File: 1294984139067.jpg (254KB, 1024x768px) Image search:
[Google]
254KB, 1024x768px
So /adv/, my gf of 1 month and a half (we talked for 6 months before, so 7 months total) is going to a friend's xmas party tomorrow. She hasn't invited me only told me about it. The guy hosting the party likes her but she said she friendzoned him. However I've still been concerned previously, and thought she might've liked this other guy that will be there too. She assures me they're friends only.
But she's told me about this party and hasn't invited me. I don't want to invite myself. Mainly cause I only want to go if she wants me to go. What do?
This is killing me a little.
26 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
Rightly or wrongly, you do not trust her. Either you are right to suspect something and she is not worth being with, or you are wrong and are too immature to even have a relationship. Considering that you say things like 'invite myself' and you believe she should invite you to someone else's party, the latter is more likely.
>>
>>16594321
It's not that I believe she should invite me to someone else's party.
It's that if I were going to an xmas party with my friends I'd see if my gf was invited, and invite her accordingly.
Other people's s.o.'s are going. I don't exactly see how this is immature?
And of course it'd be a different situation also were it not for the fact that I know the guy hosting it likes her.
>>
>>16594321
>>16594332
I'll add that I've been cheated on before in a couple relationships so tend to get a little jealous/leery in situations like this.
Sure part of it might be me. But if you think it's immaturity please elaborate.
Cause this has me feeling like I'm not worth bringing around her friends or something, or like she thinks she can't do so.
I've met the guy hosting the party, at her birthday party. I met her other male friend. Her other friend and I got along great and talked a lot but this guy (the host) just shook my hand, couldn't look me in the eye or even say a word to me. Later in the night he just stuck around but hung off over to the side not talking with anyone.
Am I wrong to feel weird about the situation? I'm trying to work with these feelings.
I have a problem /adv/
>Meet girl on tinder
>We're both Slavic, which is nice since you don't see that often
>She's super cool to talk to
>Find out she browses 4chan
>Meet her for the first time a couple weeks ago(We had been texting for about two months prior)
She tells me that it will be her last night since she is studying abroad in Europe for about 8 months.
That kinda sucks because I kinda developed feelings for this chick and she'll be gone and who knows where I'll be 8 months.
Anyway, today she casually tells me that she had to buy a shitload of birth control for her stay in Europe. I jokingly ask her if she's really gonna have that much sex, to which her reply was "Well, I'm gonna be in Europe lol"
This pained me brehs. Here's this girl that I really like, and she's probably gonna have all kinds of sex out there for 8 months. I know it's weird having feelings for someone you only met once but I dunno, I just do. And if we were to meet up after she got back, all I'll think about is how many guys she was with and shit.
What the fuck do I do brehs
35 Posts / 6 Images
View this topic
>>
She has probably been with tons of guys already, so fucking more in Europe won't be that much different
>>
>>16594257
Save those feelings for a girl that's not gonna get debaucherized abroad.
>>
you've met this girl once and you're this tore up about her? what?
Anonymous
Can money buy happiness? 2015-12-22 14:05:32 Post No.16592872
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Can money buy happiness? 2015-12-22 14:05:32 Post No.16592872
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: mansion.jpg (149KB, 800x600px) Image search:
[Google]
149KB, 800x600px
I'm a faggot born into a household which earns six figures. Can money buy happiness? Are upper class folks truly "happier" than people who earn enough to live comfortably? I mean, a Prada handbag is still a handbag after all and a Ferrari is still a car after all.
37 Posts / 3 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16592872
It can't.
If you are happy with money, you're happy without it, and vice-versa. Money makes life easier and more comfortable, but not happier nor sadder either.
>>
If you can pay yourself to be happy then I suppose yeah, but normal people don't go to a register and pay 50$ for a bag of happiness.
They buy shit that entertains them, gets them to places they want to go see, gets them out of the house if that's what they like to do. Being able to afford to keep yourself entertained in the way you like can possibly make you happy.
A lot of times it takes more than that though. Some people never know real happiness which consists of having a family or friends, going out, smelling fresh air, sharing conversations and getting some sun with other people.
>>
>>16592872
Money can't buy happiness, but motherfucker it can sure put a downpayment on it.
Have you ever seen the documentary Born Rich by the Johnson/Johnson heir?
