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Hey /adv/ how can I cope with losing my girlfriend of 7 years? Shes 26 I'm 28. She said she just needs to do her own thing and be on her own. I loved her more than anyone. I was going to ask her to marry me this year. I cant eat or sleep. Any wisdom out there?
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>>18005280
First and foremost
>She said she just needs to do her own thing and be on her own
Immediately stop thinking of who-what-when-where-and-why broke the relationship. It's done. It is over. She is out of your life. But, here's the thing. It's your fucking life, nobody else, just yours and yours alone.
Believe it or not, you're never truly together with someone, rather they're apart of your life. Apart. A part. Not the whole thing, just a part of it. You might be feeling that void of her being gone, but your life is far from over. Keep going. Over time little pieces of life will fill that void and eventually you'll forget.
Keep on truckin' mother fucker.
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Go fuck another chick man, it's kind of like a soft reset for your brain when it comes to relationships. Being hung up on someone that doesn't feel the same way about you is about as unhealthy as it gets.
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>>18005297
Also this op
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How do I masturbate less?
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Anytime I am just laying in bed I feel like watching porn and just jerking off.
Honestly, I wish I had a girlfriend or something to just lay with. I don't even think I am horny, I just want to hold a woman. Feels weird not knowing what that even feels like.
I am pretty sure I just watch porn to kind of like mimic the feeling of a woman being there.
I have lost interest in playing video games and now I just kind of lay around. fuck..
Help.
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>>18005251
Go to reddit.com/r/nofap
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Sounds like to me you need a pocket pussy! Who needs gross girls when you can get your sweet greasy hands on an onahole? Why, it's even the best part!
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Sounds like depression to me op. Get up and accomplish something. You've done it so much that your brain associates being in bed with jerking it, all you have to do there is break the cycle bro.
How can I stop being so goddamn autistic? In real life I try to end conversations with people as quickly as possible so I don't have to talk to them anymore because it makes me nervous. I can't look people in the eye. It's hard for me to make friends, and it's impossible for me to get a gf (I've tried two times). Each day I get more lonely and depressed because I have no one else to be with and it's driving me insane.
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>>18005206
You have to force yourself out of your comfort zone. The only way you're going to make it out of this is practice.
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>>18005206
when you say things like "get a gf" it makes me know that you are so, so far off.
you have to start socializing like a normal person. force yourself to look people in the eye. force yourself into situations where you have to talk to others. learn by failing.
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>read up about social cues and body language
>apply to daily life
>look people in the eye even though you're melting on the inside, just fucking do it, use hateful self-talk if necessary
>ask people questions even if you don't give a fuck, it makes you seem normal and friendly
>don't talk about your special interests ever, for the love of god
>smile, or at least try to
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should i even bother with tinder? 2017-01-30 03:22:13 Post No.18005189
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should i even bother with tinder?
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Currently I pretty much exclusively use okcupid for online dating. unfortunately I have never had ANY date from okcupid. Been on it 3 fucking years. No luck.
Is tinder any different? I am honestly just looking for dating and meeting new women. I am not looking for sex at all really. I just want a healthy relationship in every sense of the word.
People tell me though that tinder is really hard to use if you aren't looking for sex, its linked to facebook and if you aren't really good looking.. its apparently more soul crushing than okcupid.
Should I even bother? Wish I could meet women in real life but I have no fucking places to go.
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Tinder is only useful if you're A, looking for a hook up, and B, a 8/10 minimum.
Online dating is not good period though. People are online for a reason, they're usually damaged goods one way or another. If you can't meet women irl because you have nowhere to go, then idk where you're expecting to meet your online date when you take the plunge to meet up irl.
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>>18005189
Tindr is used by Chads and Staceys to swap different strains of herpes
Go find a hobby or something
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>>18005201
I don't mind meeting some place. My problem is that I am incredibly... goal oriented I guess. I never go some where to just go if that makes any sense. For example, when I go shopping, I already know exactly what I am looking for and what I want. I don't "window shop" or "look around in a mall" or whatever.
This makes it hard for me to do stuff that I don't see a reason in doing I guess. Like I could go to the mall right now and meet zero women I like in which case the point of me going to the mall was fruitless.
I like online dating because it gives a back drop. like if I walk up to a girl in the mall, there is no backdrop, no reason for me to be talking to her. Basically, I need reasons otherwise I can't do stuff.
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Can't tell if I'm fat or average(fit) 2017-01-30 03:20:23 Post No.18005181
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Can't tell if I'm fat or average(fit)
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If you saw me in a bikini what would you think
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This one was taken a few days before the other
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>>18005186
There's too much clothes in the way
I can't tell
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>>18005181
Go to >>>/soc/ for answers
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How do I make my life better I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't know what to do I'm sitting at home with no job no girlfriend and bad shape from about 230 pounds when I should be about 165 I'm not sure what to do because I've always worked the basic b**** job working in a warehouse or factory don't know how to change this I feel like I like an issue for I'm just lazy and I don't know how to change this what do I do?
