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I've had the house to myself for over a month because my parents are away. It was great, I felt a sort of freedom that I've never felt before. What's strange is, they're not strict at all. I'm 19, I don't have a curfew, pretty much can skip classes because they know I wouldn't just slack off for no reason...but I don't know why I felt so liberated when they left. The only thing I did different was bring my girlfriend home. We usually hang out at her place since we can't really have a place to get privacy in here.
They just got back today, and while I am happy to see them back I feel sad and constricted. We don't have a bad relationship, like none of the typical drunk dad/abusive mom stuff, I guess we're just not tight-knit. It's more business-like between us, but we do try to resolve that.
Can anyone relate here? Just need someone to bounce thoughts with.
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Shit. It's weird having that same relationship with my parents. Not close, but not distant. Just kinda mutual care and respect, even if it's not super compassionate.
Anyway, it might just be their lack of presence made you feel independent. Now that they're back, you're somehow aware that you're not alone, and that no matter what, you won't have that same kind of independence.
Sorry I don't have a solution, OP. Just my thoughts.
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>>18154960
OP, 19 yrs same here but sorry for that when u hang out with ur gf at the same age what u do?
just asking cuz i just don't know what to do :)
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>>18154960
It's a natural feeling to want to live in your own. It's called growing up and being an adult
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My girlfriend is becoming good friends with my friends. 2017-03-24 06:16:16 Post No.18154928
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Hey guys. I'm in a dilemma, my girlfriend of two years has recently become really close with my group of friends. We have a group chat on fb, and they added her to that which I was a little uncomfortable with, and I told them that but they didn't care. Now fast forward a few weeks, I have it muted, don't talk in it really ever, and they make plans and do things without me quite often. She also has become really close with one of my friends in particular, and quite frankly it makes me uncomfortable.
I tried talking to her about it and she made me feel like an idiot for even questioning it, saying he is like a brother to her ect...
My biggest worry is what will happen if we break up? I don't like to think negatively but if it happens it will be awkward as fuck.
Should I talk to her about it? I don't wanna be that guy that tries to be controlling.
Should I talk to my friends about it? I don't wanna seem like a dick since they have all become friends now.
Sorry for the long post. Fuck tldr.
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>>18154928
Sounds like you don't have man friends in the first place.
I have no female friends. I have a girlfriend and I have friends. Nothing in between.
What kind of bro hangs out with his bros gf? Even platonically, that's fucked.
My advice? Read The Prince and watch The Godfather.
I'd walk away from my "friends" and my girlfriend in your situation. I'm actually angry reading it.
Be better than them.
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>>18154934
Solid advice. this'd.
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>>18154928
She's already fucking him, bro
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Why am i not falling in love? Im 23, im just too young? Anyone like this? And i mean romantic love, i love my family and friends but is not that.
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Just understand that some people are gonna be more gun ho to jump into the rest of their adult lives sooner than others. It will happen to you when it happens anon. In the meantime, enjoy your youth and keep doing the things you like while you still have them.
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Do you masturbate to pornography?
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Maybe you haven't met the right person yet.
Consider yourself lucky that you don't fall in love with a random person and torture yourself over them like half the people on this board.
How do I ask this girl to go driving with me?
>used to be really close friends, little flirtatious, nothing too serious
>never hung out outside of classes
>eventually stopped talking to her, because she kept leaving me on read and flirting with my friends
>cut off all contact for a solid month until tonight
>asked if she had any plans out of the blue, short and mysterious
>had a soccer game, didn't want to go driving around because sweaty
>thats fine ig
>should I ask her again tomorrow? How do I ask without coming off as weird or creepy
>I just want to cruise around with a cutie in my car
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>>18154921
You sound like a sperg.
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>>18154952
Thanks for the advice, cunt
>you dont need to tell me what I already know
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Offer yourself to take her somewhere she needs to be.
So, my girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and I'm still in this odd state of being hurt so I thought I'd ask people on the internet for advice.
