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>in a long term relationship.
>accidentally meet amazing girl
>nothing happened but current girlfriend and I break up over messages and it was probably time to break up
>finally go on date with new girl
>amazing
>she has pressure at work because everyone she knows, knows my ex and they unfairly blame her
>my ex is playing weird games and telling her we are working on it again
>I tell her to trust me
>things cool off - she still sends me messages about how much she likes me but we never make a second date
>hear from a friend that she has a boyfriend that doesn't live here but is coming to town for spring break
>ask her about it
>get "this is where I need you to trust me - don't be upset"
>radio silence since Friday
Sooooo.....my thought she had this thing - then we met and lit on fire quick - she probably never expects to actually have me and now she can and doesn't know what to do about the two of us.
>>18150415
You both sound like complete, bottom of the barrel pieces of shit. My advice to you is : have fun!
>>18150421
Well that's possible - but you seem pretty upset about it for being a random person.
>>18150440
Not him, but I generally agree. This sounds like a train wreck. Move out of the trailer park, friendo.
I'll try to be as concise as possible.
>Get a divorce (finalized 1/13/16)
>few months later started dating a girl via a mutual friend
>things were GREAT (had a good time, laughed a lot, sex was best I've ever had etc)
>She is wicked reserved so a little hard for me to read, but she seemed to have a really good time (just different from what I'm used to after a 7 year relationship)
>middle middle middle
>her sister ended up passing 3 months into us dating (sister is 35, gf is 25)
>she more or less shuts down and decided not to deal with it
>Things were different, but she was either good as putting on a face or legitimately force it to the back of her mind, but something was noticeably different.
>holidays come around
>She fucking looses it.
>We don't see each other for 2 months, still text and talk, but she's always not feeling a date or company at home.
>Calls me up mid Dec and says "she just can't do it" anymore.
>Can't deal with her sister and feel like a shitty gf anymore (bc we don't hang out) (Didn't really bother me, I was understanding and I told her that, she still felt shitty)
>We break up
>Long story short, tell her we can't be friends unless the possibility of us getting back together is in the cards, my feelings don't stop on a dime and I *will* fixate on her even if I'm dating someone else if she's in my life. It's happened before
>Says she is too fucked up to know how she feels but says she comfortable with me seeking romance with her if we can stay in contact.
Fast forward to today
>We go to lunch, first time hanging out since probably Oct or Nov.
>Had a really good time, no lulls in the convo, we both were laughing etc etc.
I'm honestly getting to the point where I'm about to break, but I honestly don't know what that means. I want to move on but I can't without closure with this girl. I fixated on another girl for 10 years, through a marriage, and I wont do something like that again.
pt1
>>18150348
Part 2
Basically I don't want to tell her that it's now or never because I just know she's not ready yet, but I'm going crazy trying to get out of this limbo.
What would /adv/ do? Do I try to move things along for my own sake knowing I'm probably rushing it and will more than likely chasing her off, or do I suffer through it in hopes she clears her head in the foreseeable future?
FWIW, I'm not making the claim she's the one, I'm too jaded for that shit, but dammit it felt different than anything else I've ever felt and it was going really well.
>>18150348
>awaiting pt2
>>18150348
>Part 1
and minimized.
She keeps saying she's busy, and it seems like she's trying to find an excuse to not be with me. It feels like I'm the only one trying in this relationship
Is it over?
>>18150324
for how long has she not seen you? for how long have you been dating?
I've had this experience before,
She's sucking someone else's dick.
I've also been in this situation before. Definitely not looking good for you OP. Prepare yourself for a breakup, so it if happens, it hurts a lot less, and if it doesn't happen, then great you can start fixing things.
I'm in a relationship with a man whom I love and respect. It's fulfilling, we have had to put up with a lot to be together. My family aren't supportive of the relationship but I cut off ties with them (mostly).
I am worried that by being with him that there will not be a safety net for our future children. He has some strong socialist views but also values hard work. He's good with kids and would make a great father figure. I'm scared of being breadwinner of the house as that would put me off.
Is it normal for women to work this out? I don't know. I used to be liberal about this idea, that I wouldn't mind working for the family etc. Now it's slowly changing and I can't imagine having a husband who doesn't provide for the family.
