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>>18248715
You'll figure it out, man.

>>18248759
Thank you. I really need help though. Even in my university years I didn't know what to do. Looking back I do now but I found out too late

>>18248794
Have you tried bars and sports? Clubs and activities? There's dating apps as well

>>18248696
What is she into?

Classic punishment is having her be erotically stimulated but she can't fap. Like have her write an erotic story but she can't come until your next skype chat. Or you send her videos she needs to watch but she can't climax or touch herself and just needs to sit them out with a wet snatch.

>>18248696
Shut up.

>>18248701
Anal, bondage, light to medium masochism, exhibitionism, pet play

this post reeks like bullshit, but in case it's real, if the online relationship isn't leading anywhere (eg living together or going to the other's country) then forget it and go with the 'real' girl

the gangbang thing is way too extreme to be true

>>18248688
Yeah that's what I was thinking man, honestly I feel like whenever she mentions rape its bullshit but I've invested a lot of time. Still a gf I could actually touch is better then what I have now.

>>18248695
>18 months ldr
havent visited eachother ever? no plans for it? if so that is a waste of time. i understand how it feels tho, im pretty bad with women irl and i have also clinged to women which are far away, but its pretty toxic (personally)

Try reading a book, homo. Or get a job.

>>18248544
I don't have books

I'm not gay

I'm not able to hold down a job

>>18248543
Videogames were never meant to be enjoyable, so if that's the reason you played them before then you're not too bright.

>>18248540
Why not go with killing yourself? A relatively unknown but very valid choice for transitioners

If you can't afford a good wig, you can't afford to transition.

>>18248642
Interesting option. I'll consider that while fucking your mother.

>>18248646
My insurance is covering a lot and I've got a fair amount in savings, but I don't want to blow all of that on wigs. I'd rather spend more of it on electrolysis and laser hair removal.

>>18248537
Oh shit, wikihow be deep sometimes.

Please keep an open mind about this, but have you ever tried psychedelics? I grew up with huge social anxiety and timidness. With lsd, i feel less and less social anxiety and feel really good about myself.

Some depressed people go to South America for Ayahuasca and they all said that their issues doesnt seem like issues anymore. Read the recent studies released about it

>>18248656
>substances

Sorry, i didnt see that :x

There's meditation.

Read "Happiness" by Matthieu Ricard.

>>18248522
Try deconstructing something you already enjoy, and figure out the inner workings of it(?)

>>18248522
Do you have friends?

>>18248522

stop looking at things as going 'right' or 'wrong'. most things dont really go either way, things just happen. its not good or bad, right or wrong, its just one of the outcomes and life keeps going nayway, so unless it puts your life at WORSE than it currnetly is by some significant horrible degree, whats the problem?

>>18248512
Well where was she though?

>>18248512
How long have you been together?

>>18248519
Im such an idiot. She texted me at around 11:30 that she was working and i want to believe that trust me i do. Then she told me to just go home and she was sorry. Basically i think i did mess up, because she had orientation for school the next day and she had to be up early, and shes pretty responsible :(

so i really think i fucked up, but the thing is she hasnt blocked me on social media and she hasnt deleted any of the pics of us on them either???? idk what this means

shes honestly my first girlfriend, i dont want to lose her

>>18248473
I am willing to bet you simply haven't asked enough women out. Keep trying and come back after you have asked out at least 100.

>>18248473
correct

remember, in the grand scale of history, only 20% of men passed on their genes (compared to 80% of women)

Some people, as they are, are not capable of a relationship. Most have the potential and ability to improve themselves and get themselves together, but many never do, and there sadly are some people who just fundamentally can't formulate and/or sustain a relationship.

If she is still hesitant, don't do it. How old are you? Why don't you spend a couple more years with her before conceiving?
>first son
That isn't a guarantee.

>>18248422
I'm 27, and, not really, i'm pretty much mature at mind, and i feel ready to be a father, provide my family and take care of my woman.
I cannot wait, this will be my first son and i don't want to be raising children at fucking 50yo, i want to do it while i'm still young

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>>18248410
>intentionally impregnating a woman you have only been with for a year

You're a born slut, not worthy of relationships.

Women = naturally have boundaries regarding to opposite sex

Slut = naturally no boundaries

>>18248363
>What do I do
Don't flirt, nobody gives a shit if it is part of your personality, just don't do it. There are ways to interact with guys without flirting, figure it out.
> I often share personal things with others
Don't do so with guys who aren't your boyfriend/a close friend you had before your boyfriend.
>I tried to be colder but it makes me very sad.
You are getting too emotionally invested in other people, there is a easy to see line between being a dick and flirting, in fact practically a whole continent between them.
> I feel like I am not expressing myself and I have to put a mask on.
Don't be dramatic just don't flirt. Not flirting isn't not expressing yourself its just not being a flirt.

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>>18248368

>>>/r9k/

Back to your containment board, kiddo.

I fuck your friens while you buy her dinner. Its a win win win

Her win = sex with chad and free dinner from beta

My win = fuck a slut

Your win = waste money on dinner for no sex but you enjoy it cause you're a cuck.

>>18248365
fuck off
>>18248346
Do you know why she wont commit?

>>18248391
We started dating after she broke off a long term relationship, so she was kind of iffy about dating to begin with.

I'm pretty confused about the whole thing. I've talked to her about it and she tells me she wants to be friends but she feels stronger about me than a friend

>>18248310

you're dumb

>>18248310

It takes like 30 seconds to feel and process a feeling

or you can spend your entire life trying to run from it

what is it? guilt? abandonment? shame?

The reason you have "intrusive" thoughts is because you're trying to repress things. Your brain wouldn't be forcing you to remember or confront something if it wasn't important.

>>18248322
The issue is that I feel these things too strongly. I have no problem feeling and processing emotions, as I frequently scream in rage at the remembrance of a three year old slight or a year old indignation. I am not asking for healthy behavior, but for effective brain gimping. The only thing I can think of that would resolve these issues is murder or maiming, but seeing as that's illegal, it's out of the question.

I am not looking to be healthy, only superficially functional.

>>18248293

be the main character in your own life, not a satellite character in some wannabe disney film where the guy only has two lines.

>>18248293

By dating someone new. It's literally the only way to move forward. Feelings can linger for years sometimes but if you meet others you begin to see the things you lacked. The first love is almost never the best. Increasing your experience will help you define more clearly what you want in a partner and it'll be easier to pass up opportunities you know will be a waste of your time.

>>18248302

>by dating someone new
>its literally the only way to move forward

no, this is fucking dumb, yes it helps some people but OP clearly has a co dependence issue. dude needs to learn to be happy on his own instead of jumping from one relationship to another.

>>18248289

is there any countr where 'why didnt i get the job?' is seen as anything other than annoying and whiny?

applying for a job is like asking out a girl. there isn't usually a reason you DIDNT get the job/girl, and if there was, it'd be really obvious to you already.

but when you got potentially dozens of people all of whom could handle the job/girl just fine, it ends up going to just whoever the interviewer/girl actually got along with. it doesn't say anything negative about anything else, it just says 'hey this person felt like a better fit to me specifically'.

>>18248289

jobs dont care if its perfect for your 'current situation with regards to future plans'. if you call and ask they likely wont remember why you got declined, they will just say they chose someone else. and with only one job to fill it just goes to whoever they think is best, not to whoever thinks it would be perfect for their current situation.

you cannot weasel in by asking what you did wrong they wont say 'wow, you're right, you meet the basic requirements, were gonn afire the guy we chose and go with you'.

>>18248296
I know my want for the position isn't an argument, I wrote that to explain my motivation for this thread.