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>>18246015
The only step left is getting into anonymous group sex and swingers parties.

>>18246015

Use toys, 69 it, wall sex, floor sex, table sex, sex in a car, sex outside, whatever new place comes in mind. Tie her up, let her tie you up. Fuck discreetly somewhere in public, fuck indiscreetly in public. There're tons of options. Ask her about her fantasies and share yours.

Scat?

>>18245938
You have to do something. Anything. You don't have to be good at it, you just have to do it. (Personally, I recommend programming. It has a very low barrier to entry.) If it doesn't work out, that's fine, just keep doing. You won't get motivated if you don't even start.

YOU CANNOT STEER A PARKED CAR.

>>18245960
I would love to program.

I've tried it before, but with all things I do, I ultimately forget about it and give up. I have no idea how to maintain and interest? I can be interested out the wazoo, but I lose motivation eventually and revert back to my escapism hobbies. I literally spend all the time from when I get home to when I go to bed fucking looking at my phone. It's pathetic.

>>18245979
Also, please excuse the awful typing. I'm on my fucking phone as we speak...

tell yo dad teh trooth. Waiting makes it worse.

>>18245066

I know what's happening is terrible but please don't put yourself in the middle of it. Sometimes there's more going on then you may be aware of.
Maybe talk your mother into confessing instead.

>>18245066
do mods remake the same topics on some kind of schedule to keep this board alive or what?

Just
Fucking
Ask
Her

Text her to see if she wants to get lunch on Saturday and see what happens. She knows you exist and presumably you haven't done anything to disgust her, so take a shot.

>>18243693
We commute and live on opposite ends of the school

Also I thought texting to ask girls out was a bad idea? That's what I've always heard.

I've literally never texted anyone in my life either, fuck that'd feel so awkward.

>>18243699
For clarification the commuting part is in reference to why I don't think a Saturday lunch date would work out

Laughing at all the fatties on my social media getting pissed about the unicorn drink = three candy bars thing going around. A treat every once in a while, sure, but these are people who are definitely overweight if not obese getting SO OFFEND that people dare to point out how much sugar is in those things, and it's fucking hilarious. Make better choices for myself? Stop body shaming me!

If you read these, pls talk to me now and say it's still great if I move to NC. I am finishing out the next couple of pay periods, buying that guitar tomorrow, selling the stuff I can't take and taking a 20hr bus ride out there to be with you because I love you and won't let this promise be like the last few. I'm getting a restaurant job there and living there so I can finally be with you again. I know you probably think I was making promises I can't keep, but I'm doing this. I'll be out there in less than a month.

>>18243105
I'm only capable of being happy because I choose not to think about how old I am and how much I could have been if I took my life serious earlier

>>18241154
Hey guys,
did you know that I have a giirrrrrrrllfriend ;) ;) ;)

>>18241160
Fuck off you lonely idiot.

>>18241154
>Announces when she's about to fart
It's not a problem that she farts. >Everyone does it. But she announces it every single time even when I don't notice it. It's unnecessary, not cute, and kind of gross.

What kind of autistic fiona are you dating holy kek

Also it's annoying when my gf tries to call me

>>18248036

not really. i mean she might be a little insecure, and she might be a little compensating, but thats normal in a relationship, its just usually the guy who does that.

>>18248036
Call them out on their shit you beta.

I'd be fucking pissed if people noseyed in on my business. I'd tell them rightly to fuck off

>>18248036
What qualities have they made that determination based on?

Looks, money, race, fat, brains?

>>18247903

Knowing you'll be a culture fit is an important part of you being in my office. We do things outside of the office, we communicate with other businesses, and you're a representative of my company when you leave the office at the end of the day.

That's why I need to know you're not a wasteful sack of shit outside of the job and can at least pretend to have some damn hobbies.

If you have some sort of sport or hobby that you're in, it shows a certain amount of dedication and skill - perhaps even something that can come in handy at work, depending on what you do.

If you go skydiving on the weekends, it shows that maybe they shouldn't hire you and rely on you as you're bound to splat on the ground eventually and not show up for work on Monday.

If you have family or pets, it shows that you have a support network, and are capable of dealing with responsibilities.

If you like killing stray cats with a BB gun, it shows that you might upgrade to killing irritating co-workers with a real gun, and that can put a damper on business.

So the things you do for fun, while they seem like nobody's business but your own, can tell an employer something about you. Obviously only share what you want, but if you have something you really care about besides gaming in your boxers and eating cheetos, it could help you get the job. I wouldn't make anything up unless you have enough knowledge and bullshit game on the subject to back it up, though.

>>18247903
It's because a dude whose hobbies are Jiu Jitsu, learning languages, and oil painting is probably more driven and focused than a dude who spends all his time shoving shit into his mouth while frying his brain on a tv screen.

>>18247883
Here's a really bizarre, off-the-wall idea.

Since you think so highly of her, how about, instead of trying to come up with ways that you can exploit her for your sexual jollies, you thought about trying to find ways to make HER life better?

Dumb idea, huh?

>>18247898
Because thats not the set up I want. I have known her quite a while, and I know that when shes single and depressed, she basically becomes a blowjob dispenser. I want a submissive girl who basically does everything I want on a whim... from what shes told me, she used to be really slutty before she got into her relationship and is now but only toward her partner, she also has told me about how she'll have sex with her partner, even when shes not in the mood, even if she really just wants to scream no. Also based on some of the stuff shes said, her partner will just flat out manipulate her into sex... acting upset or mad when she doesn't give it up, and SHE feels guilty about making not fucking.
She cooks, She cleans, She polishes knobs and is completely drama free, her partner causes all the problems in their relationship, and is the reason its so rocky and shitty.

