I'm in love with a lesbian.
I know that we will never be together.
We are the best friends.
She knows about my feelings towards her.
She loves me too, but not romantically.
I was never connected to someone as much as to her.
We are bonded together, like as we were born for each other.
I know that she's gay but her cute fucking face and the hottest body fools me.
Shit's painful.
I wouldn't have anyone if I'd cut her off, and even if I had, she's way too special for me to let her go.
When will I stop loving her? It's been over a year and when I think it's finally fading away, it hits even harder. We've been separated for a few months last year, even that didn't help.
you post this thread everyday
All lesbians want the dick to some degree, you're not attractive enough, work on it.
>>18254925
>I know that she's gay but her cute fucking face and the hottest body fools me.
Go jerk off or get laid. You'll find that shits diminished. Stop thinking with your dick.
>we are bonded together, like as we were born for each other
Bullshit. Even if she WASN'T gay, she'd still not want to be with you. You are using her going gay as a crutch to convince yourself that in some universe--were things different--it would work. It would not. It would be the same thing. She would just a straight girl who you pine after instead of a gay girl.
Don't use her being gay as a reality and face the facts, you are NOT meant to be.
I say this as a straight guy, who has a gay female best friend--who HAS been curious about trying for a relationship and has even had OTHER long term non-bi gay girls do the same.
If she was at all interested, she'd might be willing to entertain the idea for half a second. But she's not. So that's the end of story. (Even if she was, in my experience that shit comes from a place of deep inner conflict about their own identity rather than genuine interest).
Take away the crutch that you're leaning on. Face reality and move forward with you life
>be 23
>lost my virginity last year
>only had sex a couple of times
>get tinder
>suddenly have a date lined up
>agreed to movies and chill with another
>two girls in one week
>owatf.jpg
Never really been on a date in my life, much less a tinder one. How should I approach this?
Same with casually hooking up with a stranger, how do I go about it if things came to that?
>>18254904
Don't overthink it.
>>18254911
Thing is, I've been really shy all of my life. Coming out of my shell more and more but meeting new people still isn't my Forte so I like to have a gameplan
>>18254949
Fuck tinder. All you do is feed bitches while they browse there phones for more tinder dates. Maybe every 3rd of 4th date you have a chance to fuck. But its slim.
I'm going to visit a relative soon and I was wondering if it would be okay to bring my PS4 in a carryon bag on my flight there so I can have it when I'm there. What is the general protocol when going through security for that stuff?
>>18254814
>whats in the bag
>os4
>dirty peasant, boys take him for ass inspection
If you are white, they wont even bother checking you. Go on.
>>18254814
It'll be fine.
>>18254814
Should be fine OP.
This was in 2008, but I took an entire PC, monitor and all on a flight from Ohio to Texas as carry-on.
Not sure how much has changed since, as that was the last time I flew.
Is it childish to still decorate your room like pic related if you're an adult?
>>18254812
Childlish is to care about what other thinks about you.
But yea your room looks like a mess. Dat corpse in the middle is very disturbing.
>>18254812
I'll give you a straight answer, but tell me "how old" this "adult" is, and what do they occupy themselves with for most of their waking time.
>>18254812
posters are fine, just dont fucking make it messy
I have a date tonight with the girl who posted this on facebook (she doesn't know I voted for trump). Any tips?
>>18254802
Don't talk about Trump.
>>18254802
Do what all of us forced into silence by the far left did.
Kept politics in the voting booth and hid our power level.
Or just don't date her because you know damn well she's gonna be trying to force her beliefs onto you.
>>18254802
stop basing a significant percentage of your personality on politics.
>identity politics
How can I be the best version of me /adv/?
What philosophy should I follow?
Should I adopt a specific routine?
How to stay motivated and productive?
Yes, these questions can all be easily and succinctly answered! Humanity hasn't been struggling with these issues for the entirety of its existence or anything.
>>18254791
be the change you want to see.
Find animal husbandry fucked up?: go vegan
Find the death of many innocent women in developing countries because the fashion industry wants 2 dollar shirts every week: stop buying cheap clothing.
>>18254912
I wish the world wasn't full of failures. Should I kill myself? It will be the change I want to see.
