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>>18152920
Oh you know, standard "Everyone betrayed me". Which is true, but I'm also an asshole, so kinda deserved it.

>>18152920
Cause: I'm old and in many ways inexperienced and dissatisfied with my future prospects.

symptoms: Chest pain, discomfort, lack of joy, emptiness inside.

Don't take meds, just kinda push through.

>>18152920

>legit depression
>what was the cause

legit depression is only caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain that prevents you from experiencing your emotions properly.

>>18152916

I liken it to going into an ice cream shop. You have your favorite flavor, and that's what you always get when you get ice cream, but thinking the mint chocolate chip might be tasty is harmless.

But enough with the analogies. Yeah, your boyfriend is probably always going to find someone sexy at another time in his life. But there's a lot more to a relationship that cements you as better than them, if that makes sense.

But your boyfriend probably shouldn't be vocal about it unless that's your thing.

It's a different kind of sexiness to think that someone "objectively" looks better or acts smoother, than the person you don't just think looks good and acts sexy, but you also know how hot the noises are she makes during sex, how good her pussy smells, what her body feels like.

It seems like you have a pretty shallow idea of what makes someone sexy. A huge part of sexiness is sexual energy/spirit. If you are enthusiastic, active and free-spirited (not insecure, not judgmental/prudish) during sex, that in itself is crazy hot. Sexiness is much more complicated and "organic" than having a thigh gap or not or other physical details.

>>18152916
Dumie.

Relationships are like investments. At the start, he can ditch you for any reason. But as the time goes on, both of you spent time, energy, money, feelings on each other.

From certain moment he wont switch you for better woman because you are already his qtie who is he comfortable with and trusts you.

Relationships dies after very long periods of time where one (or both) side takes the partner for granted and stops the upkeep. Or when one of them is asshole and cheats.

If you want to keep your bf happy, apply simple guide on how to treat males right:
1. Boost his ego. Directly or indirectly tell him how good he is at anything. This also includes not degrading him when he fails something.
2. Drain his balls. Properly drained male wont even bother thinking about other females and it also boost his ego.
3. Give simple instructions. Do you want him to behave differently? To do something? Tell him in as simple terms as possible.
4. Bonus point: dont get fat.

Remember happy boyfriends and husbands dont even think abou breaking up / cheating.

>>18152914
Some theory says that you as a male must never tell your female that you love / like her first.

You as a male must make your actions speak for you. So just hang with them, try to sex them up and generally please them and sooner or later some female will fall for you.

>>18152914
well-adjusted adults don't go around saying "i like you" to people they want to date. they just say, "hey, wanna go on a date." then you can decide if you (genuinely, actually) like each other and want to keep dating. you're putting the cart before the horse. don't put so much pressure on the other person to make a life decision on the spot. be less sperg

>>18153100
What if you know they don't return your feelings, and you don't plan on dating, but still want to make your feelings known and get the rejection out of the way?

>>18152824
Write a suicide letter, kys by jumping off a really high place. But don't do it, suicide is shit, you will regret your decision when you're dying, trust me.

>>18152824
Please don't kill yourself. Life will change. Talk to someone, anyone, about how you're feeling.

>>18152832
>regret it when you're dying
lul. what a pot of shit.

>>18152824
Kay anon. Seriously examine your life and determine why you want to kill yourself. You're obviously just feeling melodramatic and want somewhere to vent; /r9k/ being normie infested, I can understand your inclination to come here for sympathy.

It seems you have a lot of support systems, girlfriend and a close family. To kill oneself, you'd need to hit the point of desperation and depravity necessary to overcome our intrinsic programming that is to live. Judging by your stupidass post, you couldn't possibly, logically, have the constitution for suicide. Unless you're mentally disabled.

In any case, cut yourself off from everyone. Move away to some discrete town/island. Wait 6 months. Then kill yourself. Quick and painless would be falling yourself off a building. Pretty easy.

Things will get better once you leave DYEL mode. Try growing a beard if you can, and don't use feminine clothes.

>>18152799

start lifting and continue to lose body fat, your "wide hips" are most likely just fat storage, if you get lean enough you will have a masculine frame.

If your hips are a little wide then focus on your upper body, lats/shoulders/traps to give you a v-taper.

