Hey /adv/, I was arrested a couple of months ago for a very minor violation, and now it seems that they are looking to put me through trial. The thing is, the crime is very innocuous. I was basically sitting in a lounge area with my laptop when I was ordered to leave by one of the owners. So, I left. Apparently, though, a cop decided to come arrest me at my home without even asking me for my side of the story first. I'd like to scan the police report too so that you can see how dumb this case is. Anyway, I was forced to hire a lawyer and now the DA plans to go trial over this and the biggest bullshit is that the plea deal is 60 days prison. The one thing working against me is that I do have a trespassing crime prior that happened 3 years ago, but now I'm forced to go through a $5,000 trial because I was looking for a quiet space with my laptop, and I don't have that kind of money handy.
Yes, send us your charge sheet. You don't spend 60 days in jail for trespassing.
>>18250539
Even with one prior.
>>18250704
Not even homeless niggers on crack go to lockup for 60 days. Show your charge sheet or GTFO.
I need advice in terms of what do I do with myself now.
My dream was to become a pilot in the Air Force, and I had a very thorough and effective plan laid out. Now that I'm in the Air Force though I don't feel like pursuing becoming a pilot. I don't know what I want to do or be anymore. I'm pretty much just riding out my four years in the military saving money and taking classes. How do I find out who I'm supposed to be?
>>18250454
What's your job in the AF right now?
>>18250466
I'm AMMO, it's not at all what I want to be doing for the rest of my life.
>>18250468
They allow you to 'cross-train' or something, I believe, right? So that you can eventually switch off into another?
The AF probably has the largest amount of jobs that will benefit you after getting out.
I plan to join in the next two years, and a year ago I remember looking vividly into plans for certain IT-based jobs there, and abusing the fact that I'd have a TS, with learning a language while having obtained a degree in the four/six years, something like that, and just doing that could have netted me some crazy-good jobs, though, I'm sure _doing_ all of that would be stressful as hell.
I'd suggest finding out what you enjoy, then sifting through the list of jobs that compliment your interests, while also being beneficial to the real world after you get out. If it requires a TS then all the better, even, if you were willing to do that, and more-over if you are willing to trudge the the shit of getting a degree that will also compliment it (if it helps increase the pay by a lot for w/e it is, at least).
How to retain dignity when it appears crush doesn't like you back?
>attracted to girl, can't stop thinking about her
>work with her so can't exactly avoid her
>she sends out confusing mixed signals but on balance it seems she's not interested (she has a bf who she gratuitously brings up alarmingly often out of nowhere)
>I've been trying to portray myself as cool and laidback and haven't made any kind of "move"
>still ridiculously attracted to her but I don't want to screw myself and look like a fucking loser
What do?
thanks in /adv/ance
nothing
>>18250440
>she has a bf
well fucking duh she's not interested
She has a boyfriend. She's not interested in you. Accept the fact that this isn't happening. Smoke pot and jack off thinking about her.
Help /b/, I get in these moods where i fuck up my life. Ive noticed them for the past 3 years, i struggle explaining them to people and normally just get passed off as lazy or unmotivated but i know this isnt entirely true.
I will just get super depressed, sad and unmotivated over the smallest hiccup, sometimes it even gets triggered by nothing.
The mood is just depression. I stop caring, i will just plan suicide, by plan i mean a detailed plan of how, when, what, where, notes etc. and then i cant force myself to do anything, all i can think is that im going to be dead soon so doing this doesnt matter, at the time i know the consequences and try to tell myself that im not going to kill myself but it doesnt work.
The consequences on my life have been extremely negative, i lost a scholarship and got fired from an amazing job.
Anyone else here experienced this? overcome this? able to offer any help or assistance ?
tldr: I get super depressed and plan suicide, it stops me from going to work and shit because im in the mindset of "im going to die, so nothing matters"
So stop it. Stop deliberately sabotaging yourself because you don't believe you deserve success. Stop the negative self talk.
