Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2746. page

>>17970480
Ugh, okay this personally is something that I am constantly having to explain to people. You can't take this personally, we all do. And no we don't do it to annoying you, we don't 'do it' on purpose. Sometimes you simply just forget to reply. Sometimes you're one form of social media but not another, example sometimes I'm on FB yet not messenger so I don't see the messages...

>>17970757
*we all do it
*you're on one

>>17970480
Don't take it personally. People have other shit going on.

i hacked n00dz n tha prawcess ov photo shawping dem reguliar.

I just want to know what you think! Your words never match your actions. Am I wasting my time with you? I don't want to add this to my list of failed friendships, if possible. My ex said every friendship I make will fail when they get to know me. I don't want it to be that way.

My gut is saying to hold out and that it will work out with her, and we will end up together. But consciously, I doubt it. I don't know. Follow my gut, even though it seems illogical, or follow logic?

>>17973895
one of the reasons i smoke is to stop the dreams

That's fairly common. I went 15 years without a vivid dream I could really remember and it scared the shit out of me for awhile when I started getting them honestly. I haven't smoked in almost 3 years now and I can't really remember my dreams again. Kinda weird but oh well.

>>17973895
sauce?

>>17973863
How long ago did you stop? Did you use a vibrator or something?

>>17973878
I took a year long break from porn, it didn't help

I used vibrators occasionally, I mostly used my hand though

>>17973879
After a year it should have returned to normal.

Probably something you'll have to see doctor about

I believe one month's salary is the standard.

Of course, that isn't an option for some people, especially if they have debt or trouble making ends meet. You've gotta go with what works for you.

>falling for the diamond ring meme

>>17973775

dont waste your money on a useless stone. if she cares, then simply dont waste your life on a useless trophy

go to back to school and get a higher degree than mittlere reife. I'm sure there's a school that will take you in with your MR certificate.

und dann kannste über den nächsten schritt nachdenken.

Du musst nicht studieren um Reich zu werden :D Es ist schon nicht falsch wenn man sagt, mach das was dir Spaß macht, denn dann hängst du dich rein und kannst Karriere machen. Nahezu überall. Ich habe mein Studium auch abgebrochen, bin jetzt 21 und habe noch keine Ausbildung. Ich weiß aber dass mein Studium nicht das richtige war, aber ich trauere ihm nicht nach nur weil ich dann vllt ein gut bezahlten Job bekommen hätte... So ist das Leben, manchmal merken wir dass ein anderer Weg der passendere gewesen wäre. Ich habe inzwischen was gefunden was mich interessiert und strebe eine Ausbildung an, auch wenn das Auswahlverfahren verdammt hart ist. Also keine Sorge nicht jeder findet gleich seine Bestimmung. Geh nur Studieren wenn du es wirklich willst, auch mit dem Realabschluss kannst du noch alles erreichen!!

>>17973798
Hey, Danke schon mal für deine netten Worte. Ich Hock jetzt seit 2 Jahren rum und bekomme nichts auf die Kette. Ich möchte Irgendwas in dem bereich Wirtschaft,Immobilienmakler machen und naja, Ich hab mir mal ein paar stellen angeguckt und die meisten Wollen mindestens Fachabitur, wenn nicht sogar Abitur. Es ist nun mal so das man nach dem Degree eingestellt wird, und nicht nach dem, was die Person wirklich kann. Ich muss dieses Jahr echt irgendwas machen sonst buddel ich mich ein

>>17973166
Become slightly above average at things.

>>17973169
I tried abd failed. Or perhaps it's taking too long for me. Suicide is surely the only solution fir someone like me, but that'll make me more pathetic

>>17973166
Lower your IQ and muh dick your way through life. Other than that, you're gonna have to accomplish some goals. Start small and work your way up.

>>17971582
Moving on with your life would mean you don't allow him back in your life like that. It's possible to move forward. It's not easy. It's fucking painful. Just take each day as it comes anon.

>>17971640
I mean it's been 9 years and I'm still pining over the guy. It's like I don't WANT to get over him at this point, but loving him is ruining my life. Almost every day he will pop into my head. Maybe I need to find more things to do with my time and I'll get so busy that I forget to think about him.

>>17971582
there will always be times when you think of them, but you can make them fewer and further between by focusing on achievements, coping mechanisms and cultivating new connections.

>>17973785
Clinical depression is often not circumstantial. You may be focused on something stupid, but the cause of your depression may not actually have anything to do with that. If you know you'll be fine tomorrow, go to bed early.

put on some silly music, force yourself to smile and dance around your room.

obviously you'll feel stupid as hell but it works.

also try working out. doing some cardio is the quickest way to feel good imo.

whenever you feel bad, remember "HALT" . Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Try to solve those first.

