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Broke up with a broken , lone girl 2017-03-22 04:53:55 Post No.18150012
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2017-03-22 04:53:55
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Hello. Moments ago, i just broke up with a very abusive, stressful, paranoid girl that i've been wanting to break up with in a long time. She pissed me off enough this time by creating a maelstrom of problems out of nothing.
She is also, very, very dumb. Many times we fought because she didn't understand something i said, or things that happen around her. She doesn't get things easily. She is the first legitimate dumb/slow person without diagnosed diseases i've seen, which also made my life hell in the relationship.
I feel free. But i also feel empty. She has nobody else. No friends, her family is one of the shittiest possible, and her birthday is Friday. She has done worse things to me in the past, yet i'm feeling bad. Should i do anything? Should i try again, trying other methods and tactics, base myself around her many flaws, and yadda yadda? I knwo it's not my problem anymore, but i don't like feeling like this. I shouldn't, but i am feeling bad. And i don't want to go back to her out of love, because she also drained that off me. I just wanted her to have someone on her birthday. And in general, to take care of her dumb ass.
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>>18150012
Are you me? I had this same thing, but I actually broke up about a month ago. I staid as friends, but even that has gotten old for me, because the girl in question is a wreck.
Birthday huh. It's good for her to be alone, so she has actually a chance to self reflect. Probably doesnt though and just cries that nobody likes her. It's always them as victims and not the fault of their loneliness. Don't do it bro.
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>>18150021
Exactly. She makes her bullshit, ''ONCE'' she notices it was her fault, she makes in a way that wasn't her fault at all.
>Probably doesnt though and just cries that nobody likes her
That is also probably the exact thing that is going to happen.
I don't like hurting people unecesserily, but hell, does this sensation ever goes away? Why can't we have the same mental gymnastics as those insane banshees?
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>>18150012
This is rather harsh, but she isn't your responsibility, OP. Personally, if I don't see someone at least trying to take of themselves and/or better themselves then it isn't worth being with them.
I know it must be hard coming from your situation, and I really get that it feels shitty. I like to think of it this way: if life in general with her is worse than life without, then it indicates that this romantic relationship isn't worth it. Take some time to yourself, and if you decide to stay away from her, try to avoid all contact and attempts to help her.
Best of luck, man. Take care.
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>Me: I want to date a girl who falls in love with me at first sight.
>Fat ugly ho: You're being completely unrealistic. Here date this 38 year old.
>Me: It's happened to me more times than I can count.
>Fat ugly ho: You're being completely unrealistic. What about her personality?
>Me: A good personality is not mutually exclusive. I prefer to date a girl that is going crazy for me at first sight.
>Fat ugly ho: You're being completely unrealistic. You just don't get it. You see this guy here, he's hotter than you.
>Me: I don't care, let him date who he gets and I'll date who I get. I've had more girls than I can count cry over me with them having no insight into my personality. I want a girl who falls in love at first sight with me.
>Fat ugly cunt: You're being completely unrealistic.
What don't I get, /adv/? Why do women do this? Why do women try to tell you you're unattractive? I'm 27 btw.
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>What don't I get, /adv/?
What you don't get is that what you're looking for is not a good way to build a healthy, long-standing relationship. "Love at first site" isn't love. It's infatuation and lust. It fades, it's fleeting, it's an obsession based on their ideal fantasy boyfriend being projected onto you because they don't know you. It can turn into love, sure, but if you're putting things like personality, attraction, similar values, and so on as a second to it then you're going to have a harder time building a long standing relationship.
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>>18149978
Maybe you're ugly OP
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>>18149978
> Why do women try to tell you you're unattractive?
Maybe because you're unattractive.
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I feel like my job isnt right for me.
Any advice on what jobs someone with labor experience and an AA in liberal arts can get?
I also want to move because its too expensive to live in my state. What are ideal incomes in other locations?
NJ here and you need at least $2000 a month to live semi comfortable.
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>>18149968
What do you do now? That's kind of crucial. An AA in liberal arts isn't going to get you much of anywhere, to be honest.
