As the title said I am an agnostic (raised protestant) and i was contemplating if i should go out with a Catholic. She's pretty cool, we hanged out and all that and she is pretty liberal on most issues (Pro Gay Marriage, Trans Rights) but believes using condoms is a form of abortion. Ya, so i know my dick will be dry as hell but i genuinely care about enough to put my dick aside for her but then again i don't know how much I can take about the whole catholicism thing, any advice?
>>18138245
I'm a Jew married to a Catholic girl. She goes her way religiously and I go mine. Sometimes we visit each other's. Not a single problem.
>>18138245
>willing to fornicate but not use condoms
nigga wut
>>18138245
prepare to have a lot of kids.
i respect that about Catholics. they go the distance for their beliefs.
at least you know you could trust her if she is willing to go that far.
>Have a coffee date
>Try holding her hand while walking to the place, she didn't like it
>Just keep talking for three hours straight after getting there, she was very interested in my ramblings on my research
>She said she was very impressed with how smart I am (she's a PhD student, I'm finishing Master's) and we could always go grab some coffee together
>She let me kiss her on the cheek in the end
I'm not very experienced with women but I'm getting serious "like you as a friend" vibes now so I need you guys' advice on how you think it is. She's also slightly older than me and we're about the same height (~180 cm) if that matters.
Was it your first date with her?
>>18138262
Yes, it was.
>>18138236
ask her on another date. if she says yes she is interested.
use the word date.
don't be insecure - take things at face value.
not every girl is a social rock star sometimes they do not communicate their attraction well, like most men.
All I really want out of life is a career that pays me at least 50k per year. However, I'm utter shit at mathematics so STEM fields are closed off to me. What jobs could I pursue to do this?
You can always try and improve your maths, it's pretty vital nowadays.
50k a year and you are still thinking about working in a job? BE THE JOB MAN! Start a company and grow it!
>>18138206
Have you looked at skilled trades?
Construction? Plumbing? Carpentry?
How do you get over laziness with regards to employment? I'm 19 and haven't had a job in 2 years and have gotten comfy on welfare.
Issue is the money comes once a fortnight and isn't enough to self sustain, if I get a job then I run the risk of having to socialize, make an embarrassment of myself, walking around on eggshells, ect ect.
Plus I don't like the idea of my entire week being dedicated to working, but I don't know if there's any other option.
>Plus I don't like the idea of my entire week being dedicated to working, but I don't know if there's any other option.
welcome to living in a society
feel free to go live in the wild if you want to make it your own way
>>18138193
It sounds like you don't have a "good enough" reason to devote your life to working. I'll give you some ideas. Remember, only one has to work.
1. Accomplishment. Your job could make a difference in the world. This one is hard because you usually just work to make your boss richer. However, you could act on how you want the world to change. If you think women have too much leverage, make sexbots. If you think the world has to many people, become a lawyer for abortion, etc. Make your world.
2. Greed. You can buy he things that feel good. Do you like fine chocolate, sexy women, the newest games, and/or a house in a great neighborhood? Well, a job can get you those things. Buy all the chocolate you want then buy a liposuction. Buy hookers and sleep with girls who have the bodies of your dreams. Own every new console and a great PC with 100s of fresh games. Never get mugged or even live around any sort of crime in your neighborhood. Feel good.
3. Status. If you don't work you will become a loser in time. Be better than those around you. Moor over the fact that the world owes you shit, and nothing is going to come from expecting something for nothing. The idiots you know will become better than you because they hold jobs. Don't be less than them. You could be the person people talk highly of, instead of the person people shy away from talking about. You can leverage your status. Don't repel women with unemployment. Mention your job lo leave women impressed and crave you compared to others. Be better than the losers.
>>18138193
you should kill yourself you piece of shit lazy fuck
I fucked up so hard with this girl. I feel terrible. She said me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. Unfriended me from Facebook.
I've already sent her messages, letter, apologizing, saying "okay, goodbye, I still love you", asking second chances.
I'm just fucking and fucking it more. I just sent her a letter asking for a "second chance, but keeping in mind that it might be hard now". Probably she has read it already since she hasn't blocked me on WhatsApp. I won't talk to her again at this moment, days. I know I shouldn't. My mind is a mess now.
Is there any salvation? Should I just accept I fucked up? This shit is hard.
it is better to let it go. she is not the only one for you but it is hard to understand this fact for the time being. i suggest you not to get desperate and try to keep your mind busy by doing some activities such as swimming, running etc.. you will be able to cover up withing 2-3 weeks. good luck!
Hey dude from last night,
Yes you have fucked up, and yes you should just give up on it. The more and more you message her the more likely she's going to turn around and get a restraining order on you.
Tbh, it sounds like you need therapy before you go back into the dating pool again.
>>18138191
you dont actually love her. you are being creepy. drop her and move on. sounds cliche but its correct.
Guys and gals. I need to know if I'm overreacting.
So my girlfriend got back from Rome Thursday night (I live in the U.S.) and I was thinking of stopping by and saying hi to her Friday night after work (of course I didn't tell her since I wanted it to be a surprise). It being St. Patrick's Day however meant her friends had already invited her out for drinks.
