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Reverse of suicidal thoughts? 2017-01-23 06:09:45 Post No.17983853
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Reverse of suicidal thoughts?
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I hear a lot of people that wanna off themselves or harm themselves in different ways.
But for me I feel backwards?
I feel like if I'm dying and wasting away, and I'm trying to do everything and anythingn whithin my power to be happy and to live life.
But there's always something in the way, I crave to live, to be happy, but instead I'm in emotional pain and I could day any day now.
I want to be happy so fucking badly. And I can't figure out how to get there.
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>>17983853
The difference between the people that want to die and you is time. Suffer some longer and you will understand
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>>17983863
I don't wanna suffer any longer bro
I just wanna be fucking happy for once
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I feel this so bad. Keep trying anon. Don't rush yourself. Be aware of your surroundings and how you can improve every day. Your way of thinking is great.
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>21 years old
>done fuck all with my life
>all my peers are light years ahead of me socially, monetarily and in general life experience
>feel like I'm wasted my best years and I'm never going to amount to anything
Basically I'm a total loser and all my self-esteem has been flung out the window upon my realisation of this. I've tried to make significant changes to my life in the past, but they never stick for more than a few days. I always tell myself "Yeah tomorrow I'm going to change my life and start doing the things I need/want to do" but I never fucking do it. I think I'm honestly fucked, yet I'm so damn unhappy with myself that suicide seems like the logical conclusion to my life, maybe in a year or ten or 20, but somewhere down the track inevitably. Is there any hope for me /adv/? Is there any way I can crawl out of this hole?
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Oh god dude, you're fucking 21. You're barely old enough to drink. Psychologists say that people don't really develop control of their impulses until 25.
Dude, I didn't know what the fuck I wanted to do with my life until I was 25. Then it took me another couple years to get started. I don't even have a job that requires a college degree, but I make 60k a year now and I like my job. Could I have done better? Sure, maybe, but I didn't so who cares. I'm doing fine, I'll probably have a kid soon. Or not, who cares, there's 7 billion people on Earth, do whatever you want.
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Small steps OP, small steps.
What you need to do is create a list of small things. Tidy my room. Call my mom. Clean the shower.
You need a list of longer term goals. Travel to another city. Leanr to speak french.
And a list of impossible goals. Marry Victoria Secret.
Once you haveyour list of goals, google SMART goal setting read everything you can on this and weigh your lists against that framework.
Then you need to make a start on the small things. One you have done them , cross out your list. Show yourself you can do it.And..you have,
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>>17983852
not OP but this was great advice, thank you.
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Second time typing this because first time it got erased. If you want the story I'm willing to retype it out afterward. So. Long story short we have a 38 revolver we cocked it and cannot unlock it (were all familiar with firearms) something is wrong with it but we need it decocked and cylinder won't come out, we live in the city so we cant just go outside and fire it, however there's a pool outside so if we stick the gun in the pool and fire it about an arms length deep in the pool will it make a loud enough bang that the cops would be called?
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>>17983826
Maybe, but probably not. Depends on your neighbors. If they cops are called then it's probably fine as long as everything's legal just explain what happened. Or tell them something fell over if it's not.
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>>17983832
Tbh most of our neighbors are black, semi ghetto area but not ghetto enough that I could go outside and shoot without attention lol. We might try it.
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You could always google homemade silencers. I'm sure you have a few things around ur place that would work fine
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Currently i'm a new pharmacy graduate. Been working for about 4 months. I hate my job. I don't think I can keep doing this for another few years let alone the rest of my life. My plan was to apply to medical school this year. However, i'm not a good enough candidate to get in in Canada (where i'm from) so i'd have to go to the US. Tuition will cost 450K. I already have 200K saved up. Is it worth it to go back to school for 8 years when I could retire if I kept doing the job I hate for that period of time? Anyone toughed out a job they hated before?
tl;dr
>Hate my job
>Pays 96K/year
>Have 200K saved up
>Want to go back to school for something I enjoy but it would cost me 450K+ and 8 years of earnings
>Not sure if worth
Please help.
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>>17983753
I'd stick with it imo just try to enjoy family time more when you can. What was your GPA I'm a Canadian also aiming for pharmacy. Doubt UofT will take me tho
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>>17983753
Definitely not worth it. And if you're not good enough to get into Canada, what makes you think you'll get into America as an international applicant?
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>>17983897
Had an 80% average and good extracurriculars. I would recommend against pharmacy until you've spent some time in one and understand what the work is like. Why pharmacy?
