There is this girl which I have taken and interest in after talking few times now. We don't speak too much but we do share lingering glances from time too time. I decided to add her on facebook but noticed she literally only has 3 friends yet comes online anyway. I'm always nervous to type anything however. Should I say something to her?
>>18151352
yea nigger, what do you have to lose?
>>18151352
3 friends sounds like a loser. She's probably desperate for some lonely boy to ask her out.
You could be that lonely boy, OP
>>18151366
You're right.
I simple hello should do it then. Thanks.
How to deal with the paperwork for buying a used vehicle privately?
>18 years old
>live in british columbia
>no family or friends
>literally nothing besides a learners license
now that you have some background info i need a non autistic explanation of how i can start from ground 0 to getting a fully legal and registered vehicle with insurance i can drive around
all i know is you need an auto broker but i dont know what they are or what i need to do and you need to sign alot of paperwork that the seller and you need to sign that matches the vehicle perfectly
First of all get your N.
Why not just buy a beater off craigslist? Older civics or camrys are cheap and have tons of parts, and they run well.
You need the car title for a title transfer and a bill of sale, both of which the seller should provide to you while you purhase. Get a history report from the seller as well.
You'll have to go to an ICBC to do all this (any autoplan place)
I cant paste it on my phone for some reason, just look up transfer vehicle ownership bc and go to the first link.
After you transfer the vehicle to you, you insure the vehicle while you're there.
An autobroker is just an insurance place - BC only has one, ICBC, they always have signs saying registered autoplan out front.
Also you know your insurance will be like 200 a month?
T. 22 year old, I live in vancouver
>>18151417
i shouldve said but im getting a motorcycle, i just need to do a short skills test in a parking lot to upgrade my learners to ride without a supervisor.
i do plan on getting something cheap off craigslist.
ok so i walk in, inspect the vehicle, if its good all i ask for is a title transfer, bill of sale, history report? i also heard of a lien check i might need to do
do i have to go to icbc with the seller?
is there anything i need to know about insuring a vehicle? can i do it alone if im 18?
how much does all of this paperwork cost?
thanks
>>18151518
You can insure the vehicle at 18.
If everything is in order you go to the autoplan place and fill out the paperwork, its all very self explanatory dont sweat it, just signing your name. The insurance people can help you with all of this, there isnt really any scamming that foes on because theres not much to scam. They already control the entire market.
Yes you should go to icbc with them although I dont believe its mandatory. But you should absolutely go with imo.
Im not sure on the cost of paperwork, however if you are getting a new plate (they want to keep theirs) then it could cost like 200 bucks, not totally sure. I just got a scooter (im in the states atm) and a new plate was like 200.
You sound very nervous about this whole thing, and thats natural, just try to remember that if you need help the insurance people can help, and you cant really get ripped off unless the bike doesnt work.
Any seller with their shit together will expect to do all this and you wont have to worry. Above all speak up if you're confused on something and dont commit if you're unsure. Shady sellers like to corner you into uncomfortable situations so you feel bad about saying no to the buy, especially when they're desperate.
I feel like I'm good at understanding how other people feel and personally connecting with their emotions and situations. However, the problem comes when I try to communicate that I understand. Saying "I know how you feel" doesn't seem like it would work. Google mostly recommends things like mirroring what the person says, but that just feels autistic to me ("Work is driving me crazy!" "So what I'm hearing is that you're stressed out about work." "...dude i literally just said that."). I watched a video about empathy vs sympathy, and I realized I often make sympathetic statements (lots of "at least blah blah").
How can I speak empathetically without doing that mirroring business? What are some examples of empathetic statements?
>>18151309
A very good question. I am also very emphatic and feel others pain and have problem expressing this. Interested to hear others input on this.
>>18151312
Yeah, I've been wondering this for a while now! Googling hasn't been very helpful, pretty much every site says to do the mirroring thing, and like while that would be fine to use for like exercises in communication, it feels too awkward to use on an everyday basis
Come to think of it, asking 4chan about empathy might not have been such a great idea, but I'm curious if anyone can help
I'm 20 and I have no self control. I binge on junk food and sit at the computer doing nothing everyday.I should be asleep right now as I have to get up tomorrow to get up early tomorrow, but I'm just sitting here doing nothing. How do I change my manchild ways? Give it to me straight and honest /adv/,
Ditch atheism, believe that the universe is watching your every move and wants you to make the right choices and will be disappointed if you don't constantly try to improve yourself.