>>18247883
Lmao man just tell her she looks cute or some shit and that she shouldn't let herself be abused. Give her an ear, listen and make her feel appreciated by you

Then if you still don't feel bad for manipulatilng someone you clearly have no feelings for, you drop the D bombs and snatch her from the abusive relationship

>>18247765
Have sex with him.

>>18247775
Yo im not homo

Jesus christ dude. You fucked up here

>willpower
Stupid suggestion
>sports
Good suggestion, endorphins and social contact definitely help.
>finding a hobby
Hobbies do not distract from the eternal nothingness that is depression
>watching movies that motivate
Completely stupid suggestion
>positive thinking
Stupid thing to suggest to a depressed person, you can't just ''positive think'' depression away, jesus dude

>>18247538
>Do I do a witty one-liner and express some confidence?
No to the former, yes to the latter. Remember, girls are human beings. Try talking to them like one.

>>18247551
i wasnt gonna go and "hey i see me in your pants bc mirror ecks dee", i meant more icebreakers or something not dirty

>>18247551
>Remember, girls are human beings
This is retarded advice. No shit they are, duh?
The difference, obviously, is that they are human beings you are interested in dating, unlike men. And you don't just go up to a random dude to talk to him unless you need something from him, but you want to talk to a girl simply because you are attracted to her, there's a difference.
Besides the fact that nowadays saying hi to a stranger female in many places is considered sexual harrasment and that legit a lot of women will think it's creepy if a guy randomly talks to her and doesn't say something that makes perfect sense in the context.

>>18247534
it takes a few sessions for the psychologist to come to any kind of helpful diagnosis. What you think you have and what you actually have might be two very different things. The psychologist is also looking for things that are not obvious to you.

In the US (at least, in programs that I've been exposed to through friends working as therapists, it could be different in certain areas), you won't generally be able to JUST go to a psychiatrist. They're WAY too busy for that. They usually work by having therapists see patients and take notes and make a diagnosis and write reports, which the psychiatrist reads to make the medical decisions like what course of treatment to pursue (if it is pills) or kicks it back to the therapist (if it is something that can be worked through with therapy alone).

one final point, $25 is a fucking steal for a therapy appointment.

>>18247548
Here in Poland it is the same, you can not get to psychiatrist just like that. That's why I went to a psychologist, I think you call them therapists. I think it works the same way. I think I will need pills though.

So how many times will I have to go to that therapist until she decides anything? Because I will go broke if I will have to pay 25 dollars each week for too long lol.

>>18247560
in the US they have a limited number of sessions, depending on your insurance, to come to a diagnosis. At which point they can start treatment which may begin with you seeing the psychiatrist for meds, then more or less frequent sessions, depending on how your disorders are. The ones you're describing usually need weekly sessions, if not more frequent, in addition to meds (which themselves take a few weeks to kick in), to see any real changes to your quality of life.

usually it's 3 or 4 but I think it can be up to 6 or 7 depending on the insurance or what they think the diagnosis might be.

Is $25 a lot of money in Poland? I'm not sure the exchange rate. in the US a therapy session can cos between 100-200+ without insurance, depending on the type of therapist you're seeing (psychoanalysts charge a LOT sometimes).

sports

>I've been to a few meetups (clubs, volunteering, even a church) but it felt awkward

It's always awkward in the start. You'll have to keep at it. Getting to know people and building a social circle takes time.

Keep showing up, and it'll soon feel less awkward and people with be more including.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect

>>18247535
This also depends on your role at the activity and why people attract to roles of power. If you're constantly on the sidelines, never getting seen, you're not going to seem like you want social connections. Should you start moving up the ladder and people need you more, that's when others will start singling you out as a person and not just a cog.

>>18247390
turn off all screens and non natural light sources for about a week.

>>18247390
Be careful of when you eat. If you fast for a day and eat a meal at a normal meal time, it will help you reset.

>>18247398
>>18247406

While these both seem like sensible small parts of a bigger strategy, they don't really seem like a fix. Anything more overarching? Medicine? Staying up until certain times? Sleep deprivation?

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>>18247225
First majority of girls are qties simply because gaussian distribution. I dont know why exactly is your self worth so low to aim for uggos or shy ones, but there are few of them and their self imagine is so low they are hidden so well in their basements you simply cant meet them.

Second stop claiming you are beta. That is retarded meme. Improve your life instead. Job, education, some emotional stability and confidence is welcomed.

Have you tried to ask the qties out? You would be surprised that even qties are looking for some guy like you.

>>18247252

I allready tried the improvment thing. I live in my own flat, I have proper hygiene, eventho I'm not financially independant from my parents just yet I have a part time job that earn me some money.

I just can't get confident when it comes to women. I've got friendzoned 4 times now, and rejected 5. I'm just a "nice guy" to them, which could be worse frankly but it's still painfull as fuck.

That's why I was thinking lowering my aim was a good idea.

>>18247272
I cant even inagine what kind of r9k robot you were before when you consider
>proper hygiene
as an improvement :-D

So you tried to date 9 girls so far. Good. Now go date another 30 girls.

To not get friendzoned, you just have to keep pushing boundaries until the girl either falls in love with you or say fuck off. Try to kiss them, tell them how sexy they are, that they are arousing you, try to grope them (from handholding to trumps pussy grab).

Just keep dating girls op. It doesnt matter how many times you fail, what matters is that you need to succeed once!