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Kiss him like a real man, faggot.

>>18031044
Would you rather him spit on the floor?>>18031079

>>18031079
This.

>>18031005
Seek a professional counselor trained in the area of sexual abuse and sexual performance. You're going to need more acute advice than strangers on the internet.

>>18031005
Part of your problem is self-generated - once having failed, you're nervous about failure every other time.

Two things to consider. Failure the first time - either the first time ever, or first with a new girl - is actually quite common, the result of nervousness, and shouldn't make you think you'll fail every time.

And try this - lots of foreplay. Give her an orgasm or two by hand or mouth before you even begin to think about climbing aboard. That way you'll feel less pressure about cheating her, which may be enough to let you perform. And if you still fail, at least you will not have cheated her.

>>18031031

I have been seeing a councillor recently. However, last night I embarrassed myself pretty badly with another girl and i'm not seeing my therapist for another week and a half.

Any type of relationship is about give and take. If all you do is take you will lose everyone you need in your life.

What you need to understand is everytime someone helps you, you are drawing energy from them and sometimes it takes a lot and can leave them emotionally drained.

If your friend has been your source of strength at your lowest points then now its time for you to be theirs. Give back.

>>18030968
But I'm trying to give back and it feels like he's not receptive to it? If that makes sense?

>>18030975
start off by not trying to kill yourself, that's a little freaky and I wouldn't hang out anywhere near you because you're a walking liability

You gotta accept that people are fickle and sometimes uncaring. Your friend simply seems easily distracted. I would not confront them this makes you out to be as very sensitive.

Also you're only 'used' as much as you let people use you. At those events who says you have to hang out with those people. If the person who invited you slips away and socializes elsewhere simply do so yourself. Since they are not explicitly telling you to babysit their guests you have no obligation to do so. You're actually free to do whatever you want.

>>18030951
Well it does seem pretty shitty that she's basically taking advantage of you. It is pretty nice though that she would reach out to you to hang out with her boyfriend. That's great.
I also just want to note the following:
- She has no obligation to hang out with you/entertain you. She just invited you to hang out with them at the bar/club. What if she knows that the music they play is your favorite?
- Are you having a good time? If so, then there's no problem. You go out to have a good time, and had a good time.

Now if you hate the bar/club and only go because she asks you to go, then you're an idiot.

Bottomline: If you're having a good time, there's no problem. If you don't enjoy the time out, then the problem lies with you.
>hey can you talk to my date I gotta go do X
>hey can u entertain my bf while i has fun with my female friends
You already know why she's asking you to hang out with her. So it's all up to you.

>>18030951
Nah, you're none of that shit. You honestly seem like an alright dude. What you want to be sure of though is that you're not a friend of convenience and that these people actually want to be your friend.

Think of it this way. If these people wouldn't talk to you on any other occasion even if you go out of your way to talk to them, they're not really your "friends". More like acquaintances at best. That's being used. If I'm invited to go somewhere, I'd want it to be because someone enjoys my company and because I enjoy theirs, not so they can throw me at someone else to "keep them in check". I wouldn't consider it TOO much of an issue though if I'm actually having fun, like, if I like spending time with that person's bf. We as guys are pretty good at that honestly; just sitting around and bullshitting and probably not even talking that much and still having fun. This is all partially your interpretation, as to how bad this is for you in terms of maintaining relationships with these friends.

>>18030942
>mortgage

Don't buy a house until you can afford it. Paying mortgage for 50 years is a real bummer. And renting is a bad idea as well.

>>18030942
Okay champ,
First thing, make sure you are committed to living in that same place for at least 5 yrs - thats about how long it takes for a place to appreciate in value. If you move sooner, you might lose money.
Get yourself a realtor. You don't pay them, they get paid by the people selling the house. Find someone who specializes in the kind of place you're looking for (single family, condo, townhouse, whatever) and tell them what you want. They know how to do all of the paperwork shit and they'll be able to get you information on places to tour. Once you put an offer down on a place your mortgage people will send out an inspector who will go through the house and kick the baseboards and check all the outlets and whatever. Then they'll tell you what needs to be replaced/shows signs of damage, whatever. Then it's up to you (or your realtor!) to negotiate with the sellers to get stuff fixed. Then be prepared to sign literal stacks of paper

>>18030955
That's a little unrealistic, but I understand the approach -- I bought my car outright. Anyway, I'm renting right now.