>>17983906
Canadas standards are retarded. I have an 84% average, 513 MCAT, and will have a year of clinical experience as a pharmacist. Comparing myself to other applicants chances are high I will get into a DO school.
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I want the one I can't have and it's driving me mad 2017-01-23 05:26:14 Post No.17983744
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I want the one I can't have and it's driving me mad
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>Shy 22 male uni student
>Have never been in a relationship
>Hang out with a male friend and his girlfriend all the time (frequently just the three of us)
>They were together before I even met them
>She's basically the female version of me
>It started small, but now I have a massive crush on her
>I feel like shit all the time and I'm starting to become envious of my friend ("what are they up to when I'm not around...")
I realize I'm completely leaching off of their relationship and that this is totally unhealthy, but there's no way I can just kick them out of my life. It's hard because I almost get a taste of what a relationship with her would be like when it's just the three of us, but then they go home together and I'm left alone. The friendship between the three of us has become a lot "stronger" over the past few months, but I really don't know where it's heading. I've told myself that I need to enjoy her as a platonic friend and move on with my emotional life, but I don't really know what the "end game" for that is. If this was a normal friendship I would be at the point where I would start to get more "personal", but how far is too far when it comes to her? I mean, am I trying to work towards a super awkward/dangerous one-on-one "platonic" hangout? I should probably just completely disengage with her outside of social events, but that would kind of suck...
I guess this was more of a vent than a plea for advice. She's with him and that's that, I need to get over it and move on...
>And before anyone asks, I'm 95% sure she doesn't have feelings towards me. Sometimes I get the odd vibe that she might, but I know it's just in my head.
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This is dark and sad as fuck man, holy shit. Are you in Tennesse? I'm about to turn 21, god damn I'll be your friend.
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Find someone else. When you get close with someone else and stick your dick in them you'll be able to move past. I'm not joking at all that this is the best way. Not necessarily easy though.
It's lame and you don't choose who you love and sometimes you get fond of something you shouldn't. But the more people you meet the more you'll meet others you'll like and stop being fixated on one.
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This nigger is fucking right. You cannot come out on top of this situation at all. My best advice is see if they have other friends who can join your group. Otherwise, you will have to move on.
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I'm having a good time with this girl. Not wonderful but good.
She's smart as fuck, sweet, kind and funny.
Thing is, I feel zero sex drive since we've started seeing each other, and I find her attractive. What could be causing this?
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>>17983702
>She's smart as fuck, sweet, kind and funny.
>She's smart
Looks like you found yourself on the right side of the friendzone, bud.
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>>17983702
Madonna whore complex. Google it, journal about it, and put it behind you.
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>>17983746
Interesting, but she fits more precisely in the "whore" category, considering what she's into hahaha
Is that complex bidirectional?
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I was thinking of joining the Canadian army for a few years for le free college, for some cash, some future benefits (?) and to become stronger and better at self-defense. Is this a good idea? I'm guessing that soldiers get paid to train for combat and later sit on their asses. Is this true? I absolutely do not want to go to war.
I'm guessing Trudeau will not send the army anywhere and even the conservatives might not. Anyway, do you think this is a good idea? I don't plan on making a career out of this unless I do really well.
So /adv/, should I join the Canadian Armed Forces? Am I wrong about any of this stuff? Is it dangerous to live as a Canadian soldier and are there any reasons not to? Will I change mentally? Right now I'm a lazy, independent thinker. Will that change?
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If you're in it to avoid danger and get free shit, I think you'd be making a mistake
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>>17983718
> this
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Why?
Most of my life since 5th grade I've always ended up being the punching bag friend, meaning my friends insult me and target me for jokes and pranks. My old friendships have died and I've made new ones. The current friendship I'm in is with 3 other of my buddies. 2 of us have been friends for a long time but the 3rd guy joined our group awhile ago because he's the brother of my mate. Ever since then they have targeted me, they will blame anything on me and when others mess up its "no big deal" or "not their fault". A week ago I snapped when they were all blaming shit on me and eventually my friend since I was 10 said "leave". I did, no one told me to come back, I told them I was done with them and the guy who told me to leave said "good, have fun being by yourself". I was mad at them and ready to move on but I realized that I put so much effort into that friendship that I don't have any others. My family doesn't interact with each other so it was either I have dignity and move on being alone, or try to make amends, I tried to fix it and we all apologized except for the new friend who didn't want me back. My "friends" convinced him by saying "you can be by yourself or forgive him". It was a nice gesture, they are now back to the same point blaming me and shit and it makes me fucking mad. This new faggot friend said "we didn't even miss you the day you left, we had fun and didn't talk about you". I don't want to give up on this friend ship because we have had so many great times, but I can't keep being a human punching bag that is blamed for every little thing. What can I do? I don't mind being made fun of every now and then but right now, it's just me they make fun of. I might be confusing but it's sad to see a long friendship slowly being ruined, and you know it's being ruined. I want to leave to prove them I don't need them but I'm alone, I can't do it. I have a shit job with people I don't care about. How can I save my friendship?
