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>>17985159
Well, from experience these kind of things just happen. It's pretty normal to fantasize about other people when you're in an LTR. Don't think of it as a bad thing. I can almost guarantee your boyfriend has similar thoughts.

>>17985159
you dont love him, if you did you wouldnt be thinking like that. he probably doesnt satisfy you in the bedroom and youre looking for another guy to do so

Well apparently most guys think about other girls while they have sex with their girlfriend, so I wouldn't worry about it.

leave and take the kids

I want to, but she says she'll kick herself if I leave

The suicide sounds like an extra bonus package that would usually cost more.

Think about it.

You leave her, she kills herself, her kids/you are going to get a lot of insurance money, you'll be down one cheating whore, and up one million. I'd take the cheese and eat it too.

>>17985111

no

yes

only a little bit depending on why

by not acting like its a big deal

>>17985119
This.

>college is the best place to meet women
>avoid girls in your classes
>make casual acquaintanceshoes to appear like a normal to girls

>pull out your dick to every girl you meet. Do the same with guys. You'll definitely make friends.

>>17985084
I guess explain you have aspergers and ask for more clarification.

>>17985088
Okay. I have asperger's.

How do I know if someone is the right romantic partner for me?

>>17985092
That's a lofty one. I don't know if I alone could explain it in one post.

Of course there has to be mutual attraction and compatibility. Both of you should like each other as friends, be attracted to each other physically, and have an emotional/romantic attraction.

Both of you should have the same values and life goals.

Don't airlines pretty much have a disclaimer that says they're not responsible for lost luggage?

good luck with that lawsuit. this shit happens all the time. If it was feasible to sue airlines over this, they would be getting sued to hell and back thousands of times a year.

>>17985072
Well no actually most articles online say that they're supposed to pay for your shit while you're going about and they have made no effort to do that. Maybe I haven't detailed how often I've called, because I've done it at least twice a week and they haven't even hinted at the idea of taking resposibility or trying to help me out financially. I know it seems like a deadbeat thing to just come around looking for problems and asking for dough but I'm dead ass naked here.

Do you have experience with this? do you believe there's nothing to be had if I fight this through?

Are you a US citizen? I know that for EU carriers there exists a piece of legislation called the Montreal Convention which governs airlines responsibility in these sorts of events.

When the luggage went missing did you get a PIR? (property irregularity report)

Have you tried contacting your travel insurer to see if they offer any cover? A lot of policies I'm aware of will reimburse for delayed luggage.

>>17985015
try different stuff
unless you get cancer or run over by a truck, you will live to 80 anyways

For me I knew what JOB I wanted but it turns out its just my dream career. Like literal passion. I only put effort into one job and was pissed at myself for this. I then decided not to take the aforementioned "dream" job and just still look within my career for a similar if not identical position at another place. That's really all I can say about it.

Wish I knew.

Do it. Spare yourself the headache.

>>17985014
If you're burnt out you're gonna be miserable.

Take it from someone in college. I've been going the past 4 semesters and liked it at first, but as with all things, you grow to hate it due to the classes you're required to take rather than the ones you want to.

If you're burnt out, I'd take time off. A semester at least, just to give yourself some time to actually want to go again. If you don't want to go, you're not going to be able to try as hard as you normally would to be able to actually succeed.

I took a semester off and returned with laserlike focus and enthusiasm. If you're dreading your classes you should 100% take some time off to work and get your bearings.

Interview is also today in a few hours.

>>17984969
When talking about your past jobs, emphasize work ethic, no task too small and you are always on time. In your new job, solve every problem you encounter thoroughly and take all tasks seriously. Be an asset by not wasting anyones time. When your boss asks you a question usually they want affirmation for their own idea. You don't need to have extraordinary answers, just attack the problem from some angle.

>>17985043
I'm pretty shit at interviews but all my past employers rate me as a asset and good choice regarding hiring and whatnot. I'm kind of just a I got it guy. I mean I have been to interviews where they listed the tasks at hand and I just shrug and say yeah I'm sure I can tackle this.

That shirt or sweater is too tight on you

>>17984956
Be confident! you look really good from your knee down, OP

>>17984956
>i fell in love
>I forgot her name

Errr.. pick one.