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Well you have to ask yourself what interest you and see if you can find a career to pursue in that area. Also you might consider trying to save up money for college if you can.
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you know you could just work in a factory and loose weight.
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Does working in a factory or warehouse make you unhappy?
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GF would leave her beta oribter alone 2017-01-30 03:09:12 Post No.18005146
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GF would leave her beta oribter alone
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>GF's best guy friend (her beta orbiter) makes a conscience decision to stop hanging around GF once she started dating me
>GF asks why he doesn't come around anymore. I explain that seeing her in a relationship probably makes him uncomfortable
>GF seems to understand
>Take a look at her text messages, in the last week has sent a various number of text messages to her orbiter
>"Are you mad at me?" "I want you to come out to dinner with us." "I miss the times we'd just hangout at your place a watch movies." "I miss you."
>His only response is, "We can hangout once I find some free time."
I thought she understood that she should leave him alone, but it seems otherwise. Should I be concerned about this. It feels like my GF is orbiting her orbiter
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>>18005146
She's just attention whoring.
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>>18005155
Yeah probably.
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>>18005146
if youre lucky he wont realize he has the upper hand here. you are at his mercy. you are a safe bad that she already has. he is a fond memory out of her reach. that itself has power
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What do?
I lost my cellphone, lost almost all my dealer contacts, lost my main guy number.
A friend that I know has his number, and I asked him twice but he ignored my question and replied with something else. This guy is a prick and probably thinks I'm a loser for only doing soft shit (weed and acid) to meditate when he does heavier shit all weekends on rave parties.
I was thinking in writing him again tomorrow at lunch, today the guy most probably is high or drunk or some shit like that.
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Fuck man, idk this is coming from a recovering addict, stop while you're ahead, the universe is giving you a sign. And yes I do know people that started doing acid/shrooms/weed to mediate and open their minds... Many different roads that can all lead to the same hell.
Best of luck brother, if you do get numbers back (backed up to cloud? Google contacts?) Then be safe and best of luck
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>tomorrow at lunch
Based off of this, and the way you present yourself in your post, gonna call mods on this one. Please get off this site, not only for my sake because to be frank your incessant degeneracy makes me want to stab the next high school faggot I see, but because this site will steal your soul.
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>>18005143
>Tell him you want the number cause you want to try something heavier(lie)
>get number
>profit
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Regarding Tinder, is it better to have a conventional or a weird/outrageous profile picture?
I would imagine that the most important thing is to stand out when the average girl is matching with every guy she sees.
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depends what kind of girl you want to attract
the only all encompassing rule on tinder is to be hot
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just have a picture of you being fun and sociable, doing something cool, or posing with a puppy or something. bonus points if it looks like there are girls having fun with you.
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It's best to have an attractive profile picture. An outrageous one makes me swipe left. Something creepy or weird makes me think you're a psycho killer.
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>Go to college
>Have class with girl for a few days (she switched)
>Have a lot of mutual friends
>See her most days of the week
>See each other at quite a few events outside of class
>Will speak to me every once in a while randomly
>Have had a handful of casual conversations
>Never have hit on her or anything like that
>Flat out ignores me every time I say hi or smile
I'm pretty well liked by most people, did I make a bad impression? Anyone ever know someone like this?
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>>18005083
Met her back in August
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>>18005083
ask her if she wants to grab food with you
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>>18005105
Why?
A man I wouldn't mind having sex with just gave me his card. We talked a while, he listened to me play piano. His daughter, another pianist, was there the whole time. He carried a Bible with him. We conversed and I told him my father was blind and I was giving him piano lesson. He said he worked for a foundation that helps blind people and he gave me his card. He also invited me to come to his church. He talked to me for a long time while his car was running. I took his card and asked him if it would be weird to call him and he said no.
He's older, which is fine with me. I got to get this little fuckbois off my mind and an old man would do just fine. Especially someone like him.
After he left I asked my friend if he was married and he said yes. Yes he's married.
I just broke up with someone (completely useless and tiresome ldr) because he's married. But I'm looking for some fun here. Christian married men are so corruptible. My intentions are not "good" in any Christian sense but this guy might be just what I need.
So should I call him? I'm leaning towards doing it but could become a mess. Still, if I keep my head it might help me be less miserable.
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>>18004996
ugh get on his wrinkly dick or don't who the fuck cares
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>>18004996
You're a terrible person. He's a married family man, and your first thought is to potentially wreck all of that because of your need to have sex with an older man. Kill yourself.
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>>18004996
why do women always think with their dicks?
