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Probably not. I'd give up now before you get even more hurt in the future.

Invest your time and effort into something. If she reciprocates its a relationship, if she doesn't it's FWB.

If she invests nothing but expects you to keep investing one-sided, it's a bad marriage.

I've been down this road it didn't really work out
Worst case scenario you may find yourself frustrated over a romantic relationship not developing and end up pushing her away entirely

Try 9 years.

>>18072968
>craving intimacy.
>prostitute

gross bruh. and pathetic. it's bought, fake intimacy. that you'd have to specifically seek out.

get a gf

>>18073052
Try 27

go for a run every day

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>Here are the big things I'd like to accomplish
>kissless virgin

Anyways, the things you're looking for are pretty basic. So, starting with the job thing, you must figure what you want to do after finishing college. I know you have no clue yet. Figure out what you may enjoy doing for a living, what you could be passionate about. If you can't come up with anything try new stuff. Try coding, try graphic design, try reading about subjects like psychology or business management etc. Then figure out how to make money off it. Find a job, start a business, do youtube videos, whatever (realistic) plan you may come up with. If you're not qualified enough for anything keep learning.

For loosing weight I suggest you start forming habits. Start small, like going for a run every other day, or going to the gym 3-4 days a month, or removing unhealthy foods from your diet. Then, once you're comfortable with your new routine add something else and so on.

To "meet a qt girl to fug and hold" you should have a social life. Luckily, since you're in college that's pretty easy. Talk more to your classmates, go out with them, be friendly with everybody. You'll inevitably meet girls you'll find cute, all you have to do is talk to them. You should also read "Models" by Mark Manson, it's pretty much "dating 101".

>>18072942

You already set out some goals, go after them. Losing weight is very simple in theory, you just eat less calories than you consume. It's all about being disciplined. You don't even need to work out to do it.

I've tried the nofap thing and I think it's a bunch of horseshit. You just get hornier and aroused by anything that moves.

>>18072399
Stop masturbating. You'll feel like slaying puss, and getting more out there. And lift weights.

Practice... The confidence comes from within...
You should find something you have always wanted to do but never did, and go there do it.

That will bring you confidence... If it's not enough, keep repeating the process (find something you want and go for it until you have it). It could be working out, singing, learning something, visiting some place or someone...

Confidence makes you immune, but I gotta tell you that too much confidence is needed for that. You might cross the "arrogance" threshold while on it, and it's not good to do so, for you'll be blind to your errors who other might point out in order to help you.

>>18072399
by recognizing your own worth and just refusing to let the words of some sad sack of shit bring yo down

There's no one right way.
>hand position is preference, but should generally be symmetrical
>you don't need to say Om or play music, I find both of these practices distracting but to each their own

At it's most basic level, meditation is unifying your body and mind. The easiest way to do this is via the breath - it is an always present physical phenomena of the body that is easy to focus on with you mind (as opposed to say the heartbeat). Following your in and out breath is the most basic form of meditation I usually recommend to people. Being aware, "I am breathing in" and "I am breathing out". That's it. Whenever other thoughts or feelings arise you acknowledge them neutrally, but gently bring your awareness back to the breath whenever your mind wanders.

3-5 minutes won't do much for you, try ramping it up. My teacher recommends at least 15 minutes a day if you want to see change in yourself.

You're focusing on the wrong thing here. Your position matters very little. You should sit with your spine straight but as relaxed as possible (so you're not too tense, but not so relaxed that you doze off either). Your pic is how most "experts" meditate, but for beginners it would be better to have your back supported by something. Like sitting in a chair, or against a wall, because otherwise you may be too tense.

Listening to music or nature sounds or whatever is pretty pointless. Most likely it will break your concentration, more than anything.

Also you shouldn't try to control your breath. Just focus on it. Observe it. Really, there are many ways to meditate, the most popular being this one. But it's not about how you sit, or how you breathe, but what's going on inside your head. Breath normally, but focus on your breathing. Inevitably, your mind will wonder off, thinking about stuff. Whenever you notice that come back to the breathing. You should do that for at least 10 minutes as a beginner.

>>18072186
I live in an area where cars pass by a lot and you can imagine the honk sounds. Then there are other noices so it's not so silent in here and it can be pretty distracting. So to get a peace from that and do my meditation, I put on my headphones and play some calm nature sound or an Indian guy singing OM. I find that okay tho.

Thanks for saying about the wandering of thoughts part because I forgot to ask it in the OP.

Will up it from 3-5 mins. I'm sort of planning to up it gradually coz I started meditation just 4 days back.