Not all of us can live with our parents.

confess to #PizzaGate from your dad's twitter account

>>18030917
Probably see a counselor or therapist

>>18030917
Molest your dad back

>>18030845

become a higher quality man.

>>18030845
Be a higher quality person

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>>18030848
>>18030849
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Well what kind of exp you looking for. Small town, or large city? What kind of climate? We have deserts, forests, plains, pretty much any kind you'd like.

I've lived in various spots all across this country so I'll be helpful as much as I can.

Forgot to add what kind of job skills you have ?

>>18030728

I'll offer you two hundred dollars a month to share a room with me in my large 2 bedroom apartment in hollywood. we can also get fake married so that you can legally work ehre, and after 2 years, you'd be allowed to divorce me and still be a citizen.

the only thing is you'd have to tell me stories with your australian accent and let me eat out your ass / suck your nipples.

alternatively you can get the same deal with your own room but you'd have to pay 1150 a month.

>>18030704

ask her if she can set you up with anyone. if she gets jealous, theres your chance. if she doesnt, she can find you a girl to help you get over her ;)

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>>18030704
Listen man, I had this same problem in high school. If a girl doesn't wanna fug you, then she just doesn't wanna fug you. Nothing you can do about it, it happens to everyone. You shouldn't get upset about it either. What you should do is just move on. Think of this girl like a flavor of ice cream you've already had. You know what you're gonna get with this flavor already. On the other hand, the world is like an ice cream shop full of flavors you've never tried before. Flavors you may not of even known you'd like. Get out there and find another chick. And if she doesn't like you, move on! The thing with rejection, it happens a lot more than people like to admit. Even the best looking/ most talented people get rejected frequently. Don't let it hold you back, get out there and do your thing.

>Am i a fucking weirdo for this?
I mean you're not piss bottle level weird but I've never heard of anyone doing this. Are you that fucking lazy that you can't even walk to the bathroom to take a piss?

>Are you that fucking lazy that you can't even walk to the bathroom to take a piss?
i don't actually do this but i know someone who cut out a milk jar just for this and I kinda understand why because getting up completely and going through a hallway to a fully lit bathroom will wake you up and ruin your night especially if you're occasionally insomniac

totally weird to do it with a roommate or similar though. No one wants to hear you pissing in a bottle in the middle of the night

piss smells too.

>>18030690
Then don't turn all the lights on, pretty much every phone has a flashlight and even if that's too bright, you can turn the brightness on your screen up to a significant level and you should be able to work your way around a dark room. Even if you don't have a phone I'm pretty sure you should be able to find something that can light the way.

As an introvert, this is exactly what I do. Nothing personal, I just prefer time alone over talking to other people. It's also a bit of an anxiety thing too, when chilling at home the last thing I want to feel is the tension that comes from most conversations. I do enough of that outside the house, away from it I just want my peace. It's not that I hate talking to people, but I really do need to recharge after being around them.

>>18030632
I do this often, it's so she can comfortably do the stuff she wants to do without feeling judged

>>18030632
I don't think she has any problem with you. As they say, she's probably an introvert. I am too and I have to take time alone almost mandatory to recharge batteries.

>>18030624
>Why did you date the people you dated?
Because we are overall incredibly compatible and attracted to each other

>What do you look to get out of being in a relationship with someone?
A life partner

>Why did you date the people you dated?
They were attractive, we connected, had similar interests, and wanted to dedicate ourselves to each other.

>What do you look to get out of being in a relationship with someone?
Someone to share my life with, be 100% honest and trustworthy with, and comfort each other. Also fuggg:D

Interest bump

ask multi part questions

>>18030602

Is this a girl or old friend?

If girl you want to hook up with let me spell it:

PHONE AND FACEBOOK AND OTHER MEANS OF COMMUNICATION ARE FOR SETTING UP DATES NOT TALKS.

You dumbass

>>18030629
Like what?

your silence will be interpreted as support for the idea. thank you 4chan, I'm totally gonna knock up my wife's friend again.

>>18030592

0/10

>>18030766
0/10 for reasons not to seed that hussy?

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>>18030591
Disability requires a diagnosis. That means going to the shrink.

There doesn't seem to be an easy way out anon. Maybe go to places like arcades or bowling alleys where there's campy people to be friends with.

Don't kill yourself, anon.
But yes, do try and seek help.
I've had mental breakdowna before, usually in experiences I felt extreme shwme or guilt. Not a good feeling.

But yeah, nothing out of the scope of human understanding.

>>18030640
shame or guilt* rather
sorry, phone