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>>18006215
I wouldn't go if it's not hurting way too bad, cuts that need stitching, stuff like that.
Healthcare is also free here btw. So yeah.
I guess you could go tho. I'm sure they wouldn't dismiss you, they'd at least give you a painkiller.

>>18006227
fair enough, as i said it really doesn't hurt at all and the skin didn't break so I reckon i'll just chuck some ice on it and try and heal my wounded ego. Cheers m8

>>18006215
Go to hospital AND to cops - not because they'll solve your "crime" but because the guy might have walked on and really hurt someone else, and establishing a pattern of behavior could help in dealing with that crime.

>>18006206
Work for the school. Teaching assistant or tutor.

>>18006206
>make money
>maintain a 3.25 GPA
pick one brah...you have the rest of your life to work man trust me...either take out a lil bit more loans and manage your money wisely or do what you're doing

>>18006847
Ive been wearing the same shit for two years, i really need new clothes and shoes, i look like a beggar

So he grew up. Who cares. Most of us do. We all find motivation in different ways. Just because he told some bullshit story about trying for some ho, doesn't make it surreal or true for your situation. Grow up and move on.

>>18006199
story time dude. tell me yours and i'll tell you mine. literally think about my ex every day since she's left. it never goes away. i can't even sleep anymore.

>>18006219
Can only do a tl;dr now since I'm taking a test in 30 mins.
We met in 2011, she was 15, I was 16, were incredibly incredibly close, but both broken characters - she tried killing herself at age 12 by ODing, I had depression due to my dad being very very very sick and me bullied at school at age 5-14. we fought about the smallest shit but always got it together again, because we felt like we were meant for each other
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My phone's history has no 911 call placed. Which really fuckin' worries me. I'm not worried about this incident, but what if something happened in the future and I ever needed to prove it? I noticed it when I was going over the footage with the cop. He asked me who placed the call, I said I did and pulled up my phone history. It has the cops calling me back at a later time, but not when I placed the call out. I KNOW I used my cell phone. If you dial 911, does it not show up on your cell phone or something?


Second thing, I'm wondering if I should get a concealed carry permit. I live in Florida and did some research. It seems the only thing stopping me would be my workplace. They can't legally tell me I can't, but realistically they could find some way to fire me. Second thing, not sure I could carry it concealed in a way that's easy to get to. I could get a compression shirt holster but I couldn't get to it unless I just ripped off a button on my shirt and grabbed it that way, which isn't ideal because it'd take a second or two. I'm thinking an ankle holster would be best. Concealable, easy to get to, esp if I'm robbed and on my belly. The details of this I'll just ask /k/. What I really want to know is how /adv/ feels about carrying a gun. I'm trying to get an unbiased opinion. I've done a shit load of research, and my grandfather just got his permit as well.

I don't give a fuck about company property or cash or even if there's a fight not involving me. I worry about being attacked or held at gunpoint. I'm 5'8, 150lb, never been in a fight, have shot plenty of guns growing up in rural vermont, but now I'm living in Florida. It would also be a fun hobby as a side benefit. What's /adv/ think of all this?

pic related, me pre-clean. Give you a sense of how I dress for work.

>>18006169
first things first, you're a qt.

>911 call
who cares? it's not your responsibility to stop them from fighting. if 911 called you back, they definitely have and keep the records of you calling them. even the tape is probably recorded. The 911 tape and security cameras will exonerate you.

No idea about guns in Florida.

>>18006164
man, sorry for your night. /adv is really slow... my thread about me and insecurity is on front page, but only 1 answer. if i do this in /b/ i would have thousands but many crappy answers...

for your story i would say to you contact a lawyer now and keep him informed and ask tips... you never know if the wife or the guy try to pin on you with omission or something

ah, living in america i would suggest to do a lawyer insurance

>>18006138
See a professional.
Ask your parents for the money. If they can buy you food, they can buy you psychological treatment as well.

>>18006138
See a professional. Until then, hit the reset. Pick a time in the day, any time, don't really matter what time not like theres much else going on eh? Anyhoo, pick a time and go for a walk, every day, same time. Nothing else matters yet so don't worry. Just pick a time and walk. First step and it works.

if you feel tempted to go to clubs again, cool. Don't beat yourself up for not doing this the first time, but, instead of finding the differences and reasons that people can't relate, look for the similarities. There aren't any? Think again, you're at the same club. There's a reason, find it. Or don't, that's cool, but know it's there. You're not disconnected. Granted, no one will fully understand what you're thinking or feeling as no one else is you, but there are connections, there are universal truths that every person has felt. Don't panic, don't despair. Pick a time and walk

Firstly, please separate your writing into paragraphs because it's easier for people to read and reply to.

