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I am just curious about how old you have to be before people start thinking you are weird for not having a relationship?


I am 26 now and I feel really weird for not having had a relationship. I just can't beet women. Been on okcupid for 3 years with no dates.

I don't like going to locations specifically looking for women. I just want to spontaneously meet a nice woman. That won't happen though because women don't hang out in locations I frequent. Hell I barely frequent locations besides work and home.

Help.
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>>17881379
Bro, I've never managed more than a few months.

My strategy is to be good looking and wait for girls to fall into my lap. It usually pays off once a year or more.

Just work out and dress well.
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>>17881382
>My strategy is to be good looking
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>>17881382
HOW?! I just don't get it. Women look right through me.

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What would be a short and simple way of explaining why private education is superior to public education?

For a presentation
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Government education represents a monopoly which is bad for the consumer. People don't have a choice to fund it and it's very hard to fire teachers. This drives prices up and makes quality go down.

Private education represents more choice in the market which is good for the consumer. It drives down costs and improves quality because of competition.
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>>17881325
Neither is superior. What you learn is purely up to you. You can put the same child in public and private schools, if they're a moron nothing will change.
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>>17881325
It is not superior:
a) in a crap school you pay and you pass - countless people get degrees this way
or
b) you get high quality dedicated teaching, strict criteria for exams and admission, prestige at a (usually) very high price

I think of myself as of a rational human being. From what I learned I think I have depressions. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's worse. It all started in elementary school, where I was bullied for couple a months before I fought back the bully. I maybe didn't realise it before, but now I see the roots there. I was just a regular kid but since then I started doubting myself, thinking of myself as an inferior one, always uglier than the rest, a loner a renegade. Since I was thirteen I grasped on a thought that because this I won't be able to achieve anything and I became lazy. I don't trust people. I don't know if they are being sincere to me or if they are just mocking me. Never really had friends till this year. At the start of it I met a girl, the best friend I ever had. A girl that I still love, but she is lesbian. Had some of the best times of my life with her, but I feel like it's fading away and I'm noticing that the loneliness is crawling back into my life again. I was the happiest man on earth, just until december fucked things up like it usually does.

I don't know. I guess the main question is how to get rid of the internal feel of emptiness. I feel hollow inside, sometimes I don't really mind, I free myself of all the things and wind up in an almost zen state of featherlight mind. But I can't control this, it happens randomly. Just whatever I try to do, I feel that the nothingness is eating me from the inside.

I wish we all could be happy.
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Shit's gonna get better.
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>>17881916
yeah
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I'm on the otherside bro. As a lesbian I am surrounded by straight girls who talk about boys with an attraction I'll never understand nor grasp. Find things to fill the whole. Get determination. Immediately stop thinking of bad things. Force yourself to not think of them. Find something you enjoy. Learn how to draw. Read something. Read the whole entire Harry Potter series for all I care. Find something. Get into a fandom make new friends. The internet is at your finger tips.

tl'dr: Get a hobby kid. It won't get better unless you do. You can get better no matter what your brain tells you.

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So, my mom's phone has been stolen earlier this month and apparently the dumb bitch who took it (or bought it) is using her snapchat account. In all honesty I just want to give her hell for taking the phone but how should I do it?
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>>17881320
Police?
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Start with police and if they don't do shit, try for yourself. Don't say who you are. For all you know she bought it used from someone that bought it from the thief. Make a couple of fake accounts and add her. Try to find out where she will be that is public and confront her in the least hostile way possible, include your mom if you can and tell her what happened. If she hands it over you won't start a fuss if she doesn't you will post her face all over Facebook and social media that she is a thief. If there is a way anyone knows how to gps her I'd do it and go with a group of people to demand she gives it back or help you report the person who sold it or you will report her to the police for being a thief.
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You can also just ask nicely to return the stolen phone or that you wIll report her to the police. You should file a police report before you confront her and then if she doesn't respond go crazy insulting her what a low life she is and show the police her photo and put it up the city's police websites, Craigslist, Facebook, etc.

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Does that look like an ounce to you? I don't own a scale, and money was tight this month for Christmas. I paid 220 for it.
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Yeah about.
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>>17881292
An ounce usually fills the sandwich bag but it could just be the weight
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looks a little more than half an o, but it could be packed dense together

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Yo, I saw this hooker once and now she's coming up on my "People you may know" section of Facebook.