Jesus christ their biggest problem is that they have no sense of purpose because they no longer have to struggle to live. Fucking weak shits. They could be funding a trip to Europa or Ganymede but they sit and bitch because nobody wants to offend them. Them and their families, it's like watching a chihuaha and thinking holy fuck, this thing descended from a goddamn wolf?
But yeah, its not that money can buy happiness, it just removes a lot of the conditions of despair.
Anonymous
What do you do when you're too ugly to date? 2015-12-22 12:38:21 Post No.16592751
[Report] Image search: [Google]
What do you do when you're too ugly to date? 2015-12-22 12:38:21 Post No.16592751
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: beauty-grunge-ugly-Favim.com-3622230.jpg (12KB, 215x185px) Image search:
[Google]
12KB, 215x185px
What do you do when you're too ugly to date?
Anonymous
2015-12-22 12:38:21
Post No. 16592751
[Report]
[View this topic]
I have asked if my looks met guys' physical standards for dating, and every guy said no. Here are some of the answers I got, copied and pasted:
You could lose a little weight but you're a butter face at best.
Sorry my but no, I'm not a mean guy but I would like to see someone more nicer in my bed in the morning.
No, unfortunately even if you were the nicest person in the world, I would not be able to date you simply because I find you incredibly unattractive. It may seem shallow, but for any relationship to work, there has to be some attraction.
EWWWWW...There goes my dinner.
god no
K I'm sorry but your *** ugly an don't get mad because you asked what I think so yeah
2/10 Sorry, but I am just being honest. I don't find you attractive at all.
pretty ugly
you look like a tanker, aka a massive sh*t
And those were the NICE ones!
So I can't get a guy on looks because I'm too ugly, and even though I have a really nice personality they won't date me because I'm ugly. what is there for me to do?
85 Posts / 8 Images
View this topic
>>
nobody said any of those things
>>
post your picture, i dare you to
>>
Sorry we need pictures to confirm here
File: 3rd-wheel.jpg (14KB, 254x193px) Image search:
[Google]
14KB, 254x193px
Today, an agent from a porn company approached me and asked me to be in a porn video.
You know those pornos where they're in a public setting, for example a restaurant, and the guy is fucking the girl while she's like eating at a table with her friend acting like she doesn't know what's going on? Yeah, one of those.
He asked me if I wanted to be one of the bystanders in the porn video, specifically the pornstar's friend so I will be in a lot of the main shots. I don't have to get naked in any way whatsoever, nor do I have to wear a slutty outfit. The agent told me I could wear a turtleneck and jeans if I wanted to.
I'm being offered a REALLY generous amount of money, and I'm wondering if it's worth it or not.
Even though I'm not the one getting naked and fucked and degrading myself, I'm still gonna be in the video and it'll be online for everyone to see. I also think people would also probably think I'm a slut/do porn too if they saw me in the video.
Do you guys think I should do it? Would you do it if you were me? Please let me know. I'm really tempted to but at the same time I want to look at the repercussions
pic kinda related
133 Posts / 3 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16591189
It's alot of money.
That's enough of an explanation as anyone needs. Just make sure you don't look cringey. Do whatever it takes to make yourself look comfortable during the scene.
Go there high, if you have to.
>>
>>16591189
Do it! That sounds really fun and would be an interesting experience. I personally wouldn't worry about being recognized because anyone who sees you in the video is WATCHING the video and is therefore in no place to judge. If I saw someone I knew in one of those videos I would not judge them at all and would just be curious about what it was like!
My vote is definitely go for it!
>>
Go for it.
File: IMG_0415.jpg (1MB, 2138x2138px) Image search:
[Google]
1MB, 2138x2138px
Quick backstory, I have a boyfriend of 1 and a half years. Moved out of state together and into an apartment 7 months ago. He has severe paranoid disorder, I have mild bipolar. We have grown a shit ton together. The rough times were really bad but we both reached a point we never thought we could with another person.
A month before we left we had a threesome with a mutual friend ( she has a bf who said okay), great stuff let my bf get a few pumps in but I said no more than that.
Fast foward to a month ago he went home for two days for his grandmother's funereal. Fast foward to tonight, We get a little drunk, he's fighting with mutual friend (due to the paranoia this happens a lot), he comes in from talking. I try and console him, he breaks the news that when he went home they got drunk and fucked.
