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Grills, would you give an ugly guy a chance if he invites you to chat and have a coffee?

Ugly, a bit chubby but with no other intention than to get to know the other person

>hey do you want to come over to my place and discuss the assignments then fuck?

Is this text ok?

This is a girl I met at my class few weeks ago, she seemed kinda thirsty when she kept looking at me so I offered her my drink and greeted her. She was all smiley and we are friends now. I know she likes me, my elbow totally touched her boob for a long period when we're looking at the textbook together, but then you cant really tell with girls, liking someone romantically and dtf are a bit different, her mom probably taught her not to put out after n th date and we aren't even dating.
Honestly I'd rather do the assignments by myself, a lot quicker.

>>18000193
NO are you autistic mate. Unless she's obviously a massive slut she won't go with "Hey wanna fuck." You gotta have some "reason" to hang out. I suggest asking her out on a date to eat somewhere. If she says he's but doesn't bang you after, she probably wants to actually have a relationship. If she says yes and does bang you after, she's a slut who may or may not want an actual relationship. If she says no, she doesn't want a relationship.

Or if you just want to bang her, don't want a gf, and don't care if she gets upset/awkward because of it, just send your original text...but you'll be more successful if you're not so blunt. Say like inviting her to study at your apartment alone in your room, or literally just watch Netflix. Then she doesn't have to deal with the self-hate of acknowledging how slutty she is in order to bang you, she can just be like "oh one thing led to another"

>>17999741
IDK man, why would you be in a relationship with someone you don't trust? Break up with her, work on your confidence, then try dating again when you're in a better place. Being controlling about shit is only going to drive her further away. And honestly, she's half a country away. She could cheat on you and you'd never know, you just have to take her word for it either way

>>17999744
I agree man. and besides, if that girl truly cared about you OP, she wouldn't have gone on that trip. alone at least. my advice; break it off, work on yourself, and find someone that actually gives a damn about your feelings.

>>17999744
>why would you be in a relationship with someone you don't trust?
We've been dating for almost 2 years now, and she's been the most trustworthy person I've ever met up to this exact incident.

Everything she said is completely plausible, but so is my paranoid version. It's likely that she's telling the truth, and I'm just being crazy. I don't want to dump someone I love because I'm crazy.

>if that girl truly cared about you OP, she wouldn't have gone on that trip
She already had the thing booked 3 weeks before I found out. I don't know why she didn't tell me sooner, but she was probably afraid of the way I'd react.

How do you know he still does?

>>17999627
I know they don't talk and hang as much. But it's the fact that he won't let her go. If she's irrelevant and his child and I are now the focus why can't he just block her from everything? If he has enough balls to tell my mom that he's basically not going to cut her out for us, then there must be something there. It's only common sense. I would cut out all of my exes if that allowed me to raise my child in a good happy home with the baby's mom you know what I mean?

>>17999649
Your home will never be happy. You picked what sounds to be the wrong guy. You will need to leave him. You will be a single mother and you will have to raise this child alone if you don't want it to grow up really messed up.

You need to live with the consequences of your actions. The first step to that is accepting you made a mistake with this guy and moving on.

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>>17999066
Get good at something else, preferably not something completely useless like Smash.

Failing that, just play fast spammy shit like Pikachu and use cheap tactics to make her hate the game. That way you won't have to deal with her being better than you, but she probably won't want to play with you anymore.

Git gud faggit

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>>17999086
Still the same guy. I realise that probably sounded harsh, but harsh truths like that are the only thing that are going to bring you back to reality.

I'm a 20 year old man with about three notable skills, none of which are overly marketable. That being said, I fully understand that that's my fault and that I can change that whenever I want if I find something I'm willing to put the time into.

What are your interests?

>>17998768
Have you ever experienced love, anon?

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>>17998768

There really isn't that much pressure. You're exaggerating the amount of pressure because you're hyper sensitive to it. You see pressure everywhere because you want to see it. You want to see it because inside of yourself you aren't convinced that its best to stay single. You aren't convinced that you don't want to get married or have kids, so your mind creates this boogeyman that is struggling and clawing at you to change your mind when in reality the boogeyman is you.

You know you want companionship, even if its not a girlfriend. You want these things but you're afraid of failure so you convince yourself you're better without it yet you can't manage to nullify the part of you that thinks "what if"?

The biggest source of pressure is you. The force thats causing you to feel like shit about this is your own insecurity. I know its really difficult to read this and not feel attacked but I encourage you to be honest with yourself about this because being stuck in between your own fear of failure and this over-exaggerated picture of society you're painting is not a good place to be. You'll never crawl out of this place until you start being painfully honest with yourself about why you feel like shit and who is actually making you feel that way.