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They sound like a bunch of shitty faggots honestly.
Try to branch out and meet people who respect you without burning bridges.
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>>17983609
I know the feeling. I've generally been the easy target for most of my life (I'm 32). There's actually some very interesting psychology about how boys interact with each other. Read this:
Familycircle com/teen/advice/rosalind/rosalind-wiseman-masterminds-wingmen/
What do you DO about it? Well, you can't really force them to be different people, and if they're not able to treat you the way you want to be treated then you need to make a choice.
Read that article, it's good.
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Hey, I just looked at that link, and it's basically correct, but I read a much longer article than that one. I can't seem to find it though. It talked about how relationships among boys (and men) are less fluid than with women. Anyway, I feel bad because that link isn't nearly as good as the one I read the first time. Maybe it was in an issue of Time, i'm not sure. Anyway, there's more to it if you're interested.
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Im just starting to realize the potential I have with women. Just this weekend I got four girls' numbers after partying with them -- I've texted them all and they're all totally down to fuck.
Thing is, I recently moved from the city because I had to get away from an ex girlfriend. I still can't really get over it yet, but I figure fooling around with other women would help a lot. However, since it was such a quick decision to get out of my last relationship, I still have to pay off a lot of debt from breaking my lease, paying off a car loan, and paying off my student loans.
Anyways, I couldn't even move my furniture because I couldn't afford it. So here I am with a bunch of women who want me, but I'm afraid if they come over to my place, they'll see I have no furniture, and that I'm literally living out of my suit case right now. I mean, I have a full time job (35 hours at 18.50) and recently graduated university. My ex has the car, so I mean I can't afford another one for a few years.
How do I handle this? I don't want to invite any of them over because I'll feel like a loser.
And I really don't want to screw it up with this one really cute girl, super nice, my type and just really open about things.
What do /adv/
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>>17983538
bumpu
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>>17983538
Buy cheap furniture. Or make some. You can get a couch for 25 bucks. It'll suck, but it won't make you look like a psycho. You can use cinder blocks and a street sign for a coffee table. Class it up by putting a black sheet over it.
You're right, not having furniture looks weird, so get some shitty furniture. When you can afford better furniture, throw it away.
You can also decorate cheap by printing images that you like on 8x11 paper and tacking it to the wall. Then at least your walls aren't blank.
Get creative, make some shit. Fold paper cranes and string them across the room. Get some Christmas lights, ooooh, romantic. Candles. Get a $10 bookshelf and put your textbooks in it. Put rocks on it. Dude, I just decorated your whole apartment for like $50
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>>17983538
Let me tell you this because you said you're just starting to realize your potential.
Girls really don't care. They are so chill. If they like a guy, they will be down for anything. They are the least judgmental, and most nurturing. It is really a shame what us guys do to them.
So, if your experience is anything like mine, they wont care.
Just explain that you're just settling in and you haven't had a chance to get the movers to bring your stuff yet.
As an alternate, meet at their place?
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Is getting a girlfriend worth it /adv/ ? 2017-01-23 04:08:14 Post No.17983520
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My sister's talk down about men and sometimes I think that's how all women think
Is this worth it anymore ?
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depends what you want out of a girlfriend.
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Women are people and they come in all forms with all sorts of different minds.
Sounds like your sister is the kind of woman who's bitchy. Other women aren't. If you do the work to meet lots of people you can find people you can love and who can love you and have a good time. And sometimes it ends and it hurts but these are the things that keep life interesting and dramatic and it is up to you to decide whether all that is worth it or not.
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OP, do you have the original version of this picture? It's an absolutely stunning surrealist piece
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Looking to change careers.
Dream would be to work remotely is there any customer service jobs you can work from home?
I am great with dealing with people over the phone, and professional.
Im done with the corporate rat race and hour commute.
As long as i can find a job that pays 16 an hour I can live great, because with what my wife makes.
