There are things about my partner that I don't respect at all. How do I deal with it? The main two things are:
>once fucked someone's wife
>has screwed people over for money
>sometimes calls girls whores/sluts for sleeping around, including girls he has fucked which to me is hypocritical
These things sometimes make me unsure whether I want to spend my future with him. On the other hand though... he is not a bad guy and sometimes does tremendous things for me and my family. Examples:
>when I was sick for an entire year he went to my doctors appointments and supported me
>has helped me overcome depression/anxiety attacks
>stands up for me when other people put me down
>helped me overcome a condition that prevented me from having sex with him for most of our relationship without being in pain, never cheated or left me despite this
>takes me out twice a week to eat to expensive places because I'm in college with no money
>always listens to me, always polite to my family
He really deeply loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. But the fact I know he's capable of hurting others or doing self-centered things bothers me... How do I deal with this? Should I not overthink it so much? Basically as far as his interactions with me, he is a perfect boyfriend. But its his interactions with others that, when he describes to me, I find hard to respect and sometimes even disgusting.
>>17970069
Yeah im married and im sure my wife asks these questions to herself sometimes. Listen, we men are goddamn cavemen assholes and arent as sensitive as you. The things that bother you about him he probably doesnt even recognize or know about, and if you tell him he wont understand and wont care. It doesnt matter, he sounds like a keeper, stop being so picky as shit. There are tons of things i dont respect about my wife but she is a goddamn champion who delivered with no epideral and not a single fucking sound or complaint so yeah she doesnt do dished but she sure as fuck loves my child and is willing to fight to protect her family. See? Its really easy, thats one of a thousand things, think about your man, and for everythign you dont respect think of another hundred things he does right. /thread.
>>17970087
You can't write off immoral shit as "silly men haha".
OP, you just need to decide if the good outweighs the bad. No else one can make that decision.
Have you fucked someone in a relationship before, etc? If yes, good match. If no, I'd be worried that he'd cheat on you since he doesn't respect monogamy.
>>17970087
Genuinely thank you. Its nice to hear a married perspective because I would like to consider settling down with this person.
I dont know why my girlfriend loves me and this is giving me anxiety.
>>17970042
She love you for you. If she loves you for something else, it will surfaces.
Just have fun. At least your not single
>>17970042
Why don't you think she loves you?
Is this just a feeling or are there are specific things that lead you to think that?
Just think that "You deserve love"
If I accept that I am the cause of all of my problems, and that I am capable of fixing my problems, how do I motivate myself to do so?
I just can't convince myself to put any time, effort, or thought into doing the things that I know could improve my life.
>>17970024
There's a reason why people with no self-discipline fail at everything they do and life in general. You're a prime example. Just grow a spine and do the shit you know you have to. There are no shortcuts.
just break it down into little tasks and try to build some momentum . instead of thinking "I have to fix my life now, GO!" do little things "I'm going to clean my room for 30 minutes" etc.
you'll feel good when you do the things you know you should be doing, and if you keep doing it you might even start to enjoy it
>>17970024
hi ok here is the best advice. Get yourself as low as possible to the point where you want to die. Then, push yourself so hard towards acheiving one of your goals in an attempt to kill yourself. Works everytime. Examples from my life: got fat as fuck, wanted to die, tried to killmyself through excercising, got fit, no longer want to die. flawless.
I tried to kill my brother. I only failed because he stopped me.
I haven't gotten over the sense of guilt. From my perspective, I might as well have killed him, since only providence prevented the murder from transpiring. In my own head, I am practically a murderer; under the same conditions I might try to do the same thing.
Making sure that never happens is easy: just isolate myself. However, I don't know how to atone or relieve myself of the guilt. I hate myself, I no longer feel worthy of interacting with other people. I no longer feel worthy of my friends because they don't know who I am. I don't know who I am.
How does one atone for murder? What penance could counterbalance the undeserved termination of another's consciousness?
>>17969982
This is some white suburban shit
Listen you using big words doesnt undermine what a piece of shit you are. stop trying to atone for your attempted murder becuase you didnt commit one faggot. how did you even fuck it up, if you tried and he stopped you then you are a pussy, and a pussy should have blitz attacked his brother or got him while he was sleeping like the two bit yellow bellied coward goat fucker you are. I know your a goddamn muslim tinker tailor soldier spy cuz I can smell them like i see them.
Bro, this goes beyond "woe is me for thinking of such a thing". You didn't cheat on your gf, you tried to fucking kill your brother.
Seek mental help, sincerely. If you want to atone for your thoughts, making sure they never happen again is the best way to do it.
