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b-bump, sorry guys but I really would like some help here

okay I'm gonna go to bed for a while
final bump and I'll let it die
pls guys

Still here op?

talk to a doctor.

>>16590081
I cant that easily.

>>16590099

well its not like we can give you any help its a medical issue we arent medicinal no matter what advice we give it ends with 'go find a doctor and make sure' and any treatment would be done through a doctor anyways

"I've got a bunch of stuff to do all day, but I'll keep you posted." Then once in a while take a quick pic of whatever you're doing and send it over.

It's 50% craving your attention and 50% insecurity. Intermittently contacting him resolves the former, and showing him that you are legitimately busy resolves the latter. Obviously don't take pics of stuff which he could then leverage into "I could be there while you do that!" Stick to the stuff like job search.

>>16590038

be honest. if honesty doesn't work, than the relationship is too flawed to move forward.

just say 'yeah im busy til wednesday' and roll with that.

he will either
A) get used to it
or
B) break up with you

not many other options. never cave. be strict to your schedule.

I'm a guy and im the same way. i work all day, then come home and have projects i need to work on, so dting takes a back seat. last time i dated they wanted to see me like all the fucking time, and im like 'once every other day MAX, cuz i got shit to do, and even then i wasnt getting enough done.

>>16590038
Tell the fucking truth. Guys like the direct approach. Myself, I feel the same as you. Ever weekend, I gotta drive to my gfs house, or she drives to mine to hang out. I just want a weekend alone! I've told her several times, and she agrees to give me free time, but then for some stupid reason, I feel bad and hang out, thus wasting my time. My house is a mess and I need to clean and shop for groceries lol

Everything you did in this situation was correct.

>>16589781
Had a sneaking suspicion that she was just interested in the attention.

She kept telling me how happy I made her, easy to talk to I was, how cute I was, and how interesting I was.

She even said she'd definitely wanna hook up.

I feel like there must be something I could do, but I think I came to an impasse.

Bummer.

Straight up, I have no fucking idea about tinder, never used it. I did do online dating enough to know what if follows a similar pattern to real life.

I mostly think PUA stuff is all bullshit, but there's this concept of the three second rule where if you don't act within the first three seconds of becoming interested in a girl, you should write her off because nothing will ever happen (because you'll either over think it, or you won't have the balls to act, or whatever).

In the online wold I think the exact parallel is more like a 10 message rule.. If you don't secure or agree to a meet in the first 10 messages, you're probably not ever going to get a meet. Funnily enough my girlfriend came to the exact same conclusion through her own online dating experiences.

You are a disgusting asshole, you tried to rape her. I hope you go to hell before you ever succeed with this shit.

This is really interesting because consensual sex with a partner who is asleep is sometimes considered as rape, which I think it should not be. But you gave it the disgusting twist of actually wanting her to not like it. Fucking weirdo. Do roleplay if you are into kinky shit instead of trying to rape someone.

>>16589461
I didn't had a boyfriend like that but one of my friends did, it was a guy who she started dating. She literally accused this lad of rape, looks like she's gonna win too, even though it's she said he said kind of thing

This is actually one of my fantasies. To be fondled/fucked while asleep/drunk/drugged. Maybe she liked it.

I'm going bald I'm 33. I don't really care honestly. Not sure why I think because my self esteem has always been low and I got used to that being OK. It does bug me sometimes but luckily it doesn't too much.


I'm seeing a psychologist and she might be helping me. Long story short on that part look up "tapping method" or "EFT" and start doing it because I think this lady might be onto something.

She also brought up another good point that I'm "projecting" my thoughts. I know what that is but never actually gave it much thought that what I think people are paying attention to are really what I'm paying attention to. You want to think if you're projecting your thoughts.

Do you think woman don't like you because of it? do you realize a woman that won't like you when you're bald isn't worth being around?

I hope that helps a bit.

Baldie reporting in. Same thing here, except started receeding at 17. It sucks big time, bud the best way is to embrace it. Took me a year to shrug it off but it still sucks, you know.

Post a pic of yourself. I know a few guys who are absolutely sexy with receeded hairline, might be your case. Also having a beard helps alot. Working out aswell

>>16588810
I guess it just worries me. I know the vast majority of women, especially my age, are very superficial and prefer a man with a thick head of hair.

Like I mentioned before I've suffered from anxiety which had at times made me socially awkward. usually a girl would show obvious signs she liked me and even found it cute. I just feel like bald + awkward will just come off as creepy.

>>16588554
Are men really this uncontrollable Jesus christ

You're fucked. Time to admit to your wicked ways.

>>16588559
no.. it's just me

1. 22
2. male (I would say mtf but I gave up on that)
3. unemployed
4. just high school
5. ask the most, answer as much as i can but not much
6. zero
7. zero
8. one
9. no
10. average to low
11. no
12. yes, I've met quite a few really amazing friends this year (yes, in real life)
13. A bit, but it should be better

By the way what's an "online relationship"? I'm a noob.