Is Zuckerberg tracking my texts!??!
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>>17881276
>Is Zuckerberg tracking my texts!??!
yes. or did you think all those privacy advocates are just lunatics ?
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>>17881276
Yes you gave Facebook direct access to your contacts by downloading the Facebook app.

Nobody else can see it but it's still creepy as fuck.
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>>17881276
Holy shit. It's not surprising at all but still spooky as fuck.

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Okay /adv/, I am in love with a girl who was in my class until this year, however now that the year is over she's changing to another college which is causing me to feel very nervous as most of the people who change schools just cut contact, and I don't wanna lose her.

We are pretty good friends, not best friends by any means, but we do get along well and have quite a bit in common, Now my main problem here is, I want to ask her out somewhere, but her parents don't allow her to be in a relationship, nor even go out with guys, and as if this wasn't enough she is very focused on her studies and I believe she may not be interested in a relationship either... hell, I don't even know if she likes me at all... Some friends have told me we're very compatible, and that I should do it, they'd even help me by inviting us both in a group so we could get closer and talk more since her parents wouldn't let her go out with just me, but I'm still terrible at talking... And although I'm already prepared for rejection, I fear that if I try and confess, I may screw up and even lose her friendship...

Any advice on what I should do?
(Can also give more details if needed).
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>>17881257
She WILL get dicked by some dudes in the next college, just give up, LDR never work anyways
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Well, Alright then...
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If you love her ask her out. Life is too short to pass up this opportunity. If you're scared of losing contact with her start hanging out together in town or wherever now. Then it'll seem natural later on for her to hang with you.

If her parents dont approve fuck them. You can still go out with each other, but just try not to get caught in public together.

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Honestly speaking, how do I stop caring that I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl in my life?

I'm an outgoing person, talk to girls at least once a week in a social environment. Still never had an interaction past casual chat.

It's a waste of time worrying about this, but what I'm asking is, how do I stop worrying and put this shit behind me? It's not adding anything to my life.
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>>17881255
Easy. Work on your self get a hobby and start from there.
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>>17881255
Where are you at in life?

If you weren't popular/good looking in school, it's highly likely that you wont find a girlfriend in your life until you've built yourself up a little bit.
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>>17881258
>>17881450

I'm doing well in every other aspect of my life except for interaction with girls.

I know most of the people in school, I have lots of friends and a couple close ones from early childhood.

It's hardly like I do nothing in my spare time, I play guitar, draw, and work on electrical circuits.

I have an average build, lift weights once a week with my friends and have been doing bodyweight exercises for the past few weeks, bar this week since I've been sick.

I look decent in general, and I'm confident when talking in most circumstances, I do acting so that helps a bit with self esteem.

I do well in exams, got a majority of As last summer from studying hard.

I just feel insecure about never having kissed a girl. I'd like to somehow remove this, if you get what I mean?

Thanks

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How do I be a more positive person without feeling I sound like a complete idiot?

I'm trying to be more positive. I just feel like a lot of the time I feel or sound completely ridiculous or completely ignorant. But at the same time, I'm tired of being cynical and depressing all the time.

Am I just supposed to force it until it works? I feel there's an advantage to always being positive and seeing the good no matter what. But it definitely feels like a skill I have to learn.

Halp
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Being around positive people helps a lot.
Naturally positive people always look for and find the good in things.

I'm confused as to how you think you sound like an idiot, could you give an example?
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>>17881318

>Being around positive people helps a lot.
Don't really have that luxury. I don't have any friends. The only people I'm around are family (who are extremely negative and have tendency to bring me down often, part of the reason I'm trying so hard to be positive just to get away from that atmosphere) co-workers (who are also jaded and upset about working) and customers at my job who can be negative and irritable as anyone who's worked in retail can attest for.

I'm basically surrounded by negativity everywhere I go and I'm just trying to not let it all get to me and bring forth some positivity in my world.

>I'm confused as to how you think you sound like an idiot, could you give an example?