I thought we had a pretty good relationship but I don't know if I should think about it in that way since we've broken up. Me and my ex are still friends and she tries to assure me that there wasnt anything wrong that i was doing during the relationship to cause the break up.
I would find that bullshit but shes never changed her answer when I've asked her about it and she still some what acts as if she was in a relationship with me anyways. She still hangs out with my and my roommates, she still has sex with me, we talk and have movie nights all the time. She says that shes just not ready to be committed/ in a relationship at all at the moment. I feel like i should have a better understanding of this since we are both 20 and we're both at the same college.
It's just hard for me to think of her fucking around with other dudes. She floats the idea of getting back together later on and I feel like thats something I'd want to do since i enjoyed the relationship. She expects me to fuck around with other chicks during this time too but im fuckin gross so i dont see that happening any time soon.
So what do you think /adv/? Should i just let go of this completely? Should i keep some hope of getting back together? Should i even want to get back with her?
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You should let go.
Basically what she's saying is she wants to fuck other peoples. Sorry OP.
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>>18154908
I mean i know she wants to fuck other people. Shes not asking me to wait like a cuck either.
But i question why she still acts like something along the lines of a girlfriend, like why wouldnt she fuck off completely after the break up? there has to be more to it.
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>>18154915
you probably feel safe for each other. She wants to venture into the unknown but is afraid to go all the way.
My ex bf pulled this shit on me too. I stuck around because he floated the possibility of getting back together while he pursued other girls. Finally decided this shitty hamster wheel was getting boring and fucked off. Met the love of my life in a drunken party shortly after. Ex wasn't happy and tried to entice me back with empty promises. By then, my world had opened up and I was never going back. Meanwhile the girl he was banging dumped his ass and he got all mopey for what we used to have for a while.
I'd say just bounce. You deserve better than this limbo unless it's what you want. I know it hurts but you gotta disentangle. The world is a big place for you to explore, so embrace the situation man.
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I have an important mid term for my foreign language class tomorrow what do
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>>18154901
where can I get a weird "chair" like that?
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>>18154901
studying might be a good idea
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>>18154901
1. study for it
2. take it
3. pass it
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Any cigar smoker here? Are you supposed to inhale the smoke or not? If no, why?
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Your not suppose to inhale. You suppose to let the the smoke just fill your mouth. The cigar is not filtered and will fuck up lungs silly.
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You can inhale if you're a fucking idiot.
The point of a fine cigar is to savor the taste of the tobacco smoke. Pull on the cigar, building up a milky cloud of delicious smoke into your mouth. Taste the smoke, examine the fine nuances of each different cigar, and push the smoke out. No inhalation.
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well, if you like lung cancer why not?
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Heartbroken Guy Here
Every woman I've ever been with has left me for another man.
So, I need some outside perspective on this.
1. My first gf and I dated for 2 1/2 years. In that time she cheated on me with my former best friend and I think five other guys. Her reasoning when I confronted her? "I don't know why I did it".
2. Second GF and I dated for a week before she dropped the "I'm not ready for a relationship" bomb on me. Then literally the next day I saw her with her bf. She looked at me all shocked and then said we should stay away from each other.
3. Dated a Mormon (I'm an Atheist so you can imagine how that was going to end but surprisingly the relationship lasted six months) and then out of the blue she dumps me over text message saying it was her "destiny" to be with a guy who she made a promise to as a kid.
4. Latest gf and I dated for a month and a half, it went perfectly and then suddenly she got all weird when her abusive ex reached out to her and then she dumped me when I told her to blow him off.
People keep saying shit like "you're just going for the wrong women" or "it wasn't meant to be" but I keep feeling like I'M one of the problems. Each girl I've been with says that I'm kind, understanding, and all that other mushy crap but they all leave for the same reason. Why? I can't help but feel like I'm doing something wrong or maybe I really am just a glutton for bad luck.
Thoughts?
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>>18154785
Stop dating whores, find a virgin and marry her
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>>18154785
They just weren't meant to be, bro. Your going for the wrong women.
