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i'd have a talk with him. this is starting to get out of hand and that's not ok. it is a fetish and it should stay in it's place. right now it has way too much impact on your relationship. my bf likes to do some crossdressing stuff too, because it makes him feel cute, hot, desireable, kinky. once it started to get too much, so i told him that it's starting to turn me off and that we need to balance this out again. after all, you are a heterosexual woman. you don't mainly get turned on by your guy being girly. hw needs to also meet your needs in appropriate ways.
if he can't cool it down a bit, he is obviously too far gone and the fetish has already a way too big place in his life. then it might be time to move on. what do you know, maybe he gas catched that "i am going to get hormonal therapy and become a trap" virus... that's what porn does to guys nowadays. it starts with lesbian porn, then moves on to femdom, after that feminine traps on girls, and one day you find yourself having had hormon therapy and silicon boobs, sucking some guys cock. it is a downhill road that you need good selfdiscipline to not get sucked in too deep. help him stay on track. some playing around is exciting and welcome. but keep boundaries.

>>18251330
He's mentally ill
Hiding insecurities behind a dress and attaching his self worth to the amount of internet attention he can get. Not to mention the steady stream of dopamine blocking any time to really stop and reflect on why he's doing this and crossdresses become more widely accepted in society preventing full blown shame.

Leave before he fucks dudes behind your back and gets you some nice little crabs for your birthday

>>18251330
I'd leave the relationship and next time find someone that isn't an attention whore.

>>18251297

>creeps up again
>again

this implies that you beat it before. so do that again.

>>18251297
get outside more, take vitamin d3 and b6, lift weights, take st johns wort 3 times a day, all else fails see a doctor

>>18251297
Art and light meditation

>>18251296
>pls respond

>>18251296
Keep looking for state jobs
Thinking about trade school (no I don't have money excuses please)

>>18251396
Like I said, I have a little money still in reserve. I just wanna get off the unemployed ride before the money runs out. I'd be more than willing to spend some teachings. On that note, what's a quick one to finish to get a job asap, or what's one that will guarantee a decent income, even if it takes a little longer?

no. he just lost it. shit happens. that's like saying the world is against you when it rains on your birthday. you see intentions where there are none. grow the fuck up. be careful to not end up like your mom and creating drama unnecessarily.

I agree he is just a little kid, mistakes happen. Forgive and forget.

I didn't mention he was punished and his phone was taken away that day, so he decided to take my 3ds instead. He didn't even feel bad. Never said sorry, just tried to blame me saying I let him take it school.

No excuses from me, I want the best for him but it's so hard to get past this.

Posting this made me realise I'm a dumbass. I'm going to hang out with my little brother.

>>18251221
I wouldnt call playing DnD drastically improving your life. Things that would be considered drastic improvement would be stuff like

> Losing weight and getting in shape if your fat

> Going to school for a career you want

>Getting a job no matter how bad or low paying it is

>Getting hobbies and making stuff

Getting out of the house to play DnD isn't bad persay but its nothing to brag about. The best thing to do is think of talking to someone that doesn't like the same nerdy stuff you do and try to build up things to talk to that person with. Like oh I do this for a living, or last week i went to this place and did this. Just build raport to talk with people who you wouldnt normally be able to talk with

working was a big one

in all honesty though, not really. my comfort zone is very comfortable. breaking out of it is overrated

>>18251221
Hiking. Lots of fun, get some sun, and a decent workout. Bonus points if there's rivers nearby to swim in. Bust out my hammock when we take a break and smoke a blunt. Love it.

Whenever you feel seriously upset (anxious, depressed, enraged, self-hating, or self-pitying), orare probably behaving against your own basic interest (avoiding what you had better do or addicted to acts that you’d better not do), assume that you are thinking unscientifically.


If you feel depressed, look for shoulds, oughts, and musts statements in your thoughts.

Ask yourself these questions:

Is this belief realistic and factual?
Is this belief logical?
Is this belief flexible and unrigid?
Can this belief be falsified?
Does this belief prove deservingness?
Does this belief show that I will act well and get good, happy results by holding it?

The main rules of the scientific method:

1. We had better accept what is going on (WIGO) in the world as “reality,” even when we don’t like it and are trying to change it.

We constantly observe and check “facts” to see whether they are still “true” or whether they have changed. We call our observing and checking reality the empirical method of science.

2. We state scientific laws, theories, and hypotheses in a logical, consistent way and avoid important,basic contradictions (as well as false or unrealistic “facts”). We can change these theories when they are not supported by facts or logic.

3. Science is flexible and nonrigid. It is skeptical of all ideas that hold that anything is absolutely,unconditionally, or certainly true—that is, true under all conditions for all time. It willingly revises and changes its theories as new information arises.

3.
4. Science does not uphold any theories or views that cannot be falsified in some manner (for example, the idea that invisible, all-powerful devils exist and cause all the evils in the world). It doesn’t claim that the supernatural does not exist, but since there is no way to prove that superhuman beings do or do not exist, it does not include them in the realm of science. Our beliefs in supernatural things are important and can be scientifically investigated, and we can often find natural explanations for “supernatural” events. But it is unlikely that we will ever prove or disprove the “reality” of superhuman beings.

She enjoys being emotionally abusive.

Possible... So, I'm sure the time will come, where she will contact me again, and now that you have said that, how can I turn this one 180 degrees?

>>18251212
Don't bother.

Don't be petty or spiteful, just realize that this is going nowhere and move on. Forget about her as best you can.

See the bright side, at least you have a true friend

But on the other side, you could use that to reflect on what you are doing and try to find what you're doing wrong.

>>18251140
Man up.

Ask your "friend" if he can say it to your face and why havent he done that already.