>>18152799
Obliques. Work Obliques.

>>18152788
Nice dubs.
Been in a gutter to at some point of my life, I could say time will make you gather enough coourage. Courage to start over, or just fuck it end it all. Whatever your choice.

Now, what are your goals before you completely broke down? What is it do you want out of your life?
Remember whatver your answer is. The goals will need you to do whatever it takes, and as long as necessary.

french foregin legion is basically french army?
Ive been going a few years being content then depression is hitting me hard this past week or so and making me wonder about how much of my life to change.
I dont know where to begin. If you are still young the military might not be a bad idea at all. In the US its 4 years then your life is given back to you, but with plenty of training and benefits.
I have similar problems with poor parents and giving up on college and not knowing how to find a good paying job.

>>18152808
idk i want to join legion, but i feel bad for parents, didnt see them for month and half, and when i visited them, i never seen them happier before. thats what keeps me tinking about joining legion. i will not get to see them for like 5 years
if it wasnt them id be there now probably..
i still havent figured what makes me happy..... seems like moving out got me little depressed

ergodox

>>18152777
>>>/Mkg/

>>18152777
>quiet
>Mechanical
Select one

>>18152710
Are you fucking stupid? If she cheated on him she'll do the same to you. You weren't a special case. This girl is no good. Keep things platonic from now on. There will be more chances for you, with women who value you.

>>18152719
I thought about that also. I made it clear im not commiting to anything, plus we live relatively far for a relationship. She still wants to do it. the thing is the guy guesses and wants to overlook it to keep her. she says she cant stay with him after what happened and that her real feelings are for me. I know, she cheated on someone, whatever reason. Wonder if it is a result of her personality or just them being wrong couple

>>18152746
Girls do not cheat due to circumstance. If she cheated it's definitely something in her personality and moral compass that allowed her to do so. Regardless of how she justifies it that fact remains true.

>>18152701
...is this real? Cut contact immediately it's obvious she's just using you as an emotional sponge. And wants nothing legitimate with you whatsoever. Jesus have some self respect

>>18152725
see ive had those thoughts
i know shes smart and manipulative cause i am as well bus obviously shell never admit to anything like this. i dont know how to cut her off were in the same class and sit close to each other

>>18152734
Just gradually talk to her less. Make your messages shorter and take longer between replies until you're no longer talking to her. If she confronts you on it pretend like there's nothing going on.

Not take slutty vids of yourself.

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>Hey /adv/, I'm a victim please side with me kthx

>>18152699
Contact the site to remove it
Get the police properly involved
If that doesnt work

If you know any bad people, just get them to beat the piece of shit up

>>18152649
Unacceptable. Kick him out of he's not on the lease. Move out now if you're not on the lease.

>>18152649
this just happens sometimes, especially when not everyone is on the same page, morality wise and income wise. Live out the terms of your lease and move on ASAP; it's going to be a shitty year.

>>18152649
you can play his games and hide your shit like he does or be the better person and continue to do nice things for him.
Even rooming with good friends I suggested we keep things separate, mostly food. Paper towels I'd replace because I did all of the cleaning. But toilet paper we shared because we all use it. Sorry you're roomed with such an asshole. Living on your own or with a s/o is much nicer than having roommates.

>>18152599

irrational logic

>>18152599
Women logic

>>18152658
This. Kek

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>>18152598
Have you tried electro shock therapy?

>>18152652

ah fuck u anon

>>18152657
Is this you coming out to me? Im flattered

Ignore her?

Why do you care? Doesn't mean that you have to have any contact just because you live in the same city.

>>18152577
You have no control in this situation (assuming she is just moving to your town and not your house, your post isn't super clear). the only thing you have control over is your own actions.

>>18152561
Apparently.
>http://www.snivelinggoat.com/total-body-rowing-machine-workout-daily-regimen/
>http://manmeetsgoat.com/row-row-row-your-rower/
>http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=168483963
>http://www.usatoday.com/videos/news/humankind/2017/01/13/cat-helps-pregnant-goat-through-contractions/96502248/

>>18152561
all cardio is basically the same. rowing is not only cardio though, like running, walking, biking, etc are.

>makes your ass sore, not from working it but from sitting on it
>is repetitive and boring as fuck
>fucks up your hands with callouses

rowing is shit