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>>17969335
As one who struggles with depression and a bunch of other stuff, I get you. I dated someone who was my rock as well and they broke up with me cuz they didn't want to be with me anymore. It was devastating for awhile but since I've been learning to manage on my own with my support network things are better. You need a support network besides your gf

>>17969335
Try to get help from therapists and stuff.

If you can talk to a psychologist or behaviour therapist, try to get in contact with one.

Breaking up is supposed to be tough but not self harming tough. If that's what it's come to for you you need to get help.

Thank you both.

>>17969401
It's hard, isn't it?

>>17969424
I've had therapy but they cut the sessions very short. Supposedly that's all I was entitled to. I'm tempted to get electric shock therapy.

No it's in human chemistry to want to feel needed and have attention. Unless you did some serious drugs you can't live without other humans validation

All that matters is how you view yourself.

Stay fit, stay fash, focus on yourself and your career. The right people will fall into your life. Chase money and dreams, not girls or friends.

>>17969317
Yes.
Until you figure out what YOU want, you can be the most successful person on earth and still depressed.

So you can see rich, famous, attractive people and inside they are still a little dead.

So anon, what do you want? Live comfy? Get loving gf? Get rich? Become the best 4chan shitposter mods ever saw? It all depends on you.

>>17969308
Play more MMORPG

>>17969308
Dunno bro, I get the same feeling of melancholy after a really good game, book, tv series/anime, etc., and I love it. I usually switch my attention to another form of media for a few days/weeks and change gears, it's a neat mental hype when I start building back up a sense of emotion toward whatever the new story is, and it lets me get through things that I might otherwise consider mediocre if I go in with the downtrodden feeling after something great because I don't expect as much.

Sounds like you're addicted to video games because you have nothing going for you in real life.

I loved the Witcher 3. When it was over I thought "damn that was good, but time to get back to real life."

Start doing that. Don't stare at the past.

>>A house is a financial investment that will increase in value over time
>>Student loans are a debt that will only get larger over time

Why is this a question.

>>17969285

depends how expensive the house you want is. as a general rule if you can save up for something like that, why not just get a house and make payments on both?

>>17969285
Pay off your loans first. Fucking retard.

be nothing and feel nothing

boot tails off a usb, browse with TOR
do this on a laptop bought with cash, on a public wireless network, while wearing a mask

>>17969277
It depends on who is your enemy.

The most basic thing is to hide your IP via buying VPN in a country which isnt friendly with your current gov (example usa - russia).

If your enemy/paranoia is CIA level, then it is much harder. For example, did you know even your CPU contains subsystem capable of "owning" your own PC running unknown software and that EVERY router comes with built in backdoor?

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yeah you tell her OP

>>17969187
this, except i mean it sincerely

good on ya

>huge bitch
>blocks you
>you keep contacting her
>send her this wall of text

Stop

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>>17969173
>How do I find what I want to study/work with?
>I just wanna study something interesting and get an interesting job, but I don't know what's interesting.

Hint: It has to do with repeated numbers

>>17969173

Usually people just pick something they believe they'd be reasonably good at and would tolerate. College is some boring shit, no matter what you study, but while in there it's easier to figure out what you might want to do. Swapping majors and picking minors is easier when you know what you're getting into, so getting into a college is the start. You'll die of old age waiting for enlightenment about this and still your expectations probably won't even match reality. Pick something and figure it out along the way. I didn't know what I wanted until I was doing my master's in a field I didn't give a fuck about and now I'm on a semi-pomising job with career prospects anyway, because I made some smart choises on internships and such. Picking the major isn't half as an important choice as people think, what matters more is what you once you're in.

>>17969193

This. Don't fall into the trap of thinking you have to land your dream job immediately or your life will be miserable.

I wasted 4 years of my post-high school life in your current state. I was trying out so many random jobs. Tried glass blowing for a while, music shops, etc. Eventually I just decided "Hey, I tried welding in High School. That was kind of fun, and the pay is good."

I went to a TIG welding program at a local Community College and got certified in five months. Two classes a week, 6-9PM.

After I finished I went to an agency and they got me a job within fifteen minutes of walking in.

Been working there for almost a year now. Good money, great schedule, good benefits, and it's only my first welding job. After I get another year or so of experience I'm going to apply to somewhere better. For now this is great.

I agree plumbing sounds super lame. But don't waste time, keep moving forward no matter what. Don't become a kid trying to figure out his future before his brain is even done developing.

