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how sure can you be she is not experienced? Eg what is her age, what kind of people does she hang out with, small town vs city?

>>16588535
Break up with her, she's too good for you if you're obviously thinking she's out to get you from the start

>>16588535
I think she wants to take things slow because she is not experienced and has never had a boyfriend before.
Well duh, that was hard to figure out.

What do they do and what do you do to provoke them?

>>16588449
Teasing/belittling/mocking/trying to establish a pecking order where I'm at the bottom.Just existing in their presence provokes them.

>>16588446
Male or female?

can anyone pls respond? i can barely walk and more importantly i can barely sit at my pc

>>16588412
You're an idiot, if you feel an intense pain for no reason that worries you, seek medical attention. Don't ask 4chan, its not rocket science

>>16588414
yeah right, i'd be living in the er if i did that
thanks for replying atleast

>>16588378
Do you get girls? Ever had a gf or bF?

answer me

>>16588378
>>>/soc/

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>>16588406
Ive never had girls, never been asked out either. Closest thing i had was a girl say im handsome thats it.

also heres another pic to rate me by.

>>16588317
just tell him to stop being a fucking cunt, if hes actually your friend he'll stop

>>16588321

Won't work, he'll just go all 'u mad brah?' On me

>>16588325
Then punch him in the mouth

Yes, it is called "who is that feeding my pussy"

Get some guys to give you double vag.

>>16588306
get a vag pump? idk if it'd work, but i cant see anything else.

Now the people I have known with BPD, have a much more depressive state. Has he tried hurting himself

>>16588289
i have experience. and my experience was awful. seriously one of the worst things ive ever willingly been a part of. it completely turned me off to relationships, and i have problems trusting anyone that is not my immediate family to this day. pretty much everything you can dig up on google about these people is true. and no matter how hard you try, the only person that can help or fix them is themselves (which most do not). its easy to love crazy, but you can not have a stable, healthy relationship with a bpd person. i advise you to gtfo of there now, before you end up like me.

>>16588293
Not that I know of. But he is very impulsive and has anger issues.

Rarely does he lose control, but when he does (ie. his last gf dumping him) he'll punch things and fracture his hand. He regrets losing control, and has even quit drinking to avoid it.

>>16588320
Oh boy.
Oh man.
What happened? How long was your relationship?

Bump! I need help!

Introduce her to MLP appreciation threads on /b/ or at least tell her you will get a job by 40.

>>16588243
it's okay for her to want you to start working but banning you from MLP? that's bullshit. i just went and bought these little ninja figures from a coin dispenser the other day cause i had one as a kid. why? because it was awesome but i lost it. plus i haven't used my imagination in so long it's depressing and insulting. imaginary and creative battles will ensue, and my age doesn't matter. anything that brings out the kid inside you is something worth holding onto for life. you don't want to lose the child in yourself because it's the most wonderful part about you. and if MLP brings that out in you, it's more important than anything else

>>16588158
Just don't say shit and get on with your life m8, if you said "200 lbs? No thanks chubbs" and there was a Landwhale on the horizon would you apologise? Nope. People are different and like different things. BUT 25 is not old by any definition, if your co worker is 25 then you should've went for her

>>16588158
be a gentleman and apologize. if it's awkward, well at least she won't resent you. being awkward 1 time or lasting anger is not a hard choice. i wouldnt wanna be in her shoes and *have* to hold a grudge because someone cared too much about being awkward.

>>16588191
>BUT 25 is not old by any definition
You having a laff m8? That's ancient.

The cow is too old.
>>16588195
But what would I say?

"Sorry for not being into old ladies?"

in the most impulsive and irresponsible ways I can think of!

>>16588156
3/10 tho wouldn't recommend. had some cool life experience but not worth the lasting misery of your past haunting you.

>>16588147
>meds
>therapy
>getting enough rest
>eating a decent diet and not junk
>keeping your stress level reasonable even if it means saying no to things that you feel you "should" do

the first two are the most important if you're dealing with bipolar and psychosis. if your symptoms are mild and you don't have a tendency to do life-destroying things when manic or psychotic (committing crimes, trashing your credit, destroying property, fucking up your relationships), then you *might* be able to get by without meds. therapy or at least a support group or online community is still recommended though.

>>16588037
For example I often imagine they saying something like that I'm pretty good at making music, but I need to work harder, which is what I'm telling myself.

Everybody talks shit about me at work.

Atleast I don't have to hear about it

>Do you guys ever imagine what other people say about you?

If you older than 20 the only reason you should care is if you're a politician or it is required/necessary for your job.

Otherwise it really does not matter. You will be around adults who act like teenagers until you're in your 40's.

>>16586827
I'm having the same problem OP, i didn't know such thing also happens to other people, care to elaborate more on your condition???

>>16586934

Well you can read more about it generally by googling "anhedonia" and reading its wikipedia page or the symptom page on a medical website.

But for me, I just don't have any passion for the things I used to love. For example, since I was a kid I wanted to become a writer, but in the past few years it seems like a chore to read books or to write. I can't motivate myself to do it and it seems pointless. The same with political causes I used to care about, seeing friends I know I care about somewhere deep down, and sexual things. Just recently my boyfriend has been doing things I would have found very exciting before this happened, but now I just don't care at all. I go along with pretending to be happy because I appreciate it and don't want to hurt his feelings though.

Lots of these things, like my sexuality and what I wanted to do as a career, are things that I think are pretty central to my sense of self. So it can feel like I am fading away. I actually feel jealous of myself in the past and wish I could get back to being "like myself" again, but I'm just not really finding any interest in the things I used to do. Most days I just take care of my duties as fast as possible, waste some time, and then go to sleep.

>>16586827


Skateboarding and making music are literly all thats keeping me going. 18 unimployed britfag

>>16585936
Sure, it works in terms if getting you into running. That will improve your cardiovascular health, and help burn calories.

However, weight loss is entirely dependent on diet. Your main concern should be calorie counting and management.

>>16585943
what are some good tips for that? Hypothetically, could i go without excersizing?

>>16585950
Yep. You could lose weight sitting on your ass as long as you ate less calories than your Total Daily Energy Expenditure.

Read the >>>/fit/ sticky

Learn how to make a girl laugh and be happily spirited.

>>16588895
No, you've got it the wrong way around.

Girls don't think funny guys are hot. Girls think hot guys are funny. If you're attractive, they'll laugh at your stupid shit. Being comedy genius in and on itself wouldn't be enough.

>>16588885
>Besides the obious stuff
The obvious stuff is pretty much all there is to it. The only other big one is your interests: don't express only one of them in the way you dress. Zero is fine, and two or more is fine as long as they can't all be mistaken for the same thing. But one is the loneliest number.

>>16588023
retract directly instead of passively, it's the only way if passively retracting as much as possible didn't work. putting yourself first isn't being a dick.

>>16588043
Right but how to do that?
>When do you want to have dinner this week?
Is impossible to say "no" to without being a dick.
Even if I just make up an excuse like "This week doesnt work" they always follow up with "OH WHATS GOING ON IS EVERYTHING GOOD WHAT ABOUT NEXT WEEK"
It's an endless fucking nag loop.

>>16588023
what kind of bullshit? like drama? or just like "hey anon come help me move" "hey anon we're having a party come hang out" kinda stuff?