>>18250451
I do believe i should and can be successful. Normally i will apply for loads of jobs and help out around the house as much as i can. When im not in these moods i feel super good and mostly happy.
but when i get in these moods its like a switch, i cant stop it, because when you truly believe that your going to die, later that day or tomorrow how can you find the motivation to get up and go to work. Thats the mind set im in, i know its not normal but i have no idea how to go about fixing it
So I approached this beautiful girl while grocery shopping. Turns out she's kinda freaky herself and she's two years older than me (25)
She says she'd be up for meeting for drinks on the weekend.
I might have the opportunity to get some good shrooms. I'm pretty experienced with shrooms but always wanted to take it with a girl. Is this a stupid idea if I propose we both take it on our first "date"?
Anyone tried this?
>tfw you wanna do weird shit cause you know she likes it and it'd be different than the bunch of other guys trying to get with her
Pic looks similar to her
where the shrooms from
>>18250426
Yes where the shrooms tell us, trying to get some myself
>>18250426
bad idea on a first date
How do I teach my girl to give a good bj?
>>18250415
Get a decent enough guy friend and show her how it's done.
Women need leaders - men who'll take charge - and a good leader leads by example.
>>18250415
How she fucking the bj up? Ha i dated a girl who wouldnt put her mouth on it. She just jack it by the head and spit.
>>18250415
Coming from a femanon:
Be clean. Like fresh out of the shower. Junk smells like junk, but make sure that you are fully clean.
Also start slow. Kissing the dick to sucking the head to bobbing on the shaft ect. Don't expect her to have the throat of a pornstar right off the bat.
A crush generally fades in a few months, but do your feelings for this person completely disappear when it's no longer a real crush, or do you still find them (vaguely) attractive?
>>18250401
I think every guy I ever had a crush for is attractive. But, yeah, I don't feel stuff for them.
>>18250401
I think you will always find them attractive and now add a dash of nostalgia with it.
My middle school crush just looks like a random woman 10 years later now
There's this cute girl I met a few weeks ago.
> We talk on a daily basis.
> We get along pretty well.
But we have almost zero time to hang out.
> We both work (on separate towns).
> We both have our hobbies.
Weekends seemed to be the perfect time, and it was for a couple times. But now she found yet another hobby to deal with on weekends.
That's great that she gets to do what she likes, but I get the idea that I'm not one of them, as she ends up never having time for me, and has no issue in adding one more thing in her life.
Am I seeing this the wrong way?
I mean, we like each other, we have both showed affection for each other before, but how am I supposed to deal with all this no-time thing?
>>18250391
Probably yes, but not for you, there's nothing wrong with going out with girls for short periods of time, lot of people i know do this.
If you're not 100% sure you can build a relationship with that person it's better not to do it, i commited the mistake of getting into a relationship with a girl i got along pretty well, but have nothing in common, and now i'm having a hard time trying to break with her, she doesn't want to break with me since she says she loves me and miss me, but at the same she has 0 time for me and it's not willing to give up her duties. Everytime i bring this issue she says i should give her time, but it's been almost a month already and she still doesn't show any interest of changing her mind, and i'm growing tired and sad each day.
So, nope, don't get involved, it will only bring you down in the long term.
Bump?
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>>18250414
Thanks a lot for your input! The thing is, we do have a lot in common, she is not just some cute girl that happens to like having me around.
What I'm trying to weigh here is:
A) Go back to Tinder miserable nights and having no one that understands me to talk to
and
B) Trying to get closer to this girl, even though this might take a very long time and I might never get there
>break up with fiancee due to reasons
>she immediately has someone else and lives happily ever after
>none of my business, but feel discarded and still heartbroken af
>after two weeks force myself to get a FWB
>she's totally my type and everything
>feel absolutely nothing
>can't stop thinking about ...her
>FWB even picks up on it a few times, like 'hey... I just lost you. What were you thinking?'
Why can't I just move on like she did? How can she just forget me, while my heart is still completely torn for her? It's so fucking unfair.
How come some people can rebound so easily? I don't understand. I don't want to hurt so much anymore.
>>18250357
Give it time and try to eventually date your fwb.
Here check video about penguins to get better:
>>18250336
>>18250357
Women have no hearts and always move on insanely quick.
Oh what's that, two days after breaking up? She's already riding someone's dick.
