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>snoops on her phone
>"I can't trust HER!"

>>18076325
You're a scum for checking her phone without her permission. She should dump you.

She gave me permission to check up after liking peoples pictures. She gave me the password. All I looked at was the last few messages.between her and one of the guys.

Yeah I get that I shouldn't have done that and won't do it again, but I found it hard to believe that she didn't know she had them when she was liking their pictures. She asked to have sex with one of them before meeting me and would have done if he wasn't out of town.

She alst told me that she'd had sex with the other one the month before.meeting me but said that she wanted a reaction from me and it hadn't been for a long time before that. I don't know how to feel about all this.

>>18076293
You sound like a rapist

>>18076298
This.

>>18076293
sfw board and yeah this does sound kinda rapey

you'll have it easy in europe/america provided you can get there, if you are planning to immigrate, don't bother with education until you are in the country you want to stay.

>>18077109
Tried to get to canada. Failed.

>>18076263
Stay in your own country. We have enough sandniggers in the western world and trust me, everyone hates you.

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>>18076259
It's also to prevent precum.
That said, you should try to have the first date be something that you would enjoy even if it weren't a date per say (bowling or something).
Once you've gone on three or so dates with the same person, if they're still into you and vice versa, it doesn't really seem as much of an effort.
(presuming you're not just looking for a lay)At that point you're sort of exploring how things are different with that person as opposed to alone, and that's a lot more fun than it sounds.

>>18076259
Busting a nut will only cover the real problem, which seems to be you not being able to keep your cool. Just relax, breath. You'll be fine

Read philosophy

>>18076253
How's your job?
That's the end line
How can you support a babby if your job is shit?

Also, I have my nephew.
I love him very much. He's 3 and I love him more than life itself
Children can be worthwhile

But there's a saying about how you should never set yourself on fire for another person. Even if they don't exist yet

>>18076253
You can't have it all. You need to choose.

Getting a good-paying (competitive) career at 30 won't allow for child rearing and qualifying for a stable relationship. On the other hand, you might not be able to find a sugar daddy at 30.

Whatever you do, brace for the worst and have backup plans. Lots of backup plans.

>>18076233
Get references from fellow employees or maybe a supervisor or something. It doesn't have to be a boss.

As for why you left, tell them about the work environment. I don't know if it's true or not, but you can just say the workspace wasn't respectful, or motivated, or you felt things were going downhill. 'You were unsatisifed with the way things were being handled.' Something kind of vague like that that implies the others were the problem, without outright stating it. If there was anything shady going on, mention you didn't feel comfortable under the authority conducting it. Just don't come off as a scumbag liar even if you are bullshitting them.

If your boss is that shitty I'm sure you can come up with some legit reason. What do you even do currently?

>>18076249
I'm definitely considering references from colleagues, because it's better than nothing. I don't have a supervisor, though; I report directly to my boss. There are people higher up than my boss, but I'm nobody to them.

I've also thought about the vague answers, because a Google search told me to do the same thing. However, based on my experience doing job interviews, I feel that giving vague answers can backfire on me. I often get the vibe that my interviewer isn't fully convinced by my answers, and sometimes they'll even tell me to elaborate (which is what I'm trying to avoid). I also feel that this is such a common interview tactic that most interviewers have updated their bullshit detectors.

I realize I kind of sound like a little bitch right now, but it is a troubling circumstance. Your words aren't wasted on me, though. I will try harder to find a way to bullshit my interviewers more convincingly.

>>18076233
You can always say that your last job was restrictive. Say something like your last job's responsibilities were too narrow and that you grew bored with the position

How is this negatively impacting your life?

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>>18076178
>How is this negatively impacting your life?

It's degenerate. At the very least its escapism. He is avoiding real love/relationships by cumming on his phone.

>>18076223
I just want to be "normal" again, before any of this shit started.

SEXUALLY DESTROY HER anon holy shit put it in there and UNF UNF DE LA UNF UNF UNF!!! You are a faggot!

>>18076226
Do I just try to have sex with her as often as possible and hope that helps things?

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the only way is to become autism too so you can have empathy for someone who lacks empathy

>>18076170
Lose some fucking weight, fatass.

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>>18076215
>lose some weight
>I'm not already doing that

You're a genius.

>>18076250
Either you've done it or you haven't

>>18076145
You cant fake it. If youre a wuss youre a wuss. End of story.

But you dont need to be alpha to get girls thats what you seem to be missing.

Go to places events and social gatherings that involve your interests. I dont care if it's dungeons and dragons down at the comic shop. There are girls there and theyre looking for guys like you.