After doing your BA, you're kind of exhausted. And if you studied something creative, you have to deal with your support network disappearing over-night and the reality of having to look for work. I went through the same as you and it took me a long time to get back on my feet. What I mean by this is- it's kind of normal so don't worry, just do your best to look after yourself.

Actually my situation was remarkably similar to yours (knitting festivals and all). I searched and searched and eventually found a counselling service available for young people under 30, which cost about £5 a time. Keep a look out and you'll find something eventually- if you can't find that then things like meditation groups might be a good way to have something to do, somewhere to be, and help with you resting your weary head.

Even getting a small part-time job or some voluntary work is going to help you. I was unemployed for 4 months, and simply doing 2 shifts at a homeless shelter slowly made me feel more confident and hopeful, 'I might not be employed, but I can still serve others'

>I can’t even remember what I used to enjoy doing, nevertheless what I’m good at. I feel like a parasite for my parents and society.

It might take you a while to find your feet, and that's okay. Things will come back to you, I'm a little further down the line and things are going well for me now. One day at a time, one step at a time. I know why you feel like a parasite but you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. A lot of people experience what you do, a lot of people feel like you do, over time things will change and you will come out on top.

Bump2

Dude go apply literally everywhere you can. Don't act like this is a fair game.

>>18006131
>- Owners have a clear vision on where they want to go with the company
>- Really want to take the collaboration to the next level and want to enlist me.

Every start-up says this. A year later they're out of money and you're out of a job.

Take job 2.

you'll have to break up with her at some point so might as well get it over with. Plan how you will move out without it being awkward etc first then break up as soon as you can

what do you mean what do?
sit down, talk, say its not working for you, done. fuck me

>>18006124
Fuck her one last time and as you cum scream I'M BREAKING UP WITH YOU! Then leap off the bed and combat roll under the bed.

bomp

>>18006060

So your girl is a demon semen that cheated on you and you blame yourself, why? Why are you not good enough?

>>18006113
i dont know if this is really cheating... this night she "disappeared" we were only dating, nothing official

the chats were mostly when she was single...
only the wine one was a funny story, she said she needed to give money back for this guy because the guy dont have account anymore in the country and wanted to receive something

she is not interested in sex lately, only drunk... but i dont think she would have the time to meet other guys, i even checked her email and pc already

Mind games. She enjoys the drama.

Run.

>>18005963
Three possibilities:
a) The attention from whomever she is dating isn't enough, and she wants some from you, too.
b) She wants to keep you around as a back-up plan in case things go south with the person she's currently dating (most likely possibility, imo).
c) She's just crazy and wants to stir shit up, consciously or not.

>>18005967
>>18006014
Shit, she seems really sweet so I'd love to gamble on B, but the other options seem pretty dangerous.

>>18005958
kek how did you fuck up that bad

repeat a year or get a GED

>>18005975
I'm not from United States, what is GED?

You should look into GED. Look into homeless youth programs. Find a wealthy church, even if you're not religious, because they tend to be helpful. Wealthy church or small, tight-knit church.

Stay on your meds. I don't know your story but it sounds like you'll need to keep up with your psychiatric help, somehow.

Learn crafts that you can sell on Etsy. Find alternative ways to make money. I'm guessing you have a hard time maintaining a job, so.

Seek help from loving relatives. If you have none, seek help from the relatives that happen to despise your parents. I had some in a completely different part of the country offer their spare room (despite never meeting) on the grounds that they knew my dad and co was shit.

When you die, nothing happens. If you have literally no thing to live for, then and only then do you consider it. Remember how disgracefully suicide is viewed. Make sure you don't care.

Things to live for are not just people and jobs. I once didn't kill myself just because I started singing right that moment and thought, "shit, I won't be able to sing anymore". I know that sounds ridiculous, but think about things you like doing. Are you done with them, yet?

Above all, anon, live for you. Don't live for your parents, or whatever. You do you, boo. You be, and do, you.