So you dumped her and she found someone else quickly?
Hey friends
So I've been with my girl for a decent amount of time now, and she wants to have sex, but I intentionally stop every time she wants PiV, no matter how much she wants it.
I do this because I fear I will just completely give in to my primal urges and just fuck her like an animal. It kind of worries me because even if she wanted it, I wouldnt be able to stop when I started. I feel like I'm ready to pounce on her and just completely dominate her without any kind of reason, just giving in to my lust and urges.
She's starting to get annoyed, and I tell her I just can't because I'll lose control of myself and it bothers me. So I need advice from both genders. For guys, what did you do? Did you give in and just take her and use her to your hearts content? For girls, did you experience it, did you like it, what were you feeling?
Dude being an animal during sex is fucking normal
And yes women like it
What you are really going to do is cum fast and be a disappointment.
>Can't control myself
>like an animal
>>18250334
Not everyone comes super fast like that
Where can I find and date a nerdy chick?
Are they in the wild? Do they use dating sites?
Conventions
>>18250295
Have seen some on dating sites. It exists.
>>18250295
Nerd girl does what nerd boys do. Sitting in basement, endorsing herself with stuff she is interested in and doesnt give a fuck about boy because her dragon dildo is fun enough.
Once she eventually hits "maturity", she realizes that there is more to life than masturbation and her hobbies and starts seeking bf the same way all girls do.
So yes, you should be able to find some on dating sites or in any real life situations. They will just be minority.
So spin the wheel of dating game and let the hunt begin!
Anyone have experience dating Catholic girls? I have a date with one, but I didn't know she was Catholic before we exchanged numbers and set a day/time. I've only dated non-religious people in my life, so I have no idea what to expect.
Do they not have sex before marriage? Are they difficult to talk to? Are they open to dating Atheists? Is this going to be a waste of time?
This is going to surprise you, but in this day and age, the religion a person identifies with doesn't dictate everything they do.
>>18250296
Except the religion of peace, of course.
>>18250296
You are a retard, have you seen what Muslim women wear?
>certain individuals think it's acceptable to act tough and violent towards me because i decide to not meet their threats with actual repercussions
>start getting more and more bold with actions
>patience gets thinner and thinner
I know I know, bigger man etc. but shouldn't one but their foot down when they are challenged by another. I don't want to lose credibility as a man by looking so complacent. I fear that simply attempting to talk it out won't do as it would only serve to make me look even more passive. Should I just stop being a team player and start meeting their advances with physical rebuttal?
OP you sound and type like a faggot but in general yes,
1) stand up for yourself
2) sometimes you have to smack a bitch
M-muh physical rebuttal
>>18250284
bitch first off eat a dick. ill type how i want and second yeah you are right i do need to slap a bitch
>>18250280
What culture allows you to be so passive and still consider yourself a man?
>lose weight
>dress nice
>go out
>give girls numbers and ask for them
>talk to a lot of girls on dating sites
>still not a single fucking date
Why the fuck do girls immediately ghost you and shit when you try to move for meeting up, or showing any kind of romantic interest? How the fuck am I supposed to do this shit, I've tried playing it so many different ways, but no matter what I don't ever have any success.
Do I just need to keep trying? Keep giving cute girls my number, hoping they call, keep using stupid dating sites. Is persistence the key to all this?
Did you actually think that losing weight and dressing nice was going to land you a girl?
Looks attract people, personality keeps them interested. If you haven't done anything about your personality, you're not going to get much further.
>>18250262
Would you go out with someone you had no interest in?
Persistence is key. Be patient.
>>18250268
I've been going to therapy for 6 months, I feel like I've improved a lot when it comes to personality.
>>18250270
I'll talk to them for days and we get along well, then I take the step forward of meeting and instantly I'm shot down or ghosted.
Can I reverse the damage porn has done to me?
>>18250219
maybe, what kind of damage are we talking about
>>18250222
I used to be able to get hard simply by looking at attractive women
Now I masturbate to really degenerate shit (no scat or piss yet though) and cant even get hard looking at naked chicks IRL
>>18250223
That's performance anxiety, not "damage porn has done."