Is this normal? Am I over thinking?
>>18150292
Why the fuck doesn't he work? This is the 21st century, a sole breadwinner is a thing of the past in the western world
I don't understand, does he plan to be a NEET? Why are you assuming you'll be the bread winner?
also
>dropping your family for a guy
They better be abusive as fuck for you to do that
>>18150305
He works! Just on a very small salary that wouldn't be able to support me, and child(ren).
I am doing a research paper for my college English class. Our job is to observe and write about a specific group of people, so I chose the 4chan community. Why I chose 4chan? My professor wanted unique subjects she's never heard about. So I am here for your help and in hopes some of my questions may be answered.
1. What is your age and what is the major age group of 4chan?
2. How would you describe yourself and others on 4chan?
3. What is your social life like?
4. Influences or motivations?
5. Advice for my research paper? Other than change your topic.
>>18150287
You won't have any honest replies here.
Any replies are welcomed.
>>18150287
Rules 1&2.
if you had 400$ at your disposal would you rather buy a nintendo switch or a 3d printer?
Neither, save it or put it into investment.
>>18150281
Do YOU have a use for a 3D printer?
>>18150284
this
Hey so girl asked me to bring her French fries at work. I'm not contributing to making her fatter. She's already got the chubs. What should I bring her
>>18150241
a slimfast
yeah a slimfast. anything but fries and she's going to be insulted. it'd be easier to just call her fat. maybe you should
>>18150249
>>18150291
Well I brought her a salad from chipotle and she hotbed pissed and didn't even want it. Fuck thanks for the warning tho
Femanons, would you sleep with a guy knowing that he had a girlfriend? Ive been dating a girl for 3 years and she's sweet but she's so fucking frigid I can't stand it, it's always missionary or nothing. I have a few girls who I've been talking to who are friends and do send me a bit of a flirty vibe. I am so pent up I just want to pump somebody until they burst, help
>>18150193
nope, recipe for drama. in most cases that this happens the woman is simply unaware. but there are some out there. really surveying women as a whole is a stupid idea. its more of a contextual thing
If she was okay with it, sure, unless I felt like I'd develop feelings.
Otherwise, no. I have once in the past because I was absolutely crazy for the guy, but it's not a role I am interested in ever fulfilling again in my life. It took a serious toll on how I saw myself and potential relationships ("okay great, so first you're going to fuck someone else's guy, but now you've decided that you want a boyfriend all for yourself...? nice") for years and one of the main ways I sort of overcame it was assuring myself that I would not allow this to happen ever again.
>>18150193
No, I wouldn't.
Break up with your frigid gf
Why is "kilogram" a base unit of SI? Why isn't it gram?
Supposedly gram is defined as kilogram*10^-3 but how does the prefix naming work then? It ruins regularity. Shouldn't I then call kilogram*10^3 a "kilokilogram"? Or kilogram*10^-3 a "milikilogram"? Of course I'd say gram instead for the latter but then what would you call other measurements that fall on non-gram notations?
What kind of monster would do this?
>>18150145
Gram is the base unit, that's why it has no prefix
>>18150145
Kilogram is the base unit because of how the kilogram is defined. There is literally a cylinder in a jar that weighs exactly one kilogram. There is no such gram cylinder.
>>18150148
Yes that is what I assumed and it was for a time. But by present-day SI base units, kilogram is the base unit, they changed it. This is what I'm asking about, it fucks up the prefix thing because the base already has a prefix and gram is defined as kilogram*10^-3.
>>18150156
Gram was defined in it's own way too. They decided to change it and swap it for a kilogram as the base. I'm wondering why they did this and why they didn't change the name of the base so that the new base fits the prefix system properly. Shit they could have just used gram as a name, then gram today would have the name it's supposed to have: milligram.
Have any American anons ever used a matchmaking service?
Would you recommend it?
>>18150114
lets be real anon, your issue is not that you havent found a 'match'.