Do you have any savings to move?
You didn't leave much for us to go off of.
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>>18149968
>NJ here and you need at least $2000 a month to live semi comfortable. I live in NJ, and you need more than that if you want to have a place to yourself. Otherwise, you're stuck with roommates.
Get out of the state. This state is for people with established careers and wanting to raise a family. It's not for people just getting on the ladder. Cost of living is just too fucking high.
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>>18149994
I'm currently in a warehouse. I could eventually make my living, but it doesn't seem worth it to work 60 hours a week becoming a driver.
I want to move out of the state, but just want to ensure I have something to guarentee a job. Say even dish washing? is it possible to live off that job in other areas?
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sister went a little bit too far 2017-03-22 04:27:48 Post No.18149963
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sister went a little bit too far
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2017-03-22 04:27:48
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tldr : my sister got into my fb account on an old laptop and she read all my conversations with friends and stuff, she took pictures of a lot of things and showed it to parents (i'm 20 she's 22)
kind of things like my friends joking about her (you know the classic sister jokes, mom jokes). Problem is this is was just fun between friends and she didn't like it.
Now she threatens to publish all my conversations. Yeah you probably think I should just assume what I said but the thing is this is my privacy and she had no right to see theses conversations.
what should i do ? try to convince her to delete everything ? just do nothing ?
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>>18149963
How come your sister has so little respect towards you ? Don't you have any counter-mesure to blackmail her ?
Anyway, go see her, tell her now you are not joking. Tell her if she does that she would have betray you and that she will regret this for a long time. You will make her life a living hell for it. It's your private convos with your friends at a certain time. how would she react if you violated her private life ? What if you would threaten her to do the same ?
She should change her mind. If not I would destroy every electronic device she own
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Just record her saying that, or maker mention via text. Calmly walk to her and say: if you do that, I'll go to the cops and file a report on you for blackmailing, hacking and publicly exposing my privatcy
Problem. Fucking. Solved.
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>>18149963
Talk to her in person. Tell her that youre sorry that this happened. Tell her that revenge will only damage the relationship more. Dont say anything else just sit or stand mute and allow her to respond. This will let her know that she is responsible for whatever happens next. Listen quietly to everything she has to say. If positive, move on. If she decides that she still wants to go through with it or keep the info, tell her that you will cut her off if she does so. Then follow through.
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Does anyone here have a recommended alcohol recovery program that ISN'T AA?
I'm two weeks sober by myself at the moment - and I went to AA a couple of years back, and it REALLY didn't resonate with me. I'd love to have some kind of support group of like minded people. I don't know if I'm quitting forever, but I'd love to have a group of people to talk to that aren't just sharing rock bottom stories, but are sharing strategies to cope with stress, operate in work functions where booze is prevalent and the main activity (my job VERY frequently encourages drinking, like more than once a week), or even just how you keep yourself busy and deal with friends that are still heavy drinkers.
Anyone have anything that's worked for them or someone they know?
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Sounds like you should still try AA just new locations or times
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>>18149943
AA does not work for me because of the religious aspect and the fact that most people treat alcohol like a disease. It does not help me remove alcohol from my life to put it in someone else's hands, in this case, a "higher power," that I don't believe in.
It is up to me to not pick up the bottle, to not take a sip. I can't "accidentally" drink alcohol.
Please do not try to convince me to join AA. I'm trying to find something that works.
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>>18149936
AA is the last house on the block, and it always has been. You're encouraged to have no other hope before trying it out, and some even recommend you go out and try to control your drinking again if you have doubts to really find out if you you fit their definition of an alcoholic--powerless over alcohol and your life completely unmanageable.
So yeah, you can find detoxes and sober living houses and outpatient programs, hopefully they'll work. Ask your insurance provider, many of them cover treatment options. Try not to die in a drunk driving accident or get a DUI in the meantime, and if you got nowhere else to turn, AA will welcome you with no judgement.
>AA fag with 3 years sober
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Stress makes me hurt myself.