>>17969172
Me:
>don't use facebook
>don't have this problem

that's a good idea. i don't even post on fb anymore because of all the family on it

>>17969179
god bless you. i know if I do talk to my family everyone's gonna ask what happened to my facebook

well i'm sorry if I don't want to talk to my mother who's eternally disappointed with me no matter what I do and my brother who only talks to me twice a year because his fucking computer's broken.

>>17969181
yeah it's fucking terrible

I've had family members call me because of shit i posted on facebook and I dont' get it

i live on my own

i just want these people out of my face. even if I lose their support in life, fuck me if they haven't constantly made me feel like absolute shit.

some people just have shitty families.

>>17969157
Dude, vaginas bleed all the time for no reason. It sounds like what's normal for having sex for the first time. She'll probably bleed some the next time too. As long as she's not hemorrhaging blood she'll be fine.

>>17969157

Bleeding after sex is fairly common. I haven't been a virgin in years and yet I bleed every time it's been a longer time since sex. Also, if her time for period was close, the mechanical stress of sex can set it off early. It doesn't sound too serious, unless the bleeding gets excessive or doesn't stop within a reasonable time.

>>17969163
Thanks for the reassurance

Dunno lol

What kind of fucked up logic is that

>>17969111
If one doesn't trust themselves, they'll not trust others. Simple as that.

>>17969110
I think you are acting rationally in an irrational age. There are huge and sometimes lifelong consequences for intimate relationships, so you should treat it seriously, hence your trepidation. You're chasing sluts from what it sounds like and for your careful approach, you should stick to more traditional girls, virgin or inexperienced would be more up your alley.

Just find a website that lets you find casual sex with people in your area. Make it known on your profile that you're a virgin. I know I know people will say "Don't fucking do this" But you'll get responses from people interested in taking your virginity and not caring that you're a virgin

If that doesn't work, search the site for people in your area who say they are virgins too.

If that doesn't work then get somebody over using the website and use the excuse that you're rusty and apologize because it's been awhile. But that you're willing to get better and do what they want you to do to make the session hot. Then that puts them in control and they tell you everything they want you to do and you learn that way.

Either:

A: Find a tinderella or escort to practice with

or

B: Communicate with your partner that you are new to having sex and ask her to show you the way. She'll be glad to help and think your communication is cute.

Vodka.

>>17969101
what do you mean by basic? if you don't want to drink pure spirit you can just mix it with something not sweet like tonic water

>>17969101
Fancy beers, of course.

you dun goofed m8

hard

>>17969097
She is stealing him from you.
Talk to your boyfriend openly about it, if he doesn't agree to cut contact with her dump his sorry ass and move on with your life.

>>17969108
This. As a female OP, open your eyes! Put yourself in her shoes. Put your foot down and tell him it's my way or the highway and kick that bitch to the curb. Probation? Sounds like trash anyway.

>>17969077
I don't think you can really expect any kind of positive response to a message along the lines of "hey I know we haven't talked in years but somehow I get the feeling you have very little self esteem, so much that I feel obliged to ask you about it"

>>17969077

Are you looking to approach her to try get with her or because you're genuinely concerned she might be going through something?

A lot of girls are in her position, she's just more carefree about showing that side of herself publicly, either that or she's clueless that people can put two and two together.

Either way you can/should send her a "How is it going? :)" Message if you care enough. I wouldn't approach her accusing her of anything though, just a general whats up is good enough to get the ball rolling.

>>17969094
Oh no, not at all. Though I am interested in finding out how she came to be that way, she was quite friendly and sociable when we were younger.

>>17969095
>Are you looking to approach her to try get with her or because you're genuinely concerned she might be going through something?

Primarily this.

I'd follow through with the "How's it going" and see how that goes but she seldom responds.

Which once again is a bit off, because she used to be fairly social and approachable.

>>17969096
>>17969088
>>17969084
Has Anyone Really Been Far Even as Decided to Use Even Go Want to do Look More Like?

What?????????

>>17969066
>Just want to know how stupid this sounds

it is not stupid, what is stupid is that dumb ass pic

otherwise you are doing what smart people do, evaluate your career choices

i'd say take the job get the experience save the $$ and then go back for the translator stuff

OTOH look into the job market for translators - it is saturated & the people who get jobs are those who were raised around several different nationalities and speak several languages like a native - maybe you might get some peanut job translating business stuff, but only after you've spent a few years in that country learning the lingo

pro tip - do the computer stuff make lots $$ then do languages as a hobby after work

Nobody in IT wants to work with a female. Just do something else.