Had so many tragic things happen to me I feel like nothing worse can ever happen
dropped out of college
dropped 3 jobs
lost all my friends
don't cultivate relationships anymore
is this nihilism? how do I get back to normal?
>>17880799
Lol
>>17880799
>tragic
this is the most normie shit ive ever read.
I had brain damage this year, my mom attempted suicide (we found her in time to get her stomach popped) and my dad disowned me because of the fallout. im not saying you're not allowed to be sad. god knows there are people who have it insanely worse than i do.
but you're coming from a place of victimization when most of waht you listed can be chalked up to you just not doing what you should do. none of thats tragic.
its mostly lazy.
>>17880813
can you really call it being lazy? I can do all of those things but there's no SOUL when I do them
My gf is a student. She lives in a small apartment, drove a meh car, doesn't have a job, and comes from a dirt poor background. Like her family has been squatting in their foreclosed on tiny house in the middle of nowhere kind of poor.
Her spending habits have been strange to me ever since we started going out. I come from a better background than her and just generally have more money, but she always splits the bill on anything we do together. I've even tried going to fancier spots to try to get her to let me pay for it, but she's always got the money. On top of that, every now and then she takes her friends out to places and treats, and it must cost her hundreds of dollars at one time. What made me really curious though is recently her parked car got hit and wrecked, and she's still fighting with the insurance company, but dropped 16K on a newer year model of her old car... in cash.
I'm starting to think she's into some illegal shit. How can I find out where the hell all this money is coming from?
>>17880754
sounds to me like she gets student loans and uses that to cover a lot.
my boyfriend's girlfriend is in college and she gets a lot in student loans. a lot a lot. and she uses that for fun. shes taking a vacation to japan next year and shes planning to just use student loan money. my ex did the same thing (same country too oddly enough)
>>17880768
>my boyfriend's girlfriend
kek
>>17880779
>>17880780
yes. im like 75% gay, hes like 50% and shes also bi and has a girlfriend.
its a bit of a chain
Why would a girl seem not interested at all when I text her, but crave my attention in person but then occasionally ignore me on purpose? This makes zero sense to me. She also talks about me with other people quite a bit. I don't think she knows I like her... She used to be rather rude to me but lately she's been more attentive to me and thanking me more.
>>17880696
because txting is for tards
talk to her in person, call her on the phone, ask her out
>>17880699
Okey doke. I was only texting her because we were on break, and before because she was away somewhere. I'll have to wait until we're on campus again though
>>17880724
why wait ?
if you know her well enough to txt then why not phone call ?
otherwise idk
gf's kinklist
what do I make of it?
Seems like a normal dumb girl to me. Also looks like she might have got confused on the domination tab?
>>17880681
1 Why are you posting this here? What if she sees it?
2 Why are you asking us? Look for the things that you also have an interest in, and do them together. If you like something that she has as yellow, have a conversation about how she feels about it.
3 Is she confused about how the give/receive columns work? Because she looks confused on how the give/receive columns work. Which is weird, because she got it right on the first half. I also worry that she didn't notice the orange option.
4 I've never seen this kink sheet before, is /soc/ using something new now? I like the distinction between like/okay/maybe
Also
>just yellow on romance/affection
Is she unaware that that is there to signify for completely no emotional strings attached play and/or in regards to aftercare?
>>17880681
>no foot or tickling
Break up.
How do I stop taking life
seriously? I think I have an anxiety disorder, I'm scared of pretty much everything, scared of job interviews, scared of driving, scared of meeting people. I overthink a lot and can't seem to get shit done.
What do?
>>17880678
life is serious - fuck yourself up & see just how true this is
being scared is not a problem as long as you can handle it, use it for motivation to check things to make sure ok etc
>>17880708
Or realize that your life and everyone else's is completely meaningless and whatever you do ultimately changes nothing. Go fuck shot up
>>17880678
realize tahat no matter what you do, your life is pretty much the same as it was before you did it. and thats a worst case scenario
I'm living an ok life. I have a job and hobbies and such but I'm pretty miserable because I have no friends, no gf, and barely talk to my family.
Basically, I'm very lonely. My therapist keeps saying I need to be happy with myself before I make friends. But this makes no sense to me, It's like taking a starving person and saying they need to stop starving before you can feed them.
>>17880668
try volunteering at some places - easy to interact with people in a structured environment
meetup.com ? find some group
just go do something & keep trying
>>17880668
I know this feel. As the months wear on it seems that no one can bother to make time for me, as the people I know are busy having a life.
>>17880668
thats a faulty metaphor, it doesn't really correlate. you can love yourself without friends. if you're miserable you cant really love waht you're doing.
Boys, I tried to pop this thing and it was just blood. Lots of it too. I have acne on my chest but this is not acne.
I had those a lot when I was a teenager. It is some sort of cyst caused by high amounts of testosterone in the body. I also got one when I was working out for a a bit so go figure.
