I was with this girl a while and she broke up with me saying she "needed time to herself"
I didn't believe it and pushed her trying to get another answer because it justy didn't make sense. She showed no signs of any bad feelings about the relationship. She just kept telling me she needed some time to herself.
Ok whatever. Maybe i just dont understand or she had a mask on during the relationship, whatever. She still wants to be friends. I'm cool with that.
Problem is now she's already talking to a new guy.
Do i bring this up with her? I feel like if i do I'm not going to be able to help getting super rude and burning the bridge, which i dont mind doing at this point but I'm not one to really be a cunt
I could bring it up to the guy but i feel like that'll cause a lot of uneeded drama.
What should i do im this situation?
I can post what i was thinking about texting her.
She did not want to be with you so she broke up with you to be with someone she did want to be with.
You can feel salty but I would not bother keeping in contact with her it will benefit you in no way. Her loss find a better girl.
I wanted to text her
"I still want to be friends with you, but i don't appreciate you lying to me. You said you needed time to yourself but then in a few weeks you're already talking to and flirting around with a new guy. Why can't you tell me the real reason you broke up with me? Or if you really feel you need time to yourself why are you fucking around with this new guy? Because you really fucked me up and I can see you really fucking another guy up of you're not sure."
Obviously this needs some revisions because i want to get my point across that I'm pissed but don't want to be a total cunt unless i have to. I want to add in more as well but can't think how to word it.
>>18281023
I just feel like I'd feel better with her saying
I just started unfriending and unfollowing her because i was seeing all this new guy shit
I just want one last effort to see if she'll admit it to me, if not I'll just block her everywhere
I'm 25, /fit/ single guy. Never had a girlfriend before. I am going to be moving across the country in a few month for a fresh start. I have a close friend who lives out there, so this week I'm visiting. He was showing me around the area today, and god damn there is a lot of cute girls here. Which is something I'm not used to. Him and his girlfriend both said they want to help me get one. But you know what? I don't know if I want one anymore. Him, his girlfriend, and I were hanging out all day today. And just obversing them.. I can't imagine myself like that. Just how they interact with each other. From small annoyances to dumb love. I thought it was really weird, and I can imagine myself acting like that. Sometimes I think a girlfriend could be cool. But I can't act like they did.
Anyone else feel this way? Is dating and all that shit not meant for everyone?
Get rich and use gold diggers as cum containers. Thats your best bet OP
>>18280994
Why?
>>18280979
there's most likely someone of the opposite sex just like you. or compatible with your outlook on relationships. just talk to those who interest you and stop talking to those who don't.
My grandma (that let's me live with her) is using feces or something extremely close to it in odor as perfume around the house and it's getting to my room and really starting to bother me. It's her house what should I do?
>>18280944
Easy, buy her some perfume or something for her birthday, mothers day ect and then once you smell it on her compliment her on it. Then she will use the stuff got cause it will inflate her ego, humans love that shit.
>>18280944
You could always talk about it with her, who gives a shit whether it's her place, you can always make suggestions. Extra points for getting her a better perfume for birthday.
>>18280947
I was half-joking before but this is a very recent thing(as in today) and the more it seeps into my room the more I feel legitimately sick. I'm 95% sure it's shit at this point, this can't wait until July 1.
What do?
>Mom is making me pay for my own food, cellphone bill, gym membership
How the fuck is this fair. I'm only 21.
Nut up. I was kicked out at 19
>>18280845
Look, this guy was kicked out when he was younger than you: >>18280851
And yet you are the one starting a thread.
>money is hard
Learn a trade. You're probably not cut out for the real parts of STEM, and a degree in anything else will leave you right back where you are but in debt. People need their plumbing fixed; fake degrees only get you into government jobs.
Seriously are is with /adv/ these days? I know it was generally shitty bawww.... theads, but there's a lot more autists around which are crazy anti-women (I'm not talking about normal anti-women crazy, but batshit crazy). At least before it seemed to generally be a decent discussion, but these negative faggots are turning it into a semi/b/ .... I don't care if people disagree with someone's opinion, but the point is to actually give advice - so at least give your suggestion to others even if it's one of total faggotry. Go to b if you just want to be a super-autist.
Women are sluts. Also, people are entitled to their opinions. You can freely disagree, but think what you are doing if you try to silence anyone.
>>18280752
The beauty of 4chan is that you dont have to censor yourself and therefore you are constantly exposed to new opinions about various subjects.
Sure some memes can get repetitive, but imho when you are here so long you know all copy pastas and memes, it is YOU who maybe needs to leave because you have already seen it all.
If you want to contribute, just dont feed trolls, do your best to help other anons and be happy.
>>18280759
I'M all for free speech, but you are in the wrong area if you aren't giving advice. Go to r9k or /b/ for just general opinion slinging.
