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And holy shit does it suck ass. I'm seriously at an all-time low here, guys. I just don't know what to do anymore, if it's ever going to get better. I always believed the rumors that the first few days are the worst, but for me, it just keeps going downhill with every day that passes. I'm becoming more depressed, more suicidal, more agitated and violent, more anxious, tense and nervous. I guess I'm lucky that I live in a nogunz country, because if I had one, I would stick it to my head and pull the trigger without a second thought. Life is just a sheer pit of misery. I've forced myself to the psychiatric emergency room twice in the past week for planning to kill myself, but both times they released me (I have a history of factitious disorder, so they think I'm just attention whoring.) Does anyone have any idea what the fuck I can do to get my life in order again? I'm just hopeless here. A small part of me still wants to live, that's why I'm writing this, but I just don't know anymore, I honestly just don't.
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>>17991660
Find support groups of the AA kind or just a really good friend you can be a real drag on for a few days while you use him to help you through this.
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>>17991660
are you off of like, psych meds that have been prescribed to you for specific conditions, or like, recreational drugs? Because it can be dangerous to quit prescription drugs cold turkey
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>>17991677

>Implying I have friends

You quite underestimate just how fucked up I am.

>>17991686

Both. Wasn't my choice though, part of the reason they pulled me off the medical drugs too was because I was getting addicted to those as well.

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How do I stop thinking about a grill I'm in love with /adv/? Is such a thing even possible? I see her almost everyday and when I don't see her I get terribly depressed but on the days I see her I can't even concentrate on anything and just get lost in thought.

Notice how the question is not "how do I get this grill to be interested in me?" or "how do I start a conversation with her?".
There's no hope for me to be with this girl, she has a boyfriend and I'm an ex-NEET with zero life experience, so I won't even attempt to make a move.

I literally just need to know how to get her out of my head. Will I just lose interest eventually? I sure fucking hope so because I can't take this shit anymore.
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>>17991606
It'll go away.

I was in love with my supervisor once, like literally infatuated. Super-cool, cute tomboyish chick (pic related kinda looks like her). It was unique because I was actually attracted to her personality and not just her body. She was always kind to me and basically a bro. I crushed on her and hugged and kissed my body pillow at night imagining it was her.

Thing is was she was way out of my league and about six years older than me. This was a time when I was really socially impaired, too. I hadn't yet learned how to pretend to be cool and didn't even have the gut to ask her out. And she had a boyfriend. So basically unrequited love that drove me fucking insane and often left me crying myself to sleep.

Anyway after I heard she broke up with her boyfriend a few months later I attempted to ask her out on Facebook messenger and she gently told me she wasn't in the mood for a relationship, and that was the end of it. We still were kinda buddies, though, I guess.

So do basically the same thing I did. When the time is right, man up, let her know how you feel (or ask her out if her boyfriend leaves her), let her say no, cry yourself to sleep and move on.
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>>17991652
Thanks for this post anon, everyone told me it'll go away but man it feels like shit but at the same time seeing her and thinking about her is the only thing that kind of makes me happy. The only thing I look forward to, if you will. My life is so shitty. ;_;

Some info about her:

>To get rejected I'd need to first have the balls to ask her out or even be capable of talking to her about anything non-work related.


>Petite (around 160cm), black hair, exotic, she's from an ex-soviet state in Central Asia and she has this completely different personality I fell in love with. She also doesn't wear make up which means she doesn't give much of a fuck about looking "good", she already knows she's a qt. She has a beautiful voice and she wears glasses sometimes.

>She has literally every trait I like on a girl. I think most of you guys here wouldn't even take a second look at her but I fell in love at first sight. I think I'm a weirdo when it comes to girls' taste.

>We do talk btw, it's not like I drop spaghetti everywhere when talking to girls, I'm not that autistic. I used to be but I improved in every aspect, the thing is I just never really talked to a girl before and I have zero life experience having been a shut in NEET for all my life pretty much until like a year ago when I decided to turn things around. We usually just talk about work related stuff, and she's nice to me but the fact she has a boyfriend already blocks me from getting anywhere.
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>>17991663
You have to find something to get your mind busy. It's the only way, train yourself not to think about it. Eventually you'll meet someone new
It will go away with time.. It just take some. It can be long.