I was okay with that as they started the festivities early around 3:30 and i figured I would be able to see her when she got home. Around 8:00 pm she even texted me that she drank too much and was ready to go and take an uber. I even helpfully provided a promo code for her to uset. I assumed she would be on her way back then.
She didn't tell me she got home until 1:00 am. When I asked what she was doing for 5 hours she said they had to drop off another friend who drank too much and kept partying in the rowdy part of town. She assured me she stopped drinking when she texted me and that she had fun sober.
I guess my question is multifaceted. Am I overthinking what she was doing or why she didn't text where she was? She didn't even snapchat anything in that timeframe which she tends to do a lot. I kind of believe her when she says they were still partying since she runs with a very extroverted crowd. But at the same time I feel like she should have at least told me what was up ESPECIALLY if she was sober enough to do so. Am I wrong to worry about it? It's bothering me to the point that I'm not that excited to see her today.
Pic related, I guess?
>drank too much
You definitely got cucked.
>>18138188
Assuming I did, how should I approach this without evidence?
>>18138200
I don't know you or your relationship but I'd never date a girl that goes out and gets drunk as fuck.
I have an oppurtunity to marry someone so they could get a green card for 25k , I'm considering it but I'm very christian and I will not divorce her if I marry her, I asked if she was pretty and the answer was" it doesn't matter" so I guess she isn't
>>18138171
You are being used. You are nothing more than an instrument. She will divorce you immediately she gets green card and citizenship.
>>18138171
Don't do it. It's a scam. Once she gets her green card she will divorce you, and claim half your community property (including the $25k)
>>18138171
kek
I have minor Erectile Dysfunction. I can still get an erection, but it takes a lot of build up and foreplay for it to be hard enough for penetration. And even then it might not last super long.
I haven't gotten a 100% hard erection at a good angle in months. I almost never get morning wood anymore.
I do fap a lot and have tried to cut down in the past several months (I now fap every 2-3 days) but it doesn't help. Some days I'll reach a 5 day streak and still not get 100% hard. The last 100%/near 100% erection I got was sometime in December after an 8 day nofap streak.
I had a masturbation addiction in High School (jacked off 2-3 times a day) and probably a death grip issue as well.
I'm 18 years old and relatively healthy. Not the most in shape I could be, but I lift weights and exercise (play basketball, usually) for a good 30min to an hour daily. Not overweight or on any medication. Diet is very poor, but I have no control over it at the moment as I still live with my parents and they're fatties. Most people my age with even worse lifestyles don't have this issue.
What are some natural or relatively cheap supplements that are easily available to treat this? Obviously I should see a doctor, but I'm super embarrassed to ask my parents to help set up an appointment then risk having them find out about it.
I've read that red ginseng supplements could help, but they're expensive and IDK if it will do the trick or not. Any other ideas?
If you have to fap, don't do it to porn. Porn is bad, mkay.
Do more cardio to improve circulation.
Do you really have ZERO control over your diet? There must be someway you could improve it at least.
>>18138166
Pretty much none. My parents go grocery shopping and buy shit. Nobody in the house knows how to cook. I've tried several times to get everybody on a better diet but it never lasts.
>>18138166
This pretty much
Stay away from porn and honestly jerking off.
I'm currently trying to help someone with a death grip issue and no jerking off allowed.
It makes a huge difference.
Maybe get yourself like a fleshlight or something that's in a case so you cant grip it too tight (so like stay away from tenga eggs or sleeves).
Yeah this means you won't be able to cum for a while, it could be months, but you'll eventually get to the point where your body is so starved for stimulation; just the thought of stimulation will get you diamond.
I've also heard good things about the bathmate hydro cock pump, it kinda retrains your blood vessels to fill with blood without all the dangers of an air pump. They're meant for people with the onset of ED.
I've talked to a few people that had success with these, you can probably get the basic one on amazon for a decently low price and that's really all you need.
Basically a lot of this is going to be getting used to a sensation that isn't your hand, and getting to the point where that feeling is enough to satisfy you.
If you stop jerking off and are still having a problem, you may want to see a doctor about it.
>Want a boyfriend who's stronger/smarter than me.
>But don't feel like I deserve one because I'm weak/dumb
>So I work to get stronger and smarter
>But now I'm not attracted to people who were previously stronger than me and now are no longer stronger than me.
How do I get out of this endless cycle of monkey-pawed self-improvement?
>>18138151
Date a short guy? > v >
Define stronger/smarter.
>>18138192
Someone who could beat me in a fight, withstand an extremely hard situation without breaking down further than me, and someone who is wiser/more knowledgeable than me in how to live a good life.
How do I tell people to fuck off politely?
This happens often, right now what comes to mind is at my job is this bossy cunt who for some reason thinks she can boss me around. I don't usually do what she says but basically it often becomes a conflict, and she's been there a long time so managment takes her side.
>>18138122
lol whats your job? in an office setting maybe not ok but if your on a construction site or something like that you do what she says she is senior to you by years.
depends on culture.