>>18150127
this anon keepin it real OP
we wuz ayytistic n shiiet
>>18150127
>>18150155
Great advice, thanks
So, I'm 20 and I never had any serious diseases until I was recently diagnosed with rectocele, a grade 1 internal rectal prolapse that has made my life a living hell. The doctor sent me to do biofeedback but I'm slowly realizing the only shot I have for a normal life is surgery. I'm pretty scared, not of the pain I may experience or the whole incision with my body opened in two thing, but the thought of not recovering fully. Do any of you know something or had any surgery? Does it feel like it was before? If it isn't bowel related it's okay too, I just want to know if its worth the shot.
>>18150092
I cant tell you about any complications or whatever but you have two options
>current situation for you
>living life with an anus on your side
>>18150092
>If it isn't bowel related it's okay too, I just want to know if its worth the shot
12yrs ago i had a spontaneous pneumothorax, a collapsed lung. Long story short i went into surgery, b/c most cases the lung 'heals' itself but mine didnt, spent two weeks recuperating in icu, hooked on opiates ever since, dont do it.
>>18150934
did they shove in a chest tube when you were still awake?
hi adv first time poster
recently i lost all sense of enjoyment i used to get from mindlessly gaming, i just feel numb and dissociative whenever i try to play. ive tried not using my computer at all but then i just either workout clean or sit around and drink till i sleep, makes me feel real depressed. wonder if anyone here is feeling or felt something similar and has any helpful insight
you could try approaching a new genre, even if you could never see yourself playing something like it. sometimes it just helps to try something new and take a breather from the usual videogames that you're used to play.
>>18150083
Videogames are a distraction. Find something better.
>>18150083
Do you feel this way with other things you used to enjoy?
>>18150185
Video games relieve stress.
My girlfriend makes me very uncomfortable when she talks about past sexual experiences.
Like she has a scar on her foot from having sex on carpet or she had sex in a car.. it just makes me very uncomfortable. She was my first and we have been together 4 months now but i was also very repressed as a kid. We're both 20 btw. And we have a lot of sex. But I can't handle hearing her talk about other guys
>>18150051
Tell her and watch as she slowly drifts away from your insecure ass.
>>18150051
Tell her to stop and dont talk about it anymore.
Talking about past sexual experiences is usually a double-edged sword.
On one hand you may find out that she did "nothing special" and yaay, good for you.
On the other hand you may find out that she had a wonderful sex life with shit-loads of guys.
When you get older and more experienced the best thing is - dont fucking talk about it and dont poke your nose in it. It will help you keep you sane.
>>18150051
my girlfriend was my first and she had 1 guy before me, so be it. as long as shes not cheating on you now, who cares. its more of a point that youve got something for her to be with you now vs still with her exes
I don't know what the fuck to do /adv/ I have hit a low point in my life.
I'm 18, finishing up highschool with plans to become a locksmith. Even though I have plans as to what to do I feel this black hole in my life, I feel I have no hope in my life and that there isn't any light at the end of the tunnel. It's gotten worse the past couple of days, I feel like a lump of human waste.
I am not suicidal at all, I am afraid of death. I don't know what to do to bring that light back into my life; it feels like something is missing and no matter how much I contemplate and reflect I can't figure out what it is.
>>18150048
When did this start, bud? Any inciting incident? It'd be super helpful to have any info as to why you feel this way.
>>18150048
Maybe you don't really want to be a locksmiths
>>18150048
You're an emotional teenager. Stay the course, don't do anything drastic, and it'll clear up. In the meantime go kick it with some friends, meet some girls, and get your mind off things.
so i went to get a test for Herpes
type 2 came back as 0.05
type 1 came back as 28.00
i cant read this properly and they lab wont pick up the phone.
is this 28.00 bad?
How did you get it? Fucked an escort, or a random bar slut?
>>18150013
i dont know the numbers but if by type 1 they mean HSV1 thats the kind of herpes that gives you cold sores. pretty much everyone has it and the antibodies. i asked my doctor last year if i could get HSV2 from oral sex with my girlfriend because ive never had a cold sore in my life, he said pretty much everyone has the antibodies and to not worry about it. so basically nearly everyone has HSV1 and its antibodies
HSV2 is genital herpes, you either get it from sex with an infected person or receiving oral sex with someone with a blistering cold sore and it transforms into HSV2 on your junk. i dont know what 0.05 is, sounds low. might be antibody count?
any sketchy sex partners?
>>18150014
OP WHAT DID YA DOO