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Today i found out that my personal relationships are fucked, and feel like I've been lied to for over a month.
I need advice but its a pretty complex situation so i'll lay it all out as best i can. In october my best friend and housemate introduced me to a girl that joined his uni cycling group, we all got along great, but shes was in the middle of breaking up with her bf and finding a new place. Come november she wanted a job and we got her in to work at a place with us. Friend has to take a month off work and me and her end up getting along great alone.
Around Christmas we start talking loads and we spend a great new years together at mine alone just up all night talking and messing about. Tell friend and he says we'd be good together but that it wouldn't work with us all being friends, in his club and that we now work together too. i acknowledge it but after she has a week away i ignore it and i decide to go slowly and just keep texting and meeting up with her in a group.
Now yesterday we went out another great night and really starting to like each other and progress. Today i get told by friend that he and her slept together a few times between late October and up to Christmas, and that she agreed to tell me after new years as she liked me. Bear in mind friend has a long term gf that also lives with us, but I've known him to do this kind of thing in the past few years.
Now i'm just pissed off feeling that I've been lied to and this whole thing is just a mess as we only really have this very small circle of us friends.
I apologise for the wall of text just wracking my brain trying to get my head around everything. They're now not getting along because of this, He's apologised profusely and just wants us to be cool, as has she. She is saying that she likes me, never saw him that way just a mistake and that she doesn't wanna lose me.
what do you guys think i should do? how do i get over this?
thanks for any responses
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i know i messed up the paragraphs so its hard to read but i really appreciate anyone that takes the time to and try and help.
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if u hate non virgins so much just fuck off, plus nobody "lied" to you.


or kys
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>>17991567
She's not your girlfriend. She doesn't owe you anything. She's not obligated to not fuck other guys. She didn't do anything wrong.

Your friend, on the other hand, seems like a piece of shit for multiple reasons.

>She responds with one-liners and emoticons
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>>17991547

With no more context, all we can say is: She isn't interested in talking with you. Though break. Move on. Good luck.
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>>17991550
>implying women are mentally capable of constructing a sentence longer than 8 words
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>>17991554
They are when they are actually interested, sorry lad.

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Is it normal to sometimes lose concentration while watching porn and feeling kinda turned off? I start think about all other kind of stuff. It never happened of me to get completely soft but still...

Pic related.
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>>17991511

Dude, I'd be worried if porn is so enthralling that you cannot think of anything else. You just have some stuff in your mind. It's fine. Maybe watch a little less porn so it doesn't become so "routine".
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>>17991511
JAV name?
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>>17991607
EBOD-447

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I'm 23 yo neet living with single Mother. I have gone for job interviews and just graduated. She
>makes small demands like turning off/on the fan every few hours
>criticises every thing I do no matter what I do
>can never be wrong
>pushes me when angry
>calls me a coward if I leave the house to avoid an altercation
>tells me I've become a lying Monster
>bad mouths me behind my back to relatives/my Sister
>walks out of the room when I try to open a channel of communication and tell her why I feel the way I feel
>laments 24/7 about how she would be better off if she didn't have to pay my school fees/utilities 'you know I coulda bought 20 laptops with the money I spend on you'
>tries to ruin my relationships by suggesting I get better friends
>uses me as a scapegoat for everything, accepts no blame ever and tries to turn me and my Sister against each other
>rips my headphones out whenever she wants to talk to me
>gets mad if I sleep too early/too late
>gets mad if I don't do exactly what she wants
>says I'm ungrateful
>is a hypocrite who denies

I have a good relationship with almost everyone except my Mother. If I stay in the house or leave she hurts me either way and the same goes for most situations. She's stressed out from divorce and work so I can understand. What's the right way to deal with this with my current emotional resources?
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>>17991443
gtfo asap
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>>17991449
No money and I really don't want to be estranged from her eventually. I do a lot of cleaning in the house and buy her groceries and stuff and it'll be okay for days but things inevitably go wrong. It's like a constant trickle of negativity corroding my soul
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>>17991449
Where are those free apartments?

I've recently had some time to think about my future goals and plans.

While doing that I took a look at my life so far in retrospect. All the choices I didn't do and how far ahead I could've been.
Knowing how I fucked up several years of my life, I lost all my motivation.