Breaking up with 1 1/2 year relationship? She's said on numerous occasions that she would hurt herself if we broke up but I need out, she's nuts and only recently started showing her true colors. I was her first kiss, took her virginity, and first real boyfriend. How do I do this without her going completely off the rails? Hoping to do it tonight, any advice is appreciated. Thanks
>>18254774
>She's said on numerous occasions that she would hurt herself if we broke up
Ok, this is abuse. 100%, no kidding, this is common abusive relationship material.
You are absolutely not responsible for anything she does to herself if you leave the relationship. It is, in all probability, a fucking lie put in place to manipulate you, but eve if it isn't, you are not responsible for any self-harm she inflicts upon herself. You are unable to cause it, and you are unable to stop it. The decision rests entirely with her. Staying in a toxic relationship because you're trying to pacify her is a bad idea for everyone involved. Get out now.
Just be clear, be honest, and get right to the point. "I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. It isn't making me happy because X, Y and Z."
Then, just fucking leave. Don't go back to try and make sure she's ok; you will be the worst person in the world to give her emotional support. She'll have to get it from someone else.
>>18254794
thanks man
>>18254774
Basically me also but 9 year old relationship. She basically threatens suicide anytime we have an argument and she starts "losing" (no valid arguments left, she only talks about how she feels, starts throwing punches, etc.).
we've kind of agreed to break up but we can't just separate and need to wait until she moves back to her country.
oh yeah she also pulled a knife on me once and literally threatened to kill me and then played the victim.
A girl i love very much and made out with a few times just told me she doesnt think she feels the same way and meaybe we should take a break so she can make sure she is doing the right thing. What the fuck should i do. Im literally so heartbroken its hard to type. How do i cope with this. What do i do. PLEase just anything
>>18254763
>in love after making
>literally so heart broken
Why dont you reach between your legs and see if your balls are still there you huge fucking girl.
Stop allowing yourself to have feelings or be vulnerable at the beginning of the relationship. Think of it as something you can walk away from at any time. The chick should be earning your trust by showing respect. Chick is late to see me without warning? Dropped. Chick tries to postpone more than once, dropped.
Cope with this by going to the gym and getting hotter than her. Turn it into spite and get out of her league.
Just move on. It hurts, yeah, it sucks, yeah, but there's really nothing you can do about her if she's not into you. Just focus on you. Go out with friends, get stoned, things'll be not so bleak tomorrow.
>>18254775
>you huge fucking girl.
>Stop allowing yourself to have feelings
>Turn it into spite
Well, you seem like a healthy, well-balanced individual.
So basically my gf dumped me for some other dude and i've been going crazy sitting in my parents house alone for 6 months just getting un-fat and playing vidya like an autist.
I was wondering what are some good places to go to meet friends and girls alone? im 21, and everytime i think of a place i feel like im just going to look like a lonley autist no matter where i head to.
TL:DR above average looking dude needs to get out and wants places suggested to go alone to.
>>18254749
School
Gym
Swimming pool
Cinema
Bar
Disco
Library
Work
>>18250471
Get a job.
>>18254760
>get a job
i completely agree with this one and will start applying, thanks
>gym
i have a personal trainer monday-friday so i can't really go to the gym except for weekends.
>swimming pool
never thought of this, as soon as the neighborhood one opens im there
>cinema
>library
ill try it, but how do you meet people in a place where you're supposed to be quiet and sit next to friends?
>disco
>bar
Do you have personal experience with this you can share? just walk in and sit down and order a drink and try to start conversation with others? or wait til they make a comment and talk to you?
>school
cant until september this year because i got suspended from uni after the break up cause grades dropped.
>>18254749
>Best places for a young male to go solo
if you're not too young, i would say chaturbate
For anyone who has gone to a therapist, did it make things better?
I've thought about going for years and a few close friends (when I had friends) said I should look into it. Is it worth the time/money?
>>18254668
Depends on the therapist. When I was a kid I bounced between half a dozen different chicks who just sat and talked with me for an hour, that shit never did anything. Eventually started seeing this dude who'd take me out for runs, have me help work on shit at his office, got me into martial arts. That helped. You just gotta get someone who's willing to pay attention to you and figure out what works for you, not just try to work through their Psychology 101 checklist
>>18254668
It helped me a lot.
Granted - I have an amazing therapist.