What do I do now? I literally can't help but love him, and I believe he loves me (he was sobbing saying a fuck doesnt mean anything to him, and that he has delusions that I cheated). And we've built an amazing life together here but I know I can never trust him again. Also the thought of sex right now makes me physically ill. I feel weak for wanting to forgive him, I given him a hell of a lot since we've been together. But the idea of ending this honestly tears me up. Please some outside advice, even just a view on the situation.
tl;dr Amazing bf who I built a life with gets drunk and cheats with a friend we both fucked one night, what do?
12 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16595849
My 3some basically ruined my relationship. Don't fucking trust that fuck boy no matter what he says. He cheated on you. I always believe you have some level of consciousness when you are drunk. He knew what he was doing. Either way even if you do "forgive him" it'll haunt you for the rest of the time you guys are continuing dating. It's already ruined your relationship. Cut it off now. He's toxic. I don't know what to say since you're in a new town though so maybe he won't fucking do it again. But you better lay down the ground rules.
>>
>>16595849
My 3some basically ruined my relationship. Don't fucking trust that fuck boy no matter what he says. He cheated on you. I always believe you have some level of consciousness when you are drunk. He knew what he was doing. Either way even if you do "forgive him" it'll haunt you for the rest of the time you guys are continuing dating. It's already ruined your relationship. He's toxic. I don't know what to say since you're in a new town though. That fucking SUCKS. If it weren't for that I'd go no contact and no talk to him ever again. But you better lay down the ground rules.
>>
>>16595874
Ugh sorry for the double post.
Also who is this bitch? She responsible too. Knock her fucking teeth in.
What are some signs that a girl doesn't like you or you're being friend zoned?
11 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
She doesn't touch you or send you sexy pics.
>>
when she doesn't want the dick
>>
>>16595646
If you have to ask then it's already over.
File: IMcIJqrOtM8.jpg (24KB, 604x400px) Image search:
[Google]
24KB, 604x400px
It's finally happened that I can't get myself to do anything anymore. I quit the gym. I quit hanging out with people. I quit spending time with my family.I quit watching movies or playing vidya or anything else I used to do. Even playing the stupid casual games on my phone feel like too much of a hassle now.
So to sum it up I think after weathering for a couple of years I'm finally dead. How do I fix this.
11 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
Get a job.
If you already have a job, then you've finally realized that life is about more than just the bear necessities. You'll never get fulfillment without strife.
>How do I fix this
It's different for every person, but ultimately you have to force yourself to commit to change and betterment of the self. It's a hell of a lot easier if you have the support of someone you trust, but it's possible to do alone.
The exact remedy is something you'll have to find for yourself.
>>
>>16595537
See a therapist. Get on medication. Coming from someone who's been there, you have depression and you need help.
>>
>>16595537
What do you do all day? Just curious.
File: dcfs-adoption.jpg (66KB, 623x318px) Image search:
[Google]
66KB, 623x318px
I turned 18 in October. I'm obviously still living with my *adopted* parents. I was adopted at birth and have had absolutely no contact with any biological relatives, until yesterday. Around midnight on Tuesday I was heading to bed when I got the urge to Google my birth mothers name. I've done this before but until the past year I didn't know her last name, which is incidentally my first name, go figure. Luckily for me, or unluckily, that's why I'm here, I ended up on a new search site that gave me associated usernames for Facebook and MySpace. I found a woman with the correct name, in my general area, but her age was one year older than what I was lead to believe it should be. Nonetheless, after a lifespan of wondering my curiosity got the better of me and I checked out the associated MySpace profile. I saw a young woman that greatly resembled me, so I found her Facebook and asked her if my birth date meant anything to her. The next morning I woke up and checked my phone to see that she said it meant a lot to her and to call her at 4 pm. So at 4 I called her and had one of the most awkward but relieving, real and for lack of a better term informative talks of my life. She manages metal bands, was excited that I'm not religious (me too to be honest), and is generally amazing and I'm so glad that she's the mother I ended up with. She even bought me an instrument microphone I mentioned I'm saving for for Christ's sake. I also learned that I have a half sister through my father, who I also haven't talked to yet, so I'm no longer and only child.
17 Posts / 3 Images
View this topic
>>
Now that you know pretty much everything, how do I tell my adopted parents? They haven't been told anything, and I normally would tell them immediately, its just that things are pretty tense between us. They don't trust me after finding half a gram of kush in my room and over reacted, my dad lost his job recently due to restructuring and my mom has mental issues, and this could be really emotional for them, way more than it has been for me and my birth mother. After Christmas we leave to be in Tennessee for a while and it would be so awkward for us if they knew what's happened, but I'm worried that if I waited till after Christmas they'd be mad that I hid this from them, even if its because I don't want to stress them out over the holidays. I talked to my birth mother about this and she said that she'll support however I choose to deal with this. How should I deal with this? Am I making too big of a deal over this? If you've been involved in this kind of process before how did you go about it? Sorry for using two posts, it all wouldn't fit.