>>>/fit/

Most girls don't find muscle men attractive.

>>18071875
I don't think they actually care that much. I'm good looking and fit, but if you're social skills are crap it doesn't matter.

>>18071255
You don't slap someone 'in self defence'. The word you're looking for is 'in retaliation,' and that's not a defence to a criminal act.

>>18071255

>Things that never happen but I post for shock value

Stop shitting up the board please.

>>18071262
What?
>>18071265
What?

Get 'er pregnant

idk if they're bad enough Id recommend the pill.
I had horrific periods in high school, 8+ solid days, would come randomly and sometimes twice a month, and pre/post symptoms year round basically. I got on the pill and regulated everything, shit was great. Once I got into college though I talked with my gyno and started just moving onto the next pack instead of taking the placebo pills and letting my period come every month. I get like 2 a year now.

She knows how to handle it better than you ever will, so your role should basically just be a low key butler I suppose. If you really wanna be nice or something, bring her water, bring her food, anything she asks for.
I know for me what helps is heat packs, but it's a pain (literally) to get up and reheat up the pack in the microwave. You can just do little shit like that for her.

You'd have to tell us what her specific problems are though.
Like is it just that her cramps are horrible, does she complain about bloating, are her tits sore (that was one of the worst ones for me personally), is she just moody?

Kill her. This will ease her pain.

>>18073482
Bump

Buy her a shot

>>18073482
Approach confidently diagonally from the left side never from behind.

She's like, legitimately autist? As in, diagnosed with autism? because if that's the case you may want to consider running, people with autism tend to be horrible in relationships. If she's only awkward act like she's just a normal girl, ask her out, do stuff together. You should consider dates that don't involve socializing, or being around too many people though, she'll probably be more at ease and willing to open up. Also be direct and unambiguous.

>>18073474
Autism is a spectrum so it's hard to judge, she may be fairly normal she may be hard to deal with.
I'd let her pick the restaurant for the first date as she knows what she likes and what she can handle.

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Autism basically makes people socially retarded

funny part is I've dated an autistic girl before too, the way I got to her is talking about what she likes. Time goes on and she ends up learning more about me, and eventually gets comfortable. however, OP, ill tell you this, after a while, (unless you are devoted to her by then) she will probably get annoying, she might end up doing really stupid shit around other people, or in general embarrass you. but if you put the mental disorder aside, most people with Autism are very good and likable people, just don't know how to be social and end up being introverts

>>18073439

to distract you from what?

>>18073444
Obtaining great skills and abilities through hard work and determination

>>18073486

nope. talents are usually a baseline for something, or an aptitude. it doesn't make you the end game from the beginning.

so even talented people need to work hard and have determination

borrow money

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>>18073372
Did you get in contact with your bank about the issue? Inform your landlord immediately what happened. I mean, so far you paid always on time, didn't you? So if he/she has not a vacuum where his/her heart should be, they'll extend your due date for sure.

Man, if you're really out of luck ... welll sucks to be you. Then spit the shekels, son.

PS: BIG FUCKING LOWL AT THE PICTURE!

>>18073372
check your state laws, that might not be long enough to legally evict you for nonpayment.

>>18073318
Ahhaha, youre fucked dude. I made my decision last minute too when it was my time. I made the wrong decision. Now living the neet life of a colledge dropout.

You don't have to go to university straight away. In fact students that go later in life after getting work experience are often top performers.

Anyways a lot of programs will start varying in their second year. If you didn't take them in high school, you'll be taking Chem, Physics, and or Calculus along with some gen eds regardless of what you choose.

There's no real shame in anything. You're 18. Don't be afraid to try things out.

>>18073354

thanks, this makes me feel a bit better. but i've already taken a year off because of indecisiveness (this current year) and i've taken every class (best math course, calculus, bio, physics, chem and programming) and i still don't know :(

i guess i just want to talk to people who already have experience in uni cause i have no friends or family that can help me to figure things out.

also what's gen eds?

>>18073189

Do you have any degree?

>>18073191
No, but I'm a senior majoring in CS.

>>18073189
>How do I find a job?
By looking for one, sending your CV and so on.

Remember it doesn't have to be full time job. You can get flexible jobs as well.

>>18073165
Bump

This is a shit thread. Theres nothing wrong with you you're just a dick. I should know because I hate fat girls too. Most people do

>>18073188
It's not really a hate it's just I feel like they kinda lost the feminine girly traits that make guys like them. Kinda like a guy who is really small and tiny doesn't make them a guy in my eyes. I guess this falls under stereotypes or something