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>>18135561

picnic

>>18135616
thats a good idea, weather is pretty shit atm tho

Do whatever that comes natural to you.

If you want to do some shopping then do that, if you want to stay home your next date is taking place at your home. You arent getting anywhere trying to "wow" her with a place. Just keep it comfy for you and you will make it a great date.

>>18135453
In what kind of shithole do you live that you could murder your neighbour and not get caught

What has your brother done that you have to fear for his life ?

>>18135458
Brazil

>approaching

No. This is what retarded ""pick up artists" think. You'll look like a mug if you try this.

As for confidence, Yes, but again, not what pua faggots define it as which is basically being an arrogant cocky little fuck. Just love yourself and be completely at ease in your own skin and you will exude the type of confidence that naturally attracts females.

>>18135399
Yes, there are NEETs and WoW-addicts with girlfriends. Being a NEET or a WoW-addict doesn't necessarily imply you lack social skills. Social skills is the main-thing you'll need to be good with girls. Being bold-minded and showing confidence is a plus, but if you don't have social skills on top of it you're gonna creep people out.
The best way to train this skill is to get a job or hobby where you're forced to deal with people (added plus if there are lots of girls) on a regular basis. Attracting girls will happen naturally after a while. Of course, you need to have your health sorted out, and preferably some ambition in your life.

>>18135429
To add to this: I'm not saying confidence is not important, because you WILL need to have a healthy amount of confidence, but the critical ingredient is being comfortable around other people and having essential communication-skills. Also, if you're already struggling, you will need to break out of your comfort-zone a little bit to get anywhere.

>>18135366
>Especially the people I find coming off as entitled.
You seem to be very entitled too. In your last example, you're literally holding a grudge against your friend for doing you a favor, because he didn't do it RIGHT AWAY.

I find that's the case with a lot of people who behave like you do, always picking at other people's flaws and appointing yourself as the "judge" who "tells it like it is." You're pretty oblivious to your OWN flaws, and ironically, these are the ones you hate the most when you see them in other people.

Do whatever you want, I can't change you, but in a few years you'll discover that you don't really have close friends anymore. The people in your life will avoid you if they can, and kinda hate your company when they can't

>>18135384
Yeah you're right. I'll just keep my mouth shut

>>18135402
You're the annoying chick at the office lol

Uh no, I don't think she hates you. She just doesn't want to talk to you

>>18135313
Indeed for women the opposite of love is indifference, not hate. You're at least "special" for her in her own heart.

But consider what you'd want to do as your next step then. Even love and hate, if not being nurtured will turn into an indifference too.

>>18135326
>>18135327

Well, I should post more details.

We tried to continue communication, but I felt she still had feelings for me. I had, a bit, too. I felt she was hiding her new relationship from me (not paranoia, I have my evidence), so I told her it was okai for me to post photos and all that shit. I told her that in the most friendly way, but she got angry, unfriended me from Facebook and said "(bla, bla, bla) I don't want to talk to you anymore".

So I did wrong, right? Yesterday everything was alright. She used to look communicate a lot to me, a lot even after our breakup, in a friendly way, I guess. Though there were sometimes that she said she missed me and she will forever remember me, so that's why I thought that way (hiding stuff from me), and now I feel like shit. I could have been friends with her.

>>18135289
Are you insecure fatty or religious nut?

>>18135289

Even if its considered sfw here, it's not appropriate to use such wallpapers in the work place. Its bound to upset the women

Depends where you work. Tattoo parlor? Sfw. Accounting firm? Nsfw.

>>18135282
Don't use rogaine. It's only for the back of your head.
Propecia works really well but takes a long time and you have to use it constantly or it will fall out again and there have been cases where dudes have completely lost their sex drive while taking it. Hair plugs will fall out and aren't permanent but I haven't tried it yet.

>>18135288
You've used that? And how much does it cost? I don't think health insurance covers that kind of thing, right?

>>18135288
Ah yes, I see it now - Finasteride. I've read about it. People said they completely lost their sex drive. Have you had any side effects?

>>18135280

How can we tell you that about yourself? We only know the two sentences you just wrote. Also, is pic related?

You are lonely and needy.

>>18135291
Yes.
>>18135295
I have a gf but she's really over protective and needy, could that have something to do with it?

So what do you do for a living?
To me work is work and it is just a means to an end.
Everything else is probably not worth overthinking. If you arent obsessed with something in particular already and working on it its likely you are never going to get far.
Just take life easy and enjoy it while it lasts.

