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>>18153781
Same problem, any anons who've come back from this?
HELP

bump :C

>>18153781
you need to assess whether you're addicted to video games. how are the other areas of your life? Are video games getting in the way of your work/school or personal relationships? if not, then your therapist is probably right, and you aren't addicted. If you just want to play less, then you need to find something else to do. The therapist can't help you find a new hobby.

What kind of answer do you expect? If I say stop, you'd say I might become homeless. If I say proceed, you'd say you don't care about the course.

The thing is that you should decide what "your ideal self" should look like/should be and then pick choices in order to become as close as possible to it.

Do you have any goals right now in life? Things that you'd like to accomplish?

>>18153772
Just to own my own place

>>18153784
Is there an "ideal you" you would like to become?

>>18153746

That's why you should live your life to its fullest and make the best of the time you have. You never know when something might happen, so don't spend sleepless nights thinking about work, or forcing yourself to have a family.

Do what makes you happy, so there's no regrets when you die.

The idea of life being a game and all pointless in the end should inspire you to get out there and enjoy life. All you have at the end of the day is good and bad experiences and you shouldn't settle for mundane repetitive work.

That's not to say make huge changes and stop work or anything crazy, just understand there is a time for having fun and a time for working, spend your free time PROPERLY living life, find a hobby or create new friends.

This is the key to life and will certainly make your situation so much more bearable. Good luck

>>18153774
This resonates with me for some reason. The only thing that eludes me is "live life to its fullest", what do you mean by that?

>>18153775
I understand what you say, but the temporary nature of the things you listed, inlcuded my life, make me feel as if I'm just a pawn in a game, as I said.

>>18153726
Don't look for friends. Look for things to do.Join a club, take a class, do volunteer work, hang out at the comic book store. You'll be among others doing the same thing, so chatting will be natural. That's how friendships start.

I took a beginning cooking class at a CC. We were all different and all terrible at cooking, but we laughed at each other and ourselves. Eventually some of us began going out for coffee after class.

>>18153726
I'm not the norm, but I'm totally cool with people randomly talking to me. Kind of weird to randomly talk to people probably though. I wish people did it more often. You should probably join clubs, take small philosophy classes at your local university, or check out meetup.com. Anyways, anyone worth being friends with wouldn't care if you've never had a friend.

>>18153726
just give people weed

>>18153719

Student visas are a thing, you don't even need citizenship. However, how do you plan to live? Even if education is free, living costs money and usually countries that offer free education (the nordics for example) tend to also be expensive af to live in.

Have you researched how expensive getting educated in mechanics actually is where you live now?

>>18153757

my living situation is not a problem.

>>18153762
>my living situation is not a problem.
?
So you're loaded enough to afford living in Europe?
Then what's the problem?

Never anything beyond a hobby

im trying to get into the industry myself, do you have a headshot?


its like they say with anything, you have to fail a fuckton before you can succeed

>>18153742
Yeah, I have a headshot. I'm not too bad looking if I do say so myself. I also have a resume, it's pretty weak though.

not an actor, though i have gone to film school and made shorts, some have been shown at smaller film festivals both in my country and outside, and have won some stuff, i'm far from pro though

i don't know why anyone would want to be an actor, it's hard to be good at and hard to get a chance at doing. my advice would be to write your own shit, you don't have to direct it yourself. find people you think are cool and on your wavelength and just make shit, have stuff you can show that can maybe then lead to some bigger stuff, don't have your future totally in the hands of others

Sounds like she fells sorry for you

>>18153715
For what? I haven't got any problems in my life right now

>>18153711
You are that creepy guy everyone hates to he around.

She doesn't say hi first because she hopes you wont talk to her. You give her the creeps. Plain an simple. Its so obvious.

And the eay you obsess about her and practically stalk her and watch her ever move at the dorm and take notes on her.... You're s creep. Worse, you're creepy and you think you aren't creepy.

Stop creeping people out. She doesn't say hi to you because she doesn't want to talk with you. Get the hint. She doesn't care about your bug collection or your racot anime you stupid virgin loser.

>>18153678
trust is over. fighting a woman isn't going to change that.

>Love him still but can't get over it
Stopped reading
You're fucking dumb.