So I've been masturbating since I was about 13. It started out on my PSP using freeones and then has progressed to an entire 1TB drive full of porn, masturbating at least twice a day for over decade.
Ive found I've not had many sexual partners because I've never been able to climax when with someone, making my drive low. I've also recently had a hernia and was wondering if this maybe was cased by the excessive masturbating.
I've never been proud of this and wanted to know if this is really a problem and if there is any help?
It is a real problem.
I just got in a steady relationship with the guy of my dreams.
Been watching porn for a long time, but fell in love with this guy before I even saw him with his shirt off, let alone his pants.
I love him to death, but when it comes time, and we're laying in bed together, I get nothing.
I know he's disappointed, but I practically have to see action now before I get any kind of rise.
It's awful. I'm 21. This shouldn't be an issue.
I talked to him about it, and we've both agreed to cut out porn for at least the time being.
He doesn't normally watch porn, anyway, so not gonna be tough for him.
But it is for me.
>>18280728
>>18280758
Yall aren't the only ones. Same exact problem here. I have never enjoyed the sex I was with. I realized it was a genuine addiction when I couldn't stop it at will. Good luck on stopping you two. 22 M decently fit and active.
>>18280728
Long term exposure to pornography, particularly "rough porn", desensitizes an individual to sex and creates an unrealistic sexual expectation leading to gratification. This has been proven within the psychology community. Although it is considered a loose science, there is still validity to it.
Remember, porn actresses are PAID to act like women do in porn. The excessive screaming and cum on my face bit is all fake. Even some cum shots on the face are faked (there is a documentary on this and the trickery within porn). Not too mention those porn actresses are very high on coke, ecstasy, meth, you name it.
Stop watching porn. Masturbation, when being performed modestly, is good for humans. It relieves stress like no other.
From now on when you masturbate, use your minds eye (imagination) to create a plausible scenario between you and someone you like. NOT A PORN SCENARIO. That would defeat the purpose. When doing this, you will find that not only will you last longer, but sexual climax is actually severely gratifying.
When cranking it out to porn, you just cum and turn it off and on your way. No build up, no true contentment.
Trust me, just try.
P.S. You may also be a sex addict. Which means that you should seek out a therapist.
I'm still young but I'm forced to shave my head (coz of alopecia areata). I don't feel good about it. Please convince me about the decision, just say some words. I feel like I need it now. :/
>>18280586
at least you're not a chick!
I mean, this is a great opportunity to buy some fun wigs? Not a toupee, don't unironically try to replace your hair...
baldness can be sexy
>live in same apartment complex
>bum cigs off middle aged arab dude
>breddy cool guy
>weeks later
>google sex offender registry list to see who's around me
>guy was charged with misdemeanor sex abuse, on list for 15 years
What do?
>>18280562
>What do?
Nothing.
>>18280562
Can't do anything
You also don't know the whole story. Could've been drunk. High.
You also dont have a kid so what are you worried about. My neighbor did 10 years for murder or someshit. Am i scared he will kill me one day? No.
The bro probably just had a fallout with a girl back in his late teen years or something, got registered as a sex offender over stupid normal drama. I bring this up because a close Mexican bro of mine recently got accused of forcing nudes of himself on some chick when he and I clearly know that she asked and because of the SJW society that is two live in, he's gonna be a registered sex offender by the end of the week. Point being, unless the guy owned a torture-rape den or something, he's probably just a normal dude who got fucked over by somebody.
hey /adv/. im a grown ass man. ive always had a hard time expressing my emotions but i just cant stop my self from crying when irritated/frustrated/mad. when even the smallest inconvenience happens like getting called out or someone jokingly messing with me. i know they mean well and i find it funny most the time but i cant stop my eyes from watering. im a grown ass man how do i stop this from happening. its really putting a dent in my ability to socialize. if you know any tips please tell me.
>>18280550
You seem very annoying to me by the way you write. Stop being so negative. Does anything make you happy even? You need some happiness to balance it out.
>>18280550
let it flow. LOL if you feel an emotion, feel it. That's the only way to get over it. Once it's felt, move on.
>>18280563
i try to be as positive as possible and very rarely have conflict but when i do i have the uncontrollable urge to cry
So you've lost the love of your life. The person you thought was the one you'd spend the rest of your life with.
How was the person after her?
It's been a month since I've lost her. My heart is still so broken. I so desperately want her back, but I know I never will. Still, I've started to eat, I've started to exercise. Life goes on after all, even though it's all so bleak and empty. I won't be ready to date for months, if ever, but I can't help but think that it's only going to be disappointment from now on. I'm so afraid of my future.
Did 'the one' really turn out to be irreplaceable?
