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How to overcome fear of rejection

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I've always had a crippling fear of being rejected, which has led to me missing many opportunities with women. Can anyone who has dealt with the same thing and overcome it give me any advice on how to do such a thing?
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>>18030502

>get rejected
>be sad about it
>repeat a ton of times until you are too jaded/bitter to care about a rejection
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Just gonna have to man up and face the fact that not every woman will say yes. It's not the end of the world man just move on and try again
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>>18030511
I've been coming here for years and this is what I heard back then and it's worked for me. At some point I decided ask girls out. Not just random girls at first but ones I had connections with already. Once that pool ran dry I started with random women.

Sure I still get nervous and everything each time but once the words start coming out of my mouth I just go with it. I had a woman say thank you in response to me saying thank you to her which showed me she was probably just as nervous as I was.

Just go for it once then again and again.
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>>18030511
this is it

just try over and over again until you stop giving a fuck. it's literally the only way. once you stop fearing rejection you'll take a shot at every cute girl that crosses your path, and you'll have a handful of prospects at any one time... then you really don't give a fuck because you have so many options. most guys never get this far.
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Stop putting them on a pedestal, realize that some might also be equally nervous and flawed like you, and realize that most of them are pretty shitty or not for you. Take "no" as a way of weeding out the bad ones early.

And do it more like everyone else has said.

It will hurt at first but you'll get used to it. I don't think jaded is the right way to put it. More like fine with whatever the answer is.

ALSO it helps to not get hung on a girl before you ask her out. It's bad to build her up. For several reasons. One, you're falling for someone you don't even know yet. Even with friends you don't know how well she dates or how she'll treat you in a relationship. You're falling in love with your ideal version of her, not her. Two, rejection is harder and you're more nervous about it, so you'll be more likely to fuck it up and feel sad about it afterward. Three, you won't see the many other fantastic girls that are waiting to be asked out, who may in fact be the better choice in the end.
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>>18030511
this. Meaning exposure therapy.
Ever read the same word over and over to the point that it loses its meaning it's like that.
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