I don't know, I can't think of any specific examples off the top of my head, but I'll find myself in some shitty situation where it's easy to say or be negative and I'll instead say something painfully optimistic or hopeful about the situation. I just can't help but feel like a huge fag with my background of being really cynical and depressing all the time.

I suppose it's just being in uncharted territory and feeling a bit uncomfortable with the whole thing, but I don't know if there's any way to dampen the blow.
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Congrats on seeing the bright side of life, or at least starting too. :) This sub can be so negative sometimes that your issue seems like a bit of relief. I think you're right in that it is a new skill you have to learn. Take small steps and gradually take bigger ones. Start with telling yourself every morning you're grateful to be alive and you will have a great day. Then do one thing you think will be positive like offer someone advice here or read about something that brings back "faith in humanity." At the end of the day find one thing that you found positive in your day or life. The fact that you can breathe on your own is something you can be grateful for this leading to a positive state of mind everyday and that is just the start. I also agree on surrounding yourself with naturally positive people to practice your skills. I wish you well on your path and this internet stranger is happy for you.

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Does anyone know just how damaging anorexia is for say, a few months?

I know that not eating enough for an extended period of time causes a lot of negative shit to the body and I've even seen that it "takes 20 years off your life" but what about for a shorter period of time, like a few months? I just want to know what life would be like if I had an "ideal female body" at some point when I'm younger (I'm 20 now). I've never had an eating disorder and I don't think it's /necessary/ to be thin or whatever so I don't think it'll get to the point of mental disorder if I do it for a bit, I just want to know what life is like to be an attractive woman.

I've tried working out/eating healthy (I was vegan for almost 2 years, I ate very clean) and never quite got to a thin build because I think my body just isn't naturally that way. I don't hate my body as it is now either, I'm actually fine with the way I look, I'm just interested in how others would treat me or how people in my life would react if I got thinner. That being said, I'm not looking for advice to accept myself or not to do this, I'm just wondering if anyone has any idea just how damaging it would be? I'm not entirely set on the idea either, I really am just curious.
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>>17881240
Don't do it don't be stupid
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It will probably take a few weeks, before you're actually "anorexic" because of all that fat still stored around your body. After that, you'll probably feel continuously weakery, your immune system will not be functioning perfectly and maybe even your period will be affected. Just google malnutrition. Of course this all depends on how "extreme" you try to do it. Please just don't.
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Too dangerous to try. You may say you want to try it for a month, then next month you say just one more month and then you end up with s full blown eating disorder.
Instead focus on trying different healthy exercises and diets. Have you tried weight lifting? Visit a proper nutritionist, dietician, and trainer. Better to invest in what you want to achieve through healthy means that will lead to a healthy lifestyle for the rest of your life rather than a cheat you'll come to regret.

I have never felt so alive, but I've never felt so different. I can experience joy and happiness but yet I fear my heart has become cold. My sister told me she was pregnant and I didn't feel anything, my friend died recently and still nothing, and my aunt's health is deteriorating at an alarming rate and I feel nothing. Have I become hallow? Why do I not feel anything that I should be? The only joy I experience is with my friends and through jokes but other than that I feel nothing. Am I losing my grip on myself?
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Take your shitty emo poetry elsewhere
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>>17881218
No. I don't want to sound emo or edgy but I legitimately don't feel anything that I should when it comes to life.
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bipolar

no shit sherlock i've got the same

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First year collage here. Just got hit by exams. I never had problems on hightschool. Now it hits like a truck. Any advice/help. Realy feeling bad man
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>>17881207
Git gud
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>>17881208
I tryed to git gud. But i got rekt by teacher.
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Well, what are you struggling with?

I'm really young compared to my family (I'm 24, parents are entering their 60s, siblings are in mid-late 30s)).


I visit my parents ~once or twice a year, and everytime I see them, it pains me to see them get older. Each visit is an extra grey hair on my mum, or a new medication pill bottle i see in the cabinet, or another wrinkle.

I'm pretty fucking horrified that my parents will be staring death in the face (70+) before I'd even get married. From my POV, my siblings are lucky that they got to enjoy the company of my parents for a longer period of time than I will, and I feel that when my parents pass and my siblings become more distant due to raising children and being legitimate adults, I'll have no one left in my corner in life. My friends/acquaintances have their own shit to deal with, and finding a girlfriend/wife to fill the void of my parents is just asking for trouble.