>>18280489
I'm not even a real person
>>18280489
>>18280489
We have all been there my friend. next time you are in a busy bus take a look. they have all had their hearts broken at some point, whether in their youth or recently.
its the way of things.
I say count your blessings. I mean you wasn't with her for 12+ years with a mortgage and two kids and then got kicked to the kurb and still be forced to slave for that mortgage and on top, child maintenance right?
Use this as a learning experience to place yourself in a situation to get it just that much right next time the gods present you with an opportunity.
and the gods will present you with another opportunity so keep your head up and keep your eyes out like eye captain.
Goodspee anon, we are all gonna make it.
>>18280489
I'm not sure of your exact scenario or how things ended with this person you thought to be "the one," but I'll share with you my story in hopes it may help.
I was with a girl whom I thought for sure I would have a future with. I moved to a new city 1000 miles away to be with her and she ended things just 3 months after I uprooted my life for her. When we split up she showed her true colors and behaved in ways that legitimately made me sick to my stomach. It made me realize that though I thought I had found someone who I could share my life with, I was clearly mistaken and had really fallen for an idealized version of this person who never truly existed.
What I'm getting at is that people often turn out not to be as great as you think they are when you're convinced that you're in love with them. Again, I don't know your situation exactly, but chances are if this person was "the one" then things wouldn't have ended, she would have stayed by your side and accepted whatever flaws you have. If you two really do have potential for a future then, despite how you feel now, you'll find your way back to each other when the time is right. In the meantime, don't focus so much on your relationship with other people, focus on yourself, work on becoming the best version of you. Do it to better your chances of getting her back if that's what will motivate you.
I have an interview for my first 9-5 office job tomorrow.
How much should I talk about anime?
>>18280449
>How much should I talk about anime?
Literally the entire time. Bring up anime constantly. When the interviewer tries to steer the conversation away from anime steer it right back. Don't stress, senpai, you got this.
Play it cool. Slip in a few references to your waifu. Politely ask the interviwer about theirs. It is all about signaling in an interview.
>>18280458
Listen to this anon. Remember to tell them their favorite anime is shit, even if they've never watched any.
So I recently got into a closer relationship with this girl I have been hanging out with. She loves cuddling, but I don't know how to do it right. Like anytime we are chilling or watching a movie, she starts to move closer and cuddle, but I don't know what to do! Literally just lay there like a flat plank. Any tips? Please! Like what techniques do you enjoy? Girls and guys advice all welcome!
Ok so that pretty much means shes into you. What kind of position is she in when she trys to cuddle up to you
>>18280378
Spoons my man, cuddling is all about spoons. However you're sitting, wherever you're at, the only goal is getting as close to her as possible, so you match her shape (or have her match yours) like spoons. Just find the most comfortable position. She doesn't have to be on top of you or anything, side by side is cool. But you should really try everything. Cuddling's great.
>>18280388
She's usually curled up on her side facing my direction.
20 year old failure at life here. Can't even drive. How do I avoid becoming one of those 25+ neets? This is literal hell and it doesn't look like things will ever improve.
>>18280321
bud if i knew the answer to that i wouldn't be one of those 25 year old neets
>>18280337
What went wrong for you?
Just do all the things normal people do as best you can. And be positive all the time. Right now you could go work out or learn a new language. It's hard to be positive when you've already defined yourself by your failures. But there's tons of small joys to be found by selling out and becoming another brick in the wall. It's all a state of mind and you gotta find the one that says wtf is this shit this all needs to go right now
I plan on stealing my oneitis of four years from her several year long boyfriend. I have known her for awhile, we know each other pretty well despite the one year hiatus in communication. we're going to a nature reserve and taking lsd. If she has a good experience, will she associate it with me? this girl is my anima incarnate, my manic-pixie dream girl. Need tips
Read The Sorrows of Young Werther by Goethe
>>18280287
>If she has a good experience,
she wont, you sound like you'll fuck it up
>will she associate it with me?
yes
>>18280287
Go ahead and try. You will fail miserably and learn a valuable lesson in life.
I'm going in to take the GED test tomorrow because as a freshman in highschool I decided it would be a good idea to drop out and fuck up my education.
Anyone have any tips or experiences? I've already taken the practice tests on their website and easily passed.
If you did okay on the practice tests you'll be fine. The good enough diploma test is much easier than the high school sat. Also speaking from experience I dropped out as a freshman too. My advice go to a community college after you get the ged. They base hope. Scholar ship on when you graduate so even though I'm 25 in college I'm getting hope still. Even if you don't know what you want to go. Just go. Anyway and get general classes done.
The exam's a total joke. You'll be fine
>>18280240
>>18280241
I live in Oklahoma and I'm Indian, I have free college so that's no worry.
I figured the exam was a joke, just getting some second opinions.