I'm 24 and I'm okay at a lot of things but not especially good at anything. I went to college but I've been unemployed since(2 years). I've done a lot of things and met a lot of people but nothing ever seemed to pan out for me and I've yet to make something of myself. As it is, the only thing I seem to have any expertise in is wasting time and opportunities. I've wanted to do all sorts of things, become fluent in another language, play music, be an artist, learn a trade, etc, but have never managed to achieve any of those goals, or even come close.
I think I'm a lost cause, /adv/. Is there anything you think I can do about it? I'm just addicted to wasting my life away and then pouting about it when I realize I haven't done anything with all the spare time I have.
>>16581939
>I've wanted to do all sorts of things, become fluent in another language, play music, be an artist, learn a trade, etc, but have never managed to achieve any of those goals, or even come close.
Pick one and apply yourself.
bumping again
another bump
sometimes i still think about suicide.
>>16581618
Why think about suicide when you can think about stroopenwafel instead?
>>16581628
what is stroopenwafel? if you're not too busy we could chat on 4chan tonight
>>16581635
I had three young, hot french girls in my truck going across the country, and stroopwafel is by far the hottest thing they showed me once we closed the curtains.
Set it on top of your coffee as it's cooling, and enjoy your stroopwafel once it's heated up.
I'll try not to get too distracted.
Is it always a bad idea to date someone from work?
Her friend has invited me to go drinking with them
If it's just like a temporary job then it's not as big of a deal. If it's like your career then it's a fucking terrible idea.
depends on the person's personality imho
how often that person is angry, what they do when they do, etc
>>16580628
We're both permanent employees
>>16580633
She's quite nice in general, seemed interested in me earlier but now is kinda cooling off a bit
I wish you luck on your projects.
Dear Terri,
I have fallen in love with you. Looking back I guess it was inevitable - you're amazing in so many different ways. I don't think that anyone could get to know you and NOT love you.
I'm sorry that this will make things awkward between us. I will try and love you less, or differently, so that I can be the friend you deserve.
At the moment though you are my every waking thought. Please be patient with me.
the more you keep sending those, the more you look like a psycho.
dear everyone,
I hate being a drunk. I'm sorry. I'll try to slow down on the alcohol because I'm making myself sick.
I'll stop.. if I don't decide to drink myself to death first..
How do you lower your standards in dating?
I can't stand being alone but I can't stand any of the guys available either.
>>16584088
Don't lower your standards trust me it only lowers your happiness
"Available" is relative to the dating pool in which you're swimming. Don't lower your dating standards. Raise your personal standards and qualify for a better pool. Then the guys you're looking for will suddenly appear.
Is that you in the pic?
I've been told by women on numerous occasions that I'm not physically attractive. I've only had one match on tinder after being on it for a year, and only went on one date after using Okstupid.
I know I'm no oil painting, but I didn't think it would be this hard. I'm coming up to 27, and have about as much experience as a 10 year old.
>>16583731
This has to be meme.
>>16583731
You don't look ugly to me.
Your forehead/hairline is the problem, OP. Generally everything else looks alright, you've got nice eyes and a good jawline. I'd suggest growing your hair out if you can, see if you can pull off a skater style fringe.
Accept no substitute.
I really need a goddamn drink.
Giving out advice to anons on a daily basis is exhausting.
So I did something tonight that I've been thinking about doing for a while now. I fapped while driving. And to tell you the truth, it was exhilarating. One of the, if not the best, orgasm I've had since Jr. High. I was driving home from a city about 100 miles away from where I live. It started out when I saw a giant billboard for an adult sex store. I got to thinking, "wouldn't it be awesome to whip my dick out right here on the interstate?" So I waited until I was almost alone on the road. Nothing but 2 semis nearby. One about 100 ft ahead in the opposite lane, the other in the same lane as the first and about the same distance but behind. I hit the cruise control, turned my wheel left a little bit because my car tends to pull to the right, and unzipped my jeans. I realized it would hurt if I kept it out any length of time in the zipper teeth so I unbuckled my belt, unbuttoned my jeans, pulled them down just a little and got my dick out. At first, that's all I did. Then I kinda laughed at the fact that it was so dark in my car that I could drive all the way home like that and no one would ever know. Then came the smell. I don't know what the hell was going on but I got this smell coming off my cock that just made me incredibly horny. Grabbed the lower part of the wheel and brushed against my fully erect cock with my wrist. It was all over from there. I immediately grabbed my shaft and started stroking. I was still in cruise control so I took my foot off the gas and put it on the raised part of the floor where the door meets the body. I wasn't thinking of women or anything sexual, just that I was seriously jerking off at the wheel. The thought of stroking my cock in the open and how dangerous it was wasn't making it less easy. The thought that I could hit a deer or lose control of the car just made me harder. Sooner than I could have ever imagined, I busted. It felt amazing, it was like whenever I was younger and had erections the majority of the day and came later.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Hey Truckerfag.
