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>>18310402
>won't commit
>is not interested you on an emotional/personal level

Yeah, real winner you got there, OP. Fuck her one more time and then bail. If what you're after is a long term girlfriend/meaningful relationship, this girl is not going to provide that for you. And even if she did, sometime down the road, you'd be a complete dumbass to hitch your wagon to someone so obnoxious.

Respect yourself and your time and invest in someone who wants what you want, straight from the get-go. The moment someone starts to play games, bail. Always bail.

>>18310409
I think she is interested in me on an emotional/personal level though, that's the thing.

How can i test it? What should I ask her?

>>18310427
Ask her how she feels about FWBs with you, so you can look for a romantic partner at the same time and not be exclusive with her. If she's emotionally/personally interested in you she'll object, because she wants to be more than FWBs/just sex with you.

>>18310355

It will likely crash and burn. and thats okay, cuz once you reach a certain point in feelings its hard for someone like you to not let it crash and burn, even if you keep it inside, this thread will just become your internal monologue and you'll be going over the option again and again until it either destroys you or destroys your relationship or you finally tell her and it still destroys the relationship.

Just ask her. I did the same thing. Stewed for months waiting, wondering, worrying. Finally, just did it. I said I know we have become friends but I really like you and would like to go out on a date. I am not sure if you're interested in me that way or not but I thought I would just ask. She said "why do you think I've been hanging around with you? Needless to say we made the date for a few days later. Turned out great.

>>18310381
So what happened? Still together, or?

>>18310342

pros and cons list of each location. hate the cold? new york is probably not better than california then.

hate 8000 dollars for a studio apartment? probably don't want san francisco.

hate spics? well thery're everywhere, but you will have less of them in LA than in SD, so it sounds like LA is your best bet.

you can also try denver for similar weather and less gays.

>>18310347
When I go there, what do I dedicate my time doing? I'm guessing looking at jobs and housing is a given, but what things would I need to find out in person that I wouldn't know before hand?

>>18310356

nothing really. jobs and housing pretty much covers it. anything else would be specific to you, such as what kind of restaurants, what kind of area you want to live in etc.

i think you're over thinking this. which is understandable because where we live seems like a really important thing. but 99% of people are just born where they're born and move wherever opportunity tkaes them instead of making a calculated decision. considering we spend most of our time in our homes, and even when we go out, every city is going to have clubs, restaurants, and other similar shit, it doesn't actually matter where you live unless you have an extreme preference for weather and climate (beach vs plains etc)

How is this even possible? Block the number and move on.

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There isn't even a number, everything is just blank so I cannot select it.

>>18310313
give your network a call, let 'em know.

>>18310307
Most professors give test problems based on the ones worked out in class. Redo these yourself and make sure you understand every step. Do the homework and after that open the textbook and try to solve every problem in the section being tested on. Skip sections that are beyond the scope of the class. Once you feel confident try tutoring some of the slower kids in class. The best way to learn something is to teach it.

>>18310307
You just have to do it. Read the problem. Find out what information they give. Find out what they're asking. Find a way to turn that information into a solution. You need to push your mind into inertia even if it's a bullshit move. Don't be afraid to just randomly try something. Even if you fail, you'll understand why you failed and therefore be able to understand the problem better.

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>>18310338
Thanks, I guess I'll just have to ganbare and suck it up somehow...

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>>18310203
>and committing suicide isn't an option.
But that's where you're wrong, anon.

>>18310214
How can I be wrong if the premise is hypothetical?

>>18310203
>What do you do to live a happy life?

Live within my means and do what I enjoy.

Holy shit, is this the secret to that "happiness" thing everyone is looking for?

I'd probably also attempt to do so with minimalism to prevent "my means" becoming my ends.

You're out of alternatives apparently. Ww3 it is.

>t. Dated a fattie once and know your struggle

self bump because I don't know who to talk to this about.

>I've tried getting her to eat healthy.
What about you - do you eat healthy? If you only buy healthy stuff and cook healthy, home made food I don't see how she can be gaining weight unless she's really overeating or just cheats with your "diet".

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>>18310126
Happiness lies with, please don't use the herb to satisfy an emotion

It's not either / or. You can be mentally quick while stoned with enough effort.