"People". You are just projecting. You found an easy answer so you cling to it. You probably don't have anyone specific in your life to even blame. Just DO something. Who cares what it is. Fucking forge knives if that's what you want to do. You just sound autistic. You can literally google anything and learn how to do it on your own.
>all work is brain dead except for hard stem research
Who cares if its brain dead? You don't have to make work the focus of your whole being. Install internet cables if you have to. Then do something else on your off time.

me too op me too
recently I've been trying the 'I'm getting cucked all the time because I keep listening to other people' route of things
Started with my parents, and from then on out my life has been altered by people's stupid choices that I had to go along with cause I was a kid and all. 24 now, working on getting out of a victim complex and going for what my gut tells me. Going back to school because I'm so fucking bored with my job prospects, I do IT repair right now making 40k but it's so fucking boring I want to die. Going back to finish math degree and study entrepreneurship and comp sci. Might go into biotech or VR.
The what and how should be answered by you, other people will just give you shitty answers that work for them, but even the people that are closest to you don't understand your condition in life as much as you do.
You said you are too cowardly to follow your own path and tastes - this is where I feel I can relate the most to you. The truth though is that that is exactly what you need to do. So take a step back and gather up your courage and fucking do it. You aren't gonna get it all done in one go or even a few years, but keep fucking going anon. I believe at you.

Will you be able to pass, despite failing a midterm and/or getting a shitty grade on your final? If not, just drop it. I was in the same boat with calc and I dropped it because I was fucked unless I had gotten a 90+ on my midterm and final

You have to speak to your financial aid office and ask. You have to see how much you will be compensated.
I just flunked out of college, but all I needed to keep financial aid is prove my attendance. Might be different for you, just work with your colleges financial aid.

>>18135273
I know it's a shit easy thing to say, but Calculus (1) is actually not that hard. Are you sure you're doing enough work in the course? If you're falling behind, it's easy to get demotivated and lose your work ethic. I had a similar experience where I thought I was doing badly in the course, but in reality I was simply not doing the work needed to perform well. There's tons of resources available to help you get through this, if you're willing to put in the work.

Dude relax you are over reacting

There's very little you can do. Obviously you can point out to her that she already has genetics against her with her mom and that you don't want to see her head down that path, but if she doesn't care she doesn't care. You cannot subtly tell someone to lose weight, you have to pull the trigger and tell her that her eating habits are unhealthy and you noticed she's gained a bit.

If you truly don't care about her looks that's good because you can convincingly point this out if she's afraid you're not attracted to her anymore. But it still won't be easy.

Break up with her fat ass.

Take the myers-briggs test, maybe you'll learn more about yourself

>>18135144
Even if it is considered a pseudo science by some, i find it interesting. I have not been getting consistent results though (kind of funny that you bring this up). Do you think that it helps you find a role to play in life, so that you can carry on feeling like you're acting like you're supposed to, because everything acts according to its nature?

>>18135144
Not OP here
But fuck the cancer meme test
It means nothing

>>18135137
Hey, yeah. Sure.

Go for it

probs for the best bro, I joined merchant ships though and its not as strict but you still get to travel and get paid. check it

You don't, why should you?

What dire information do they leave you to protect that they should do the same for you?

>>18135131
You trust them on being human. That is knowing each of them is capable of loyalty and betrayal, competency and incompetency.

And of course don't confide to human your 'everything', there's a reason that some church had their confession to just god/cross without priest listening.
That, or get a little cuddly cute animal like hamster to confide your problem to. Some problem need pills to solve, but most just need you to say it out loud, letting it go from your mouth yourself.

Truth.
I used to think that it was a given that anything is confidential unless expressly permitted to be repeated.
I really was surprised when I found out most people do not think like this.
Most people use other peoples secrets to boost their own standing.
Now I don't even want to hear most things people want to tell me because I expect not to tell anyone anything myself.
If I do not need to know.
I do not want to know.

>>18135128

If asking her out is such a problem, then don't. Why can't you just say "Let's go do such and such"?

>>18135128
Be a little friends with her and then tell her how you feel about her. It doesn't matter, just tell. Nothings gonna shoot or knock you down. Just tell. Act like your confident if you aren't and you'll be confident.

>>18135136
Why is it always "advice" like this that pisses me off. Like, we're people not fucking programmed machines. It's almost the equivalent of telling a depressed person to just stop being sad and be happy.

Fuck off.