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>>18154785
do some more self-reflection. No one on 4chan is going to be able to psychoanalyze you and tell you whether you are at fault or the people you are dating are. Some people will say things like OH YOU AREN'T ALPHA ENOUGH or YOU AREN'T GIVING HER THE D WELL ENOUGH. Well let me tell you anon, those people are assholes and probably incorrect. Every woman and man is different. Generalizations about behavior like this won't help you.
The problem seems to be you end up with women who have other men in the picture. Maybe ask a girl before dating if she is attached to any exes or is seeing other people. If she answers yes just stay away. It isn't something that will always be comfortable to bring up but it will save you a lot of time. I think you should forget about women for a while and just make that money and make more of it. You won't have a broken heart if you can put some more green in your pants (at least temporarily forget). You probably won't listen to that though. It's alright. We all find our own way.
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How do I make 30-40k a year? 2017-03-24 04:18:02 Post No.18154749
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How do I make 30-40k a year?
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Just want to get out of the 10-11 dollar/hour gutter I've been in for my entire adult life so far (I'm 26). I have experience in sales, graphic design, and retail store management but I'm not in love with any of it, I'd be willing to pursue a new career if I had to. Just want some easy low stress job where I can make enough to live comfortably as a single man, I already live pretty good on 20k a year, so I estimate that at 30-40k I'd live like a king
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lol OP I'm a web developer that is self-taught. You can make those figures easy :). Graphic design + web development will get you far. It's not for everyone though. If you like to work with your hands I'd suggest you figure that out fast and do something else (trade school or some shit).
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>>18154754
Only issue with that is I'm getting a little burned out on design, I keep hitting creative walls where I just can't do shit
I'll look into web development, but although I'm decent with computers I'm total shit at coding
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where are you generally
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Ok, so I'm trying to get a job at Chipotle and I can't tell if they're desperate or not for employees
>Applied online last night
>No work experience, high school diploma or references
>Call me in for an interview the next day
>The interviewer wasn't writing anything down and didn't know what questions to ask
>Interview over in 5 minutes
Am I going to get in?
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you never know so keep applying. Did they even set up a follow up or say they would be in touch if they wanted you in?
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>>18154739
They said they'd call me in the next 1-2 days
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>>18154743
that sounds like you got it then, why would they waste their time if you weren't a good fit unless they were looking at other applicants. You at least were deemed competent enough at the interview. Good luck possible future burrito master.
Is it weird to add girls on facebook out of the blue as a way to start talking w/ them?
I have been smitten by a girl in one of my classes and we have a lot in common personality wise. I just don't like the idea of asking someone out in a busy college setting so early in the morning.
We matched on Tinder before this (didn't know each other at the time and we only talked briefly. Later she deleted her account)
My friend told me that I should add her and facebook and it won't be that weird.
Is this a normal way of doing things? ( dont really use fb a lot) or should I just approach her someday after class?
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Are you an Indian by any chance?
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White girls... why are you so hostile towards us Indian brothers? We just want to talk and maybe build towards a relationship. Is that such a crime?
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>>18154734
lmfao
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How do you guys live by yourself? I've finally excepted that I was born of the sin of being disgusting and ugly and having a bad personality. I want to fully embrace the hikki
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bad personality should be at the top of that list anon.
disgusting / ugly people still have friends. being a bad person is what makes it hard to find anyone.
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>>18154770
I'm not an evil person, I'm just not sociable and not an extrovert
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>>18154781
>im not an extrovert
>AND LIKE ALL NON EXTROVERTS THAT MEANS I LITERALLY CAN NOT TALK TO PEOPLE OR FORGE ANY SEMBLANCE OF A RELATIONSHIP.
no, you're just a bad person.
