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>>18003403
My mom attended catholic school. She told there were also Jewish kids there.

You won't be alone because as a teacher you will be associated with the other teachers.

>>18003429
Yeah, I'm going to meet my cooperating teacher this week. She's also a bit of a hurdle though since I have no clue what she'll be like or how devout she is or how open she'll be to people who don't share her faith.
Like worse cast scenario she's one of those holier than thou types who reject and shun anyone who doesn't believe and then make my placement hell. Idk, I'm sure she'll be professional, I've just always been the "Assume the worst and prepare for that" type.
I'm just nervous about going into something I'm unfamiliar with. I know thats exactly why we were placed this way though. They purposely placed all the students who went to public schools when they were in high school to private schools, and vice versa, to give us wider experience with schooling.

>>18003403
It depends on where you are really. I went to Catholic school kindergarten through high school, but I was in a very liberal city and even most of the kids I met in high school weren't particularly religious. Religion never even came into place in our history classes unless it was relevant to the discussion (ie discussing aspects of Protestant beliefs when studying early American history).
>Will I have difficulties getting my students to pay attention/respect me if they find out I know nothing about their faith
Any teacher who teaches something they know nothing about will have trouble getting respect.
>Should I try to fake it
No, they'll pick up on that.
>Sometimes parents send their kids there solely for the private school aspect
This was very true in my case.

Waiting

>>18003399
(Cont.) then she grabs my hips and pushes my body against her with her legs up and pussy open. I still had my boxers on so I could feel it and I start dry humping as she moans and she says "I want you inside of me" so i go and get a rubber and put it on and as soon as its on i can feel myself going soft. I has just gotten out of a ten year relationship with someone. Never had to use a condom with, so I knew it was going to be a problem. I layed beside her and told her to touch me and she just touched it for a little and I realized she could tell I wasn't that hard anymore. I told her I was nervous because we agreed we were going to take it slow but she started getting frustrated and eventually got mad and got dressed then left. I told her I was really fucked up and just wasnt sure if we were both actually ready. Since then she hasn't been texting me as much but she claims she still wants to see me. But whenever I bring up when she wants to hang out again she either ignores my text or waits a while and says we'll find a time or something like that.

If I get another chance should i mention to her that condoms just don't work for me or would that make her not want to have sex seeing that most girls would expect you to use one if you've only been dating for a while.. I know that she's on birth control because she told me and I'd pull out. I just can't afford this to happen again because I know it would kill any chances with being with her. What should I do?

>>18003399
>we happen to both be INFJs which are less than 1% of the population

Why do people believe this shit? You guys just want to feel special without actually doing anything

I don't know much about women, but this is what will happen to me.
Sometimes is I masturbate more then once without taking a shower, then it starts to stink. No matter what I do, all I need to do to make it stop stinking is shower.
TL;DR - She might be masturbating too much compared to how much she is showering. But can't confirm for sure because of having no experience with women

>>18003413
She does NOT masturbate. She believes it is wrong and a sin (very religious). She even thinks nude art is a sin, let alone porn.

For context, we live together, I am 26 she is a few years younger (nots specifying because internet)

>>18003422
Then maybe she doesn't shower enough. If she takes a shower every day then there is something else wrong, but if she showers every 3 days, then, try to hint that she should take a shower every 2 days, or every day

it fades.
just wait.

>>18003352
Wait
Or get to know her and wait for the first argument when she insults you, that helped for me

>>18003352
You are actually addicted to the sensuality of her existence, not actually the person itself.

You've become attached to the idealized form of her, the perfect, the one, the unattainble, the pretiest. You could wait it out and eventually find another object of lust.

My advice is to add a bit of realism to your perception of her. She's not perfect. She likely has issues with herself, her boyfriend, her family. Her beauty is only temporary and it will fade. You don't actually know her personality (do you?) and you only rely on what the senses report back to you. Those sensory pleasures will also fade in time.

Either seize the opportunity to make her yours, or even just break the illusion that's she's this perfect being you can't live without; or wait for it to fade like it eventually will.

cool
just means you care less when they die.
the people who give you shit for it are pussies.

but u c the point of family is to vent out your cancerous aggression on eachother. So by not having any relationship you both dodge a bullet and -possibly- create a bullet.

>>18003355

I don't associate with them at all

>>18003345
i agree shouldnt feel forced to like someone youre born with. friends are better.

(OP here continuing) She just answered, that she likes the "new" me very much and we kept on making out till it came to the point, where she told me, that she's on her period and doesn't want to have sex now, but at the same moment implied, that she want's sex with me the next time we meet. After this, we kept texting each other kinky stuff about how we would have sex with each other. I do really want to have sex with her, but at the same time there is something, that tells me, that i want her back as my girlfriend and that i love her and care about her. What should i do? is there any possibility, to get back together with her, after having sex with her for a while, although she told me, she doesn't want a relationship right now? i am fucking confused.

>>18003350

Tbh, sounds like she had a bf and just wants a fuck buddy on the side.
You may have always been that to her.
Maybe she never broke up with that guy
She's more or less admitting a desire to sleep around.