Please advise me senpaitachi.
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Assuming you live in the USA, I think working for a major Airline could be good. You could probably work from home with their customer service department.
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>>17983390
basically now i make 500 a week after taxes.
If i can still find a job that pays me that or 400 a week after taxes.
Would be great.
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Yes I live in USA, thank you for your input.
Do you know people who have done this?
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I have autism.and I honestly hate the fact that my parents are clearly tired of me, and the way I act. They're usually embarrassed by me. And are always worried whenever I start talking in a public situation like I'm gonna say something dumb at any moment. And I feel ashamed to be called their son. What should I do?
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>>17983329
Move out
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>>17983378 or stop acting autistic.
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>>17983329
Google "autism support groups". Most are for parents with kids worse off than you, but among them you'll find groups for functioning spectrum people to meet and offer each other friendship and moral support.
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I always try to stand up to adversity and injustice. In light of recent events, it seems I'm noticing a lot of mean-spirited, and demeaning speech from people in my life.
It is impossible to police every single thing anyone says, and to argue with everyone in every situation I disagree with would be crazy. (Although I've tried, so maybe I should check myself in.)
So, I noticed this post has popped up here several times since the inauguration, but how do I defend my belief system strongly, while not going crazy screaming at people who, when interacting with them, I might as well be talking to a wall.
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>>17983288
Just don't bother. You can't reason with opinions entrenched in belief.
You can't argue with blind belief.
Which side are you from, anyway? left or right?
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>>17983288
>i might as well be talking to a wall
which is why we dont talk to walls. we use walls for what they are good for, nothing more, nothing less. treat the people in your life the same way. if their thoughts and beliefs aren't unforgivable, then just let them keep them. if they bring it up, respectfully state your opinion, let them have their rebuttal and say 'i think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one.
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>>17983295
Left. My belief is I want goodness for people. I want to help the disabled, the poor, the underprivileged.
I don't understand how anyone can look at that and say that is a bad belief system.
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>been seeing this girl for about two months
>she's everything I would want in a girl - smart, cute, kind
>we're playing vidya together, watching obscure kino, she likes the same music as me, basically perfect
>had sex for the first time last Friday, was great
>after the deed, we're laying in bed, and my retarded brain decides it's time
>"I think I love you"
>she fucking looks at me with these round eyes, says "What?!" like I called her a whore or something
>"I need to go", gets up, gets dressed, leaves in a hurry
>two days later she still won't answer my calls/texts
What the fuck have I done?
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You were honest, anon. And it looks like she's not willing to reciprocate and not looking for a commitment. It hurts, but... you're gonna need to move on because it's apparent she doesn't see you in the same light that you see her. If she's not even going to give you the chance to hear you out, then it's apparent she's not worth it. Don't try to keep talking to her, she's just gonna dodge you more and more and you're gonna be left hurt even more if you can't drop her.
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>>17983271
well it's likely one of two things, 1 she's afraid/uninterested in commitment/love.
or 2 the fact you said you loved her only after you finally had sex and the situation you were in and saying you "think" you loved her set her off in her girl brain.
could be something else but this is what I imagine. I would simply send a message saying you'll leave her alone say you're sorry and would truly like to talk about what's wrong, which is very reasonable but if that's not possible you'll assume it's not something that can be fixed and that you'll move on.
obviously word and phrase it how you want if you do send something along those lines but that's what I would say.
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>>17983271
Too much too soon. You should probably tell her that you're sorry if you freaked her out last night and see what she says
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I'm 23, I just started in a new college, and I'm noticing this (pic). It feels really thin and see a lot of hairs on my pillow everyday, though if I run muy hand through it I just take like one or two hairs, sometimes none. Leaving my hair long was what gave me confidence in my teens. I know I'm being vain, but I'm really worrying about this. I'm already not great with girls. What do? I feel like it's a petty concern even as a type this, but I also very strongly fear that if I keep losing hair it will increase my loneliness (romantic and sex wise). What do?
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>>17983235
Are your older male family members bald? If yes then sorry, buckaroo, this is the beginning of the end. If no, it might just be stress
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>>17983263
I actually don't know anyone on muy father's side, even him. On my mother's side, the closest are three cousins, all older than me, only one of them is pretty noticeably bald, and their dad has really thin had but is in his 60s. My mother's father was pretty bald too, but I don't know at what age that started. And yes, I know what they way about mother's side vs. father's side regarding this.
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>>17983323
What they say*