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So I take a shower around 2pm today, go out to get food with friends around 3ish, go to the store and come home, take a short nap and wake up then watch some netflix. Literally just moved my arm a little and smell some b.o. I smell down my shirt and my underarms and it just smells horrible. I have no fucking idea why but this happens to me all the time. I just do nothing that exerts any sweat or means for body odor but I just start to randomly smell after. I use deodorant and cologne all the time and within like 2-3 hours I just start to smell again.
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>>18154700
Everyone sweats, all the time. How often and when are you showering, do you use soap, do you clean your clothes well?
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>>18154706
The thing is I havent sweat at all today, it just randomly comes up sometimes. I use irish spring soap, cover my entire body with it, and yeah I use fresh clean clothes
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Lose weight and eat a better healthier diet
How do I gain the confidence to approach women in public?
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>>18154635
by doing it over and over again till you are desensitized to rejection.
start with ugly/old/fat women.
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Lift
If you are muscular you will be overall more confidant.
Or you could just realize that if she turns you down then there are zero repercussions so no matter what happens you will never be worse off than if you didn't approach her.
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>>18154647
Let me ask it like this. When I see them, and I want to talk to them, I have a response of...what if she rejects me. how do I keep that little voice saying that, quiet.
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I'm stuck dealing with an abusive ex and I don't know what to do.
Dated this girl for a year and some months. There was a lot of good in the relationship, however she has a severe mental illness that she leaned constantly on me to help treat. She refuses to disclose to even her own family that she is suicidal, and she will randomly become intensely angry at me and shout all of the things she can think of to hurt my feelings before becoming repentant a few hours (or minutes) later. I broke up with her in September of last year, but she was very persistent with me to continue hanging out, and she has me on the hook to speak on the phone almost daily, hang out twice or more a week. When I can't meet that expectation, she blames me for a bout of depression. It's an enormous use of my energy, and I genuinely care about the girl, so it remains hard to see her in such a state, despite it ruining my chance at having a normal dating life.
I thought I had a way out. I got myself a job far out-of-state for the summer, and thought this would be a good way to cut down the physical aspect of our "friendship" to the point where it may even normalize or dissipate into nothing. Well, when I told her about my plans to relocate, she became hysterical, threatening to kill herself if I sleep with anybody out of state, saying she can't trust me, pulling her hair out of her head, cutting herself. Just total chaos. In trying to comfort her I suggested that she can visit me. The thing is, this is a seasonal job that lasts 5 months and is done. I am not comfortable asking for an excess of time off (I still have to ask for time off for my sister's wedding). Now every day she's harassing me to get on the act of asking for this time off, from a job I haven't started yet. I am worried if I do find a way to bring her out, that it will be a disaster where she sabotages my job and friendships with my coworkers. I don't know what to do.
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>>18154609
>I'm stuck dealing with an abusive ex
No you're not stuck, you just don't have the balls to kick her psycho ass to the curb. You're her emotional hostage and its 100% your fault.
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>>18154644
Maybe he doesn't want to see a girl die? I've been this girl. I am this girl. And it is completely unfair, but sometimes you only have that one person who can make you feel whole again. COMPLETELY the wrong way to treat this person (in your case) but people get desperate.
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>>18154651
>Maybe he doesn't want to see a girl die?
Using the threat of your own life to force people to do what you want is hallmark of deep psychological disturbances and requires immediate psychiatric intervention.
It is absolutely 100% not his responsibility nor his duty to endure a myriad of emotional and psychological abuse because he's being blackmailed with suicide. She doesn't need her ex, she needs a mental hospital and a team of skilled mental health professionals.
>but sometimes you only have that one person who can make you feel whole again
Depending on someone to make you feel whole is called codependence, sweetheart, and its what people who are sick in the head do.
>I've been this girl. I am this girl.
Oh I can tell, seeing as how you completely failed to see the undeniably dysfunctional overtones to your reply, basically encouraging this guy to endure her erratic behavior and abuse for some extended period of time because somehow in your mind, if he doesn't feed into her disorder and answer her ever beck and call it'll be his fault if she cuts or harms herself.
Fuck that, this girl threatens to kill herself and you call the cops and have her committed. Period.