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So there's this girl adv that whenever I make a move on her she effectively puts me into the friendzone but whenever I ignore her she goes crazy. Texting me, calling me like nothing's wrong. We got seperated a while ago for like two years and she came back telling how she missed me and I was the only one that was standing with her etc. Yet telling all these while subtly pushing me into the friendzone. I took her back as a friend and tried moving onto her but no way. The same fucking gentle friendzonings. I ignored her for like a month now and she called me at 2 am telling me something's wrong with the flower plant I gifted to her and what she can do about it and cutting short to tell me how she missed me and wants to meet with me. We live like an hour away from eachother. What do adv? Sorry for the shitty english
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>>17985992
she has made herself pretty clear. she wants to be friends. saying she wants to be friends doesnt mean 'make a move in a few months'.
if you dont want to be friends just tell her 'no, i like you as more than a friend, we cant be just friends, do not message me'.
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>>17985992
She doesn't want to date you.
She wants your attention and validation.
She's effectively using you.
Don't get her gifts or any of that bullshit. Start distancing yourself from her. Don't always make yourself available to her. You're getting nothing out of this.
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>>17985995
Soil advice. Pretty much the same I'd give you OP.
Sometimes people know that you like them more than just as a friendship and they know they can tug at your heartstrings to get you to do shit for them. She is trying to manipulate your feelings by giving you a sense of false hope.
Be friends with her or tell her how you actually feel, and be prepared to walk away if you don't get an answer you like. Those are your 2 main options, from my point of view. Good luck OP
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Is it weird only being comfortable near/against walls?
I can only sleep against something and dislike being in large open rooms.
Is this weird or normal?
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>>17985973
a little but if its not affecting your life its no big deal. a lot of people prefer to sleep against a wall. while it means your cornered if oyu're attacked it also means you have less sides to worry about defending from predators.
instincts man
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>>17985979
Ah sweet. Thanks dude
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>>17985973
That's fucked up op. You need to be castrated
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I just got left behind by a girl for the 60th time, after months of dates and sex. I ended it before she could but that fling died a miserable death regardless.
Women just want to fuck. They don't want to date anymore. I'm not looking for some pie in the sky marriage and picket fence but holy shit it's so fuckig. Difficult to get a girl in the prime of her life (21-25) to commit and get a boyfriend for longer than fucking 6 months? I've fucked 60 girls- no. 60 girls fucked me and left me in the dust. I tried to date many of them came I tried to make them wait for a couple dates before any physical thing happens. A lot will never talk to me again the next morning. A lot will Keep fucking me but be detached. A lot will act like they're interested in me but they just want my dick.
I'm fucking broken and I can't take this shit anymore. I fully get why people shoot up schools, why Elliot roger went ballistic, why people blow themselves up and why people hang themselves. I'm honesty deeply on the brink of taking myself out and/or hurting someone else out of revenge for all this emotional pain I have.
I don't want to give in to the lifestyle of just casually hooking up and looking at the opposite gender as disposable but it's becoming clear to me that's the only way to retain my sanity. My innocence is dead, I walk around my job, my family, my friends as a shell and a ghost of my former self. Every girl that enters my life and leaves pushes me one step closer to blowing my brains out. Fuck feminism. Fuck hookup culture. Fuck MTV and fuck Instagram. Fuck me because I can't keep a woman.
Someone help me please I'm fucking alone I don't want to die but that's the only way out of this emotional hellhole.
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>>17985967
when friends move on we dont think of them as disposable. we just think of them as moving on.
romance can and should be teh same way
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>>17985967
I think you should see a professional.
Sounds like you've got some serious personality flaws and anger. Not being a dick but it sounds like the problem is you, not them
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>>17985986
>Not being a dick but it sounds like the problem is you, not them
I know! But I don't know how to fix myself. A girl leaves me so I think i fucked up somewhere and that I'm just undesirable, and then another, sometimes cuter one comes along, gives me the same energy, and fizzles out, rinse and repeat. I can attract someone at first but then after 1-3 months they move on and check out
I'm sure it's my personality, I've tried to check myself if I think I'm gonna say something autistic, and try and learn from my mistakes with previous girls but the outcome is all the same. Maybe I'm boring? How do I be less boring?
It's fucking exhausting and frustrating meanwhile my friends have girlfriends of 1-2 years or are engaged, what the fuck??
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Any tips for taking a good selfie? I need to take a one (of my face) and I'm a male.
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>>17985924
just take your camera, walk around your house and snap a thousand pics trying different facial expressions, angles, and lighting. you'll start to notice patterns.
soft light is good, hard light not so much. in one kind you'll look like an angel and the other like a monster.
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>>17985934
>soft light is good, hard light not so much
What's the diff?
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>>17985946
>whats the diff
i literally todl you the idfference. soft light looks nice, harsh does not.