>>
If they were open with you about the fact that you were adopted, they should have expected that you'd get in touch with your birth mother sooner or later.
>>
>>16595429
That is true, and I probably didn't convey right that we've been at odds lately and I'm afraid they'd be super pissed that I didn't involve them at every step of the way.
File: images.jpg (4KB, 275x184px) Image search:
[Google]
4KB, 275x184px
Hey guys, need some woman advice/Psychological Advice and shit in general
Put on your reading hats
Basically, married with a 1 year old child. I am active duty military. Pay isn't too bad at my rate but still, we get slaughtered with bills
>Wife can't sleep without TV/Netflix on
>Makes powerbill easily $250 a month
>Internet goes over cap, $100/month
>Never wants to eat groceries we get, always orders food, easily spend $200/month on food
>Christmas, have 1 year old baby, says she doesn't want her to have a small Christmas, spends $400 in 2 days on a few toys, still not enough, wife depressed
>She has extreme manic bi-polar/Depression/Anxiety.
>Smokes like a truck, 1-2 packs a day, $10 a day, 7 days a week
>Spend nearly $100 on smokes every month for her if it's a decent month
>Shes always stressed, never smiles
>Never has sex anymore, shes too depressed
>Sleeps 12 hours a day
>Take care of baby everyday
>She left me on my birthday a few days ago, drank myself stupid and passed out singing happy birthday to myself
>She came back the next day, still pissed off at me
>She left because I didn't want to go to her parent's house on my birthday about an hour drive away
>Tells her mom everything, her mom always talks shit
>Most of the time have $20 after paycheck for paying all the bills, whatever she ran up on the debit card
>No money to eat, at work eating crust from my buddies, or they'd get me a sandwich
>Flashback veterans day, $1 in account because she spent it all on pizza/random shit
>Go to every place I can to find free food for veterans, give her all the food, starve on veterans day
>No food for 3 days, drink only water from faucet to stem hunger
>Lost 15 lbs in 2 weeks from starving
>Just want to see her smile, do whatever I can to make her happy
>Never smiles
>I bring up things we can do to save money
>Currently: She got mad, went to sleep in our bedroom, locked me out, baby still awake screaming
>At my end with all this
(CONT)
87 Posts / 5 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16595331
>Suicide doesn't seem that bad of an option right now
>Too pussy to do it,
>Wife isn't a bad person, just in her episodes/When she acts immature
>Can't bring up problems to her, will fit, get angry, break shit, leave.
>Baby screaming right now,
>Shes asleep, has been asleep since around 5pm today
>Baby still screaming
>At my wits end, will lose it soon
>Already put holes in wall from headbutting
>Broke door frame punching
>Broke wrist doing it.
I'm losing it, mentally, emotionally and physically. The baby is crying right now and all I want to do is shut it's door and let it do whatever.
>>
First off, make sure that baby is taken care of. Just because you two are having troubles, doesn't mean the baby has to suffer because of it.
Does your wife take medication about her bipolar/depression? Does she not work? Maybe seek a marriage counselor
>>
>>16595365
Put the baby to sleep. It's not my real biological child.
She takes Xanax, Zoloft and something else.
She doesn't work because her disabilities won't allow her. She's easy to set off in angry rages, will cry at the smallest things
>Dropped a christmas bulb from the store, it broke, she started bawling
We've gone to marriage counciling. Everything was a bit better, she swears she'll be better, she reverts right back to the same self 20 minutes later.
I can't speak, my hair is literally falling out from my head, I shake, I'm starving, I'm alone.
I can't divorce her, I know who she really is and how much of a great woman she is... But this is like a demon I've been dealing with for months and months now.
File: 1447914075040.jpg (15KB, 250x250px) Image search:
[Google]
15KB, 250x250px
>gf sends me images of other guys hitting on her and such
>most of the time they end with her saying she has a bf
>I wonder why she even bothers responding
How should I react to these? Just play it completely cool?
I think it's good that she shows it to me, but it is just that tiny bit bothersome.
