How can I prevent myself from doing something?
>Texting a girl for a few months
>Find out the more I text her the I feel like she starts to hate me or get annoyed
>Try not to text her all day but I get bored and want to talk with her
>It goes well but I always seem to fuck it up
>Example: Just now we were talking and I was trying to make plans for us to hangout and one other friend
>She keeps saying I am free this day I guess and just passive answers
>I ask whats wrong is she ok?
>She says she is frustrated but fine
>I ask if she wants to talk about it
>10 minutes later I get a response
>Goodnight
>No idea if its because of me or something else, but I can't ask her because she won't tell me
Is there anything I can do to try and stop texting her for a while?
>>16588019
Desperate Bump
>>16588019
do hobbies and remind yourself she's not your life. even the person you marry isn't your life and you aren't theirs. its either a case of you not having enough personal interests or being the type of person who wants to talk to their SO all day. if you're the latter or both, then god man you don't wanna settle for a girl who's nice but someone you're going to make hate you by being yourself
>>16588053
She is a friend im not going for more but I just hate how i always feel like I talk way too much or say the wrong thing and make her hate me a little more each time we talk. I don't have any hobby that will keep me focused all day and I just wanna talk with her because it used to be so much fun to talk back and fourth but lately she has been down alot and everytime I tell her I am here to talk or help she just gives me the cold shoulder and I feel like shit.
Why is polygamy outlawed?
I have had one wife, I liked having her around but I always found new women attractive at the same time. So I came to the realization that I wanted more. I wanted another woman, then another woman.
Why do we men allow ourselves to be subject to the laws of monogamy?
One man to one woman is ridiculous! Having multiple wives is the way to live!
Why do you need to marry them?
Would you let your wife have more husbands too?
>Having multiple wives is the way to live!
Let's work with that. What happens to all of the other guys? You have a significant population of sexually frustrated and angry men, with their anger being directed at women and that minority of men presumably.
Polygamy has never been a mainstream thing for a reason.
I have a fetish for tail plug/bead toys. Ever since I was around 11 they've really turned me on (I mean REALLY turned me on). I've had a wonderful gf for about 2 years and I've never mentioned anything about it to her. I feel awkward about it, maybe even embarrassed. I feel strongly that I should tell her but I don't want her to think I'm weird because of it. I don't even know how I would go about telling her if I decide I should. How should I handle it?
Thank you for your advice.
In you or in girls?
>"in you or in girls?", anon
In girls.
It really depends what kind of dynamic you have. It's not even a shocking or embarrassing fetish, it's just that it's a funny visual. A fluffy tail hanging out of a guy's ass, held in by a butt plug. It's going to be tough for her to take you seriously with that thing in.
So if you're usually the dominant one, if she kind of looks up to you and does what you say, then the tail-plug might mess with her image of you and spoil the fun. But if she's the strong one in the relationship, if you're a bit more self-deprecating and willing to be the butt of the joke (all puns intentional) then it probably won't be an issue.
What's up when a guy seeks approval from me?
For example:
>sends me his artwork and says how all his friends are telling him it's great and want one too
>'but i know its shitty lol'
or
>'i look like shit'
>sends me a pic of himself half naked in a bathtub
Every time I truthufully say that he/it isn't shitty, all that. But why he does that? He perceives me as his mummy or what?
>>16587884
1/10
Prob something along these lines: I want to fuck you. If I tell to that to your face you will most likely decline. I don't know what game is. So this is my way of saying I like you. Society teaches me going for what you want is bad and creepy. I forget society teaches women are perceived as sluts if they take the lead/andor dont want to take the lead. Still I want you and this is my way of saying that.
>>16587897
It's not a b8, I'm just an autistic lass
She says its because she wants to see if I can "actually keep a promise to her"
While I suppose the reasoning is well deserved is this one of those situations where I should put my foot down and say "this is bullshit. I'm not doing it."