>>16586983
>1. How old are you?
-18
>2. Male or female (or whatever other gender you identify as)?
-Female
>3. Occupation?
-Student
>4. Do you have a degree in anything?
-Not yet
>5. Do you mostly ask, answer or lurk on here?
-Lurk and sometimes answer
>6. How many people have you been in a (real, not online) relationship with?
-None I guess since I'm in an "online relationship" because we've never actually met irl yet
>7. How many people have you had sex with?
-1
>8. How many people have you kissed? (moms not included)
-4
>9. Do you have any hobbies that aren't in front of a screen?
-Not really
>10. What's your BMI?
-24.1
>11. Do you work out?
-I try, I don't go to gyms I just work out at home or jog
>12. Do you have friends?
-Not close ones
>13. Are you happy with your life?
-Could be worse but could be a lot better, I'm not really happy but I'm not unhappy either. It's okay.

>>16586983
1: 21
2: male
3: student
4: working on it
5: 99% lurk 1% answer
6: 1
7: 1
8: 4 (may be more, when I was drunk)
9: muay thai, going out, gym, roadtrips
10: 21, normal
11: I've been working out years ago 5x a week, had a 2 years break, strating slowly again this semester
12: yes a lot actually, improved from like 5 friends at university last year to beeing friends with almost everyone in my classes, since I've done a lot self improvement the last year (also going to clubs, visiting workshops helps a lot)
13: yes, there are still some aspects I like to improve, but overall I'm damn happy with my progress (made a resume on topics that need improvement, so I can work on those next semester)

>>16582848
A series of unfortunate events

>>16582848
No one broke me and if you feel broken you need to pull your head out of your ass and fix it.

House music

Hook up at a party.

>what is tinder

I will explain the algorithm:

>download tinder
>find a random slut
>prepare your game
>persuade her to come to your place
>???
>profit

>>16590896
>l'm Iazy, ugIy, sociaIIy retarded and can't get a gf
>Come up with ideas to get me a girI!

Fuck off man, you're pathetic and nothing we say can save you.

>>16590840
Stupid

Stupid

Neither. It makes it fun to be bored, and do boring things. This is pretty nice if you don't abuse it. If you start blowing things off to sit around and get high, your priorities are fucked.

>>16590398
Yeah you fucked up, and you're never going to see him again.

You had plenty of time to fix things, and you let them go.

It's over, just accept you fucked up and move on.

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>>16590398
The reification of desire is homologous with the ideology of power/knowledge.

>I don't know why I said that
Because you are quick to blame other people when you have a communication problem.

>>16590118

theres no right or wrong. one of you was going to dump the other for some stupid reason at some point in the foreseeable future, so if that sort of thing bugs you, better to dump her now than have her put up with you freaking out about her past relationship.

I cheated once in 2011. havent ever cheated since.

>>16590118
Yes

>>16590118
Well if you can get a new girl pretty soon then yeah.

Hopefully she wasn't in love with you.

The need is real.

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>>16589928
2/2

We went on 3 dates. I didn't try to make a move after the first when she said she likes to take things slow. We talked about it for a bit in text and even saying the word sex freaks her out. We're both young 20s. It's not just sex though, I eventually need hand holding and cuddles. Which I really don't think I'll get here.

>>16589928
Hahaha oh wow. It sounds like OP is doing this girl a favor by breaking up with her. I wouldn't want to deal watch your overbearing bullshit either.

You're totally in the right to be shitty to him. That's some fucked up stuff to do to a friend and your friends sister... Just ignore him anon

>>16590449
come on OP. Have some dignity.
I understand that this guy is your only friend, but he's not a friend, amigo.

Fuck him.

I'd say what you've probably heard before. Get your shit together.

1. Ditch this fucker
2. Stop caring so much about what other people think of you
3. Start eating healthy
4. Start going to a gym. There you can easily get a workout-buddy. Might turn in to something awesoem.

Best regards,
Anon who had a birthday a few days ago and also was congratulated by one person outside close family.

>>16590483
You've got it a bit backwards, my man. I've dropped this guy a while ago. Its the fact that my sister can't get away from him now, they do that stupid on and off relationship shit and have been doing so for years. Every time I visit her, I hear about how they're not seeing eachother anymore and have decided to stop being romantic or some bullshit. Then, when I'd go on some app or social media, I'd see them kissing or something and now I've gotten rid of it all. Its all just shitty reminders of a shitty past and fact that my sister and ex best friend were the catalyst of destruction to my circle of friends and social life is what really hurts.

I would need to go into heavy detail. Explain. How I was the 3rd and unwanted child, literally. About a childhood of being ignored, watching my sister be spoiled and have to constantly live in her shadow.

As soon as I got away and started making my own life, she couldn't have it. Had to move in and "be near me" even though she's done nothing but treat me like a nuisance my entire life.

In coming, she slowly attracted my best friend behind my back, apparently. All things I learned late and only thought were sibling-type.

She has the world; friends, money, intellect (or whatever you call woman thought), and yet she still had to have what was mine. Just like when she lost her baby blanket and I gave her mine as a toddler.

I don't give a shit what other people think. I'm a good looking, funny, witty, creative guys who's fit, healthy, and generous. I've tried to do good for others my entire life, even though I've always considered myself evil. This is the kind of shit I get.

I don't want to play the bullshit game of "bettering myself" that everyone is tricked into wasting time on. I'm a genuinely awesome person and I've only been used my entire life because of it.