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Damn, that was a lot longer than I expected it to be.

>>18280017
>T^T
No.

>>18280038
why anon? T^T

Try different kinds of noise (white, pink, brown etc.) on yt for the tinnitus, it helps me when i can't sleep.

>>18280012
There's plenty of ambient noise on YouTube that should help. Your mind will adapt to the ringing eventually, once you learn to tune it out with white noise, but remember to protect your ears from further damage: Use earplugs and/or earmuffs. Invest in a reusable pair of molded musician's earplugs. They are worth their weight in gold.

>>18280059
>>18280088
Thanks lads.

>>18280005
>My boyfriend wants to break up with me But I told him no
>I kinda wanted to breakup first but then he said he wanted to.
LMAOO WTF is wrong with women?

>>18280005

>wants to break up with me
>told him no

Wtf lol, it's not your decision.

Why the hell do you use x instead of c?

>>18280005
1) learn what sentences are and how punctation works.

2) ditch your bf. It doesnt matter who ditched who. Juat break up.

3) grow up.

4) return back when you are 18.

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>>18279969
Had the same issue awhile back, i just settled with the idea that were here to die eventually so why not be the best version of yourself while im hoping to be rememed to be a great memory to some of the people i met.

>>18279969
Hi OP.
I'm also terrified of desth but several things comfort me.
- That we are going to die, so it makes every single moment amazing, and fuck worrying about it, because we shouldn't spoil what we have.
- You were not alive for billions of years before you were born
- I have a deterministic theory about the universe, that when the universe starts to implode, the big bang will happen again, and you will live your life again, made out of the same atoms.

>>18279994
It just seems there is not enough time. Why the fuck was I born in this specific period of history? Why am I not allowed to experience 100 years in the past or future?

I've looked into buddism and shit but everytime my mind goes : YOU'RE GOING TO DIE ANYWAY SO IT DOESN'T FUCKING MATTER

I'm having trouble enjoy simple things in life because I keep thinking well I'm one minute closer to death then I was before.

So what if he says? Act calm and say "prove". He cannot. Just don't get nervous, and even if you do... Trust me, your parents don't give a fuck about it in depth of their soul. You think they were different? No, they were the same horny teenagers.

Catch him master bating then you'll be even.

>>18279975
I'm pretty sure he has a picture, at least he's telling me he has one.

My parents are NOT normal, they go over the top with this kind of stuff

>>18279956
Ask her out in a date

If have known her for more than 4 weeks chances are you are in the friendzone

>>18279962
>If have known her for more than 4 weeks chances are you are in the friend zone
Not if in college or school or work

>>18279971
Yeah, we're at college.

>>18279892
Don't think too hard about it.
It's supposed to feel natural. Most of the time, flirting is just giving compliments, suggestions for things to do, or comments that get the other person thinking about certain things. e.g., sex.
Figuring out what works takes experience, tact, and knowledge of the person you're working with. Flirt sparingly with people you don't know very well so you don't come off as creepy.

There's no exact way to flirt. It depends on the setting, timespan, and people involved. If it communicates interest, it's flirting. Smiling at someone could be flirting. Staring could be flirting if it's not creepy.
Always look for feedback. If you get no reaction, try something else or move on.

>>18279892
Light teasing and the occasional compliment are pretty much the only flirting I do. If I want to date someone I'll be upfront about it and ask them on a date.

Don't do the fucking shoulder touch/arm brush bullshit, especially if you're doing it with everyone. It creeps out not only the women you do it to, but also the people watching and it's transparent as fuck. People should be able to go about their day without being clawed at by random men.

>>18279892
Just joke, keep your body language open, and look sexy

>>18279889
Easy.

You invade his private life. Ask him what is he doing, where he lives, from where is he from, offer him to join your friend group activities, ask him what he does for fun on weekends and force yourself into it.

Tldr stick to him like a glue.

>>18279902
That... sounds like horrible advice.

Or maybe it's brilliant I just have to find his Facebook, cross reference his photos with geographical locations and show up one day, insisting we're to become best friends and then I reveal a knife, cut his thumb, and we become blood brothers.

Mite b cool

>>18279904
I dont know about the knife method or the whole cross geographical thing, but you are just overthinking problems.

Most humans (even introverts) enjoys having various social interactions. And talking is one of them. I could write
>just talk to him
but then you would be like
>about what?

Maybe it sounds like some evil plan, but that is what friends are. People you trust so much you allow them to invade your private life and even willingly shares joys, sorrows and secrets with.

>>18279886
It would be easier to adopt an 18 year old japanese girl in need of a home. Your wife would not be suspicious and girl will have a hard time getting away. If worse comes to worse you can always convert one of your closets into a hospitality room.

>>18279886
Go to club, don't tell your age
So easy

>>18279907
But that requires so much time and effort. You have to get prettied up and what not. I sont dress like a guido on the regular.

I look like a stereotypical white dude in his 30's. Hat or no hat. Tshirt and jeans.

>>18279848
Maybe instead of pretending to be somebody else try actually asking girls out on dates.

Online dating, social events you hate and friends friends are ussual dating options.

>>18279858
Oh I have invited girls out on dates many times. I usually get a respectful declination.

Online dating hasn't really worked for me. I usually never get matches. Maybe I'm just ugly

>>18279865
>many times
5? 50? 500?

Age? Job? Photo? Fat? Short? Friends?