Guess you don't love her enough.
filthy stoner
It sounds like the real issue isn't weed-smoking, the problem is that you lie and sneak around, tell her what she wants to hear then do shit behind her back. That's pussy behavior and nobody likes that. Don't make promises you don't intend to keep, just because it'll get you out of an argument faster.
If you want to smoke weed, tell her that you enjoy it and you don't plan to stop. If she doesn't want to be with a drug user, she might leave you. Stop trying to have it both ways
Need opinions, semi-complex backstory so I'll try and shorten it best I can
>Meet girl at work couple weeks back
>Walk her home after work, we hit it off, exchange deets, get a hug
>Go for coffee couple days later, goes really well, get another hug
>Ask her out on a proper date, solid full night, have lots of fun, lots of flirting, she asks me if I've told anyone about her yet, we're both really connecting
>She ends up asking me if I wanna go and stay at hers
>I oblige, we go back and watch a movie, then we start kissing, end up getting undressed and kissing in bed
>It was so late, we were both exhausted, and we kept laughing at bumping into each other, we decided to call it a night and try again another night so we didnt have sex
>Downside: She was going home the next day for the xmas holidays, and I was staying in our uni city for the next couple weeks for work
>She said on the night that we can talk over phone, and seemed really keen on the idea of me coming to visit her when I do come home (We live relatively near each other in our home cities)
>Next day, text her that I had a great time the night before, she texts me back that so did she, but she's sorry but she's not ready for anything emotional, its just too soon
>I say thats cool, I understand, hope we can still hang and stuff
>She says of course
>Over next week text her every couple days, as the week goes on text each other back more and more
Now we are here. Im going home on xmas eve. I was thinking about asking to come visit her in between xmas and new year, I just really wanna see her in person again.
She wont be coming back to our uni city until early january and that'll be for exams. I just really, really wanna chance to see her again.
Do I do it? Or do I just keep texting her and playing it chill?
I still dont know how she's feeling. If she still wants to date me again but just keep it slow, or what.
Sounds like she just wants to fuck
>>16587822
she's not ready for anything emotional because it's too soon...... sooo you can either convince her to change her mind or watch her change her mind on her own (or of course she doesnt, but if she does) this ends in a couple months with her breaking her heart because if she wasn't emotionally ready now and then decides she is in a couple weeks or months, she isn't and hasn't had the years it takes to sort though that issue
>>16587873
her breaking *your* heart
>work as a waiter on a wedding
>see this hot ass girl
>have long eye contact and she smiles at me
>don't want to ask her for her number because she is with her parents
>next day her fat bff pokes me on facebook
>the hot chick is with her on most of the pics but I cant find her on facebook.
>only way that get in touch with her is the ugly bff
>what do?
pls help
halp
>>16587817
explain you thought you felt a personal connection with her friend and ask for her contact info or facebook
>>16587878
I am afraid she will be pissed because her friend got my attention and not herself. I dont think she would help me to get in contact with her friend
So I got in an argument with my parents (they were being dicks so I called them out but anyway) and my dad somehow managed to prevent my phone from accessing the house wifi, even though he never touch my phone (as far as I know) how do I reverse this?
He might've reset the router and/or changed the password. Are you sure it was deliberate?
>>16587792
you wait two years until you're 19 and move out.
being that they pay your phone bill im sure its possible. Now go to sleep
Is it "normal" for the average 18 yr old guy to get horny just cause his 5 year old touched his hand while he was helping her play , or he gets hard when she sits on his lap? I've never asked my friends this, it would be too akward. I understand its weird , but there are some things that everyone secretly knows everyone does, but is still considered weird , like talking to yourself.
What the fuck is wrong with you man
>>16587786
i don't talk to myself but who cares if you say something out loud instead of in your head. of course, i talk to myself in my head. these are thoughts.
no, it's not normal for the average 18 year old, or any guy to get horny cause his 5 year old touched his hand or sat on his lap or did anything at all. you have to remind yourself of just how fucked up this is until that realization sinks in and it goes away
>>16587800
I don't know.....
