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>>18007126

both? write her back saying bye?

>>18007142
The thing is, I'm not quite sure if I shouldn't pursue this.

kill her

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If you don't want to be a doctor, then don't be a doctor. It's not for everyone, and it's not a decision you can just 'put up with' for the rest of your life

Don't trap yourself in something that you don't want to do. You'll be miserable and unfulfilled for the rest of your life. You are here to please yourself not to please your parents or other people. Do what makes you happy. They might not understand right off the bat but they're your parents they'll come to understand eventually.

>>18007110
Those are pretty different majors and lives.

Pre-med and med school are grueling and unforgiving. You will be worked to the bone in school then worked to the bone some more at a hospital then worked to the bone yet again until you get a private practice offer.

By computers I assume you mean programming and not electrical engineering; the workload requires certain special skills but is obviously much lighter than med school. That said there's also nowhere near the demand and you'll likely need to teach yourself languages that are actually relevant to job openings.

Regardless, you should really take a while to investigate whether you'd really want to live the lifestyles either of those two degrees lead to. It sounds to me like you're yet another kid going to college because "it's just what you do" who's at high risk of burnout.

>>18007072
maybe she should just drink a few shots and pass out

>>18007072

This is a Safe For Work Board. If you can't follow simple rules like that then I don't see how you can follow a Dom/Sub relationship.

We aren't going to help you make up a cover story for your rape attempt.

Anesthetist in the making here.

Don't fucking do it man

Assuming this isn't a troll thread: living off benefits? Not sure how wouldn't be a blow to your pride though.

>>18007071
do something that u r passionate about.something that doesn't seem like work to u.

what that maybe?u decide!

Welfare, inheritance. You can also own a business, get into real estate, poitics save and invest but those all take money in the first place which you'll need to work for. Basically, if you want anything good in life you're gonna have to put in some effort. If you're happy with nothing than become a welfare leech.

>>18007057
congrats, anon. its pretty rare to be able to contract both types in the same spot

>>18007057
>I was thinking of ordering a mail order bride

You do know that that is not how it works right?

>>18007065
I know, but find a nice big titted Chinese girl

>>18007016
you retarded anon?
the solution is obvious
go apologize to them, say "hey sorry I was being a dick"
next time you get a gift you pretend to like it even if it's just gonna sit in your closet for a million years and never be used

>>18007016

say you're sorry. own up. apologize. make them a dinner, or buy them a dinner, or do something like clean the apartment when they're not home and just say 'im really sorry, you were nice enough to get me something and i focused on the wrong thing'.

most people actually will forgive you if you do ANYTHING other than JUST apologize.

>>18007098
I mean, I cleaned up their cat litter boxes that they left filled to the brim when they went on their trip, filled to the point where the cats were shitting on the floor.

>>18006996

No offense OP, but I think this post is not best suited for this board.

>>/fit/

This would be the best place to go for this advice, check the sticky, post this there, and hopefully you'll get more responses.

Otherwise, I can only suggest trying to up your activity somehow (maybe do something that you can do whenever you've got free time in your own home) and eating a less dense diet. Avoid snacks and soda and all that jazz.

Consider what you are losing, chubby girls CAN be sexy to some, though if you've already got curves goin on, you oughta be fine.

>>18006996
>What exercises can I do at home that will target my tummy and round my butt well?
you can't target specific areas for fat loss except with surgery, anon
where you lose fat from first is just a thing your body decides for you
although you CAN target specific areas (like your butt) to build muscles

as a general rule: weight loss comes more from diet than exercise. at it's heart it's just calories in minus calories out, so start accurately counting calories in and try to reduce the number

another general rule: you have shitty self-esteem and are way more ashamed of your own body than anyone else will be. don't be afraid of letting your partner see, because if he's not an asshole he will be much less critical of your body than you are

Thank you so much. I'll take my post to fit instead- do I just paste it there or does that count as spamming?

>>18006994
What is it that makes you think you're UN-love-able?

Have you tried talking to girls/guys online? joining a "class" - yoga, meditation, any form of art (painting, ceramics..), even taking up surfing (if you live by the coast).. there are many options out there anon and until you've exhausted all of them don't believe you're unworthy of having a love, even the worst most horrible people find love ~ you can't quit, you're only 30 - there are people I have met that are in their 50's and have been single for years (most of the time because they are self centered and focus on their jobs/hobbies).. but I mean.. people are out there and there are lots of girls/guys like you..

What things do you like? Whats your life like?

Don't turn to drinking, it's a short term mess - it feels good for the first few days and then it becomes an unhealthy god awful sad and pathetic mess - unless you're going to a bar or some type of social setting try not to drink alone, alcohol enables horrible behavior - if anything take up smoking marijuana and going to therapy/starting new hobbies. Focus on yourself anon and try to make some new friends whether online or iRL

>>18006994

I know how the "race" feels. Everyone else is getting "experience" and you are "left behind". But here's the thing:

Realistically speaking, there's no difference between a person that had 0, 1, 2 or even 3 partners. Emotional development is a crapshot, and sexual performance is not that noticeable.