Have some discipline. Start exercising every other day, take care of yourself, limit masturbation to once-twice a week max, never look at porn, try to find a lifestyle that helps you grow and pursue it.
Seconding 'ditch atheism.'
Also, you need more people in your life. People will judge and bully you, and then you will have more motivation to change your ways. If you're a fat slob who can't conform to any sort of schedule then you probably don't have all that many decent people in your life. Internet people don't count.
>>18151285
Get a friend?
wanna be my friend and struggle for greatness?
Are men capable of empathy?
Whenever a guy has been 'nice' to me the niceness immediately stops once they've had sex with me
Not once has a guy had feelings for me
Is it just in stories?
>>18151228
The secret is to not have sex with men you aren't dating if you want friendship because you're playing a game of give and take and frankly not all people are willing to keep giving after they've taken.
You know those nice guys that you would never date?
Try going out with one of them instead of Chad.
>>18151228
More so than women.
The problem you are having has nothing do with emapthy which should be fairly obvious
I need some help /adv/
I am a 20yo guy. I have barely any facial hair. My cheeks are underdeveloped (a surgeon himself said so), my jaw is very narrow, actually my entire face is too long and narrow, eyes too close. This also makes my midface and cheeks sag. Mouth looks shrinkled. I weigh 65 kg at 185cm. Long lanky limbs. Chest width small like a girl's.
I feel very underdeveloped, and im probably not wrong. Would getting my hormone balance checked help out? Could I use some testosterone medicine to help fight this? Any other adv?
Who cares? I wish I looked like yiu
Post pics
>>18151226
Maybe it could because you could detect a lack of Testosterone or maybe too much estrogen or something like that. But what if you don't detect?
Try to learn to don't care, by your description it doesn't seems like you're ugly. If you want post a pic, but we're on 4chan so if you don't want we understand.
my doctor said my depression and anxiety would decrease if i get a gf and lose my virginity
is he right?
i've tried online dating but my confidence went down lower when i sent like 70 messages and only got 2 dates and none of them called me back after we met up :(
>>18151153
try lowering your standards, go for feminists, literally no guy dates them.
check their bios for "how women shape the future" or whatever.
>>18151176
>go for feminists
literally might as well just kys now
majority of feminists are hardcore scapegoatists that will prey on every single small character flaw you have
the other type of feminists are the ones who are too stupid to see that the rest of feminism are scapegoatists
>>18151153
Its a short term fix. It worked for me for a while but then it doesnt work anymore.
I'm fat again now, but for a few years I worked out hard and got really thin. I was really happy then. Felt good about myself and my life. Maybe it will work for you.
So my birthday is in a couple of days and i've been single for about a month now. This last relationship lasted about 4 or 5 years. I want to at least get some good sex in for my birthday but the only person that sounds up to do that is my ex. We would have greaaaaat sex all the time. Is this a bad idea, too soon?
>putting fingers in a girls mouth during sex
pretty hot desu senpai
>>18151152
Yeah, sex with an ex is generally a bad idea, but I've made it work after we set very clear expectations. Since you aren't sure if you can get sex on a whim you must be a guy so your options are limited.
>>18151171
We've had sex after breaking up and it was still great I just don't know how to ask for it. We haven't spoken in about a week and a half. I'm a lady btw
I've come to the realization that I either need something to cling to so I can fix my life or an outside intervention (like a life coach) to do it.
Its been so long and I keep going back to terrible patterns and terrible routines.
Right now I am having trouble to do the things I have to, and I keep trying to find a person that might be on the same situation as me and would like to work together, perhaps, in the form of an accountability partner.
I tried this before and didn't have much luck. Perhaps this time it will be different?
I guess this post is meant to get the attention of anybody who would like to talk about it.
pls respond
Am I a sociopath? I basically pretend to be a normie but deep inside I know I'm not normal at all. I don't feel anything and every emotion/interaction is faked. I don't care about anyone but myself. Frankly I'm just amazed nobody found out yet that I'm bullshitting them 24/7. Is this sociopath behaviour? Is it possible to fix me?
>>18151128
>this text
>this picture
I don't even know if you're old enough to post here. You're edgy. Grow up.