How do you deal with past regrets, with the feeling that it's too late to follow your dreams?
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Elaborate on the regrets.

I, for one, would try not to think about them at all, if they are THAT demoralizing.
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>>17991420
you can't do anything about the past at all, all you can do is work on your current goals.

That said, it's never too late to follow your dreams, unless you're dead or your dreams are married, i guess.
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>>17991423
I had a pretty good life, but I lost interest in everything I liked leading to my regress in about every aspect.
Went from a fit, smart and social person to a lazy, unsociable guy with no close friends who can barely pass university exams. Hell, the last time I was on a date was like 7 years ago.

I'm slowly getting away from the ''I don't care" attitude, but I missed so many chances already (studying abroad, continuing my hobbies, internships).

>>17991447
It's too late for some of them (see above), but I guess you can't do everything you ever wanted to, right?

Just writing this stuff really helped me to take a second look at my goals. I feel like I'm just scared of the amount of work that piled up over the years I did nothing. I'll just have to try harder now.

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Have anybody here lied on their resume to find decent work? I'm considering it myself.
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depends on job, if its something serious then dont.
if its a cheaper job say some small shop, and you really need a job then you could try I guess.
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>>17991340
Isn't there a resume check by HR? and if something is inaccurate it'd all be a waste of time
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>>17991340
Absolutely but you have to lie smart. You can make any negative look positive if you're smart.

How do I make friends? I have fairly poor social skills and have disconnected from pretty much my entire family. Both my mother and father no longer want to talk to me.

I'm going to graduate soon and don't have many friends from my college programs, mostly just other engineers I worked with on projects. Soon I'm going to have to just work full time, most of the time so the bit of spare time I have I'd like to form cultivating some relationships with others.

I don't even mind if it's stuff like volunteering or church services or whatever. Mostly I'd just like to meet friends. Obviously I'll make friends with co-workers and stuff but it's important to have an "outside of work" sphere I think. My main hobby is video games if it helps.

>hurr durr video games aren't a hobby

yes they are shut up.
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bump
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one last bump
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>>17991324
What do you play? The way I did it was by attending tournaments often till friends juts kinda happened over time.

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I've been up all night and might fall asleep soon, so if I don't reply to things right away that's why. Title says it all, I really need to have sex.

I'm 20, male, reasonably attractive (though physically I've gone from fit to meh over the last couple months, working on getting it back but depression's a bitch), and still technically a virgin. Long story short, I had an incredibly shitty childhood which made it difficult to act normal at school/connect with people in the early years, which made me an easy target for bullying, which only fed the anxiety and insomnia and general mind-fucked-ness that is still the main reason for my alcoholism today. Learned how to act normal and get my shit together appearance-wise around halfway through high school, but that was also when I discovered drugs, so that consumed another 3 long years of my life. I still drink but I can control myself, it's not really an addiction anymore as much as it is a coping mechanism. Like I can go months without smoking or drinking anything, but all that does is make me more miserable. Wow this is getting rambly, moving on. I still have serious anxiety so going to bars and stuff isn't exactly preferable, and I could try Tinder but they require you to link your Facebook account and like I said, my past isn't exactly flattering. You know what fuck it, I need to vent so I'm just going to keep writing. Been with 3 people; first time was with some anonymous guy on Grindr, I just blew him for a while and I was too nervous/tired to cum, got him to though eventually. Oh and I moved away for college, so I don't know anyone here and I also can't afford a car. On that note, second one was a girl who was also my roommate, I know I'm a fucking idiot but she had triple Ds. She was also batshit insane, but I did get to bury my face in her tits and make out with her a lot (she was waiting for the "right guy" to finally have sex, who knows when that's going to be considering I lived with her for 8 months (cont.)
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And that bitch never goes outside), third one was a really cute girl with red hair and glasses (exactly my type), and really nice tits too actually, unfortunately she's as horny as she is hardcore religious. I once got her to cum through two pairs of jeans, but that's over now because she refuses to consider rational thought and stop feeling guilty for feeling aroused. You don't even know, holy shit if we actually had sex, if there was actual penetration it would be LEGENDARY. She actually tried to choke me out one time (I was into it so whatever), we both have so much built up sexual tension that we would probably just fuck for 3 days straight and then die happily from dehydration. But now we're just friends and I've fallen back into a serious existential depression, and I don't do nearly enough cardio to balance the amount of beer and fried rice I consume on a weekly basis.