Dat smell of iron from the blood.
cancer
Jesus fuck you couldn't turn a light on? Are you fucking golem?
Is it weird if I am 22 and I only hang out with people 3-7 years older than me?
I've been trying to get into a circle of friends and I mainly speak with my friend (25) and his fiancee (26), he was an ex-coworker and I met him through work. For the last 2 months I've been hanging with him every weekend or at least once a week, we mainly smoke weed and drink beers, and when we're not drunk or smoking, there's some awkward silences.
I am still not sure if he invites me to shit out of pity, he actually invited me to his christmas dinner (it's he and his roommates) and they are all foreigners and couples. We've had some good times and I'm still not sure if the friendship is out of pity or genuine, or if there is any friendship at all.
I am trying to separate myself from my previous group of friends because I was constantly being humiliated, insulted, or reminded that I wasn't wanted.
>>17880659
Forgot to mention I always initiate the hang out. If I don't write him up nothing happens. He introduced me to his roommates and their circle but they're all foreigners from a different country and they look visibly older than me, like they're in their late 20s or early 30s.
>>17880659
pls respond
>>17880659
If he didn't like you, he wouldn't hang out with you. Either that or he's an insecure pussy.
I'm on the opposite side of your situation. I'm 26, moved to a town with only a junior college and no industries, so no one my age really lives here. I feel like a loser asking 20 year olds to hang out with me, and many think I'm weird, but a couple can see I'm a quality person. Do you think it's weird for a 40 year old to hang out with a 45 year old?
Quick question: What does it mean if one's gf says: "I will understand if you would cheat on me. Because all men want a relationship and sex with a lot of girls."
Context: she is Korean and 23 years old. I am a Dutch guy. Our relationship is not bad and the sex is great with her. She said this when I said her skin was really soft and she replied with "there are so many other girls with softer skin" and then she said the other, previously mentioned thing.
Any idea why?
What are you autistic? That's the shit women do every four seconds.
"Wah im fat wah im ugly dumb etc etc"
Then you say "nah bitch you pretty and smart"
>>17880661
this except don't say "bitch" unless you want to act like a knee grow
>>17880657
In my experience korean girls dont play no games in relationships. They are super upfront and if you hurt their feelings i have never seen one cry, but get very angry. Their relationships are almost like business contracts.
Hey, don't kill yourself, alright?
You can't stop me.
>>17880669
You're not wrong.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2YgwN6P_7E
A month ago I started a new job and met a girl. We got to know each other and a over time & we got pretty close, both emotionally and physically (hey hey hey) anyways. We weren't officially a couple , we were just a "thing". I have to add that I barely saw her because she lived in another state so our job was in the middle between our location. So we mostly communicated through text and snapchat, which she sucked at, as in it was a one-sided conversation most of the time and mostly one word responses from her.
Yesterday she sent me a snap, I didn't reply because I was at work (she wasn't) , she sent me another snap, I opened it , I didn't reply because once again, I was working and I was also fed up at her half-assing our conversations. She then sends a text saying "ok" . Later that day I find out she unfriended me from snapchat.
I texted her on why she did that and apparently she says I pissed her off for not replying. I'm probably extremely naive to know what I did wrong here but isn't that too far for not replying? since then we haven't talked.
So I ask advice for 2 situations here
1. What the hell did I do, or she did , wrong and how do I fix it
2. I already had bought her Christmas presents, do I surprise her with them or do I give them away?
>>17880606
Looking at something and not replying is sort of a dick move. What it implies is that you weren't busy enough to look, but couldn't be bothered to reply.
>>17880606
Hopefully you were at least one of her top three, but you were demoted to bottom of the list. Say bye bye
>>17880606
>1. What the hell did I do, or she did , wrong and how do I fix it
This pretty much: >>17880784
She overreacted, definitely, but it's seen as bad form in social networks to just leave a chat in "seen" and not responding. If you're too busy, do not, I repeat, do NOT see your chats until you get unbusy.
>2. I already had bought her Christmas presents, do I surprise her with them or do I give them away?
Surprise her. If she brings it up, explain your position calmly, give her the gifts, and if things go smoothly invite her for some food. You'll regain her.
Catpcha: Select all food
I can't deal with the world anymore.
I feel anxiety all day long. I take meds for blood pressure. I think I have OCD. Can't drive, can't give presentations or attend meetings very well (I shake and get dry throat enough where I lose my voice), just have a few burnout bums for friends because I can't handle any higher relationship than that... I talk to almost no one really.
The world seems dreadful as all hell. I see little point in living. People fucking freak me out. I come from a poor backwater family. The entire modern world of careers and education, rapid technology improvements, global scale business and experience, etc. is all alien to me and makes me want to kill myself. I'm not very competent at any job I work at. I don't do drugs and almost never drink but I might as well be a burnout too because I'm just about as useless as one.
