No matter what I do or how much I work on myself and my appearance,

>>18152916

I liken it to going into an ice cream shop. You have your favorite flavor, and that's what you always get when you get ice cream, but thinking the mint chocolate chip might be tasty is harmless.

But enough with the analogies. Yeah, your boyfriend is probably always going to find someone sexy at another time in his life. But there's a lot more to a relationship that cements you as better than them, if that makes sense.

But your boyfriend probably shouldn't be vocal about it unless that's your thing.

It's a different kind of sexiness to think that someone "objectively" looks better or acts smoother, than the person you don't just think looks good and acts sexy, but you also know how hot the noises are she makes during sex, how good her pussy smells, what her body feels like.

It seems like you have a pretty shallow idea of what makes someone sexy. A huge part of sexiness is sexual energy/spirit. If you are enthusiastic, active and free-spirited (not insecure, not judgmental/prudish) during sex, that in itself is crazy hot. Sexiness is much more complicated and "organic" than having a thigh gap or not or other physical details.

>>18152916
Dumie.

Relationships are like investments. At the start, he can ditch you for any reason. But as the time goes on, both of you spent time, energy, money, feelings on each other.

From certain moment he wont switch you for better woman because you are already his qtie who is he comfortable with and trusts you.

Relationships dies after very long periods of time where one (or both) side takes the partner for granted and stops the upkeep. Or when one of them is asshole and cheats.

If you want to keep your bf happy, apply simple guide on how to treat males right:
1. Boost his ego. Directly or indirectly tell him how good he is at anything. This also includes not degrading him when he fails something.
2. Drain his balls. Properly drained male wont even bother thinking about other females and it also boost his ego.
3. Give simple instructions. Do you want him to behave differently? To do something? Tell him in as simple terms as possible.
4. Bonus point: dont get fat.

Remember happy boyfriends and husbands dont even think abou breaking up / cheating.

>>18152943

No, it's not me, it's my boyfriend. He told me that while he loves me, there's women he finds sexier and hotter than me, that there's some things he finds sexy in them that I don't have

but that it's something he'll never act upon, it's objective, he says

And we have discussed this kind of sexiness you've talked about and he's said even adding love in, his "shallow" lust for other girls that are objectively sexier is stronger

Is that normal

>>18152916
Guys look at sexy girls. It's an automatic reflex action. But their second thought is most often "No. Impressive, but not really my type" - especially if they already have a gf.

He will always look, but his looking is no threat to you or your relationship.

Remember, he's with you, which makes you the winner and that anonymous sexpot the loser.

>>18152959
Not normal at all. Feeling this way isn't but more than anything else, voicing it to you isn't.

Best case scenario here is that he's a thick guy with little empathy for not realizing how hurtful this is, on top of literally having no added value for your relationship.

Worst case scenario is that he's actively trying to neg you (tear down your self esteem) to make you more dependent on him or more desperate to impress/please him.

Either way, leave him before losing faith in men, again this is not normal at all. At least, it is quite normal to feel the way I described, and I would not ever want to date someone who attaches more sexual value to some picture of some random ass woman than the entire sexuality of his own partner.

>>18152916
You already have him. Shut your bitch mouth.

>>18152981

He'll tell me I'm the woman he loves and the only one he'll ever fuck but that other women are objectively sexier than me and that gives him more lust than looking at me

>>18152987
Yeah. Can you imagine ever telling someone you love that, even if you did feel that way?

>>18153004

But my question is if it's okay for boyfriends to have their gf: the person they love and have the most fun with sexually out of combined love and attraction

but objectively still see other girls they find sexier and more "bangable" but only fantasize and would never cheat

Is that normal?

>>18153010
I tried to answer that already. This part in itself, not necessarily. I'm sure he is not the only man who feels that way, but in my experience and opinion it is more common to feel attraction to your SO that's just on a different level.
But, again, it's not some freakish extreme case. No doubt others would agree with him.
So I'd say it's not "normal" but not that "weird" either.

What is NOT normal is that he has no issues telling you this.

There will be always someone better than you, of course.

That's no reason to stop working on yourself tho.

You can still be the most treasured without being the most hot.

>>18153013

What do you mean by on a different level?

do you mean that the sexual attraction he has to me is different because it's emotional?

He still says I'm incredibly attractive and he has a healthy appetite for me in the bedroom, it's just he admits that there are women he finds sexier from how they look and stuff like that and that gets him more hot under the collar

>>18153013
>>18152987
This might be case of
1) manipulator trying to get your self esteem down, maybe try to go for three way or "open relationship"
2) Autist

I bet on captain autismo, since if it is not, then well, you're in shit.

In guy's head it goes like this.
I respect and love my gf so much that I have to be sincere to her about everything since I want my relationship to have no secrets and be healthy so we can deal with all matters together.
And then the guy goes with - honey, I don't like your hair, honey, I see other girls more hot, honey, I masturbate to ponies tentacle porn etc.

Guy have to learn that in small matters you really can lie.

>>18153033
Yeah. I mean that the combination of finding their partner hot AND knowing what sex with them is like AND loving them is much sexier to them than some better looking woman. Essentially >>18152943

It's up to you whether you can live with that, once again it's a bummer already that he feels this way but I would worry more that he does not think twice about telling you this.

How would he respond if you did this? Have you tried asking him that, how he would feel if you raved about men who were hotter to you and got you wetter than he does?

>>18153039
Ehh, I don't know. Maybe if she outright asked him, but otherwise, I'm going to be cynical. It is not uncommon at all for insecure guys to try to keep their girl small by low key insulting her.

>>18153049

But that combination is sexier from emotional, not literally the lust alone or aesthetics right?

then I suppose he falls into that

but he has also said his love and lust for me added together are not the same or as horny as his "objective/appearance only" lust

is that bit normal?

Like yes he loves and gets off on these things because they're with me and he is with me but is the fact that his shallow lust is lustier than his objective-alone lust for me normal?

>>18153077
They influence each other. Eg with my ex, he could make me soaking wet just with a smile or a hand on my back. Not because he was great looking (he was cute but nothing extraordinary in that regard) but because I adored him and did not just pay attention to his looks when having those moments but because I knew how he could touch me and how he could give me that same taunting smile during sex. You bet there is no man in the world that I don't know who can make me literally wet just by appearing in my line of sight or smiling at me.
I know he felt the same way, to the point where he considered women "ugly compared to me" (he volunteered this info, I am not a jealous person and actually kind of like hearing that stuff from a partner if I trust him) who were clearly much better looking than me, because his love goggles got the worse of him.

"Love is blind" wasn't pulled out of thin air.

>is that bit normal?
I don't know what else to tell you in regards to that in my experience, no, it's not the MOST normal way to feel but I am sure that he's not some freak exception either.

It kind of sounds to me like you are not okay with him feeling this way and saying these things (which I understand extremely well) but are wanting to hear that it's normal and everyone feels this way because you don't like the alternative. Not trying to offend you and at least your thread gets pumped but I've given you the answers (from my point of view) several times, I'm not going to change them if you word it slightly differently. Not trying to sound harsh because I do really feel for you. And as I said, once again, I would worry most of all about him telling you this to begin with.

>>18153101
>your thread gets pumped
Fucking lol, thread gets *bumped obviously.

>>18152987
You've made this fucking thread at least three times this year and we tell you the same fucking thing each time. Fuck you, you dense motherfucking fuck.

>>18152946
>4.
>dont get fat.
>Bonus point

Haha, no. That's the iron rule.