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Hello /adv/, so basically I want to do what the title states, I want to accept me being ugly more.

I already have good hygiene, I have a good wardrobe, I'm not in a bad shape (although I'm still working out) and all of that, my problem is my bone structure, my receding hairline and proportions that I can't change in general...

Sometimes I feel good but other days I feel terrible sometimes I can't even look at my own shadow without hating my body... right now I feel really bad, I saw myself at a fucking mirror in a store and I just hate myself... but it's not even about other people, it's been a while since someone has literally called me ugly and I don't feel too bad when someone looks at me, I just hate looking at myself, I don't even have problems talking to girls (although they always make clear they don't want anything romantic with me but they're not as rude as before).

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Basically Pic related sums it up.

When I was a kid I first realized what frivolous arguers were. I still don't know what to call them but I've always been able to detect them since.

It goes like this: Asking somebody to hand you a screwdriver

>"Hey, I need that screwdriver next to you"
>"well technically you don't need it, I mean are you going to die without it?"
>"dude, I need to get this shit finished"
>"well technically you don't need to finish the job, you won't die if it's not finished"
>"I need the money I get from the job"
>"well technically you don't need money, you could use other means to survive, I mean what did the ancients do before they created money?"
>"are you going to help me or not?"
>"oh did you want me to hand you the screwdriver? Because technically you just stated that you need it and never requested that I hand it to you"
>"hand me that damn screwdriver!!!"
>"well technically it doesn't drive screws, you do, it's just the intermediary device in the transmission of force"
>"I'm going to fucking kill you with this breaker bar"
>"so you and the breaker bar are going to kill me? Because technically you're going to USE the bar to - "
> ****WHACK*****

When I was about 11 years old, I learned that it's just easy to let them think they won something and the first few times they'll smugly grin and basically do their "nanana boo boo" tone of voice and run off satisfied. After so many encounters, though, they see that I'm not engaging them and giving them what they want, which is to create a challenge and win, and it frustrates them to no end, which is fucking gratifying having that control over them.

I have then just said "well if that helps you sleep at night", shrugged and walked away or ignored them or if they persist, just sarcastically and demeaningly say "izat right?" or "oh yeah?" even though I'm clearly not listening.

Now one of these turds works at my company... (part 2)

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More bad stuff happened to me today, should I drink with friends tonight?

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Hi 4chan. Im a 20 year old male who is in love with his male best friend who's 23.


A year and a half ago I moved to study at the university and immediately made best friends with this dude. About 9-10 months later, I realised I am in love with him and this is the first time I've fallen for a man.

We spend A LOT of time together studying, gym three times a week, watching TV or hanging out (also doing a fair amount of weed, MDMA, mushrooms and LSD).
Overall, I have never had a psychological relationship like this one, and we have developed an almost immediate understanding of each other.

That being said, Im quite sure he knows that I love him more than just a best friend.
I can tell with certainty that he has a lot of love for me, as he has developed a few situations which were eerily romantic (especially when stoned), but I can't say with 100% (maybe 70%) that it's the same way.

Months ago, before this escalated to what it is, he moved in with his girlfriend of 4 years and they have a very healthy and stable relationship, and I can genuinely say Im happy for them.

I also know her quite well, and I honestly think their relationship is based on an agreement that none of them want to be alone. They do love each other, but I consider it a somewhat shallow relationship, although that doesn't matter now.

The problem here is: I can't really move on. I don't want to talk openly about this to him because, despite it being quite obvious to all of us, it would definitely damage our relationship and I dont want to do that.
This is making dating other people quite difficult because I simply dont have interest in others, male or female.

Im quite good-looking and confident, and could easily start dating 9/10s because I've had them contact me first, but I just don't care.

How can I move on from him?
Should I attempt to stay away? pic unrelated

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I've had sex about 4 times and it still hurts. Each time is about a month apart, do u have to have sex everyday or more consistently in order for it not to hurt? And when does it start to feel good? We have done many different positions and at times it feels good but usually I can't focus because of the pain. I have not orgasmed yet but my partner does every time and it feels good to pleasure him. We have done everything besides anal

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Texting advice


I met a girl a few days ago through some common friends at a party. We got along well but didn't really do anything. Now out of the blue she texts me saying she wants to get to know me better. Long story short I told her to wait after I finish exams (~1 month) and she seems fine with it.

The thing is I don't know if I should keep texting her from time to time or just wait until I finish and then text her.

Any good ideas?

(Dubs unlock extra info)

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i broke up with my ex girl a month and a half ago, here at the quick deets:
>we were together for a year and a half
>good break up, though we both said we loved each other still, it wasnt working out due to her stress with university coupled with her minor mental health issues
>said that i'd wait for her and she was happy because of this but "doesnt want to hold me back", wanted to still be with me but couldnt handle a relationship right now
>say that we wont talk during this time

1.5 month later
>lost most of my feelings for her
>not kissed/fucked anyone else etc, not sure if she has because we havent talked since and her not wanting to "hold me back" could mean she doesnt want to be held back by me either (though shes not the type to sleep around)
>heard she is thinking about messaging me soon from mutual friends
>still think she could be my true love but at the same time doubting myself

what would you do in this situation? is it even worth trying to start up a relationship with her again? has something like this happened to you before?
she was hot as fuck, 10/10 in bed and i connected with her like i haven't done with anyone else, but at the same time, i got REALLY hurt from our break up even though it was good and clean

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Could anyone guess what these girls might be on, if anything?

I've really no experience of drugs, though I did try weed once.

All opinions appreciated.

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Where the fuck can I get a doctors note?
I need one saying I was sick today so I don't get fired from work.

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Alright so i have some pretty curly hair but i look better in wavy hair but the only way i can get wavy hair is by wearing a hat for a few hours which isn't convenient since the weather is getting hotter. any other way to fix my hair?

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Is weed addictive?

I started off smoking with my friends but now I smoke daily just so I can feel confident and "myself"

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>*NEW* How do I ask a friend out without it being awkward, ruining our friendship or putting them on the spot?
You don't. Ask them out or don't ask them out, it's up to you.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, and fart guy
Fuck off

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Where and how do I meet girls?
My problem is that I don't know how or where to meet them. I'm fine with talking and getting to know them, but I don't seem to find anyone I really want to be friends with.

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I'm currently teaching English in Japan which I'm really enjoying. Last year I taught at elementary schools so this year I wanted to try junior high schools to try and give me a better picture of whether I'd like teaching as a career.

I signed on for a contract that was a combination of elementary and junior high, but when I got my school information I'd been assigned four elementary schools, one junior high school and a kindergarten as well. I was pretty disappointed about it, but I figured my company just hadn't gotten many junior high contracts, bad luck.

That was until I met my new co-workers who were assigned 3, 3 and 2 junior high schools respectively. Of course it's too late to say anything now that everything's been assigned, but I can't help but feel really angry and upset about my situation. I was really looking forward to teaching a higher level of students, and would have loved the schedule that any of my co-workers got. It's not that I dislike where I'm working, but I feel like I'm not able to learn more about myself through teaching elementary students again, it's like I'm just wasting a year of my life.

I'm usually good at getting over things, but this really mattered to me and every time I think about it I get angry, upset and depressed.

Can anyone give me advice on how to deal with these feelings? Thanks.

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Is there a male equivalent of baking a cake to show you like someone?