I'm the chick with the low sex drive. You told me to keep a food diary for a week. I did. But I don't want to spam the thread with my eating habits, what do?
>>16580957
Post your height/weight/age and what macros you consumed over the week.
>>16580963
Macros? Shit, did I do this wrong? I just wrote down what I ate measured in volume.
Has anyone here been able to finish college going full time while having a job the entire time? How hard is it?
>>16584688
Part time work is doable. Just work weekends
My boyfriend did. His grades suffered and he regrets doing it
Did it for a semester. Not worth it. You'll say "only X amount of hours a week"
Then if you're competent you slowly get put on the schedule more and more.
For the 25 years i been alive i have experience nothing but pain and struggle. From age 5-7 i was molested by my step sister and her husband. Both of my parents are Mexican immigrants. So i experience both of my parents get arrested and deported multiple times threw out my life. Growing up i was so angry and ashamed of been poor that i consistently lied and sold drugs too try to get money , i made alot of mistakes in my life that i could never explained to myself the reason.From 18-21 i was addicted to drugs ecstasy cocaine and alcohol At the age of 22 i became a father but about 9 months ago . The mother of my child walked out. I feel like i cant control my emotions. I been close of ending my life multiple times in my life. Im lost.
>>16584553
do i just kill my self and save my child from been let down by me
>>16584553
You have a child. That's too much responsibility to think of suicide, she doesn't have to pay child support or some shit that fucking bitch? I would be mad but don't do anything, chin up you might just be too pessimistic. I'd be happy to have the means to support a child, It means I'd be well off. And you need to be a good example for him/her. It should be easy if you love him/her enough to keep living for.
I'm sorry about the shit that's happened. Think about your child, think about your emotions, how they can change so quickly. If you die, what happens to your son? His/her mom walked out and now you kill yourself will begin his new life as fucked up as yours became.
I know but for years that thought has been wondering in my head everyday. i look at my daughter an smile , wanting to become a better person but for some reason. Along the way something always goes wrong. I have failed at mostly everything in my life. Is this all life is pain?
Need opinions from men. What is the best strategy or signs to find out if my husband is no longer into me or cheating? I know I'm not able to get an honest answer through communication. I haven't let my looks go at all and still have continued being sweet and loyal just as I always have been, so if he did stray or has I think it'd be due to boredom possibly or circumstances beyond my control.
>>16584510
Why do you suspect he has?
You have to go through his phone anon, only way to confirm it 100%.
That is how I found my girlfriend cheating on me while she told me everything else was great.
>>16584513
I've just felt an off vibe, noticed less compliments, angers easier, doesn't talk as much, slightly defensive when I ask questions. Things of that nature. Even if he's not cheating I wonder if he could be bored or less interested. Maybe distracted?
>HELP
>HERPES??????????????????
I am freaking the fuck out /b/
Had protected sex with a prostitute 5 weeks ago, I have had severe anxiety since and have been had 1 blood test and urine test after 1 week (came back clear) and another urine test at 3 weeks (also clear)
But I found these small white spots on my meatus.. I have a vague memory of seeing them years ago but I am fucking freaking out that they are HERPES... I have noticed them for the last 2 days (do not seem to have changed)
I do have fordyce spots on my shaft and balls...
What are the chances that these are herpes???? Could they be something normal???
Help /b/ my anxiety is killing me
>>16584428
Pretty much everybody gets herpes, so maybe. You might have had it before this. It's not going to hurt you though.
Looks more like HIV you should be more careful.
>>16584428
if you want an honest answer: that's nothing.
herpes are quite painful and blister. warts are actual warts, quite a bit bigger and not white. what you have there are papules and are natural formations on the penis head. /thread
Relationship Bullshit, anybody willing to help?