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/
help help. How do i stop being so impulsive, its like my brain has a reset button. I tell myself "ok this is what i want to do" and then i convieniently forget about it when the time comes. Part of my mental problems is short term memory loss coupled with a personality disorder, they both stem from a frontal lobe injury i had before i got married. My life is like groundhog day but I am the one who is the same every morning. I am looking for practical advice, I have tried writing notes to myself, the one thing that worked was writing on my body memento style but I had to stop because it was freaking my wife out. My VA counselor says I should try a rubber band on my wrist what do you guys think? I need a way to stop myself and my brain during the day i think i will crash my car into the nearest stop sign rip it off and carry the stop sign around if no one else has any gooder ideas. yes insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting same results yes this is exactly what i am doing.
>>17969938
I'm not reading that clusterfuck of texts, but you SHOULD write things down in a fucking notebook if you have short term memory.
>>17969943
oh wow great advice you doodint even read my words i have a notebook its thicker than the moon and i circle important things in red oh guess what the entire thing is red circled get the fuck outta here i need some real help. Also Im sorry for being rude you just pissed me the fuck off because i already have a ntoebook and i write the things down in red that are important.
>>17969954
I also have what seems to be short-term memory loss. I've been wanting to get stimulant medication. Have you looked into that to help remember things?
Last month my wife and I got into an accident. We were in the highway and a trailer truck entered from the right and proceeded to turn all the the way to the left; cutting off the 2 cars in front of me we almost died but my wife steered to the left and tried to break but then the car in front of us who also was cut off by the truck made a steep left since he was in more danger. We rear ended him. Police came, the guy in front of me and a witness who was also cut off by the truck but didn't take any damage stated that it was the trucks fault.
However the guy we rear ended is now claiming personal injury. I feel really angry since he said he was fine and didn't wanna call an ambulance or nothing. He insisted on just going home and even asked us if we had weed in the car cause the cops were looking inside. I don't have his number or any info to contact him. All I know is that he hired a lawyer and is making a personal injury claim.
Should I try and contact him personally and try to solve things with him without getting insurance involved? I feel like he is being an opportunist.
NO
GO THROUGH INSURANCE ALWAYS OR HE'LL BLACKMAIL YOU ENDLESSLY FOR MONEY
YOU ARE FUCKING RETARDED FOR NOT GETTING A POLICE REPORT
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>should I let that thing I pay monthly for but never plan to use handle it
>or just shell out the cash he wants upfront no contest and hope it goes as smooth as if I used the thing I'm still paying monthly for but not going to use.
He's going to want to make that money. You should just let it go through the insurance. That is what your insurance is for. It will be okay.
I tricked my girlfriend into using my ex's shampoo brand. She obviously doesn't know. How fucked up am I?
Just say it's a great shampoo brand
>>17969747
That's what I'm doing. This is a weird feel, man
>>17969885
Then you're fucking yourself up because that shampoo holds sentimental value, how about throw that shampoo away and buy other brands
Ok lads, I'm about to have sex
Two questions: how fast should I go and what percentage of my dick should I be thrusting in? (About 7inches)
She may ask to shower after the fact. What does this entail? I heard shower sex is shit, so should I just make out or whatever and maybe finger her? Also does this mean to actually put soap on and clean or whatever?
Please don't laugh at my autism
>>17969745
>I'm about to have sex
I'm going to imagine she's sitting there next to you waiting patiently while you typed this.
But honestly, people have figured this shit out for thousands of years without imageboards via trail and error. You can do it too, it's not exactly complicated once you get to it.
>>17969750
I'm 90% certain of that I will have sex either tonight or this week. Also I'm not virgin but last time I couldn't get it up for more than a minute (I wanked before plus was drunk and nervous and she had a lot of hair that was spiky and was off-putting so it's my own fault).
She thinks I'm a player (I'm somewhat attractive otherwise) so I can't disappoint and be too shit. Let's accelerate the process of trial and error by telling me your ways
How fast depends on personal preferences, but don't keep at one pace and definitely don't "jackhammer" (very fast very repetitive quickly until you come).
She probably won't be able to take your dick balls deep, you'll feel a resistance come up if that's the case. Regardless of whether she can or not, it's nice to alternate shorter strokes putting a few inches in with pushing it in all the way (or as far as she can take it), builds a lot of momentum and adds to the satisfaction of the full penetration.
Plenty of people like shower sex, but water absolutely gives bad friction. She might want to go for another round. Or just some fooling around soaping each other up and indeed oral or fingering or whatever, just don't go wash yourself like you're at home.
Just found this bag in my friend's room. He said they tried cocaine once and wasn't really into it, but I'm guessing this shit isn't protein powder.
>>17969738
They're bath salts.
Lmaooooooooo
>>17969738
he must be one rich nigga if he has a bag that big. dont be a dick fart.