11 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16594702
She's an attention whore and one argument away from cheating. Your call.
>>
>>16594702
She's trying to give you a self esteem boost bro. All these guys want her but you're the one that gets her.
>>
>>16594707
>>16594714
So funny how these two are polar opposites.
I want to have sex, but I feel very guilty about that. I grew up in a very conservative church and was taught that even finding a man sexually attractive before marriage was like cheating on your future husband. Does anyone have any experience with over coming feelings like this or how to overcome the guilt so you can enjoy sex?
66 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16594696
It would be better for you not to slut-out. How old are you OP?
>>
>>16594701
18, I'll be 19 next month. I feel like I'm really behind my college friends. Plus, the few guys I've gone out on dates with have gotten weird about it when my being a virgin came up. I just held a guys hand for the first time three weeks ago.
>>
This is a quite unhealthy method but probably the easiest. You need to antagonize whoever taught you those things. For example, if they are religious techings, you read up on all the evil shit the church has done though ages to the point where you actively despise them and feel they opressed you, and then you'll want to fuck just to spite them.
I hear this method has been very successful on Tumblr.
![10[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/vMeOmBN.jpg "10[1]")
>close friend gets married to a girl he's been dating for, like, a year
>she's a 4/10, at best
>we're watching the news report on the whole Miss Universe fiasco
>I say Colombia is prettier then Phillipines
>friend says his wife is the prettiests of them all
>I'm like "Come on, man, let's be real here."
>he gets mad and leaves
Who was in the wrong here?
I mean, I GET the whole "my wife is the prettiest woman of all" sentiment, but it's just that, a sentiment. You shouldn't take it literally, and expect others to do that, either.
24 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
He was corny and you were insulting.
I'd say you're both faggots, but you're objectively more blamy.
>>
>>16594646
Why would you say that though? Are you that disconnected from other people that you don't think they can have other viewpoints? Or do you just not value their point of view whatsoever? Either you're out of touch, or an asshole, or both.
>>
unless your mate said it in a joking/corny fashion, what a fucking faggot
File: 1449951850011.gif (3MB, 500x500px) Image search:
[Google]
3MB, 500x500px
I think I'm starting to hate my best friend. We've been friends since junior high, and honestly I don't know how I would have made it through life without him. It's been around 6 years, and little things about his personality and the way he speaks are starting to annoy me.
Firstly, I feel like he's too opinionated about things, and he speaks like he's above most people. He watches a lot of videos on YouTube about atheism and politics and shit like that, and they've begun to influence him a little too much.
He's also very passionate about being knowledgeable about stuff like video games and movies, comic books etc. I normally wouldn't have any issue at all with this, except now I try to avoid mentioning those things - I don't want to stir up his inner "I'm right you're wrong" shithead persona.
These aren't necessarily flaws with his character, but they are traits that seem to clash with my personality. I tend to be more relaxed with my interests and views. I don't pretend like I know more than other people, even if it's about a subject that I'm passionate about.
We still have a good time and luckily have nearly identical senses of humor, but everything else is starting to come apart. Is this normal? Should I try talking to him about this? I don't want him to just change they way he behaves, but at the same time, he's starting to drive me nuts.
13 Posts / 4 Images
View this topic
>>
>>16594620
Everyone starts growing apart in some ways over time. All that matters is that you still get along; if you care enough a few things here and there aren't going to make a real difference.
>>
>>16594625
Look at all this word porn textbook advice. I'm lovin it!
>>
People change. If you hate the person he became, tell him about it. He can either try to please you not being obnoxious around you, or you can both break up.
What's the problem here? You feel like you invested time and the return you got isn't the one you wanted? Bad luck.
File: 1449254885614.jpg (88KB, 949x960px) Image search:
[Google]
88KB, 949x960px
Got a cold I think. Throat hurts so bad I actually have to spit all my saliva because I can't swallow.
What should I do? I have no medicine. I've been thinking of just drinking some hot water god damn it
15 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
Embrace it. If you get sick, then get sick. Look at it this way: you're getting some needed 'upgrades' to your immune system.
>>
well you need to swallow even though it hurts. and gargle salt water.
>>
>>16594310
Have any honey? Take a spoonful every once in a while.
Boil some water in a pot, stand over it, and breathe in the steam.
If you have garlic cloves, sucking on them acts like a throat losenger. It's not tasty though.
Still drink lots of water even if it hurts. Dehydrating yourself will prolong the soreness.