I've dated this guy for a couple weeks and recently found out he's slept with a lot of people. More than 100, he couldn't tell an exact number.
He even slept with someone this weekend (we're not officially dating or anything, just interested in eachother). We haven't slept yet (I'm not holding back or anything, just hasn't come to it).
I want to try and see past his sexual history but it still makes me feel kind of disgusted. I don't judge him personally or anything it's just that I don't want to be with someone who has slept with that many people, and are actively still doing it.
My own number is around 10 people. I'm 20 years old and he's 27 to put it in perspective.
What would you guys do? Is it worth seeing past, assuming he's clean from STIs, or is he forever tainted by the sexual activities in his past (and present)?
Unless your time is super valuable or you're a gullible idiot, I would wait and see how it plays out. If he starts with the wandering eyes or the lack of appreciation for you I'm sure you'd notice.
That's fucking gross.
I mean, 10 people at 20 is also pretty gross, but god damn.
I mean, it's obvious that he's never going to be 100% monogamous with anyone. So you either have to accept that and be comfortable with it, or accept that nothing serious will ever really work out between you two. It's not a "right" or "wrong" thing, it just sounds like you and him have completely different attitudes about sex and love.
Do you have courage and bravery /adv/?
If so, where do you draw it from?
In spades.
It's called a soul.
>>16587732
I guess. I don't really know what courage is. Btw courage and bravery are absolutely synonymous.
I don't know how "courage" is relevant to a person's everyday life. For example, you could say asking a girl out is courage, but really it's just common sense.
Or asking your boss for a raise is courage. In reality, it's just a risk assessment, etc.
it depends on the context, really
but I work in a shelter that deals with a lot of PDDs (potentially dangerous dogs) who have a history of aggression. some mild, some that have ripped children's faces off or mauled people or killed livestock
I'm usually the one that handles them because Im just not that bothered by it. I've been severely bitten twice, a husky ripped my arm open and I almost needed surgery, the second was a German shepherd that put me on crutches for almost a week. But even still, I don't get too nervous handling them.
plus I'm not afraid to confront people bigger than me, but that probably comes from doing BJJ and kickboxing since I was a kid
i need some gay relationship /adv/ice m8s I could post on /lgbt/ but i dont feel like checking my privilege
Long story short I met this guy on grindr (pls no bully) while doing an exchange program in mexico for my university. I was using tinder too, but this guy seemed like he was the most into me and I was also interested in him. We've been dating for 9 months and I came back to work in Mexico as a teacher. I'm younger than he is and above his rating in the looks department, but he's really chill to be around and I'm like a negative 5 on the personality scale.
He told me that he and his ex broke up and they were on this weird on again off again roller coaster right until he met me. But then when his ex's birthday rolled around 6 months ago, my bf had already started dating me and decided not to go to the birthday party. Naturally the jealous ex (my bf was the one who broke up with him mostly) blocked him on facebook and stopped talking to him.
According to my boyfriend, his ex still "means a lot to him" and he thinks it doesn't make sense to just burn a bridge, nonetheless he chose to let his ex just be a cranky bitch for 6 months and didn't ask why his ex blocked him. Fast forward to now, he finally messaged his ex and they reconciled. He told me they were going to be reconciling, but almost in an "FYI" kind of way like oh by the way I'm seeing my ex hope youre okay with that, he'll be over at my place in 30 minutes XD. I told him that he can do what he wants but I wasn't very happy about it at all. Now every time he mentions his ex it just makes me rage.
Also I caught him using grindr once, and I told him that it really pissed me off but I wouldn't force him to stop using it. He doesn't really have a lot of friends and he used to save a shit load of pictures off grindr so I kind of think that's a form of porn for him not so much an "I'm going to leave you and cheat on you with these people" kind of thing.
