No.17983549
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Two men to chose from-what do I do /adv/?
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25F-So, to be clear from the outset-I'm just in the dating phase with both and have not had sex with either.
>guy 1
>scientist
>highly educated
>handsome in a slightly feminine way-I like that so no issue
>Has different politics to me-something we've barely touched on. Despite the outwardly standard liberal look, he's quite traditional and conservative
>well paying job, but it's not important as I earn a great salary myself
>I get on great with his family (I met them coincidentally)
guy 2
>artist and musician
>well travelled and interested in adventures
>interesting-we can talk for hours
>handsome, I'd say this is on a par between the two
>well read
>arrogant
>no steady employment
>only now going through college
>has told me he has a very fucked up family history, but won't elaborate
>politics align with mine
I'm really torn here. Any ideas?
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>>17983549
Guy 1.
Stop coming here for valudation please.
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>>17983549
Guy 2 sounds like me and I'm a complete mess so I'd say guy 1.
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>>17983556
Validation* fuckin touch keyboards.
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>reactivate Facebook account
>suggested friends includes a girl I hooked up with 3 years ago
>only texted her, never emailed or anything else
How does Facebook do this? It's incredibly creepy.
Was it just a coincidence ?
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>>17983530
facebooks syncd up to your phone. you probably input it and dont remember
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>>17983534
I had the Facebook app installed but NEVER log in'd because I forgot I had the app.
It makes no sense.
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>>17983543
while on your computer you probably typed in your phone number cuz it claims it needs it for security reasons
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My bf hit me for the first time today-what do I do 2017-01-23 03:55:09 Post No.17983485
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My bf hit me for the first time today-what do I do
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19F
My bf and I have been together a year. It's been a bit rocky along the way, mainly because he used to have a bit of a drinking issue, and I struggle with depression but I though it was better now.
Anyhow, today, I came home and he had been drinking a little, and he wanted to have sex. I didn't, because I was tired after work and just wanted to go to bed, and he flew off the handle. Yelled at me that I was a whore (baseless claim, he's my first bf) and ugly, useless, stupid, etc. etc. and then full on hit me. I was so shocked I didn't try to defend myself (I know how, I have a blackbelt) and then stormed out.
I don't know what to do now. Please help me
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>>17983485
dump him dump him dump him dump him dump him
fucking dump him, he's shit, he'll only get shittier. Move your shit out and if he hits you again, call the fucking police.
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>>17983485
Pretty obvious what you should do.
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>>17983485
Get the fuck out of that relationship.
I'm 18 now and since I was 16, I've had this line on my forehead that really lowers my self esteem. Kind of looks like pic related and whenever I open my eyes any more than squinting, the line becomes a massive indent almost as if it were extra skin. Anything I can do to fix this?
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Frownies every night. You'll look stupid but despite sounding gimmicky they actually work extremely well. They'll help reduce if not all together get rid of the line if possible(probably is since you're so young) and help with muscle training so you'll stop doing what's causing. You can find them cheap on Amazon.
While frownies will take care of the issue, I'd also recommend taking better of your skin because you're obviously very wrinkle prone.
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>>17983479
>not subject to female adolescence
>this superficial
what the fuck is wrong with people
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>>17983479
You got a link? I don't want to buy the wrong product
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How do I find purpose 2017-01-23 03:16:05 Post No.17983362
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I feel empty. Nothing makes me happy, I have no motivation and I don't remember when I was actually determined to do something. I noticed that the vidya I play is just for killing my free time so I stop noticing how pointless my life is.
How do I find my purpose in life /adv/? What the hell am I supposed to do? I don't love anyone, I don't feel a need to get close to anyone.
There are times when I just can "click" and become a emotionless robot, feeling absolutely nothing. All emotions just dissapear, both good and bad ones. But that is probably the only thing I have special about me.
I feel like my entire life has no meaning and I begin to wonder whether I shouldn't just off myself, for good.
How can people live their shitty lives and enjoy it, what drives them?
Has any of you had the same problem? Have any of you found their purpose, a reason to live on?
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I relate. It's difficult anon but I remind myself I have a life to live, my family and music. Everyone seems so happy and graduating from college and I feel so stupid and retarded honestly. Having families and I sit here alone at night posting on 4chan. But Idk anon. Life seems so hard.
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What do you think you'd be interested in developing a passion for? What are your skill sets? As for the connection with people, that's a necessary thing in order to live life instead of just existing in life. Are there meetups or group activities in your community where you can socialize and make connections with others?