I mean, really. I just want to have a quiet life. 5-9 job. Come home, relax. Get a couple days off around holidays. That doesn't seem fucking possible anymore. The internet and computer technology seems to have opened the floodgates on people like me. The working world is INSANE to me. I can't fucking keep up with it. Stocks? Project management? Networking? I am spending all waking hours just trying to maintain an office job, and it still feels like my efforts go nowhere and I am a complete shitter no-life poorfag with no connections. And I don't like traveling, which basically kills my chances at achieving ANYTHING decent nowadays.
It's made me a cruel person. Cruel towards myself. I don't want to let anyone in anymore. I avoid porn. Wish I had a girlfriend, desperately need one... but girls freak me out. The entire relationship game freaks me out. My entire capacity for human relationship seems fucked at this point. I really hate everything.
:(
>he doesn't work as a freelance copywriter from home who never has to leave his room and can wake up whenever he wants, smoke all the weed in his stash and work in his underpants
lmao cuck
is the money worth the stress
>>17880618
>is the money worth the stress
What money? I'm not making shit. It's just stress.
go to the psych
New feel for me lately: partying. I have recently really started expanding my social circle and have started going out and drinking on a weekly basis, the only issue i have is really feeling bored/shitty when no one is partying or i'm not out drinking with peeps. Has anyone else experienced this and how do i keep enjoying staying in like i used to but also have a good time in a social setting.
pic related i'm not depressed or anything i just fucking feel like being at the bar or at someones place getting blasted all the time and i feel like i'm missing out because i;m not out there.
Yeah I used to get like that when I first partied. It's exciting/fun shit man. How old are you btw?
Um idk if there is a cure, besides just focusing on something else, like a video game or something. Your mind will lose interest eventually.
>>17880680
21, and yeah i know but i've spent years playing games and this is like brand new and i can't get enough
>>17880592
Be careful my dude. Alcoholism is a sneaky bitch. Just try and remember how you acted when you were sober. Try and get yourself out of that "funk" of not talking. Or just chill, you don't always have to be chatty.
I got a B.A in Communication and now I'm having a tough time finding work, I don't even know what I can do with it and I have no aspirations or dream jobs either. All I can tell you is I enjoy talking, I have a motor-mouth and I also speak really loudly sometimes as well.
Any jobs I should look for? I really just wanted some basic office job or something making like $30,000 or even $40,000 at the most that was full time and gave benefits. My mom is pressuring me to go back and get my M.A but I really, REALLY don't want to go back to school right now. I just wanted to get a decent job, and move out on my own but I didn't realize finding work was so tough. I live in Texas and there is NOTHING here, like the job market in my state is slim right now.
I can't afford to live in Austin or a big city because the cost of living is high there, you'd have to make a lot of money to survive in Austin, figured the same was for Dallas as well. I can't even find entry level jobs in my state, but any suggestions? I know getting an M.A might help my chances in life, but God am I sick of school. I just recently got my B.A and that took me 5 years, and I didn't even enjoy my college experience.
>>17880588
what mind of communications degree? Like public speaking and linguistics?
Idk what kind of jobs that would even specify for? I guess a public relations position for a company, do you have any other degrees to help boost your resume?
>>17880643
Well it's called Communication Studies but I focused on Interpersonal mostly. I know you can do PR work with a Communication degree, also what other degrees would I have to boost my resume? I don't have anything else just a B.A, I thought that might be good enough. I mean, what else could I do? I know you can get some certifications to do certain kind of work like Human Resources or something like that.
Try copywriting
I did journalism and I got a job as a copywriter
I suppose journalism is similiar to comms?
>open up to best friend abt my past and when i was raped
>he rapes me that night
>leaves me to drink the remains of his alcohol
>i lay for a few mins before cleaning myself up
>he came in me
>we act as if nothing has happened
>still havent told anyone
im starting to come to terms with what happened but dont know what the next step is. sounds dumb but i still feeling clingy towards him, he knows so much about me and cutting him out of my life terrifies me for that reason.
my boyfriend was iffy about me seeing him that night but i told him i'd let him know if anything happens. i havent said anything.
i have the issue of needing to do a pregnancy test too because im para af. i just dont know what to do. my family hates him so it's difficult for me to confide in them about the situation because i dont wanna make a scene about it. i dont wanna press charges but then if he dont he might rape someone else. i dont wanna tell my bf but i know he deserves to know.
im sorry this is prolly really dumb im just scared and venting. thanks for reading if you did.
>>17880583
I'm sorry :\ what a fucking asshole. I doubt there's anything I can say that will make you feel better but I'd like to.
If nothing else you should definitely not see that fucker again, it's hard to cut someone like that out of your life but you obviously can't trust him.
>>17880583
Of course it's gonna be scary. Get out anyway. Seek out your family, at the earnest opportunity. Get somewhere safe, as soon as possible.
Raped once, plausible.
"Raped" twice, probably just a mentally unstable whore.
Admit you were unfaithful so your bf can dump you.