Hi /adv/,
I locked my gf outside because she's drunk and wants to be like my other, emotionally abused gf. Now my penis is sad and lonely.
What do?
Fuck her until you cum and then lock her back outside.
abusive*
Wife keeps talking about someone else's husband and how hardworking he is, has a better job than me, his wife is much hotter than him, etc. and uses this to criticize me. Comparing me to him.
besides this, my wife picks fights of nowhere, complaining that i don't do this, etc.
I don't know what to do here. Sure, there are some things I need to improve. Fine. But there are some ways I can't outcompete this guy. I don't know if I'll ever compare favorably to him in her mind. Feels like cheating risk. what do?
>>17969707
>Feels like cheating risk.
It is. She probably has a crush.
Do you have kids?
>>17969718
yes
>tfw falling for a girl who is 2700 miles away
>tfw never this clingy
>tfw know I'm getting clingy because I'm a bit depressed right now
>tfw clinginess aside I still genuinely care about her
Yeah I know that feeling.
I really want to marry this girl who lives on the other side of the country, but I know it isn't possible, so I try my best to enjoy talking to her every day in the meantime.
It's hard to fight that clingy feeling sometimes. It haunts me some nights.
>>17969681
Im getting feelings for a girl I met online, we really bonded over some shit and I know she feels the same but shes a few states over. It sucks but at the same time not having a girlfriend close to you means you dont gotta spend time with her other than communicating. Focus on you bro. Hang out with your friends, by a pet, get your life more together than it is because then you can save up and go see her or hell even move in together, if not though fuck it. If shit doesnt work out then you got a much better life, and money that you didnt spend on lame dates.
>>17969735
Thanks, I needed that pep talk right about now. I'll keep saving up for the future.
i need help
>start going to a brand new school
>it's a small arts focus program with
about 70 kids attending
>know nobody except this one girl from my old middle school, seems super sweet
>can easily get any boyfriend she'd ever want
>become friends with her because i have nobody else
>start tagging along by her side for awhile
>her friends talk to me occasionally
>still feel kind of alienated
>a few months go by and we start getting closer
>really think i've found somebody that i can trust
>she starts introducing me to new people
>couple months go by and life is great
>six months later
>she starts acting fishy, tries to constantly one-up me
>find out she's SUPER insecure and cannot take any sort of criticism
>also is the most conceded bitch i've ever met
>really. really fucking clingy
>start not being able to stand her, but have nobody else to resort to
>feel as if she's a giant leech on my shoulders 24/7, completely drained
>since the school is so small, i can't get away from her
i've known this girl for about a year now, and she's completely changed as a person. i just don't know how to break it to her that she's sucking the life out of me and that i don't want anything to do with her without hurting her feelings or killing myself. any advice??
>>17969670
pump her then dump her it will make things too awkward to be friends anymore
You could try to investigate and find out what happened to her, or you could just dump her and try to find a new social group to hang out with.
>>17969753
she's like the straightest girl i know so she'd never, also not my type at all
How do I get my ex back?
>dated for 2 years
>lived together for 6 months
>the kind of man I'd take a bullet for
>had a fight over something stupid, somehow got ugly
>he left and moved away
>it's been 2 months
>said he wants to get back together
>I try to resist, tell him we need to move on
>obsesses over me
>I finally cave because I love him so fucking much
>can't come see me because of his job
>starts ignoring me
>I decide to do no contact
>he starts calling again
>I don't answer, hasn't called in 2 days
I need some male perspective on this y'all.
Pic not related.
I'm trying to work things out with an ex too, I'm male.
The only thing that has worked for me is no contact. If they still contact you during no contact just say "Hey I think it's best if we don't talk. I'd love to see you but if that's not possible I think we should both move on."
Stand your ground and don't settle for less than you want. You want him to come see you, not just text you.
>>17969638
You don't... You just fucking move one, forget about him/her... I also wish my ex got back to me, but oh well, I think it is almost imposible...
You may ask, "What now"?
Get yourself together, Move to Philly. Buy a loft. Start a noise band. Get six or seven room mates... Eat hummus with them. Book some gigs. Burn down an Applebee's. Listen to Animal Collective. Start some kind of salsa company... Idk it is up to you. Self-improve is the best path.
>>17969638
Move on. There's too many people in the world and too little time to waste it on anyone.
Recently my chest has went up three cup sizes in the past year. It keeps growing and I'm not getting any fatter or gaining weight anywhere else. My ass used to be the biggest part of my body but now it's my breasts. Is this normal to have it grow at this age...I thought it was supposed to stop at 18? Is there any way I can stop them from growing I can't afford the bra changes for this.
Pic related: went from the C looking ones to the F
>>17969635
Nice.
Don't give me false hope now.