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My mother is elderly, she lives with me. She doesn't like her immediate family, and the few friends she has live thousands of miles away, so they only talk through an occasional phone call. I'm what she's got in terms of social interaction, and I try to humor her as best I can, playing scrabble and cribbage and talking, etc.
But lately she's gotten interested in television, and she's been watching a bunch of new shows and documentaries about every which thing. As I said, she has little to go by in terms of friends, so she's started discussing them with me. After watching one she'll come spontaneously into whatever room I'm in and start talking about it with me, and whatever else she's got on her mind. These conversations, which are basically just her rambling and me trying to pretend I'm paying attention, go on for HOURS, and it's driving me up the wall, especially because most of the time I haven't even seen whatever show or documentary she's rambling on about.
I don't know what to do. I feel really bad cutting her off and saying "I'm busy", or some other excuse, because she is really starved for social interaction and I'm all she's got on that front except a very few far-flung friends.
What should I do?
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>>18004993
Talk to her earnestly about wanting your space/privacy. If that doesn't work, stick her in a home.
I know the second option sounds terrible, but it's your life. Please understand, I've had a bad relationship with my own mother so I'd be less sympathetic than you likely are.
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>>18005022
The second option isn't available to me. I have thought about it, but
1. I just don't have the heart to
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2. Her family does like her, despite the feeling not being mutual. I can't even imagine how they'd react if they found out I put her in a home.
I'll try talking to her about wanting my privacy, though.
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>>18004993
is their a senior citizen center in your town?
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How do I overcome being a decent adult who was a horrible bastard of a child?
>Tormented my siblings
>Couple times I blatantly broke something and blamed it on my sister or brother (only about twice, though)
>Was a borderline sociopath when I helped raise my little brother. He was real bratty, sometimes, but I was still a jerk.
>Was mostly bullied myself, but I was nasty when I was younger, too. However, I teased some kids before I got to middle school. At the time, I thought it was fun to be a"annoying," but I know, now, that I was as much an asshole as the kids I hated.
Sometimes I want to blow my brains out as a punishment.
Feel like I don't deserve happiness. However, though I try to get along and love them, my sister could be quite a superficial bitch and my brother tended to act like a brat a lot of the time. I'm 25, she's 27 and he's 15. I've tried to change as much as possible, I've apologized to my parents, my siblings, try to act like a good person and go out of my way to be kind to others. But it isn't enough. My sister hasn't changed much in how she acts towards me; some of it can be justified, a lot of it isn't. Thankfully, she moved across the country years ago, so I don't come into contact with her, often.
I feel like I shouldn't be forgiven, I shouldn't be let off the hook with the whole "oh, I was a kid, then, but I'm more mature, now!" meme. Nor do I feel like anyone else should.
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>>18004961
Bump. Any thread that isn't about relationshit or college woes gets ignored.
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>>18004961
you living a tormented life isnt helping undo any damage. first forgive yourself. then reconcile with your family.
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If you worked up the courage to acknowledge how you acted and apologized for said actions, you've done enough. Just continue to make yourself a better man. People do indeed change a lot from adolescence; believe it or not. Kids and teenagers are more apt to make irrational decisions, and have a poor sense of empathy. I've done a lot of things I'm not proud of, a lot of things that still eat away at me. Some people still hate my guts, I understand why. It's something you have to learn to live with, focus on you and you will feel better with time. If your sister or others still want to treat you with disdain, so be it. You can't change their attitudes so why even try.
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>wears same hoodie everyday
>glasses
>bad posture
>messy hair
>weeb
She'd have Stacy tier looks if it wasn't for all of this, but she's still a real qt. Also she doesn't wear makeup.
I got her number a few weeks ago too. I started texting her and she seemed interested in the conversation but she told me she had to go immediately after sending a response. She still hasn't texted me back but she still stares and smiles at me.
Her brother gave me his approval and everything. I'm not ugly either.
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She sounds like such a slob. If she wears the same hoodie everyday, can't even brush her hair and is a weeb, imagine how disgusting her house is. If you go for her, don't be surprised that she doesn't get any cleaner.
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>>18004972
She actually smells really nice and her skin is also very nice. I think she just can't be bothered to get dressed in better clothes or do her hair.
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>>18005013
Lack of pride in one's appearance is not a good thing.
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>applied to 3 universities, a good school that was a reach, a good school I was fit for, and a meme school
>good school 1 rejected me and good school 2 deffered me
the thought of taking out $40k in loans to go to meme school makes me sick to my stomach
At what point do I look at alternatives to college?
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I don't understand, why would you apply to a school you don't even want to attend?
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>>18004960
The schools I wanted to attend werent supposed to reject me. That shit was not part of the plan.
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>>18004967
That doesn't answer my question. Why would you apply to a school you don't want to attend? A backup school is a school you'd be okay with attending if you don't get your preferences