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>>18030588

>I took your advice in letting go
>BUT HERE I AM AGAIN!! WOO

You sound like a pretentious faggot and should probably take their advice.

>>18030605
It's me saying that even though I learned that there's others out there, I'm coming back to her still

>>18030588
Do yourself a favor and just fucking don't.
What's your end game here? Are you trying to get back with her? Rub it in her face that you don't care anymore?

Also, your message is a bunch of masturbatory garbage

>>18030565

You hate yourself/become bored enough to do it. That's all there is, there is no magical panacea to it. It's awful and hurts and you'll feel weak and stupid. There is no normal way to 'enjoy' that, you have to suffer through it. Typically your dislike of your current body/self/whatever will drive you to power through it until you actually can notice a difference in yourself and then you will start to actually enjoy it because you see the rewards, however the beginning stages are the worst and you will not have that reward feeling.

>>18030581
Yeah, unfortunately I find this to be true. I know what you're talking about OP because I've been in that same place, where my entire life had been built around trying to avoid putting effort into anything at all. It took me straining relationships with close friends, getting kicked out of university, losing a chance with an amazing girl who was pretty much perfect for me, and committing to trying to kill myself to really even start changing my life. I'm not saying you're low will be exactly like my low, but you have to reach that low to start making real meaningful change. You can't force it, and you won't know you've hit it until a little while after you do, but once you do see it you'll realize you have to really want to change to be able to change.

>>18030565
I use my friend as a role model. I just try to imitate her every day.

I think the only way I'm able to stick with it is because she's always there so I have a constant reminder. This won't last forever but for now I'm consciously doing things differently from how I used to. Hopefully it's enough of a start to work long term.

>>18030534

tell him that trust isn't about childhood secrets. someone placed trust in you, and telling him would break that trust. likewise, him telling someone else he trusted would break your trust in him.

Trust means someone wants you to hold something dear. to break that trust would make you a child who thinks he can get away with something as long as no one finds out.

if he can't understand this its his problem.

>>18030534
I would tell my best friend.

>>18030534

>she was raped
>cops dont know
??

>>18030502

>get rejected
>be sad about it
>repeat a ton of times until you are too jaded/bitter to care about a rejection

Just gonna have to man up and face the fact that not every woman will say yes. It's not the end of the world man just move on and try again

>>18030511
I've been coming here for years and this is what I heard back then and it's worked for me. At some point I decided ask girls out. Not just random girls at first but ones I had connections with already. Once that pool ran dry I started with random women.

Sure I still get nervous and everything each time but once the words start coming out of my mouth I just go with it. I had a woman say thank you in response to me saying thank you to her which showed me she was probably just as nervous as I was.

Just go for it once then again and again.

> Police report
> him at fault
> get public defender
> get paid
Let him sue cuz he will end up paying for every thing

>>18030506
That's what I planned to do, but it's just another droplet of this mountain of shit which is my life.

>>18030522
Who's to say the judge will not award you a good amount for pain and suffering man. It's hard to say but I have been in worse and I'm still here

>>18030491
Ask her why is she sending you post-shower pics. The answer may surprise you

>>18030505
So you're saying I should communicate with her? Why would I do that?

>>18030515
First things first, go to the doctor and check if you autism because nigga your post makes you sound like you're across the entire spectrum

Why not talk with her? Something good might come out of it

>>18030415

if you dont want to talk to someone, just ignore them. its ok to just ignore people if you dont want to talk to them. dont feel pressure to do anything you dont want to do.

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>>18030415
>im not sure

Are they mouthing words but no sound comes out or what?

>>18030445
But that type of behaviour induces bullying!

>>18030448
N-no?

In a long time, a long long time, you will realize you dodged a bullet.

how many anons don't come here and talk about how long they were married, 5-10+ years, only to watch it all fuck up.

in your case, she probably left in a few months, few years? could have been a lot worse. a LOT worse.

took me 5+ years to get over my first true love, that I lost my virginiy to, etc.

looking back, she was desperate to move on, and cared very little about what I was enduring. so, years lost living in the past. years thrown away on a person who simply WASN'T there.

those who love you, will be THERE. don't beat yourself up too badly. if it gets worse, take an anti-depressant a few times.

>>18030399
it is not healthy to depend on other people like this. that is called a toxic relationship. this is why you hear the advice that you have to love yourself before expecting others to love you.

no girl wants to be your second mother. they want to be with a man. fix yourself.

>>18030399

better than staying w/you and just cheating on you. or double playing.

just accept that you arent what she wanted. its fine. people want what they want and its not going to be a reasonable/rational thing. moving on will take time but you will do it. we are here for you

It's honestly super weird in this day and age not to have anything. Most people have at least a Facebook page, even if they're not active on it.

>>18030370
So I should create one, even if I don't use it?

>>18030365

sure, its a red flag to some women. fortunately, its not a red flag to any woman who you'd want to be with. its fine to limit your pool.

>>18030341
It really depends on where you apply bud. Your resume should be based on whatever position its for

>>18030341

just put it down as is. most wont actually look at the dates. some might, and if they do and its years apart say you were taking care of a sick relative and that required you to be free all day. it will make you seem nicer to them too.

and if at first you dont succeeded, lie, lie again.

stretch out the work history until theres only a few gaps inbetween where you were just hunting for a job

>>18030352
Don't they call your previous places of employment though?

>>18030320
try bathes to get rid of the addiction

>>18030344

why would a bath get rid of the addiction? regardless i ahte baths.

>>18030320
Bc ur fresh to death

>>18030314
Shit man, at least your roommate talks to someone. Mine talks to himself and yells and makes retard noises then laughs at them.

You'd think after 2 years this would've gotten old.

I need to get out.

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>>18030452
It sounds like we both need to do something about our respective situations

>>18030462
Ha yeah.

well mine has a few caveats to it, also the fucking job market.

I'd say tell him this is an issue. Just try to settle on designated quiet hours. It's your home too.

Tell him to see a therapist

For short term help I think spending more time with him and letting him vent to you will do the trick. Find something you both enjoy like reading comics or some TV series. Watch it together and talk about it. Do as much as you can to keep the time you spend together happy. Encourage him to do something.

If this goes on for too long he may become attached to you as his only source for happiness so you have to be careful. Basically the idea is to help him find something he enjoys so he can go off on his own and pursue doing those things without you.

>>18030304
He doesn't want to see one, he thinks it won't help

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She texted at the beginning when I ask her what she works"Lol so right now I'm working three jobs, taking 18 credits, and I'm in the education program so I'm doing 90 hours of fieldwork with that lol"

I apologize for my betaness. Lol.

>>18030284
c:
dont be this cute it's too much if you're not already fuckin

Also she's probably legit busy

She is just being friendly. Doesn't look interested and is just answering back out of politeness.

If you don't want to get into the friendzone you have to escalate fast. Make your intention known. Let her know you are interested in more then friendly talks.

2nd bump please help i know its not a relationship issue but pls

>>18030270

legally you can use it as long as you pay the proper royalties and dont make videos out of it / use it in videos (though most people blatantly ignore this and make videos anyways, and the copyright holders dont mind, as they continue to make profit off of it as well, in the future this will likely change).

the problem is that your song might be owned in a different country ,and international law is quite a bit different. its best to consult a copyright lawyer.

but as a general rule you can use the song so long as you pay the proper royalties.

>>18030893
well the problem is it's not really using the song, the issue is selling an original arrangement of a song that basically departs from the original composition. this is a simple song (sort of) and my version is even simpler, so in that vain, I suppose its similar to sampling for a beat?