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I used to enjoy making art, videos, costumes...
I don't find joy in any of it anymore. I'm about to turn 28, and I can't keep lying to myself that I'm going to get anywhere in life with all of this.
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>>17985911
if you enjoyedi t you should have been doing it for fun all along. its okay to ahve a career seperate from your hobby despite what the 90s has told us
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>>17985919
Problem is, I don't enjoy it anymore.
It's the worst feeling, when the thing you used to love is suddenly a chore.
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Depression can cause you to lose interest in things you used to enjoy.
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How do I stop thinking about a grill I'm in love with /adv/? Is such a thing even possible? I see her almost everyday and when I don't see her I get terribly depressed but on the days I see her I can't even concentrate on anything and just get lost in thought.
Notice how the question is not "how do I get this grill to be interested in me?" or "how do I start a conversation with her?".
There's no hope for me to be with this girl, she has a boyfriend and I'm an ex-NEET with zero life experience, so I won't even attempt to make a move.
I literally just need to know how to get her out of my head. Will I just lose interest eventually? I sure fucking hope so because I can't take this shit anymore.
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>>17985902
you rationalize that you can't have her, but you obsess because there is a sliver of hope. either come to terms and make the choice to no longer want her, or simply make a move and let her crush you so its over.
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>>17985902
>will i lose interest eventually
depends. if you keep pining, probably not. it makes us build up an imaginary relationship in our heads.
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>>17985902
Do you know how you stop a crush? Make real female acquaintances. Instead of looking from afar and imagining the girl, make real friends with girls and maybe even try dating some. Best cure for silly crushes there is.
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If a drunk girl kisses you does she like you
when shes sober she bitches at me a lot and makes fun of me
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not necessarily
but it sounds like she busts your balls because she likes you. a lot of girls show affection by being mean. it's childish but it is what it is.
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>>17985872
not necessarilly. sometimes its because they secretly like oyu. sometimes its becuase they're drunk.
only way to find out is to make a move when shes sober
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If this were an anime, she would be a tsundere who is secretly in love with you. But this is real life, so she's just a crazy bitch who probably uses you for attention.
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I can't get why the fuck am i like this.
> be me
> have a gf (now ex)
> was perfect 10/10 , caring, had alot of sex, clingy (yeah i like it, I've got some mommy/daddy issues....)
> i got bored after 7 months
> new gf
> even better
> 11/10
> even better than the last one and the last one was amazing
> got bored of her after couple of months
> be me now
> new gf
> she's a 8/10
> not to smart
> not to pretty
> not the type to have any significant talk it's just gossip shit from her friends and her social media and random shit
> not thay much sex
> she's jelous as fuck
> always fight cuz' she's insecure in herself
> I'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR 3 YEARS NOW.
Can someone please tell me what the fuck am i doing and why?
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>>17985847
you're co dependent and weak and cant stand being alone so would rahter be with someone you can't stand
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>>17985847
You're a masochist?
Or maybe you're too stupid to appreciate what you have.
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>>17985857
Tbh I've got like "moodswings" from time to time when it comes to that. A certain amount of time i like to be alone with no girls whatsoever and the other way around.
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So i really really fucked up
>meet qt girl
>we hit it off
>really like her
>been over to her place a couple times
>get blackout drunk and fuck some girl at a party even though i did not intend nor want to
>did not finish, left after 5 minutes because i was hit by a massive wave of guilt and regret
>she finds out the day after and calls me, we meet up and talk it out
>she says i blew it (which i did) and i would most likely never get another chance at her
i regret everything so much
how can i win her back /adv/ ?
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win her back by raising your son to have more self control so he can bang her daughter
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>>17985800
you don't. you lived .you learned. try not to make the same mistake wiht someone else.
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>>17985800
kek don't do it next time
also, explain it to her?
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I failed a class in college and I didn't tell my family, and I'm about to go on their car insurance (just got my license recently, but i'm 20). Will the insurer raise the rates for me because I have low grades, or is that just for high school students? My GPA is like less than 2 because of how bad I fucked up.
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>>17985790
They dont raise the rates when you have low grades, they simply give discounts when you have higher grades. Same goes for highschool.
So, maybe your rates will increase since you cant continue to show a high gpa, assuming your parents have been taking advantage of the discount until now.
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>>17985790
If you have a "good student" rider that has a minimum GPA as a floor, then yes it will increase your insurance. It's probably not some huge amount though, depending on your car - maybe $10-50 a month at most?
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what the hell? insurance companies adjust premiums based on GPAs?
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>new bf
>going great, very sweet, sex is fun I ask if he's into anything in particular: he is
Dirty talk. He is super into Dirty Talk which I'm ok with it's not like it makes me uncomfortable I just kind of freeze up when it's my turn. Advice?