Also some girls really dig shy guys.

Dont try to change yourself youre simply not going out enough or meeting enough women. Ive seen some ugly ass sorry weiners with girlfriends.

The other thing is if youre not a 10 youre not getting a 10. If youre ugly youre likely to date ugly. Dont go out of your league or youre lowering your chances immensely.

>>18076156
>if youre a wuss youre a wuss

Sorry ill clarify from personal experience.

Im beta personalitied too but dont have much trouble with girls.

I once stepped out of my beta bubble and acted alpha and got laid a lot. I felt so awesome and was in these threads braggin about it and saying i did it.

That was almost ten years ago. I found out later, and now in hindsight know its true.. I wasnt being alpha at all. I was making a total and complete retard of myself but (surprise) turned out in my insecurity didnt realise im very attractive.

I was getting fucked n chucked. My success only came from the fact i was meeting more women. Thats all.


Im not saying its not possible for you.. Im just saying there is never any reason to change because you cant change and youll probably just act like a total faggot. Stick to your guns learn what you like do what you like and expand it into a social life and thats where youll meet your girls.

First of all the terms alpha and beta are pretty bad for humans. It works well with some animals, because their "society" is structured like that. It resembles the divisions of classes, more than anything. Imagine nobles and peasants.

Usually when saying someone is beta or alpha you focus on a visible trait and judge their whole personality based on that. Most people have a combination of "alpha" and "beta" traits, even if one of them is more visible.

Saying that you want to be alpha is way too vague. It's like saying "I want to be successful". Ok, well what exactly do you want? You want to be confident? Attractive? Manly? Even those terms are really vague. If you want to get exact information or advice you have to ask a specific question.

But I'll give you a small advice. By trying to "fake it" you're only hurting yourself. "fake it till you make it" is absolute horsecrap, you'll never make it like this, you'll only learn how to better fake it. You should do the opposite, let yourself be vulnerable. Vulnerable to other people's opinions, to criticism, to rejection. Be honest with yourself and everyone else, expose yourself, the real you, not some shitty "alpha" persona you don't even understand. Accept that some people will like you while others don't no matter what you do and by putting up a mask you're only trying to please them, not yourself. Be open, be expressive, be honest and unapologetic. This is one of the things that people find most attractive and inspiring in others. This is how you can live a life free of social anxiety, shame and social pressure. This is how you learn to sincerely love others and yourself and this is how you can form meaningful, lasting relationships.

What you're doing now is not "stepping into alpha territory". You're only faking it. And faking your entire personality will make you unhappy, anxious and undesirable.

Bro trust me, I know the feels. I have been through the same type of things. I just try going with the flow, and eventually things change. Try changing the type you go after or try changing your approach when courting a woman. Things do eventually get better.

>>18076155

I honestly don't even know what type of girls to even go for anymore. I always avoid girls that are way out of my league but it seems like i can win at that it.

Jesus how many fedoras do you own?
The idea of a "Gentleman" is a neckbearded one about a time that never existed.

Women like STRENGTH
That's the end of it
Social strength
Physical strength
Financial strength
Sometimes intellectual strength

Of what of these are you the strongest?

Call him out on it and see what he says.

Does he treat you like he loves you? There are a lot of relationships where they say "I love you" to each other within 2 weeks. Then relationship then dies shortly after.

Actions speak louder than words.

>>18076084
Just says he doesn't know or that is just the way he is.
I'm his first gf btw.

>math major
>any job i want
>300k starting

>-250 or +180-???
Bitch how are we supposed to tell you anything.

>>18076060

>> retarded at math
>> an english major that doesn't want to brew coffee for life
>> already accepted to the nation's most elite law schools

I did alright anon.

Just go with the flow n stuff like that.
Put on some music.
Eat some fruits.
I've had less control over my thoughts on shrooms than LSD. So just let it happen.
Don't use your phone and don't watch movies, cause it's a waste of the experience, IMO

You'll be fine.
Have a nice trip

>>18075952
Do not think about spiders on your face. Or your arms being a snake. Or having ants coming out of your eyes. Do not.

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Depends on the shrooms. Some hardly do anything... some make you go to banana land. Better have a pizza ready

Some people just aren't meant for college level work desu. Sorry you had to find out the hard way.

Watch as some special snowflake comes in here saying "WELL IT WASN'T HARD FOR ME JES B URSELF'.

Because Anon, people make relations and have children and want their retarded friends and family to feel accepted.

>>18075946
So it's either college or join the military get shot by a radicalist in Syria? I'm a high school senior not in college yet