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>>18252185
Asking for me and a fellow anon

Girls or guys plz

How do you have a conversation with a girl your interested in? She knows I am Im just not sure how to talk to her, like a friend right?

Another question, how do you reply to one word resposnes such as "Ya"? Just move on and ask another question or some shit?

Girls, when you are preparing or cutting a sausage, do you pretend to be cutting the patriarchy?

So I have a small dick, a little above 5". I've know this for awhile and have come to terms with it and finally decided to put myself out there. This was my second date with a girl I met off tinder. First date was really fun, ended in a kiss goodnight. Second date, we ended up at my place.

We started making out. Things were getting a lot hotter as her clothes came off. I was about to go down on her and she stopped me and said "you first" before enthusiastically taking off my pants. She seemed so into it but when the pants came off, everything changed. She just had this sort of dissapointed look on her face. She grabbed it and played with it for a few seconds and just suddenly said "I'm really sorry, I have to go". My heart sank. It was like every worst fear of mine was confirmed. Stupidly, I asked her why. She took a few seconds to respond, I could see her choosing her words carefully before finally saying "we're just not compatible , I'm really sorry."

I don't blame her but damn I just feel so inadequate. Thankfully, we don't have any mutual friends so my she can't tell anyone I know but i still feel so embarrassed. How can I avoid situations like this in the future? Should I just avoid sex altogether?

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Best way to let down the really sensitive guys?

Friend tried to hook me up with one of her bf's friends, I had asked if she knew any single guys, but she kinda sprung this one on me suddenly. Wished she would have just given me a description of what he was like and/or given me a facebook to peek at beforehand.

Anyway this dude ends up being the exact opposite of my type, he's super effeminate, clingy, still talks like a middle schooler "OMG XDD", and really really sensitive.
She's already mentioned to me how he's dropped hints to her bf like "She's so gorgeous, I like her a lot! She's everything I was looking for, blah blah blah" and I'm really flattered, but fuck man. That just makes it much harder to reject the kid.

I need to do this delicately, idk if he's gonna be the type to freak and REEE at me when I reject him, or if it's gonna be an exaggerated hit to his self esteem, or if he'll be just fine.

I told my friend I wasn't interested, hoping this info would get relayed down the grapevine back to him somehow. But he asked to hang out this weekend, I didn't want to be rude and just ghost the kid and I think text message rejections are cowardly and stupid so I invited him over.
Just not sure what the best plan of action is.
Try and friendzone him to save him his dignity or something, just be distant (because I'll be leaving in a couple weeks anyway for the summer, contact will easily fizzle in that time), just be blunt and straight up?
I don't wanna embarrass the kid.

>TL;DR
Friend tried to hook me up with little warning, dude was a dud, just not my thing. He's super sensitive and I don't wanna embarrass or bruise the kids ego if I can avoid it. What do?

>>18252176
I'm a guy so idk how useful my contribution is but i'm kinda sure 5 inches isn't really that small dude.

Sure it's not a big floppy meat cleaver like you see in the pornos but that's an unreasonable expectation to have. If u know what ur doing ur dick shouldnt have to be problem (again, it's not really that small) and a reaction like hers seems kinda unnecessary and childish

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I believe you gotta give it some space and time. Theres really nothing you can do if you're being dismissed constantly. Wait for 'er to come to you. I feel you though, I'm going through something too.

Trust takes time.
Basically you need to make sure you show her it was just that one pic. It'll be more easy to convince that you had that by accident (if you actually wanted to jerk off you would've had more)

>>18252151
Thank you for your reply. I put everything into our relationship and I can't stand to see her hurt and see this go bitter. It just doesn't help that no one believes me.

>>18252053
>please any ideas on what I could doing wrong?

Submit your resume\cv to a professional resume\cv writing service. They will show you how to re-write it to best get people's attention.

Also since you seem to be a bit of an entrepreneur, don't ignore the fact that you can always grow your business.

>>18252053
The first "real" job is always the hardest. Don't panic yet.