Well I wouldn't mind otherwise but I'd definitely be worried it's something contagious. And unless I would have known you for years, I wouldn't trust you even if you said it's not. So just get a paper from some clinic or something that says it's fine and you have no STDs and then it should be fine.

But whatever you do, definitely bring it up, because if she sees it without a warning it's probably going to scare her. At least let her know that okay, this is the situation and don't worry about it.

>>18279834
dude everyone has that stuff it's fucking normal no one cares except you

>>18279854
it's not contagious

I have the same condition. I have a gf who I've been with for 11 months so far, and she enquired about it during a bj. She wasn't grossed out, just curious. I told her about it and assured her it wasn't an STD and then she payed it no mind afterward. I am also her first, which might make a difference. Don't let the insecurity take hold of you, man, I promise you it's a bigger deal to you than to them.

Get a life?

>>18279804
Maybe start doing something in your free time which allows you to not think about your gf?

Books, videogames, sport, friends, drugs, shitposting?

You have to balance your life between:
work
relationships
yourself

>>18279804
I get needy myself sometimes.
First, give her some space.
Next, realize that you're fine without her. You'll see her again sometime. You don't need validation.
Think about why you feel so needy. Is it sexual frustration? Longing for intimacy? In any case, realize that it takes patience. Don't get hung up on it. Go about your business.

If it really bothers you that much, talk to a close friend or even a therapist about it.

>>18279797
Where do you live? You type in a really funny way.

>In a text flow, you do .,?! and after that you use space. Like this. Not like this .

Anyway when you are bored, start doing something with your life.
>what
That YOU have ro figure out.

Books, videogames, movies, music, social events, online dating, sports, gym, shitposting whatever.

>independence
Nah. You dont want to end up alone in empty flat. First get some friends, nice job and girlfriend. Then move out with gf.

So op, what do you want from life?

You take the easiest way because you have no other real stimuli. You are not mentally weak. We're all hooked up on different things. Some take real pleasure from working out. Some get very excited taking to women. In the end, it's the pleasure you're into that defines you. You are too used to the same life, and that makes it less exciting. Find another source of pleasure. It shouldn't be something like "go out, anon, smash dat ass, become alfa". Maybe you need to find board game club. Maybe you are into some new kind of music. Maybe you need to buy a rubber dick and stick it. Try something, go on with what will satisfy your cravings.

>>18279828
I am living korea .sorry i can speak english a little
What i am want is making money that i do not ecnomic dependance from my parent

>>18279762
You can go to pharmacy store / doctor to get that one cream for it. Or some people put toothpaste on it. I call them retards, but maybe it works too?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herpes_simplex
>herpes simplex
Lol what a name. It will pass. In the meantime dont kiss girls to prevent spreading it to other people.

>>18279833
>that one cream
Abreva the knockoffs that are in a blue tube are just Carmex, which doesn't do shit.

Wash your hands after eating, and any time you touch your mouth on accident. You can transmit this to express on other sites on your body by touching your sore then touching other mucus membranes (like your nose and eyes, or even your genitals).

it sucks, but it will go away in a week or so. the first one is always the worst. They start showing up with a reduced frequency as you mature, if it's any consolation. I only get a sore every year or two now. The worst part is not being able to kiss your partner.

>>18279762
Abreva is real expensive. Take fucking vitamins, your immune system is probably shit. Abreva doesn't do anything with a cold sore at this stage. By the time it ruptures, the virus has already invaded any neighboring cells that it's going to. It will go away as long as you don't have an immune condition like HIV .

>>18279734
If this person is stalking IRL already, you contact the police. Start a body of evidence early. Screen cap posts like the one you're talking about (it might be in the archive) to use. All of these things are helpful.

Internet stalking is very real stalking, too, though. And if this person is moving to your area they're just going to be stalking you IRL soon as fuck.

Stay safe. Be on guard always. If possible, stay near other people, or go out with friends for your errands, I'm sure you have one or two that would go with you if you explained to them that your ex is probably fucking stalking you.

>>18279745
Yeah I screenshot everything, I took note of every form of contact and each account he has. I'm not even sure if he's out to ruin my life at this point because it seems to be, having to live my life now in fear is shit. I do post my sc on soc to make friends and with each add I think its him behind another name.
I've always read about how other people are stalked but I never thought it would happen to me.
Also worried I'll see him on nights out because he knows where I frequently go. He knows I love cats so he got one to have something to talk to me about, but the sick fuck is DITCHING HIS CAT? I'm furious about that.
My friends would have no problem helping me but I live a little bit out of the way :( I need to return shoes before the date is up before I can, I'm too scared to go around the corner
Feels bad

>>18279734
He obviously has issues. But you clearly have plenty of issues yourself.

You made it EXTREMELY clear you do not want ANY contact. But what about what he wants? Did you ever stop to think that he's human too? That he's hurting as well as you?

He probably feels like he lost the only thing he had in his life. I don't think as a girl you really have an accurate sense of how hard that would be for someone in his meagre position.

You could end this violently. People would be on your side through and through. But the right thing to do is take responsibility for the fact that you got involved with someone like him, being as how you are now trying to get away, and have a full-fledged conversation with him about the state of things. You may believe he is not capable of communication in that capacity, but a lot of that may have to do with the fact that you are cutting him off. That's not something you should do to people and people who say otherwise are just Stockholm syndrome cases from it having happened to themselves.

That is the only reasonable thing which you can do. Grow up and just talk to the poor cunt.