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Congratulations on picking a winner, OP.

How many times have you had sex so far?

Can you please yourself?
If so, you don't have a broken pussy. The guys you've been involving yourself with just have stubby fingers/tongues/dicks

>>18153676
I would say over 30 times

>>18153680
I like rubbing my clit when I'm aroused, it's not a mindblowing feeling though

>>18153669
foreplay.

lose weight

>>18153669

Vagina can stretch enough to push out a baby. It can stretch enough to get your dick in there. Lots of foreplay, lots of fingers in there before you even try, eat her out, get her turned on. If she's too tight or too dry, then she's not into it enough yet. Try lube and/toys first if nothing seems to help.

>>18153645
First, you are NOT pathetic for being in mourning for a break-up. It is the sane, natural, normal response.

I can only tell you what I've done in similar situations. First, force yourself to carry on as normal a life as possible. Routine can be a good distraction, and it will make you feel better about yourself to prove that you can still function.

Second, take every opportunity offered you to have a social (not just romantic) life. Accept invitation to join people for dinner or a movie, go to parties, etc.

And third, you can paradoxically take some comfort from your pain itself. Having a broken heart is evidence you have a heart to break, and everyone sometimes wonders just how much emotional depth they have.

>>18153771

That last point is very true. For so long, I wondered if I actually had the ability to love.

Here's a question though: How do you carry on, when so much of your life reminds you of her?
Like, almost everything I do reminds me of her, no matter how trivial.

don't put your memories with her under a rug

be grateful for the good parts, acknowledge the other ones

in the meantime go be functional again

time heals everything

>I started doing the non contact rule hoping she would come back
>I'm still stalking her on facebook tho

You're missing the point of "no contact". It's not to get back with someone who broke up with you, it's to help you get over them. She's gone, she wanted to terminate the relationship, she wants something else. Why do you still try to be with her after she made clear that she doesn't want to be with you? Accept it and move on. Stop obsessing about her and what she thinks. Delete her off facebook and everything else. Stop being needy.

>>18153631
Just move on faggot

Shes out there slutting it up now, its time to loose hope and find a few cumdumpster

You did the right thing. Give it time. If/when she reaches out avoid all small talk. Tell her you want to see her and make a date.

>>18153630
I believe in symbiosis. Relationships are fucking that, but sometimes they turn parasitic. The hard part is that people except symbiosis from relationships, but handle them like parasites. Let's just call pest control.

>>18153630

It's real but it's hardly ever perfect or permanent.

>>18153638
I do believe un that too, but it looks like people are to selfish or proud to even start a fucking conversation with me.
And when they do, I can't help myself to try to be the best person i can.
Either way, I end up repeling'em por being to much for them.

I don't even know if I'm making myself clear.

>>18153624
>she just wanted to be single for a while

She doesn't want to be alone.
Translation: I want to have fun and fuck strangers until I have to settle down.

Cut the bitch off, she's keeping you on a leash and you're acting pathetic enough to go with it. And you're not going to be alone, you got a gf after all, you can do it again.

>>18153624
My life is shit rn OP. I go on because I hope it might get better.

>>18153624

You're heartbroken, being strung along and scared of this new reality. Learn to appreciate solitude and your own company. It's worth it, trust me. You're gonna feel like shit for a long time, things might make you reminisce and hurt, but take this one step at a time and spoil yourself some days. It's going to be a long, difficult time but you can do it.

She's definitely stringing you along though. Cut her out of your life unless you just enjoy extending this torture. All my life I've never seen a single person have a successful 'break'. Breaks are people exploring their options with a possible safety net. Most of the time one person sits twiddling their thumbs hoping their 'love' will come back since they're 'the one' when in reality they're very far down on the list at that point.

>What's your reason to keep going on?

I'm an idiot but I've helped quite a few people and can proudly say I've saved lives as well. I sometimes consider suicide but thinking of those I've helped and have yet to help keeps me moving.

>>18153598
lmao

>>18153598

Sit at a bar by yourself or something.

Still kind of unlikely and you're just gonna get a lot of "ey wanna fuk" guys.

This reminds me of a picture "how to collect welfare".