>>17998786

Well. There was 1 girl that I fell really hard for. But nothing ever came of it, infact we never had sex. I met her on a vacation, and we kept really good contact. I fell for who she was. She didn't want to do a LDR tho, and ended up meeting someone else, that really fucked me up. That happened a year ago, and I still smile whenever she texts me.

If that doesn't count, then no, I havent

>>17997144
They are godless and submerged in superficial psuedo culture of drugs and sex

I think it's social media.
People see images of their friends or other normies out having adventures, having nice things, and going on nice vacations.
So now people compare themselves to these happy people, wishing they could have the same kind of experiences.

Because the women of this era are fucking trainwrecks

>>18002543
Anyone?

You sound like a real fucking winner, OP.

How about you pick up some hobbies and pick up working out?

Because right now you have no redeemable qualities and a relationship is not going to fix you.

Talk to a counseler

what is shady about it?

under the table jobs are not unusual for small businesses.

Find another job if you want to be able to put the experience on your resume. Otherwise stick with it if all you want is money while you're still studying.

>>18002531

hard to say. no advice we can give would offer you something solid, as even if you do get what oyu want for the time being, you'd just end up getitng let go at the first legit chance he gets, and seeing as you're being paid to sit around and do nothing they could easily let you go saying you havent been wokring hard, and they know you wont bother sueing.

id talk to the boss regardless cuz its not fair.

Is this in America? In any country a payment by cash with no stub sounds illegal as fuck.

IMO ask for a raise. The other guy left so you're more valuable to keep. If someone else needs to be hired, your boss will have to spend all that money training them up, which will cost her time, and therefore money. And they won't be as good cuz they're new. It's easier to just pay you an extra $1.50 to stay. Just inquire about your lost income, plus backpay, plus it's time for a raise as the year "rolls over".

>>18002511

every time you get the urge to fuck someone else, you go home and fuck your wife. most people get the urge to cheat but then dont feel like fucking their wife.

its kinda like hunger. we see cake and our mouth waters... but when soemone offers us some brocolli we turn them down.

>>18002511

You don't. Give in. if you need tips on hiding it from your boyfriend let me know I'd be happy to give you some pointers.

>>18002511
By killing yourself, scum.

>>18002433
Believe in the me that believes in you
-Anon 2017

>>18002433

cuz its not their job to. yuo dont even give context to who these people are. just random people in the same career path? probably out to get you. random assholes in your life? probably just jerks.

when someone tells me i cant do something i like to do it anyways to prove them wrong. its why i spent 8 years working on an animated series when my competitors who said i sucked had given up.

Without telling from context who these people are like the other duder said, it's hard to tell.

To judge this off of face value, you're going to listen to those monkeys and prove them right by failing? Fuck that. They don't even seem to want to listen to you, but just want the feeling of the satisfaction of being right.

Prove them wrong.

I'm planning on joining the Army as an officer soon. I'm ready to kick ass and take names.

What do you mean "dealing with freshman"?

Yea, you could start by not being a tool.

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>>18002363
>this op
>that background

I'm not like the OTHER students.

at first I thought the head and the shoulder of that guy was an ass

Go to a fucking career center instead of 4chan dumbass

>>18002334

Royce? Why'd you delete your facebook?

Blisters are the bodies way of protecting your wound from infection. DO NOT POP YOUR BLISTER. Bandage it. If it is from a burn I would highly suggest getting some medical ointment and applying that as well as a bandage daily. You will be in pain for a few days but you'll be fine.

>>18002331
aa I was afraid of this, we just moved so I have to keep moving stuff as we unpack, guess I'll have to solider on, thanks!

Next time ask WebMD.

Bummp

>>18002317
>She doesn't even care about me

She sized you up immediately and placed you in the "meh" category. Sorry, move on....

PS—10/10 are too "high maintenance"; they're usually too self-absorbed and will drive you crazy with their demands.

You're wasting your time even thinking about her. If she wanted you, she would have asked you to "hang out" in your messages. Rather than do that, she probably texts you for attention. Find someone more deserving of your time. (P.S. This is a female's advice)

Sauce on pic.

Maybe women don't take your opinions into consideration as often as you think

There's a whole array of reasons why people would drastically change their look. Plain ol' vanity, an attempt to change the mind by changing the body, actively trying to push their lives into a new phase, boredom, you name it...
As there's no universal reason why, there's no way to tell why this particular individual is doing it without additional information.

Have you considered just asking her?