Hi /adv/, This will be a bit long, but I have to ask for some

i'd have a talk with him. this is starting to get out of hand and that's not ok. it is a fetish and it should stay in it's place. right now it has way too much impact on your relationship. my bf likes to do some crossdressing stuff too, because it makes him feel cute, hot, desireable, kinky. once it started to get too much, so i told him that it's starting to turn me off and that we need to balance this out again. after all, you are a heterosexual woman. you don't mainly get turned on by your guy being girly. hw needs to also meet your needs in appropriate ways.
if he can't cool it down a bit, he is obviously too far gone and the fetish has already a way too big place in his life. then it might be time to move on. what do you know, maybe he gas catched that "i am going to get hormonal therapy and become a trap" virus... that's what porn does to guys nowadays. it starts with lesbian porn, then moves on to femdom, after that feminine traps on girls, and one day you find yourself having had hormon therapy and silicon boobs, sucking some guys cock. it is a downhill road that you need good selfdiscipline to not get sucked in too deep. help him stay on track. some playing around is exciting and welcome. but keep boundaries.

>>18251330
He's mentally ill
Hiding insecurities behind a dress and attaching his self worth to the amount of internet attention he can get. Not to mention the steady stream of dopamine blocking any time to really stop and reflect on why he's doing this and crossdresses become more widely accepted in society preventing full blown shame.

Leave before he fucks dudes behind your back and gets you some nice little crabs for your birthday

>>18251330
I'd leave the relationship and next time find someone that isn't an attention whore.

>>18251384
OP here, yeah actually it really annoys me that this whole thing is getting widely accepted, like a normal behaviour. I tried to think about it deeper, I know that his father wasn't the best of all and his family situation either, when I tried to speak up about this he just brushed my opinion aside.

>>18251403
he has issues. dressing up for kinky play with your gf is one thing. attentionwhoring online is not ok. would he be ok with you being a camwhore?

>>18251403
Not your responsibility to try and fix him. Why be miserable he isn't.

OP here, first of all, you're very helpful guys and it means a lot. I felt alone with this problem, I already tried to balance this thing, but whenever we get to the normal side he seems to be unhappy,although he's always telling me how beautiful I am and ect. But I can't beleive this any more, I think he is sane enough not to get hormone therapy, he enjoys this situation but I feel I'm trapped in a nightmare with him, and he is my first bf, I have no idea how to break this.

>>18251414
how long have you been together and how old are both of you?
this is a problem for you, which means it needs to be adressed and you need to find a compromise that you both are content with. if such a compromise doesn't exist, you will have to go separate ways. and i'm not one to quickly suggest breaking up at all...

>>18251427
OP
Im 25 right at the moment, I never had anyone else in my life, I'm just extremely shy and an introvert person. I never had a relationship before this, so this is deep water . . He is 38.

>>18251414
Start with a plan to leave on a specific date, save your money and pack your shit and break up. Do not tell him till you are ready and have another place to stay.

>>18251443
LOL
>38
Leave

This "man" should have his shit a bit more together than dressing up as a girl for internet (you)'s at 38

>>18251407
No, he is not okay with that, I tried to escape this reality with an other guy, I didn't took it seriously and my bf knew about the whole time, I was honest enough about this. And he got turned on by the thought I'm getting funked by someone else, it's turned into something like a cuckold . . . And after a couple of weeks all of sudden my bf decided that I have to stop this. I had no choice, leaving abroad together far from any of my friends. I had to rely on him.

>>18251443
oh...
how did that happen? i'm not against age gaps, but that's pretty excessive. in this case, i have to URGE you to cut ties and leave. do it fucking now.
i somehow know how you feel. when i was 17, i moved in with a guy who was 28. the relationship was horrible. but i didn't know any better and i was too easily intimidated to leave. one day i just did it and it was the best decision of my life.

>>18251447
That's what I'm planning, I already started to save up, but I feel I'm too attached to him emotionally, I'm afraid of the whole thing, but I'm so depressed and unhappy that I feel it's not okay to continue to live like this.

>>18251457
you should reach out to someone to keep checkig in with you to make sure you follow trough

>>18251453
We met online, then once alive and after that he invited me to visit him here where we live now. It's a thousand kilometers afar from my / our home. He is the same nationality as me. I was too young and too naive.

>>18251457
It's your life and why waste it being with someone that makes you so unhappy? You'll survive without him.

>>18251474
I know, this is exactly how I feel, I'm just too afraid to start to make serious changes (already saving up, but yeah) I feel tired of this and when we talked about theverything whole thing he said he could stop this anytime for me, but it's hard to beleive.
Also I'm sorry about my spelling, I feel so glad that I got answers and motivation from you, I didn't have the time to check my autocorrect mistakes.

>>18251482
If I were you, move home, sooner the better and the time for talking is past. This is his reality not yours.

Surely this is a troll thread, no self respecting woman would stay with a tranny faggot for longer than 3 days. Unless of course she was mentally ill herself

>>18251500
It's a wise advice, I should forget this whole thing even if we had a loads of good memories too, I can't bear this "acting like a girl attitude" for longer.
I stop weeping and start to act for my own good from now on. And you know thisomeone whole dressup thing wouldn't bother me if I could see him as a guy sometimes, but no. . .I'm the one who have to watch out for him and it's too much for my 25y old self.

>>18251514
They are just memories, mostly bad, so go live your life and make some happy ones.

>>18251513
OP here, it's not a troll thread, my struggle is real, but you're right, I'm very insecure about myself, and I feel worthless more often since I'm with him.
But it's still better to live in a relationship like this than being alone in a foreign country alone with no one.

>>18251374
This was almost me. Run, OP.

>>18251374
I don't think that's entirely true. I love watching me some porn. Iv become so desensitized that I can pretty much jack off to anything.

But there's nothing I want more than a good wife to raise kids with and have a happy family.

Being pornographically depraved doesn't necessarily make a person start wanting to act out what they see.

>>18251692
It has to be mixed in with mental illness and extreme porn addiction