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I didn't find any. I don't play vidya, I browse 4chan instead, sometimes, without reading anything. As soon as I stop, going to sleep, anxiety strikes, as I am not able to escape my thoughts, it repeats every day. I will definitely off myself before 25, as there are no prospects in my life and I know that unconsciously I don't want all these things people seek, although I suffer by not having them.
>>17983616
>live life instead of just existing in life
This sentence hit me like a ton of bricks.
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>got past 2nd date.
>each date so far was only 2-3 hours long, just getting to know her casually.
>so far seems ok, no long awkward pauses.
>want to announce to her how i feel about her on 3rd date, that I like her
>is it too soon to ask her more personal questions like her positions on having children, sex before/after marriage, marriage, moving in?
>Will i scare her off?
>Is it ok to tell her in a bar/lounge, provided it's not noisy? or somewhere more private like in my car?
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DO NOT BRING UP MOVING IN/CHILDREN OR ANY OF THAT OTHER SHIT. You've seen her two or three times, just let things flow naturally, instead of fucking it up
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>>17983351
NO for the love of Christ! NO NO NO NO NO ! Do not as that shit for fucking months you stupid faggot.
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>>17983351
You should probably just propose annon
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I turn 45 tomorrow and I'm still posting on 4chan.
How do I fix my life?
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>>17983251
End it.
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>>17983251
Jesus fucking Christ.
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>>17983251
Is the guy in your picture alive?
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Sex lowers self esteem 2017-01-23 01:55:09 Post No.17983126
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I had sex for the third time in my life a few hours ago. The other 2 times were several years ago. All I feel is guilt and regret. I feel really bad about myself. The other 2 times I felt similar, but this is the worst. I feel like complete shit right now.
Anybody else experience this?
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Is that you in the picture? I want to lower you self esteem some more
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Your identity has become less of your own possession and more of someone else's. It upsets you that someone else now somewhat understands something that is the only thing you can know for certain.
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>>17983138
Wow, that's really deep.
That's what I needed to hear. Thanks! :)
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mid 20s male here. How do I get over my abandonment issues?
I've dated a lot of girls, but I'm always quick to ghost them over the smallest things- sometimes they'll just say something regarding other guys I don't like, and I won't say a word or cause drama, but I'll just never ever contact them again after that instant.
I also have codependency issues, the girls I've been most attracted to have had some self-esteem/hating men/previously touched by daddy etc. issue going on (i normally find this out a couple months into seeing them). How do i get over these as well?
my end goal is a relationship with someone I'm mentally, emotionally and physically attracted to.
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>>17983100
Start saving money now. Within the next 15 years, you ill be able to buy the perfect girl whose personality you can change daily at the slightest hint of indignation.
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>>17983142
wut
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>>17983142
I 100% believe this
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I accidentally put cream in my lactose intolerant wife's coffee and she sharted big time on her way to work.
How do I make this up to her?
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Lmao
what
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Don't keep dairy products in the house.
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>>17982652
It means her body can't digest milk, and the cream caused her to have diarrhea in her pants.
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Is my gf friendzoning me? We heen together since Oct of 2015. We are both virgins (she's 23, I'm 22). When we started we made out a lot and started performing oral on each other.
Now maybe once a month she will let me use a vibrator or something on her, but that's it. About 2 months ago we tried to have sex 3 times (early in the morning) but my boner died when I put a condom on. I'm guessing it is just a mix of performance anxiety and me being super tired in the morning.
When I try to kiss her and stuff she is just resistive. I've brought it up before and the conversation never goes anywhere.
She lives at my place, but pays for the majority of food and stuff. I don't believe she is cheating because I always know where's she's at. If she's not at work she's at my apartment with me.
I like the relationship a lot as a whole. But I wish she seemed more attracted to me.
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Wait, you've been in a relationship for more than a year but you've never had sex?
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>>17981757
She probably cheated on you OP, and now feels guilty. Chad was probably in your own bed at one point
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Sounds like a closet lesbian. Sorry, OP.
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>tfw turned 26
>don't look as good as I did at 18
>notice less attention from guys
>guys my age and older are going after younger women
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but surely you've found a steady relationship by now instead of wasting your youth fucking chads right
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>>17981694
Is your skin damaged?
Alot of women use heavy makeup when they're younger and some of the ingredients cause premature aging. What are you putting on your face?
I just turned 30 and I see barely legals checking me out all the time.
Kind of amusing
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>>17981694
Well younger women are better looking and likely more intelligent too. Can't blame the men for this.