I graduated from an Ivy with Honors, then graduated from a T14 law school with Latin honors, best oral argument in moot court, published journal articles, etc. The entire time, I was vaping weed multiple times a day. I'm now a practicing lawyer in a big city and have won multiple awards for my performance. I also am a competitive marathon runner.

And I still spend every SECOND of every day when I'm not at work stoned. On weekends, I turn on my vape when I wake up, hit it all day, and turn it off when I go to sleep.

You just can't be lazy.

>>18310126
Use Molly too

First of all, she doesn't owe you a friendship afterwards.

Secondly, what is your reasoning about not doing it in public?

>>18310084
I feel that she is worth friendship, definitely.

Regarding avoiding a public break up, I feel she may react super hugely emotionally after the break up, and I don't want that to be something she has to deal with, with strangers watching. I still hold a lot of value for her as a person, just not as a lover.

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There are things that she will do that are a turn-off to me, but they are not explicitly bad or harmful things, so I know it is unfair to ask her to change them.

>Constant interruption of conversation flow with non sequitur. Another friend is fond of saying in appropriate context "c'est la vie," French for "such is life," which my girlfriend will unfailingly respond to with "la vee" and a wry look on her face, among other things that detract from a conversation rather than add to it.

>Her laugh is startlingly piercing and hard to tolerate if she is sitting right next to me, especially if we are cuddled up and her mouth is right near to my ear. She will chuckle in a good way sometimes, but if she gets on a humorous tear, it just makes me want to do something else somewhere else.

>An age difference. I am 31 and she is 22. This is not necessarily a problem in any relationship, but in ours there is an obvious difference of life experience that I don't feel comfortable making her catch up with.

>She does not plan to do anything with her university degree. We are both college undergraduates. After this school, I want to go on to graduate school to become a speech therapist. She has explicitly said she is not interested in grad school. She wants to make a living from a web comic she has been writing but has not yet found an illustrator for and a YouTube channel that she has literally zero content on. I have encouraged her a few times to act on these interests and get them rolling, but she has not done anything about it.

>Uses a handkerchief to wipe her nose in public, saying her nose is runny when I have seen no indication that it is, that she will then fold up and put back in her pocket. I think this is a function of her anxiety. (who even uses a hanky anymore)

Again, it's not harmful stuff, but man is it a bunch of turn-offs.

Shameless self-bump before heading off to bed.

Do you practice daily meditation?

>>18310032
You need a daily stress reliever. Something like a hobby.

>can a third party who isn't even involved in a legal relationship sever the relationship

>>18310016
yes that was basically my question... And of course I am involved in this relationship as a part of the family living in the same house...

>>18310010
Thanks for the fucking feels OP. I nearly begged my mom to do the same about 10 years ago. She didn't give a fuck as always and we both paid the price for her mistake. There's no shame in speaking your mind. Take this advice very seriously: you must never ever let her depression infect your mind. If she doesn't listen, you get on with your life, everyone is responsible for his/her own choices. If you don't heed my words you will realize your mistake at a later age but by that time it'll be much more difficult to get your shit back together.

Get a job in construction, any kind It could be a very cathartic experience for you akin to Office Space.

It's also not a bad career if you can move up. The hours suck, the work is tough, but the pay can be pretty good. I know people that make close to 6 figures a year and it only took them 5 or so years to get there. Granted you have to work your ass off though.

How long ago did you get your degree? You can always spin even a BA in a way that lands you a job, but not if it's been years since you got it.

>>18310019
>construction
lol I'm not mad.
Shit pay because of immigrants, shit hours, no career prospects and fucks you up.
Maybe its better in the USA but I'm from Germany.

>>18310022
4 years, then I spend a year in another country on a university fucking around.

>>18309975
A bullet to the head? Nazi's despised tattoo's

>>18309975
Why would you ruin your aesthetics with a tattoo...

>>18309986
I regard it as an enhancement rather than ruining. I want it because I want to become an awesome superman that women will instinctively open their legs for.

You write like a neanderthal.

>>18310315
They couldn't write

>>18310373
Neither can you. Thats his point.