What I'm saying is, just because you've been single so far doesn't mean you are a worst candidate.

Now the question goes here:

> I have significantly less worth as a person since nobody has ever looked at me as someone worth loving.

Why is that? What has stopped you from getting with someone? Identify that, and work on it. Only way to solve a problem is finding it first.

>>18007023
>>18007027
>>18007023
Online I've had friends, but lost contact with them. I CAN talk to people online, in fact I find it miles easier to do so, but irl I become an awkward mess, stutter and struggle to keep conversations going. Even when it seems like I HAVE managed to have a fun, engaging conversation with another person and it seems like I've made a connection with them even on a small level, they'll never make any sort of effort to talk to me again. I'm always that guy who has to initiate things, and there's always a vibe of the other person just wanting me to go away or leave them be.

I got a job recently, a hobby I turned into a career and something I'm really passionate about, and thought I'd make a ton of friends at my workplace because of it, but it hasn't really worked out. I try to keep up with them, join in conversations, but I can never make people laugh or keep them engaged, I gradually just end up being overwhelmed and fade into the background.


I dunno man, I just can't socialise with people. I can never say the right things or make the right jokes and end up looking like an empty-headed imbecile/
I guess I KNOW what my problem is, and that's that I'm a social retard and get extremely anxious in social situations. It's a problem I've tried to fix countless times before, fuck, just last month I went to a work Christmas party, something I've never done before. It didn't go well at, but I really fucking tried to be a normal person and talk to people, but I ended up going blank and shrinking into the background again.

>>18006967

If you'd be using her, then decline, I guess. It's not nice to use people for their cash.

>>18006970
What if I love her too but i would also greatly benefit from her offer? Is that "using her"? What if her argument is that she can't think of any way she would rather invest her money than in my future?

>>18006971
If you're honestly thinking of staying with her then go for it, eventually you'll be able to get a better job and improve life for both of you, if you're going long-term then her paying for your education is an investment for both of you, not just yourself.

The answer is really quite simple - just go with it and see how you feel about it. Humans are notoriously bad abut trying to predict how something "feels" without experiencing it firsthand (have you ever heard of the knowledge problem or Mary's room?)

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>>18006947
I think I understand what you're saying. Since I've never experienced anything similar to this, I have a certain opinion (ie: physical disgust at the idea of being connected at the mouth to another person) but I don't actually know without truly being in the situation. I also don't like to eat in front of other people, so if I eat dinner with her I feel like it'll be a waste since I won't enjoy it. My family is also really overbearing so I don't know how to lie to explain where I was after work because normally I just go directly home to shower, make dinner, and play video games.

>>18006932
>Ok, so I come here from /r9k/
you have to go back

In my own experience, in the early stages of a relationship trust is often still being built. If your guys' trust hasn't fully formed yet, she's going to perceive this move with ulterior motives.

After sometime I found myself in my own experiences letting my exes do things I otherwise wouldn't have. There's this feeling I can't explain when you've been with someone for a minute, and I guess that's what trust feels like. I felt, like internally felt with feelings, that I was no longer nervous when they went to clubs or bachelorette parties etc.

Basically, your relationship has yet to develop a healthy amount of trust.

Why are you spending money on HER best friend that you don't know? If it happened to me, I'd think "this guy is trying to get in my pants".

>>18006920
We've been together for almost a year.

Even so, I feel as if you can't compare buying someone a video game out of generosity to going to a club.

>>18006911
Get a friend to double check your claims, if you like her your mind will see shadows were there is non

>>18006911

Sorry, here's what I don't get. You identified she wanted to "fix" you and you pushed her away. But now you are wondering if she is into you. Why? She will try to "fix" you, and you don't want that. Why do you care if she likes you?

>>18006918
Okay, so....
What is a claim?
Shadows?

I know I don't like her now, but...
1. I don't know everything about her, so call it equal parts curiousity and kindness that I haven't cut her out of my life. She's a very chatty and outgoing person, so part of me is "oh look, she wants me to be part of her friend collection."
2. Slightly worried/intrigued that she is changing for me.

Become a NEET and live truly.

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Sit back and enjoy life OP. Relieve yourself from trivial ambitions.

I'm sure it's the same shit everywhere. The entire system is set up to benefit the teachers rather than the students.

>not using your late teen early 20s hormone and energy spike to propel yourself into success
>Year of The Trump

>>18006901
>Don't have an energy spike and move like an old man
>Realize an office job is the only location for a person like me

stop posting on 4chan, watching porn, playing video games, doing drugs, drinking, and any other nasty vices.

exercise, meditate, eat clean, and spend every day working on your goals and improving yourself.

if you're not willing to do this , then don't complain.

>>18006888
Honestly? Unless there's goop oozing out of there or something else it's not that bad. Looks kind of neat actually

Weird but hardly disgusting

>>18006888
Get chirurgy my man. It's something small that seems to cause big insecurity, so I think it should be worth it