>>17973800
>put on some silly music, force yourself to smile and dance around your room.
That's probably smarter than the angsty punk music I was listening to earlier. I'll give it a shot.
>also try working out. doing some cardio is the quickest way to feel good imo.
That's probably a good idea too.
>whenever you feel bad, remember "HALT" . Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Try to solve those first.
Oh, I know the answer to that one. I'm feeling pretty lonely tonight.

my advice: shove some kind of spade bit in a drill up your hooch and turn it on, clean all the innards and working bits and shit out of there, shut it all down.

Better than 2 weeks late

>>17973731
NAH FAMILIA
THAT WOULD ONLY CAUSE MORE BLEEDING AND PAIN AND HURT

>>17973698
stop gaining weight then it begin to be unhealthy

Yeah uh....maybe examine the issues that are causing you to eat so much and handle them?

Or just keep buying fat bitch clothes?

>>17973698
>officially hit 200lbs today
>>>/gym/

>>17973624

I know it might feel like the world is collapsing on you right now OP, but I guarantee you that the majority of people your age feel similarly to you.

Right now, you're probably taking your generals, which you would have to do no matter what if you plan on getting a bachelors degree. It sounds obvious, but you should be considering whether you are interested in any of the subjects you've studied so far, and then see what kinds of careers exist in those fields. Your school has academic counselors whose services you should really use.

Of course, always be skeptical - at the end of the day, the college wants you to stay and pursue a degree, so they will try to paint any degree in as positive a light as possible.

But don't retreat into cynicism. Tbh, that's what it sounds like you're doing right now. Part of being an adult is knowing how to be skeptical without losing faith in humanity.

It's perfectly fine not to attend college; as you may have heard, there are many high paying trades you can learn (plumbing, carpentry, etc...) Or you could join the military; if you're in the US, I think you can join for 20 years as an enlistedman if you really want. Believe me, the military will make sure you're taken care of.

Don't listen to people in the entertainment industry like Prince EA, though. There are a very small number of select individuals who make it in entertainment, and you shouldn't take their opinion seriously. They just don't know what life is like for normal people.

I'm 23 now and I was in your situation when I began college, but now I'm earning a decent salary doing a job I don't mind, so I can attest that with effort you can improve.

You may want to work on your depression separately, though. Please look into counselling if you haven't already; I guarantee you can get it through your school.

whomever im referring this too? just have sex i promise orgasims is life

>>17973674
I kinda want to do a manual labour job, but I have a bad back so that's definitely a no-no. Worked 2 months making furniture, it was not healthy.
And I know it may sound a bit cynical the way I talked about my life...
But I just can't see how I should go three years doing something I absolutely loathe. And I'm not even that smart, I didn't have good grades in high school. I kind of just chose what I'm studying now cause it was the education that sounded the least boring, but also because I had the grades to get in... I might make the 3 years if I get a lot of help and support, but I already know that it is going to be hell, and I just don't know if its worth it.
The while 1st semester it didn't feel like i had any time at all to relax, since every paper and homework I made was hard ( probably because I'm borderline stupid) and it just took so much time to do it all. I don't know man, this is the toughest call of my life.

>>17973528

Consider the possibility that maybe her being shy isn't the issue but walking up to a stranger and calling them shy was a really autistic thing to do.

>>17973528
>gave me a uninterested vibe
>Do I continue with her
Just skip the small talk and rape her desu since that's where this is headed

>>17973528
You just went up to a stranger and called them out on being shy? That's sort of aggressive, don't you think..

>>17973511
Just say you can't.. I doubt your boss is going to appear through the phone and drag you to work, ha. You can't be fired over that. He's the boss - he can do the work.

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>>17973535
I know, and I've covered a bunch in the past, but I'm working with my therapist who wants me to set boundaries. I have a problem where I can't separate myself from my job. This is great if you run your own business or are in a career. But I'm just some part time worker making $10 at a meh hotel. I genuinely get upset when guests are upset, and I need to fucking stop.

So can you or anyone give me some examples of what I might say? Is "I'm sorry, I really can't tonight" fine even if he begs? I'm autistic if you wanted some more context and a possible explanation for social retardation.

>>17973550
"I'm sorry, I can't tonight" is fine. If he begs, he is being inappropriate. If you want to give context to it you can say "I'm sorry, I can't tonight I have a lot of school work I need to do."

I'm tired. I just want to close my eyes and never wake up again. I'm not capable of anything, not even losing weight because I'm just a piece of shit.
Next week I have date with my psychiatrist that will only ask me if I need more medicine to keep me "happy". But I'm not taking it anymore. I'll throw myself from a well known tower in my hometown. I can't stay all my life playing videogames and crying everyday.

You can try to give me advice, I don't think it can help but anyway. I just wanted to tell anyone who may just tell me "shut up and kill yourself already" at least I could have a laugh.

TL;DR: 24 years old girl without studies or job feels lonely and useless and will end her life in two weeks, in her birthday.

Do you live in the US OP? Don't give and keep searching for a job. Send resumes everywhere, retailers, fast foods, etc and keep doing it everyday day if you can. Don't give up. Something will surely appear soon.

>>17973155
>>>/Adv/