What the fuck should I do, my arm is bloodied up because I can't fucking stop cutting it.
I am supposed to be studying, but it makes me extremely anxious and stressed out, and whenever I try to get started, I'll maybe read few lines before the stress overwhelms me and I start hurting myself.
Pls help.
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I don't think it comes from school. Think back and figure out something else that triggered it.
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>>18149885
It doesn't come from schoo, it comes from stress.
The first time I did it was few years ago when I was very depressed.
I am still depressed, though not necessarily as badly, though my current state of mind makes me question that.
I cannot cope with stress and the risk of failure at all.
Taking this course was a fucking mistake, and I want to fucking die.
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>>18149869
Do what you gotta do to get through your studies. Maybe some anti-anxiety meds would be a little less... visible, but finishing your studies will pay off
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What did she mean by this ?
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>>18149833
It means she's a total hoe (commonly referred to as a 'thot') who will fuck you and pretend to have daddy issues in bed cuz it's the current sex fad
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>>18149836
Perfect
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>>18149836
What does pretending to have daddy issues in bed mean? What did anon mean by this? How is it different to actual daddy issues in bed kek
All of that junk in her bio made me feel sick. What site/app is that?
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I am facing the real possibility that I may no longer have a roof over my head.
I have a car, a casual job (I'm currently a university student) and about $3000 to my name.
I am very adventurous in nature, so I have a bit of enthusiasm tackling this issue head on. But I am realistic, I have a lot outdoor related skills/activities under my belt. i.e bushcraft, fishing, spearfishing etc.
Can anyone refer me to an article or an info pic on how to started? what bases do I need covered? What advice can you give me?
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>>18149815
Are you going to live in a car? Learn car maintenance. Learn where you can legally sleep/camp/fish/etc.
That said, $3000 is enough to pay rent for a while where I'm from. Especially if you also have a job. Why can't you move, or couchsurf, etc`?
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>>18149815
Couch surfing websites. No shit, my brother has spent almost a year all across Asia doing nothing but using couch surfing. It will be way easier in America, too, and will save you tons of money.
Otherwise, 3k is more than enough to move into a place
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>>18149830
I'm from Australia.
Unfortunately the cost to rent here isn't ideal, I've never rented before, so I'm searching the in's and outs with real estate agent websites to see my options. Unfortunately my job is in the middle of a city and it isn't really an option for me to rent nearby with my income as a casual. The advantage is my work has showers so there's a plus.
I am well versed in regards to the law here regarding camping and fishing, I eat like a king near the sea, in fact my food expenses is just supplementary like veggies ingredients, utensils etc. My issue is largely that my food depends on tides.
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> couch surfing
Not something I can do desu, I'd rather live in a car than bother my friends to sleep in their couch. Many still live with their parents. I kinda feel ashamed to ask as well.
Plus I am uncertain on how safe I'll be sleeping in my car either =(
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I feel confused.
I'm 25, soon to be 26. Never had a girlfriend before. I feel confident enough to say that based upon what I've observed, people generally like to be around me, and I've even had girls compliment my looks. But I chose to put all of that aside to focus on my career. Although, sometimes I feel lonley and wonder what it would be like to have a girlfriend. There has been a few times where a girl has asked ME out. Most of the time I've decline, once I accepted. I couldn't handle it. I broke things off within a week. Even tho I liked her, I could not accept the fact she showed affection toward me. It felt "wrong". Even thinking about it right now, I have this very uncomfortable feeling in my chest as I think about that experience.
It's conflicting. I feel lonley, and sometime desire a girlfriend, but at the same time. The thought of me actually having a girlfriend really bothers me, it just feels "wrong" or "inappropriate". Like it's not the right thing for me to do. I don't know how else to desribe it.
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Maybe you should look for a boyfriend, not a gf
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>>18149817
I'm not gay
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>>18149800
Sounds like fear of the unknown. You don't know what it's like, so you can't imagine yourself doing it and therefore you chicken out before you get that far. Once you've acknowledged that problem, you have to just do it and get out of your comfort zone. Once you do that, the situation should normalize quickly as routine sets in. It's sorta like how some people are terrified of flying, until they actually sit in a plane and realize it's not that bad. It's the process of getting them in a plane that's the problem.