That kind of doesn't make sense for me, cause she introduced me to her friends as her boyfriend back then, so we openly kissed each other and even went out with her friends.

>>18003290
It's called
"tutoring"

>>18003300
Okay, but what if I wanted the more illegal approach of actually doing the homework in exchange for bucks? Like, I do the homework, I get paid, they turn it in.

>>18003290
>for money
haha really doubt it.
My friends found some website where you could solve other people's homework for money back in 2009 but now we have sites like Math.stackexchange that cover pretty much all trivial and non trivial math problems that a student of any level could possibly encounter in one life time.

If you want to earn money by problem solving, look into TopCoder, Codeforces, Kaggle etc. I mean those things that corporate actually cares about. Mathematics is not profitable in short term. (which I find very amusing considering its influence throughout human history)

Well I smoke once a week why don't you just calm down. I usually freak out when I smoke too which is why I smoke very little. I don't smoke to feel happy though and if that's the reason you do it then you should stop obviously something in your life is making you unhappy.

I'm completely the opposite, weed turns me into an extreme pessimist disgusted by the world around him.

When I smoke I realize how artificial my daily happiness is and how much of a shallow person I really am

Teach me your ways of smoking

you have to fix yourself and your underlying problems instead of relying on drugs to mellow you out.
you're actually more irritable than you should be when sober because you're withdrawing from the high.

>>18003258
Even normies feel this way. I remember my college was full of people with "imposter syndrome."

You can do it. Who knows anon maybe being in a new environment with peers instead of your anime masturbation den will help motivate you and keep you on task.

You can't take it too seriously, mang. You need to study, but just get as much as you can out of it, don't worry about grades in your first year, especially outside your major. Take classes pass/fail if you can.

>>18003258
As for therapy my friend, most colleges have counselors that are free to talk to. My small community collage has three. I was the same way, just thing of this as a short experience. 4-6 years is not a long time in the scheme of things.

What do you plan to take?

You should have probably called her to see if she was actually okay.

>>18003232
We never call. We just text because we both feel uncomfortable on the phone

>>18003229
did you actually ask her "what happened"?

>>18003217
There's not much you can do unfortunatley mate. You can get a court order that's prevent them stopping you having the work done by blocking access, but that's about it. You can't force your neighbour to have the any work done, and while you have a legal right to get your contractor permission to lift and re lay or replace whatever part of their roof they need to you can't force your neighbour to pay for that. I've had a couple of incidents like this, and the solution is usually a half assed repair on the basis of "that's the best we can do under the circumstances. We did have one about 10 years back where the client basically paid to have his house and his neighbours re roofed, as there was no way to do half of it and the neighbours wouldn't play ball.

>>18003233
If I have a legal right to get my guy permission to get the work done, then that would be good enough.
Do you know any more about how to go about getting that, it would really help as this has been stressing me out pretty badly? Dealing with nogs is the most impossible thing, I swear.

>>18003217
My condolences.

Have a sympathy bump.

what the fuck are you asking?
how to fuck a woman?
alright:

PUT THE PEEPEE IN THE VAVA AND MOVE BACK AND FORWARDS UNTIL THE MILK COMES OUT.

if you want a relationship u just have to be lucky and find some random asshole who likes you.

>>18003207
it's ok to bait once a week
just do it quick and fast, use lube, dont deathgrip, no edging, no porn.

>>18003211
This advice is dumb. Like where do I start? You make it sound like I can just walk down to the store and order a girl

>>18003193
be good at cars, fixing things, general guy manly stuff.

have a hobby or two that you can become a subject matter at. musical/artsy fartsy/crafty a plus. video games/anime generally not

it can be as simple as that.

>>18003206
I don't think it's that

#1 rule : don't be needy

this is pretty much the basis for everything. it conveys that you're high value . it gives off a sense that you're comfortable around women, that lots of women like you, that you have experience. it's the reason "confidence" is always touted as the most attractive trait in men. you want her to have the sense that you don't give a shit if it works out between you (not in a mean way, it's literally just insignificant to you) because you have so much success and abundance in your life.

Divorce.

You made the first mistake by marrying in the first place, never do that. Not much that I could help you with. Try to be more dominant in the relationship, pack on some muscle and act more like an alpha, treat her like she is a child. Women sub-consciously get turned on by a strong man.

It may work, but it may not. It's your life, so reconsider what I've said before taking action. The last thing you want is to fuck up and get divorced.

Marriage counseling. She needs to listen to you.
Don't dispare, this is difficult for most marriages.
(90% it's the woman's fault though)
Good luck

>>18003182
Define 'attacking'

Getting a job always makes parents happy. Aka money baby taking some financial stress off them.

>Arguing and anger in general is abuse

Ok you know it's whack when it's saying it's abuse to get angry in general lol. Or for the person to feel any negative emotions over a situation in general. Sometimes life isn't pretty and perfect and people will get upset about things.

Or am I just an abuser who can't recognize that i'm being abusive? Is it really that bad to ever be angry with someone? Is it really that bad and abusive for two people to walk away from a situation feeling more negative in their emotions than when they started.

I don't know OP this all sounds overly sensitive to me