How do I cope??
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Drinking heavily and lashing out at your siblings who will never view you as anything more than a child or spoiled.
Your parents didnt want you as a child, they wanted a grandchild they could play with before any of your older siblings could pop out any shitters. Sorry anon but it doesnt get easier, and your best bet is to find a gf with afamily to sponge off. Just dont pick a shitty poor one with drama and mental health histories.
I speak from experience as the youngest of 6
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>>17881223
>Drinking heavily and lashing out
What the fuck are you talking about? I'm sorry for your situation, but thats hardcore projection
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I'm a year younger than you are and my parents are (both even) sixty five. It happens. Yeah you could've had more time with them if they were younger, but there's always what ifs. Be happy you have siblings and won't be alone with the memories of your parents after they are gone. Try to use the emotion in a constructive way to motivate yourself to be the best child they could wish for and never have to regret taking them for granted. I do this with mine. My mom is the sweetest lady in the world but she talks loads and sometimes I just kind of tune out and realize I missed a bit then go "oh, she'll tell it ten more times".
But then I remind myself that she has lots of stories, so perhaps not. Perhaps this is the last time she'll ever tell me this particular one and I was just thinking nonsense instead of listening. So I ask her to repeat that part.

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okay /adv/ I need reassurance im not being a complete fucking asshole to my gf.

okay, so my gf has smelly feet, no big deal, simple solution is to wash them. (footfags need not reply). over the course of our relationship i've asked her many many times to wash her feet (nicely) because I have a very sensitive sense of smell.

now she works a job where she on her feet 40+ hours a week, and wears the same pairs of shoes without socks. i've asked her if she cant wash her feet to at least wear socks as they'll absorb some of the smell and be changed daily. she cries she don't like them, okay fine. asked her to wash feet before bed because they basically create a fume hood under the covers. now im asking too much.

anyway long story short, she was sick and working so i didn't push the subject and she came over repeatedly for two weeks and my bedding just reeked, even my bed was starting to get a funk. I washed all my sheets and blankets cause it was bad enough my whole room smelled. this process takes 3 hours which was fine i wasnt doing much. she comes over, wakes me out of a dead sleep, about to hop into bed and i yelled "feet!" at her (i had previously texted her asking nicely that my bedding is clean please wash feet before hand) she huffs and washes feet. comes to bed and i comment she smells- not the right choice of word- (she now smells excessively of sweat, grease and whatever she picked up at work) this has been amplified by being in clean bedding and myself being clean from a shower before bed.

now we're fighting 3 days before christmas over me being 'mean' and 'rude' and shes being childish making me out to be unreasonable. dont even get me started on her going out every night to drink and socialize with her friends over me, when we haven't really seen each other outside of bed time for a month.

>tl'dr: gf has stank ass feet and wont wash them. my asking only results in a fight and me being rude and mean.
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you two maybe aren't compatible
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>>17881192
i just feel it's a complete lack of respect.... especially when she declare her feet stick and then shoves them in my face
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>>17881194
She probably is used to it and can't smell a thing, and doesn't want to believe you out of embarrassment. It's a reasonable request, everyone should be hygienic. No idea what path you should take now to solving the problem however if she is hiding behind the excuse of you being mean and rude.

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Why does it bother me that my friend is essentially a poser who began listening to the same music i listen to and now he acts like he's such a unique individual for listening to said artists? and since then hes become a elitist music circle jerker
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>>17881166
bump
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He's just a mild douchebag that wants you to like him. You'd feel that way about him with whatever he does.

I have a few friends like that too. They seek validation by picking up interests of other friends in the group, then do a lot of studying on it (or they think they do) so that when they discuss it with you, you can be all impressed with their unlimited knowledge.

..Even though it's obvious they're missing a lot of key elements.
It used to bother me. Now I just kind of brush it off since I've grown to be endeared by it
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>>17881166
Because it's always annoying when people do that. "Taste" is not an accomplishment worth bragging about, he's just passively enjoying the music that other people created. It's fine to be into the stuff you like, but not to act like it's a way to one-up other people or act like a snob.

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