First of all, exhaust all your resources. Most people get their first jobs through connections since they cannot on experience. You must have some friends who may be employed (or previously employed) somewhere.
A sibling, a cousin, even your parents can help you.
My rejected application folder was in the 100's before I got my first gig at a JC Penney because my friend worked there.
Also, be sure to seek advice. I asked my parents all the time to look over my application, and they gave me advice on how to phrase things better, or what to omit.

Keep plastering your applications everywhere. Mcfats rejected me too. They're bastards lol. Just keep it up, something will come down eventually.

If your parents are responsible members of society, they will see the effort you are putting into getting a job. They'll know it's tough starting out and that you're really trying. Relax man. The good news is it's all uphill when you do manage to land your job. With real experience your options will be much wider.


One last protip, when you do get that first job, for the love of fucking god DO NOT quit it until you've been there a couple months. I don't give a shit how soul sucking it is, how much you hate it, how much you wanna kill yourself than be there, suck it up and tough it out. Because if you quit within the first month, you might as well have never even had the job. It'll look bad on your resume to future employers if they think you're just gonna quit on them the second it gets too hard.

>>18252053
I wish I was like you when I was younger, but I end up going to college and got a master degree in physics and now I'm unemployed and a disgrace to my parents.

My advice is don't try to rush things man, you are still very young and your parents probably understand your situation :)

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I have to write 15 pages and i can't bring myself to fucking do it

It's unnerving as fuck

i'm depressed

i'm lonely

fuck everything

good luck op

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>>18252001
10 pages, fuck my major, fuck my fat life, fuck not having a job/friends

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! GOD DAMMIT!

>>18251993
You just wait until the last minute and then you have to do it. I recommend staying up all night. The sleep deprivation really gets things going.

>>18251909
I don't believe you, but if I did I'd tell you to find girls who aren't complete cunts and don't fuck black guys regularly.

>5 inch
small
ayy

>>18251909
4.5 inch here
4.75 if you count the phimosis tip

You're size is fine

Excuse the typos, auto correct fucked up.

Married this fat chick. Can't say she will get skinny, short of liposuction, but you gotta realize that you are with her for a good reason. Whether she's a freak in the bed or has an awesome personality (or both), these are the things you need to consider if you plan on staying with her. There will always be a hotter chick than your current gf, but what matters of whether you're happy with what you have.

If not, don't immediately break up. You will need to take the initiative on this, but can you get her to work out with you? Eat healthier/cook at home?

>>18251852
You're going to have most of the same problems no matter who you're with. Many of those 9/10s will look like shit in 7-10 years, saggy tits and wrinkled from too much sun tanning. Call me a cliche'd oldfag, but looks aren't as important as having someone you can trust, and respect, and recieve the same in return.

>>18251765
Lift weights
Learn to play an instrument
Learn how to articulate your thoughts well through writing and speaking

>>18251765
Get a job as something useful.

Construction worker, plumber, wood cutter, craftman, fisherman, firefighter possibilites are endless.

>>18251772
Working on the 1st. How do I improve at the third?

>>18251827
Useful to who? I'm not sure I understand what counts as useful

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>>18251743
Eat chocolade, do pic related, read a book, see a movie, ask your friends to do something together and wait.

It will get better. I promise.

There's nothing you can do to instantly stop feeling like that, or anything you can really think of that will make this moment easier. But just know that there will be a day when you feel different. No matter how much it may feel like you'll never get over it, you will. And you don't need to do anything, just keep living and eventually time will do it's thing. And you know, before you met that person, I bet you could have never imagined someone like that. And feeling the way you do. That's why it can happen again. Not in the same way, but in a way you can't even imagine yet. Speaking from experience, I was together with my childhood friend, my first love, the one I shared everything with since we were kids. My whole life. And still, 4 years after the break up and it's like I'm a different person. Like the person back then who was in love with her was someone else, someone I just remember. And I've met a girl who is unlike anyone else, and now it feels weird to think there was once a time when I didn't know her. But, now I know that even if we go separate ways as well, I'll survive that too.

tl;dr: We all change and forget, you will too. The you right now may love him, but for the you in the future this moment will be just a memory. Feelings fade.