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just call him daddy a lot
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>>17985773
Thanks. He's weirdly not into "Daddy" thing. He calls me "his slut" which I was a bit werided out by at first but, he explains that it's the "passion" and "ungaurdedness" of it that turns him on. I just feel like I'm bad at coming out with it in the moment.
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Lol why tf would you take turns. Just say baby pound my pussy in a moaning voice and variations thereof. His slut sounds autistic.
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>21 years old
>done fuck all with my life
>all my peers are light years ahead of me socially, monetarily and in general life experience
>feel like I'm wasted my best years and I'm never going to amount to anything
Basically I'm a total loser and all my self-esteem has been flung out the window upon my realisation of this. I've tried to make significant changes to my life in the past, but they never stick for more than a few days. I always tell myself "Yeah tomorrow I'm going to change my life and start doing the things I need/want to do" but I never fucking do it. I think I'm honestly fucked, yet I'm so damn unhappy with myself that suicide seems like the logical conclusion to my life, maybe in a year or ten or 20, but somewhere down the track inevitably. Is there any hope for me /adv/? Is there any way I can crawl out of this hole?
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>>17985751
>Is there any hope for me /adv/? Is there any way I can crawl out of this hole?
Go to a professional. The kind of change you want to make isn't born from a pep talk online. It's born from personal analysis and a decision to change. A psychiatrist can walk that path with you and help you on the process. Good luck.
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>>17985776
this, but not psychiatrist, thats for mentall ilness.
see a therapist/counselor. and if not that, talk to someone else about oyur problems weekly and make plans to tackle them.
stop thinking about where you are and focus on what the next step is to get somewhere else.
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>>17985805
Yeah, English is not my first language. I didn't mean it like "doctor". Just someone trained to guide the change.
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So... I've been out of the dating game for almost 10 years (currently 29). I started using tinder and had great dates with girls around my age, but things don't go so well when the gap is bigger.
Case in point: went out with a 22yo girl. Cool girl, conversation went ok, but I felt a lack of common subjects to talk about. At moments I even felt I was "patronizing" her, although I didn't mean to. She's currently in college and I've graduated like 5 years ago.
We're probably having a second date this week, so I'm looking for tips on how to make this gap smaller. I know it's "just" 7 years of difference but it feels like so much more.
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>>17985690
>I know it's "just" 7 years of difference but it feels like so much more.
No, it doesn't "feel", it IS so much more. If you lack a common ground, then you lack a common ground. Date girls your age.
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>>17985703
I'm not looking for a relationship, I just want get my gray haired dick and wrinkled balls in some young pussy
She seems interested but I'd like to have a better second date. We do have some things in common (she's doing STEM in the same college I am), but it's mostly boring smalltalk
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>>17985716
>I'm not looking for a relationship, I just want get my gray haired dick and wrinkled balls in some young pussy
Great. But this young pussy seems to be too much work. Instead of bitching about this particular one, get some less young pussy OR find a young pussy you connect better with. Or take this one and just fuck with her. You have plenty of options.
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I met this girl at school, she's been flirting with me and I've been flirting with her back. Lately, she's been getting to close to me, she's been getting physical, we've had lunch a couple of times together, I don't know but I feel like she's fascinated by me, she loves being around me. But as she said in the picture, she has a boyfriend, which I really think she's just stuck with him, she barely talks about him and if she's talking about him when I get closer, she lowers her voice, like she doesn't want me to hear. I don't really like the idea of getting in a relationship with a girl who's gonna cheat on her current boyfriend to get with me, because I know that when she gets tired of me, she's gonna do the same thing to me. For now, I have a huge lust over her, I want to bang her brains out, but I don't like the idea of doing it while she's still with someone else.
Wat do on this situation? I have 2 things in mind:
1. Keep talking to her and see how far we get
or
2. not talk to her and walk away
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>>17985687
You can't be banging girls in middle school, Jimmy.
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>>17985756
This is college, not middle nor high school. Both of us are in our early 20s
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>>17985687
Fuck her and then leave her.
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This girl(close friend of mine) I've messed around with several times but have never fucked yet may or may not be banging one of our friends. Should I confront her about it? Or is that a bad idea. I don't have any proof but she seems to be really flirty with him lately and I saw her car parked at his house early this morning so she stayed the night there.
I could just be over thinking it...
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Just ignore her and when ahe keeps bugging just be like "naw...i notice you messing around with jake. Im all for friends with benefits, but if youre going to be friends with benefits with
My friends and not outside of our circle then forget about it. Thats over the line."
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>>17985740
I was thinking pretty the same exact thing. Like I wanna talk to her but at the same time I don't even want to acknowledge her existence.
Idgaf if she bangs random dudes like from tinder or something. But still I don't have proof that theyre even a thing, but I've always heard go with your gut feeling.
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if you confront her about it you're probably going to seem like a creep to her. just wait. if an opportunity comes up to slip it into a conversation fire away then