>>18254668
If you find one you get along with, they can help. Sometimes it helps just to have someone to talk to, but if you're all talk and no action, they can also help keep you on a path towards your goals. The most important thing is you click with them. My last therapist blamed me for the main reason I came to her for. I only saw her for a few sessions. Finding my next one took time and the help of an organization that helps people in crisis.
>Be immigrant
>Essentially stuck here for 2 more years due to education/ economic reasons
>So fucking lonely and depressed, thinking about suicide all the time.
>Call my parents back home and try to talk, their hearts are in the right place but they don't know how to help
>Back home there is free therapy and counselling for people with problems like mine, here the government is poor as fuck so the public healthcare is basic, and my insurance won't cover mental health issues
What can I do, /adv/?
Immigrant where and from?
From the UK, in Spain
>Mfw the ad at the top is the /Diy/ noose gif
A guy named Carl lives somewhere in Europe and has a long distance girlfriend named Stacy in the US. The girl starts becoming friendly with some new guy in the US (lets call him Chad) and eventually starts sleeping with this new guy without her boyfriend knowing.
Chad thinks what he's doing is 100% fine. He thinks that the only person in the wrong is Stacy, and knew that her sleeping with him would mean she's cheating on her boyfriend. In fact, Chad doesn't like Carl very much, and is partially courting Stacy out of resentment for him, but mostly because he can't find another girl right now and really wants to get his dick wet.
I thought it strange that Chad was okay with this behavior. Stranger yet, I asked someone else about this and they thought it was fine too.
Am I crazy for thinking this behavior is kind of fucked up?
>>18254641
You fucked up the moment when you fell in trap called long distance relationship.
Forget about the girl as fast as you can.
>>18254730
This.
>>18254641
The only one who's wrong is Carl, who's claiming ownership over another human being.
Just be honest, does this stream of messages make me sound psycho?
I don't usually get into the long messages with girls but this girl is just very attractive to me for some reason and started messaging me back, when she lost interest I started freaking out sending her dumb shit.
I'm not a psycho right? I already know I struck out. Icy girls like this fuck me up.
that last message was ok but the soup thing was weird
>>18254634
you don't even know what type of soup she likes, why are you being this autistic?
There's a simple proven science to this that I can't believe you guys haven't picked up on it yet
>You send a message
>She responds to the message
And that's it. If she doesn't respond, she's not interested. There's no follow up, there's no "oh I guess you're not interested then?" there's nothing.
It's a fucking internet dating website with a bunch of desperate strangers trying to have sex with eachother. She shouldn't have to tell off every single guy that messages her for them to get the hint.
The soup thing was ok, a little weird, but ok.
The other message was creepy af.
Which is obvious that she thought to.
Gf and I have been together for three months. She's been telling me that she loves me the past month, and is okay with me not saying it back. But now she says the past few days she feels very upset and insecure that I don't say it back.
I never even told me ex who I was with for 7 months that I loved her, and I liked her way more. I just don't think I'm the type of person to say that so quickly.
My current gf is insecure. Whenever I discuss how unhappy I am with my life, she thinks it's something wrong with her, of a failure on her behalf. But she tells me I'm the reason why she's the happiest she's ever been.
Just say you don't love her
Oh god.
He's going to blow that money away in no time.
>>18254628
Just say that you love her too even if you don't. Are you a real nigga or not?
Anyone else learn from other's experiences?
I'm 26, and so far I've never had a girlfriend. I can honestly say it's by choice. I have my life together and take care of myself, so, I think if I really put myself out there, maybe I could get one. But I ask myself, why? Why do that? Yeah, I'm lonley sometimes and wonder what I would be like to have one. But over the years from listening to people's stories and vents, and seeing how people have changed between relationships. Why should I actually experience it? I feel like it's similar to if you saw someone go cliff jumping, and you watched someone get hurt. You probably wouldn't jump after seeing that. So what makes that any different with relationships?
>>18254543
Why live with that logic?
>>18254552
It was what we were taught as kids. "Learn from others mistakes". I've just applied it to other aspects of life. I am a very observant person, so I notice things. I listen to advice of others, and try to not repeat their mistakes. It's actually helped me quite a bit in my professional life so far
>>18254561
There are certain things you can learn from observing and certain things can only be learned through experience
A relationship is one of the latter