Now my gf and I have been together 4 months. 1 month into the relationship she revealed that she is a heroin addict. I tell her to get clean or i'm gone, a month later she's fully clean all the way until 2 days ago. She is somewhat sensitive and since she's gotten clean she has dealt with some depression and things like i'm describing at the zoo have happened many times.
The day after going to the zoo I go to buddy's house, his wife leaves for the day so him and I chill until the night drinkin beers and talkin shit.
That morning my gf had texted me saying "I love you, hope you have fun at buddy's" I say "I love you too" intentionally being short with her because I'm still aggravated. She then text me saying "I'm a bitch sometimes. I hope you can forgive me." I don't reply because I was still aggravated and didn't want to fight. We usually text and call eachother through out the entire day but that day I wanted some space. That night I checked my phone while I was at my friends house and noticed I had missed a call and a text. The text is from her saying "Haven't heard from you in awhile. What's up?"

An hour later I go on a beer run and call her just to tell her I'm drinking some beers at buddy's and I haven't been around my phone.
After I left my friend's I was feeling better and no longer aggravated so I call her up while she's at work. She sounding kinda strange and after a minute of talking she said she'd call me back later. An hour goes by without a call or a text. I call her. Straight to voice mail. I text her and repeatedly call for the next 2 hours. Finally she calls me and she's crying. I'm mad and ask what the fucking is going on. Through the sobbing she tells me she went and got high and that she's so sorry. I was so upset that I couldn't be mad, I calmly told her that I am leaving her and to never speak to me again and not to send me any sappy bullshit over text. She then starts blaming it on me. Saying that she thought I was breaking up with her, that all I had to do was tell her I was ok and things were ok or that I needed some space and she would have been fine, that this wouldn't have happened. She tells me she knows what she did was really fucked up and it's not my fault but I shouldn't have treated her like that.

My question is, do i have some responsibility here? Do I have a responsibility as someone willfully dating a recovering heroin addict to cater to their sensitivities or should I be experiencing zero guilt?

tldr version

>gf is a recovering heroin addict
>2 months clean
>she's gone through bouts of depression since
>it starts to wear on me
>one afternoon her insecurities pop up again and she basically ask me why I wasn't in a mood
>quiet car ride on the way to drop her off because im mad
>angrily tell her im aggravated with her that night
>we usually text and call each other very frequently but the night after the fight and most of the next day I barely speak to her because im mad
>call her after leaving a friends house because im not mad anymore
>she sounding strange and says she'll call me back
>she turns her phone off
>she relapses that night
>she blames it on me
>says she thought I was going to leave her and she was really hurt by me not speaking to her

A couple days later i'm feeling kind of guilty.
My question is, do i have some responsibility here? Do I have a responsibility as someone willfully dating a recovering heroin addict to cater to their sensitivities or should I be experiencing zero guilt?

by having an actual opinion and not try to play your womenly cards
basicly
drop the "as a woman" attitude

>>18005941
I have opinions. I just think I come off as abrasive rather than charismatic when I try to voice them or debate with others.

>>18005931
I'd like to know this too

You have some serious issues.

>>18005928
I'd like to see your face?

>>18005928
because he's probably an awkward autist who can't look a woman in the eyes without getting flustered

Just kill an already existing god and take their throne.

And who may that be exactly?

>>18005904
Stop with the namefagging. Thought this was /x/ at first.

And I have the same dream, and I'm actively working on building up finances and learning new technologies to achieve it. My advice is to do good in life, and you'll get there. We'll escape our mortal coil eventually.

So pick a small aspect of it that you like, and work towards getting into the field that produces the technology, make connections and learn as much as you can. Technology will naturally advance in other areas, but you can still do your part.

>>18005852
shit man, 8 yrs is a heck of a long time to be hung up about somebody (im starting a 4th year myself, tho id never want her back romantically)
tell me more about your current SO

>>18005856
Perhaps I should have specified: the girl I have this obsession with and I never actually dated but came close several times.

Either way, my current SO just kind of seems to be my other half: she's the only girlfriend I've had where I find myself willing to drop whatever I'm doing to spend time with her, we like a lot of the same things but are still different enough for the relationship to not be boring, etc. Actually like my idea of a perfect SO/LI.

She's also the only girlfriend I've ever been able to to decisively say I wouldn't leave for a chance to be with the other girl. They don't look the same or have many similarities, if that's where your going. Kind of adds to the whole "maybe I was in love with an idea" thing.

>>18005869
*you're, fuck me