>Me, 20. Her, 18.
>She bitches about me chilling with my friend instead of her
>Yesterday she had work, so I had my friend over while I was watching my little sister and she flips shit that I'm not "checking in" and i'm "choosing him over her"
>Today, same shit. Knew she worked a long shift, but I had no idea when she got off
>Text me out of the blue "So are you picking me up? I get off at 5:15pm" at like 4:50
>Ask her to have her brother get her and I'll pick her up so we can chill, Friend is leaving around 5:00 anyway so that will work
>Starts bitching, calls me gay, starts saying how she doesn't think she wants to be my gf, says that she talked to some other guy at work because she feels neglected
>She works way more hours than me
>Refuses to change her schedule
>I'm expected to work less, call in if she wants to chill etc.
I mean, does this seem crazy to anybody else? I told her to fuck off and that it's basically over but she still insists on seeing me tomorrow.
Any similar stories and what did you do? Damn, what should I do? All previous attempts at talking it out just fall right back into the same shit
How's the sex?
Sounds controlling and insecure. Only stay with her if you are physiologically incapable of getting a new gf.
>>16584436
She's my first, and I've held on to the hope that she'll change.
>>16584430
Both virgins, but great head.
how true is this?
>be with gf, she's amazing, don't really care for family
>alcoholism/obesity
>friend gets super fucking hot gf, meets her parents maybe 2 months later
>mom is alcoholic, dad is somewhat enabling
>dumps her soon after, maybe made it to 3 months
>I'm still with same girl, her mom gets sent to ER with pancreatitis (caused by alcohol abuse)
>stays a week or so because of withdrawals
>not super stoked
meantime
>friend finds new gf on eHarmony (of all places)
>she's incredible, nowhere near as hot as previous but intelligent, incredibly nice girl
>she's a virgin (at 25yo which everyone in this story is pretty much)
>so good with his family, has successful and personable family herself as well
>I struggle with accepting my gf's family as-is, thinking if I have kids with her, I don't want their grandparents to be obese alcoholics who have been through at least 1 divorce each
>but the girl is so sweet, caring, tolerant, accepting, and thoughtful
I sometimes look at my friend's gf and think she's got the same characteristics, with an amazing family to boot.
is it true? if I marry the girl, do I instantly marry the family, too? or can I find the same thing elsewhere, without having the crazy family? obviously it's possible, but is it worth it?
Well if she's got a good relationship with her family, you're going to have to accept that her family is who they are. I don't think you're capable of looking past their negative traits though.
Pretty much. Unless you put some serious distance between them. Or if the girl hates her family. Alcoholics suck. I'm fine with drinking but the unpredictability leaves a lot of chaos on the table.
>>16584427
It's like super chaotic. especially recently with her mom ending up in the ER. just, so much added stress. and you're right, it is really hard to look past. so what do I do about it? ditch her and loo for something new? we have been together for a year now.
>>16584426
she always says how important family is to her, but she doesn't necessarily act on it all the time. She talks to her dad at least once a day, but her dad isn't that bad and while is he morbidly obese (350+ pounds) he's a nice dude overall. but her mom is a terror. just not sure how I feel about them being grandparents to my children.
Should add, my own dad is kind of an alcoholic, and caused the separation of my parents. however, he's nowhere near the amount of problem that her mom is. he is a singer, and enjoys playing in bars and open mic nights around town for fun, has some beers, and enjoys himself. her mom admitted to her doctor that she has at least one entire bottle of wine per day, and has gotten blatantly drunk and belligerent in front of me, even the first time I met her parents. just kind of disturbing to think of that being my kid's grandma. my own grandmother was a fucking saint compared to her.
How can you trust that a girl like does not have an std? Is it okay to ask them weather or not they have an std that they know of? how do you go about making sure you don't get sick from having sex with someone?
Most STDs are curable with antibiotics. I don't worry about it.
as much of a bonerkill as it may seem, before I fuck any guy without a condom I make him get screened for them. if he refuses, that's enough of a red flag for me to move on
>>16584271
You ask to get tested together (even if you're a virgin or you've already been tested after your last sexual experience).
If she gets offended, that's a huge red flag and she's not worth it.