Use his critique as a guideline on what to improve on yourself.

Kick his sorry ass unless he has good reason to backstab you like that. When i shittalk about my friends, i tell it directly to them to actually improve them or force them to realize how bad they are.

What do your friends do?

>>18251098
cuntry sauz

>>18251098
Why?
My boyfriend and I are both introverted. We sit at home, he writes and I cook, we play videogames and watch movies together, we watch sports on tv, we read books.
We go out once or twice a week for a beer or dinner, go for a hike, work out, take a trip once every couple of months.

Your lifestyle seems fine. Zero issues.

>>18251098

I think it's normal to be this way. For instance, there's benefits to being single, only having to worry about yourself and others you have already noted. And when you think about having a partner, it's just "a partner," in your head, it's not a real person, just an idea, not someone you know. So think about giving up your singleness comfort for this, imaginary person in your head, is hard. When the person is real however, that is likely someone you would know and care enough about that motivates you to sacrifice a portion of your time. Not as much resistance as you'd think.

The second someone like that comes into your life, you give up some of yourself for them(not meant in a bad way), and so back to it just being an idea, when you're thinking about it for some "ideal gf/bf", someone you don't know, the thought is daunting, because it truly feels like compromising who you are if you think about it like that. But you more than likely wouldn't view it as an unwilling compromise after you actually met a real someone that you cared enough to willingly offer a part of yourself up for. Which at present isn't in front of you so it's hard to view it like that.

idk maybe i just keep reiterating my point

Anyways with all this in mind, it's hard to want to go out and find someone because this someone is an abstract concept. So going and putting yourself out there feels like not worth the tradeoff. Now, you don't have to go out TO find someone, but doing some more social functions for other reasons gives you more opportunities to meet someone. If you eventually meet someone more spontaneously rather than off of a hunt, it feels like it more falls into place instead of feeling pressured/wondering how far to extend yourself.

regardless you never know, you may not need to give up anything really, person you meet might click with you so well that you don't have to. and if it was too much that it was draining then they might not be for you.

You sound boring. Reverse the roles and think, why would a girl be interested in you?

Bump. Same situation, but 20 and just got back from baic training

>>18251020
How does one become more interesting? Obviously OP has messeged grills but sounds like the are boring

Didn't understand a single thing.
Also you started your story in the past and then 'fast fowarded it to the present' but didn't say how long ago that was.
Just type in your native language, maybe that'll work better.

This was so fucking confusing to read. I tried

Is this better?
>be me, liked this girl
>begin texting her
>I texted her one day that she kinda busy... she dind't respond
>I never texted her again
>next day we were waiting in the same room, she asked me if I wanted to sit next to her (i said no)
>Every now and then she ask for my help in dumb stuff like how do i print this anon
>then one day i make a kinda of dump comment while talking to her, she laugh
>ever since then i kinda noticed she tries to join my conversations, and know started making small comments when I'm around talking to other people (like "what are you doing here" and then continues walking and some time)

Over all I think she kinda likes me but.... Sigh people have told me I'm hard to read because I sometimes don't make it easy on people to talk to me specially the ones I like.
Exhibit 1 she was trying to take a picture of me and my friends (for some school shit) but me being too dumb and self conscious I leave when she said "hey look at the camera "

>>18250975
contrary to popular belief one fap per day actually improves mental health and cognitive function.

>>18250975
Stop watching porn, you can still wank without porn.
Don't wank if you are going somewhere or doing something, it's a problem once it gets in the way of your life.
Instead of wanking download duolingo and do a couple of lessons in a language, or do as many push ups as you can, anything more productive than wanking is a win.

If you really are struggling to not watch porn then you should seek professional help.

>>18250995
Great advice anon, thank you.
But I think I misphrased a bit, wanking itself is a problem for me, not just porn.

>>18250947
>This could be like 15 or even 30 minutes into it.
Lol what a wimp
I usually last at least 45 mins if not 2 or 3 hours
No wonder she doesn't like the sex
Break up with her so she can see what real men are like in bed

>>18250947
You already cheated lol
Leave her douche

>>18250950
I don't have time to beat on a pussy for 3 fucking hours man. And I'm fully capable of going for that long. The problem is she doesn't get aroused, so it's like sandpaper. If there wasn't so much friction, it would be easier to last. Also, if she demonstrated some enjoyment, I would be more inclined to make it last.

>>18250951
If it's any consolation, she cheated first

>>18250903
Tell her the truth. That you are so lonely you wanted anybody to talk with. And then date the bitch!

Wtf is catfishing

>>18251087
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=catfish

A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they're not usingFacebookor other social media to createfalseidentities, particularly to pursue deceptiveonlineromances.

just use painters tape, the thin stuff for pinstriping cars.

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kek

first off, you need a nailpolish that isn't crap or you will only get frustrated.
then you have very short nails, which makes it harder. grow them out a bit.

after that, try to paint one nail with only 3 strokes. you place a drop of polish in the middle of the nail but closer to the cuticle than to the tip. with one stroke you paint the middle, with the next two you do each side. the trick is to not go all the way to the skin but leave a little gap (also towards the cuticle!). it makes less of a mess and it makes your nails look narrower/slender.
when you're done, you get a qtip or toothpick wrapped woth a bit of cotton, but some nail polish remover on it and veeeeery carefully clean up the edges. if you have troubles staying away from the skin/cleaning up, consider forst putting on a layer of petroleoum jelly to the parts you don't want any polish (cuticles and such). make sure to use a top coat or you will have to do it all over again tomorrow. also, let that shit dry REALLY GOOD or all your effort will be for nothing.

Are you trying to wipe off the excess off on the inside of the bottle?