>>18138122
"Thanks for the suggestion Gloria. I will try it that way."
And then give serious consideration to the possibility that, since she's more experienced, her suggestion might be a good one. If not, go back to doing it your way.
>>18138211
>she
>suggestion might be good
pick one
Hello /adv/, this is my first time making a thread here. A few days ago my boyfriend and I were watching Minority Report. In the scene where the husband turns back to kill his cheating wife my boyfriend said something like "can't blame him".
I was quite shocked, and asked him if he would kill me if I cheated on him. He told me if I drunkenly hooked up at a club he'd break up with me but nothing more, but that if we were married or had kids and I was deliberately cheating in our home he would.
Is this a normal attitude? I absolutely believe that he would do it, he was completely serious. He is not a violent guy, he usually tries to calm things down if it ever looks like a fight may start, he has never struck me or threatened to strike me, and has never had a problem with me going out with my girlfriends or having lunch or something with guys from work, so it really surprised me that he thinks this way.
Is this a warning sign or is this just how some people think? He's always been very relaxed about most things but I guess he just has certain lines that he won't let be crossed?
>>18138113
He says one sentence and you question him that much?
If you push a person into a corner, everyone is violent. For a man, I don't think there's a worse insult than sleeping with another dude in his bed.
>>18138113
I suppose that you should get a different guy to cheat on.
Hey /adv/ wallflower here can any partypeople help me with this?
So i have 2 questions.
1. How does one start enjoying partys/clubs?
2. What exactly do people do to be likeable in these situations?
>>18138112
>How does one start enjoying partys/clubs?
drugs or booze
>What exactly do people do to be likeable in these situations?
most lame people are cool when they are high and happy. they don't have to try and couldn't anyway cause they are fucked up.
Drink until you don't give a shit. Make sure you're in the mood.
WHATEVER YOU DO, DANCE. STANDING STILL ISN'T AN OPTION.
leave as soon as you start to sober up or drink more.
If you have a moment of clarity, get a drink.
>>18138410
>If you have a moment of clarity, get a drink.
thats just good advice in general
How can I check what I write to make sure it's not creepy to a girl? I constantly say inappropriate stuff because it sounds innocent or funny in my head and it doesn't come across like that.
>>18138098
Post it here, I'll give you my opinion.
Is it your confession?
>>18138101
There's this girl I've been writing to back and forth for a long time. And every few interactions or so I blurt out something creepy or inappropriate and she goes radio silence. She has put up with it for a while now but I feel like I'm on extremely thin ice.
I never do it on purpose and it's usually related to something more sexual.
As an example she once made the mistake of spelling "lose" as "loose". And when I pointed it out she told me she needed to be punished for it flirtatiously. I can't remember exactly what I said but I basically called her a loose whore trying to dirty talk.
>>18138107
Ouch, that is bad. She was flirting but i doubt she wanted to be call a loose whore. Sounds like you unintentionally offended her. Not many women are into degradation. She's obviously submissive but definitely no name rude calling for this one.
Is this through text? like do you see her daily or is this online only?
I have no idea what I am supposed to do to attract women. No one fucking tells you anything or how to date properly. Both of my parents are dead so I never got any pointers and now I am a wreck. 23 with no guidance on dating or attraction.
Help me bros. what the heck do women want from men? It seems like girls have like a thousand dudes trying to crawl up their ass. How can I compete with dudes who have all this dating capital?
I find it hard to hold a woman's attention. I don't blame them... why FUCK around with me when some other dude with more options and more shit is chomping at the bitvyobgrt that woman? FUCzk. It's frustrating how many options women have. I know a lot of dudes are after them. How can i compete.
I was a fucking nerd during my late teens, by the time I got to be 25 I learned that women are pretty good at noticing desperation.
The best way to start dating is to speak to as many women as it's possible without any sort of romantic meaning. Eventually you start hanging out with people in your close circle and that some times leads to attraction if you can carry yourself in social situations.
>>18138080
This. Contrary to how it seems, not all girls are literally drowning in attraction from the opposite sex. If you're not going for a bitch, just talking to her regularly will probably stir up some interest.
>>18138069
It's really not about things. Most of the guys i dated were upper middle class and because of that they acted like spoiled man-children.
In the end i chose a poorfag 22 yr old virgin neet why? because he put me first. He knew how to take care of his own basic needs. He can cook and clean, so we share that responsibility instead of him expecting me to be like his mommy.
He has really good hygiene and a sense of responsibility.
He was only neet because he had put off his own life to stay home and take care of a special needs family member.
This is the only man I've ever wanted to marry. Idk if that helps but i hope it does.
Any ideas on how to become a more charismatic person?
Make more money and make yourself look better - the social confidence will come naturally
>>18138047
This I recently put lots of work into my clothes and hair people listen more and I got more confidence while talking to newer people
>>18138047
yeah, I already try to dress nicely and I am well groomed but I was wondering if there are any fast methods to become more interesting, like asking the right kind of questions to make people open up or saying some things in a particular way