Does her friend not remember her name?

do you even have
>skull shape
>hair line
>hair stylist
>hair products
>photoshop
like that? No? That's why it looks different.

>>17984944
Also pls describe problem as more than
>doesn't work out
And maybe talk to a hair stylist about it

>>17984944
post picture of your hair. you can photoshop your face out if you're sensitive about those sorts of things.

It means you're very unhappy and stuffing it down so that it comes out at inappropriate times. I don't blame you. Sometimes there's too much anger to do anything about.

>>17984912
Psychology says that's normal, but idk man, I personally rarely get these thoughts. If I get mad I just feel like screaming or punching that person, but not killing them.

>>17984912
It's normal, but it's also not something everyone's gonna display.

Some people only dream as far as slapping or punching someone else or maybe kicking them in the balls. If you dream of picking up a plastic spork and murdering someone with it, but know the difference between right and wrong and not to, then no problem. If you have an actual URGE to do it though, that's when it's not good and you need to seek some sort of way to relieve yourself of your anger.

It'll go away with time. But staying inside doing nothing isn't helping you. Make an effort to go out and do stuff, even if it's just going to the grocery store or smth.

Yeah that's grief. Just treat it like an episode of "depression" or whatever, and it can go away in a month or two. Otherwise, it can last many months.

>>17984913
>>17984915
I'm trying to do stuff, meet friends, draw, clean the house and other shit. It helps. But how is the drop of self confidence connected to this? It just doesn't make sense.

Well everyone falls somewhere on the kinsey scale. I wouldn't worry too much about trying to fit yourself into a box re: who you're attracted to.

Although, I think if I were a tumblr SJW reading this post, I'd call you a demisexual. That's a silly term but it may be of some use to you if there's idk, an advice subreddit or something lol

Anyway with the friend it's really a toss-up; could go well could go poorly. If you want to escalate physically, you probably shouldn't talk about it just yet. I know that sounds like bad advice (and it's certainly subjective, take it with a grain of salt, etc) but with things like this it is really going to come down to heat-of-the-moment instinct and trying to talk it out is going to douse those flames, so to speak.

That being said, be aware that, as with any friendship, sex is a huge complicating factor and things may end poorly. Are you willing to lose your friend over this? (This isn't a rhetorical question; the answer for you may be "yes". Or, you may not be able to continue being friends with him without consummating the crush, in which case, fuck it)

From the way you phrase things, it sounds like you are interested in this guy. Since you guys have kissed, i feel safe in saying that you are both gay. To each his own. /begin_politically_correct_rant; I use only two categories, there is straight and gay. You are either or. All other categories fit into one of these. Don't get offended. Just think of it like using only the categories of Rock and Pop to qualify music. /end_rant. Go for it and be happy? maybe? will you be happy?

>>17984931
Not OP but this doesn't make sense. If OP has had willing sexual relationships with women before, he's just as straight as he is gay.

Is David Bowie rock or pop? And let's not get started on his sexuality...

You can claim that this is just how you categorize things but you're eventually going to regret it when this semantic system leaves you unable to describe what you encounter in real life.

natural way, count calories and buy a treadmill

just walk for 20 mins to an hour anytime you are watching something on the tv or pc

Give yourself three months of following a strict diet of limited calories and walking a bit every day. Download an app and log every bit of food and drink which passes your lips. Do more difficult exercises if you can.

If you stick to it perfectly and don't lose the weight, look into surgery. Don't do this without trying the natural way though, because it's an attitude and lifestyle change that's required, not just a quick fix.

You don't want to do the sleeve. You'll never be able to eat properly again, even giving up some foods since they always run the risk of fucking up your smaller stomach.

>>17984819
It's OK to keep texting and talking to her.
However
Find more grills to talk to, to keep you busy.
Then you talk to the first girl less

>>17984819
I just test her out to see if she wants to hangout tonight and I just got a straight up no, then she said you have other friends then ignored me. I'm like 90% sure she's talking to a guy now. Im in alot of pain right now lol

>>17984826
I'd love that but my interest is like anime and video game based and not alot of girls are into that so alot bore me.