Tl;dr boyfriend talks to ex, am i getting cuckd
>>16587692
Sort of cucked. You really need to learn to tl;dr:
>OP an fag
>OP's bf is seeing his ex bf while cucking OP
>is OP a cuck
>gay threads are confusing because everyone is a "bf", harder to keep track of
Go with your gut. He's obviously not in this thing 100%. Enjoy it while it lasts, but you shouldn't be thinking too seriously or planning a future with this guy, if he's already behaving like this.
>>16587765
lel, sorry. Yeah I feel sort of cucked
>>16587774
True I guess I'm not planning our entire future together or anything, I just want to know that if it starts to get really serious that he would be interested in having it be really serious. Basically if I didn't plan on going back to the US to do a master's I would already want it to be more serious and I would ask him to stop doing all of those things. I just feel like it's unfair to ask for him to stop talking to his ex if I possibly might not be living here for another two years...if that makes any sense at all
So lately I have been having sexual feelings towards a very long time female friend of mine. How do I approach this? I do care for her a lot...I think our friendship has grown to something more than just best friends though...Aside from parents and family she is the only person I can think that I love and truly care about.
>>16587687
More info m8
>>16587696
like what
>>16587698
Does she fancy you? What do you want to achieve? How close you two are? She single?
What the hell do I say in a first message on a dating site? Fuck I'm absolutely lost as to how to start conversations with girls over the Internet
This isn't me. I'm not actually a cop....I mean I AM a cop. I AM A MOTHA FUCKIN COP.
>>16587572
How do you start conversations with women offline?
> Inb4 you don't.
dont kiss her ass or act over excited. Just try to go for a nothing to lose attitude and try to show genuine interest but don't over do it.
Hi...I was diagnosed with bipolar but some things I have add up with schyzophrenia...I never thought this before my friend pointed it out about some symptoms I described. These symptoms are not ones that I have ever discussed with my doctor. I've only told my doctor about my mood swing patterns and how they affect my behaviour also how feeling is so intense I can barely handle it sometimes. So...I've always thought people can read my mind; I would walk down streets having full conversations with people from mind to mind telling them to get out that I know they are spies and want to hurt me. I would run home everyday because I thought people were out to get me, they'll take my phone and then not even want to rape me because I'm ugly so to be safe they'll just kill me. People are following me. Now my main delusion...well everyone says its a delusion but I can't not believe it is spirits. I'm scared all the time, I can't live my life I'm scared the spirits want to hurt me. I see things, it's like everything I look at moves up down right left and then into place. Nothing ever looks real...I see dragons then eventually after looking at it for 3 minutes it will be a bush again. People everywhere but they always end up being objects. Always feel like I'm being followed, I'm terrified of being alone in my house I know someone is there. I used to run from room to room checking again and again and again terrified. I do have this voice in my head there's one that is me talking but the other is actually always talking to me telling me what to do...I guess it's helpful in the kitchen because it seems to know just how to spice stuff but sometimes it insults me too. Sometimes it's like there's someone stuck inside of me...the other week they spoke to me and said ' I hate you. I hate you. I hate you. You're an awful person. I hate you. I hate being stuck inside of you. I hate being stuck with you. ' it's like they're trying to get out. I also have extreme highs and extreme lows
>>16587477
Sometimes I'm in a room and the room suddenly gets completely brighter but actually it's the same lighting then it feels like an angel entered my body and I feel complete euphoria. This is all without drugs. What the fuck is wrong with me? I can't tell if it's real it feels real to me but everyone tells me not...the other day I saw a huge shadow man he towered over me then sat beneath me trying to read my mind I had to sit there for 10 minutes while he stayed repeating you can't read me you can't read me you can't read me until the demon was gone. I'm scared. Please help. I still have a boyfriend and a job but being inside my head is so exhausting I don't want to leave my house to go to work. Being inside my head is already a big job. I feel like I'm normal but then I look back and realise maybe not but I don't think I need help but all the time I'm crying desperate and hurting so maybe I do. Can you give your advice on if you think there might be more to it than the bipolar?
Bump. Can just one person maybe give me an idea of what's wrong
You need to tell your doctor and seek help.