>>18251743
Have you considered suicide? You could write a note blaming him and call him right before you do it.

>>18251730
It says it is hard to overdose on mdma
http://www.projectknow.com/research/ecstasy-and-mdma-overdose/

>While an Ecstasy overdose is possible,deaths from Ecstasy abuse are more likely to occur as a result of related health complicationssuch as overheating and dehydration.

So you now go, drink some water. Like 1 liter should be good start and take a shower and check your temperature.

Try to sit in shower so when you faint, you dont break your head.

Or just call ambulance you retard. Why do kids do drugs when they arent even capable of having right dosages?

Also how many pills?

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>>18251730
>I think it's mostly an emotional thing although randomly I get a rush of tingling and pressure in my extremities.

Definitely an emotional thing. I get that rush or numbness in my extremities before I have a panic attack. Fun fact, had my first panic attack a few days after trying heroin for the first time, it started with that feeling, then it progressed to the point that I thought my heart was going to stop and begging to be taken to the emergency room.

It's unlikely the symptoms would get worse the longer you wait after poisoning yourself. Might ask your guy if he's got any benzos to keep on hand if you start getting a full-fledged panic attack, otherwise you're fine.

>>18251730
>babby's first comedown

Dumb amerifat.

You'll feel like shit for a while and it will pass eventually.

>>18251647
probably terrible pics and autistic bio. Post it.
also
>paying for tinder
kek'd

>>18251647

>so it can't be a numbers thing

it literally can. people usually max our all their swipes as soon as they get them, and they only get them every 12 hours, and you are new to the system, so you've given your self presumably only 12 hours to see if you matched anyone.

that beign said, you might be ugly.

your pics probably look like shit
also no one pays for tinder

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>>18251615
>sweet tasting pee

>>18252849
Beat me to it.

>>18251615

I believe you amerifats have a chemical in your diet soft drinks that can cause that. Artificial sweeteners are capable of that because they arent processed by your body. Don't quote me though.

>>18251584
Not the decent looking ones.

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I could be your trap. Where do you live, anon?

>>18251584
why call them traps and try to disassociate yourself from the fact that you'll be fucking another man like a faggot.

>>18251461
Give us more context on the use of the word here

Hopefully through greentext

I think this is not in any way excusable. Yeah she went out of her way to make you feel inferior - not based on something you did but based on who you are - in public.

Even if she was flooding you with apologies I'd still say fuck her, find a woman who can get angry with you without trying to drag you through the mud in front of her own friends. She sounds like a fucking cunt.

>I'm also not one of those DAS RACIST
There's a difference between being super on top of every joke that might not be appropriate, and not having self respect.

>>18251461

id leave her. if someone calls me a 'faggot' in jest thats fine but if were in a serious argument and he or she throws that down, thats pretty fucked up, they are being really malicious at that point and trying to hurt you

>how does one go about finding a prostitute?
Must be American

>>18251272
I would say I have a little bit of a sex addiction. I've banged over 20 women and only hired one prostitute recently, just to see what it's like. I would say no. Definitrly doesn't compare to authentic sex, plus they have these arbitrary bullshit rules that you would never know about inless you hired protistutes before, then you're in the middle of sex and it's weird when you want to do something else. "You only get two positions and we are in the second postion". Weird, unnatractive, bonerkilling bullshit. Plus the whole thing of it - just going out to get a sex worker - it's all weird. Just work on yourself, figure out whatever's wrong, and fix it. I would have preferred to jerk off than have the experience of buying sex in my memory.

>>18251279
It's still really easy in America. I don't get why these kids have so much trouble. I mean yeah we have to go through different channels because the legality but it's still pretty easy.

>>18251272
Sure
The internet
No mouth stuff
You get laid, you wasted money
No, but it will prevent the the ones you really don't want though