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ITT: Ask to the opposite gender anything 2017-03-22 02:30:35 Post No.18149791
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, fart guy, platonic cuddling guy
Fuck off
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Is it pronounced paul maul or pell mell?
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>>18149796
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1GIo-1Pki4
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Guys
Do you agree with the "You can always try to get a girl that is "above your league" but knowing when to give up trying on said girl is key." mentality?
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Somehow I got talked into trying a dancing class with a relative.
I fucking hate dancing.
What should I expect from these class? What am i going to go trough?
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>>18149702
Fuck it.
I'll just bail.
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>>18149953
Right choice. Do something else nice for them to apologize. Take them out to dinner or something.
Life's too short to do pointless shit you hate.
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>>18149702
Counterpoint: maybe you'll hate dancing less and feel less self conscious if you take a lesson.
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I´ve reached a point in my existence where I can really decide if I really want to live in this world anymore ;
My studies are ruined because im a lazy fuck , from here I´ll have at least two years of graduation delay , I have zero friends in real life , and the ones who only loves me are my parents and grandparents , which only makes me feel repulsed towards myself , because I don´t deserve it .The problem of "Just kill yourself OP" it´s that I don´t have the guts to do it by myself , everyday I wait to some tragedy happend to me , which doesnt seems to have taken place .
Then , what I should do /adv/ ? I´ve already thought-out return to class , which doesnt seems to work quite well , im really , really lazy to a point that I can´t finish ANYTHING I start .
And no , this is not a simple crisis , crisis doesnt last two or three years .
Ah , and I like to draw too
Which im terrible at it too
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Would you draw furry porn for cash?
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>>18149694
If you kill yourself it will ruin the lives of your parents and grandparents
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>>18149694
Drop out and get a job. You're just going to be wasting either your or the state's money for nothing. As lobby as you won't kill yourself, get a job and take care of yourself
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need help with tinder bio
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just downloaded tinder for the first time and don't know what i should put. any successful slayers help a brother out? pics n that are all sorted but no idea about the bio
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>>18149691
I never had any success with all those "online dating" platforms.. No one was online. Just shitty little bots!
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>>18149691
that pic... Does Tinder not show your age anymore or has it been an option for a longer time?
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>that pic
Why are my pants getting tighter
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Im 20 male and for last few weeks I had real troubles with peeing. Few years back when I was in highschool I had really shy bladder. I couldnt piss at all in school, or it would take half hour of serious gymnastics on the toilet. Even if I felt like bursting, I couldnt bring myself to pee. Now when Im in college, it got worse lately. Even when Im almost empty, sometimes I feel like Im leaking. I actually dont, but it really stresses me out because Im not sure that Im not pissing myself. Only happens in classes or train, not in my flat. Worst thing is, I still have really shy bladder. Even if it feels like Im leaking, when I go to take a piss I cant. What do?
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>>18149681
Dude, I have the same problem. I pee like a racehorse at home or somewhere I'm comfortable, but if I think there's even the slightest chance anyone can hear nothing's coming out.
You have to distract yourself, I say the alphabet in my head and draw out each character in my mind. You have to trick yourself into finding some habit that distracts you enough to be able to go.
Good luck with it, I would like to say it helps 100% of the time but I sometimes let my anxiety get the best of me so it really only works about 75% of the time.
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>>18149690
Shy bladder is a curse, stay strong bud.
But what to do with the pissing myself feeling?
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shy cock, its a bitch.
Distraction allthough not perfect, is the only solution for me
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I found out im dying within the next 6 months or so. Ive left my job and have an extra $10k from a savings account that was issued by my employer. If you were me, what would you do with it?
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>>18149677
rampant hedonism
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Travel to as many countries as i can and impregnate as many whores as i can.
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>>18149677
dying from what exactly?