Basically I NEED to fuck something soon or I might literally explode, I even bought a flesh light on Amazon. But every day it feels like it's harder and harder to be an interesting person and not just go completely brain dead, it's a real Yin vs Yang situation.

Halp.
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>>17991319
Explode.
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>>17991325
I'm really trying to avoid that, I've been shit on my entire life so if I were to actually lose control of myself who knows what I'll do. Seriously I'm barely hanging onto my sanity.

Inb4 edgelord, delusional kid, etc. I've been through more in 20 years than you could get through in a lifetime, I'm really fucking sick of listing all of the awful shit that happened to me before I was 5 years old that's also my evidence of maturity and mental illness (and subsequently the awareness of that mental illness). If you don't believe me then fuck off, if you want to help then welcome, I appreciate it.

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So I applied for a job got through initial interview. Today I get a call saying I didn't get it due to a Facebook post from 2013. I am fucking pissed off to no end and I don't know what to do. Do I simply move on? Do I appeal? How do I stop the rage in my head from exposing power levels?
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>>17991301
disable facebook when you start job hunting
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>>17991308
I'll have to but it's too late at this point. Never had it bought up before at job interview and it was 4 years ago, itwasnt that bad an the comment was deleted. So I have no idea how it was even an excuse
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What was the post?
you wanting to KKK aand burn jews?
need more context on it

Alright lads, here's a little issue, nothing serious. but help appreciated

I was supposed to do a research of any kind for university, in the subject 90% of grade was based on the research.
So I choose to do an interview type of research about motivation bla bla..

I faked interview, and results and everything, and on presentation I said it was 1H long interview on average. Teacher suspected something and asked me for transcripts.

So i wrote those and sent her them, she's saying its a transcript of 10-15M interview and tells me to basically "cut the crap" and tell her what did I do.

What do I do now lads?
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>>17991299

You fess up and throw yourself before the mercy of the Academic Affairs Committee. If you keep lyibg tgey will keep digging and they will find more problems with your story. There is no way this ends well, no sense in making it worse.
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>>17991299
Tell her that you had it all recorded and partially transcribed. But you lost your recordings through some accident and had to build from what you imperfectly recalled. If she asks why you didn't come forwar earlier just say you are stressed and panicked, play it humble and apologetic she will melt at most or give you a pass.
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>>17991304
I like the idea.
so I say, I had it recorded and partially transcribed.
and then I lost those files so I rebuilt the interview based on that imperfectly..

does it sound good?

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My mother died awhile back. Since my moms death I haven't been able to sleep at night and I just want to sleep. What can I try to help me get some fucking sleep?
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A pillow and a blanket.
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>>17991277
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Try taking Ambien for sleep. Also here's an article on sleep meds. Rest well anon.

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Is frequently browsing /pol/ bad for my mental health? I live with 3 liberal roommates who get all of their news exclusively through CNN/MSNBC and whenever they discuss politics in front of me and find myself wanting to hurt them. Where can I read/discuss news/politics if I don't trust the mainstream media?
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>>17991245

>Is frequently browsing /pol/ bad for my mental health?

Extremely, yes. The only worse board is /r9k/.
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>>17991247
>The only worse board is /r9k/
y-yeah, who would browse a board like that for hours every day haha. right that would be really silly and bad for you.
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>>17991254

Only pathetic people, desu.

I can never get past the dating stage w people. Im pretty, slim, 19, relatively smart. never had a relationship. im a fkn virgin too like come on isnt that a kink for some people. I've always been the clown of the friendship group so its not lack of humour. im just sick of it, no body wants to take thinks further. fuck im not even picky. i would date girls, guys, fat, skinny. its honestly not about looks for me. so why am i so fkn single.
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>>17991218

Because you're desperate and lack any sort of individualism or confidence.

Being a virgin isn't a fetish unless you're a chick. Which I mean, if you are a chick.. I can help you with that.

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im a chick. yea maybe u propose a good point. but it seems the girls people go for are the least individual
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Where you at I'll date you bby

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