>>18151142
You're edgier than OP.
>>18151128
Telling the truth won't get you the most friends, but it will get you the right ones - stop pretending.
>>18151142
Sadly I'm not underage anymore and not trying to be edgy, I just tried to be honest
Alright /adv/ someone just egged my car and I know who it was, how should I get them back?
>>18151097
Start the bloodfued.
If you want to escalate, aircraft paint stripper. That's getting into felony territory though.
>>18151097
Buy like 300 plastic forks. At night, stick them all in their lawn/garden
Any business majors here? What's it like? I'm thinking of going into finance next year.
I have a degree in banking and finance. For me it was absolutely terrible, I didn't enjoy most of it. Half of the subjects are braindead "memorize this" courses that you'll forget one semester later, one quarter accounting and another one math applied in economics. This last part can be pretty interesting if you have an interest in finances, capital markets, banking and/or general economy, but it just wasn't for me. Accounting is objectively boring and uninteresting and no one can convince me otherwise. You must have some knowledge about it if you're going to work in the field though, it's pretty much the language of business world.
The program is not too hard, but it's definitely not a walk in the park either. If you don't have some interest or passion in math or economics you will struggle with it and you'll most likely grow to resent it.
The jobs involved are also pretty shit, at least in my opinion. Most people who get this degree end up working as financial/data analyst, accountant, auditor, tax adviser, stockbroker, functional QE, actuary or risk manager. These are all jobs that involve no creativity and creation whatsoever so you're pretty likely to end up hating life after 10 years in the field. You can definitely get a good paying job with low stress with this degree. Special mention is actuary, which is considered one of the best jobs out there, but you will most likely have to do a masters for it too (it involves a lot of math) and I personally find it boring as hell.
What I'm getting at is that it's a field that not many people can find passion and meaning in. The pay can be good, but you're most likely to get a high income from something you're passionate about anyways. If you really have a a strong interest in the field then sure, go for it, but if you're just doing it for the money or because "I might as well chose a major" you should reconsider it. These were the reasons I went into it and I regretted it. I ended up changing the field anyways.
>>18151127
>These were the reasons I went into it and I regretted it. I ended up changing the field anyways.
What major did you initially select?
>>18151161
You misunderstood me, I went into finance from the start. Finished the degree, then ended up learning and working in programming.
I sent a screenshot of chrome to my group chat but forgot to edit out the bookmarks. Now, I am just freaking out cause there are things that shouldnt be seen. Should I straight up lie? Or try to get their handphones and try to delete it?
>>18151072
Shouldn't have been a creep from the start.
Either accept your embarrassment or kys
>>18151072
Say nothing until it's brought up then say nothing
If they ask about it just say you where doing that hot new meme where you put up fake tabs/bookmarks for shock value.
Wondering what you guys do to last longer. With this slightly older girl and got it in and the relationship is 10/10 in every way but I'm wondering ^^ (no, sex isn't the majority of the relationship at all, just asking performance wise)
I lasted about 8 to 10mins my first time, wasn't scared or anything, and tried to prolong the experience by unironically thinking about the (((Russian Revolution of 1917))). Heard years ago that this one was method - to think about baseball or something
Any new tricks and tips? (Foreplay lasted like an hour, I maybe could've lasted longer but she had done some hand and mouth stuff slightly before entry)
Rebump
Npt focusing on the act is the best way.
Also masturbating moar may also help(if you have wear a condom)
Other than that the moar sex i have the longer i last.
do math problems
LawFag here, Canadian lawyer doing mostly family law for over 15 years. Ask me.
If you want legal info or advice, tell me where you're from, province or state or country.
>>18150999
can you tell stories of some most crazy cases you followed?
Also, checked
>>18150999
How often do you have to call bs on your clients?
>>18151009
>can you tell stories of some most crazy cases you followed?
>Also, checked
Noice! I got Trips!
I do mostly family law these days in Ontario, including a lot of work for the Office of the Children's Lawyer so I represent children in court. By "children" it's usually minors from 9-14, and if the parents are fighting over kids of this age you can bet that the kids think that both parents are retarded.
I've got some cases with aborignal children, I'm representing a dude against the child welfare authorities who has a shit ton of tattoos so they think he's a criminal, and the usual crack heads who say that they'd do anything for their kids other than give up crack.