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Can I get some job inspo?

I want to switch careers altogether.
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I don't know what you want
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>>18279773
Age? Sex? Location? Need more info
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>>18279786
At least $40k

Possibly labor union type job. Thinking about flagging. Needs no more than a ged and like a 6 month class at most.
>>18279789
22, male, WA

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How do I get over anxiety when getting food from the same place?
There's a small cafe at my college with 2 workers. I have been ordering the same 2 drinks for the past couple months now twice a week.
I have this fear that they already know what I'm going to say. It's almost like being embarrassingly predictable. Especially since last time I got my drink they didn't even ask if I wanted syrup they just put it on.
I know it sounds stupid but I also feel embarrassed because I don't think anyone else gets that drink.
And I fear that one day I will go up there and they will say my order before I say it or assume what I'm ordering (since I'm quiet). Which is why I'm hesitant to go up there now.
I am very ugly and hate being looked at so asking them is painful enough. They are nice but I feel like they look at me with pity.
How do I change my perspective so I can get the drink without any problem?
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Learn to make the drink at home if you can?
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>>18279639
That is a good idea actually, thankyou.
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On the bright side, you get to go in and say, the usual... And get your drink. Nothing wrong with being a regular customer

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Im a 22 year old fully transition trans girl, I don't want to like girls anymore, no women is ever going to want a trans gf, how do I start liking guys? This is not a troll.

I feel like it's force myself to date guys or die alone, and I hate myself for it.

I don't "look like a tranny" I'm passable but even then, I feel like girls hate trans women. And if they like girls why don't they just get a "real" girl gf? Right? I'm pretty much useless.

>inb4 I'm a disgusting tranny and will always be a man, etc etc

I've heard it all don't lecture me on gender politics, I just want to know how to find men attractive and stop liking girls.
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>>18278985
You can't change what you are attracted to. It's subconscious.
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>>18278985
go to a gay bar and hookup with a faggot, let his dick you hard.
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>>18278993
And if I did know how, I'd be very rich. I don't like the type of girls I attract - my method is to change my personality. If you find a lot 100% way to do so is be happy to hear it.

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I'm 21 and he's probably very late 40's to mid 50's, but looks very good for his age. In general I'm attracted to older guys (not for money).

His wife always works with us in the same building but for a different company, it's kind of hard to explain, but she's always around. Not to sound bitchy, but age has caught up with her and she's always bitter and angry at everyone, and treats her employees like trash.

I have no moral problem with being ~the other woman~

How can I get him?

(random pic)
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>>18278958
just fucking try jesus fucking christ. Send an email or whatever. You are a young girl, this should be easy
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>>18278960
Yeah but there's a chance he rejects me and I lose my job. Gotta keep it subtle but idk how
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>>18278961
there's a chance he rejects you and that's what you're scared of. Why would you lose your job?
Have you tried flirting with him?

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Write letterstating you will never send, let it out.
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I want you, beautiful! Come to my home now!
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(ignore this)
My right nipple is sore, fampai.

Moving on,
I hope Sir and Mrs will be okay. They are weighing heavy on my mind and heart.

I hope C makes it home safely to comfort S during this time.

I hope S continues to work hard and distract himself with his work and his workouts.

I hope G isn't mad at me for becoming shitty over tripping over the chair he left out yesterday. He didn't deserve that and I was just frustrated but that isn't an excuse to be insensitive. I also hope he doesn't assume I locked him out because I didn't.

I hope Luna is okay. I miss her so much. I hope she's doing well in school. I hope I can see her again very soon.

I hope B isn't upset that I won't be able to attend comic con with her next weekend. I can't even focus on that right now with everything that's going on.

In closing,
I am a creature of the sea and the megaladon scares tf out of me.
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>>18278945
will you go out with me this friday?

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Hey /adv/, How can I tell if I have a coke problem? Like what are the "typical abuse signs" ? How often would you consider too often and how much would you consider too much? Rather replies from people that have actual expierence instead of someone who's just gonna say the typical, "Shouldnt be doing atall" or something. Thanks
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>>18278893
I have a theory op. Only people struggling with addiction are asking these types of questions. Same with alcohol.

It all starts by realizing that something is wrong with your current life situation. Then you ask these questions.

Also happy people living fullfilling lives dont do drugs. They simply have more important / better things to do.

So why are you even doing
>coke
in the first place? Are you just bored teenarger with very rich parents who dont give a fuck about you?
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>>18278893
is it a lot easier to get laid once sluts know you have coke?
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If you buy it more than twice a month then you have a problem imo.

I occasionally do coke but only when it's offered to me. I never buy it myself.

There's nothing wrong with occasional drug use but it's a slippery slope.

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/adv/

I have a problem of not standing up for myself not necessarily because I'm a pussy, but because I'm not very easily offended. This sounds like a good trait but I think it goes too far to the point where people get away with walking all over me. When someone is an asshole to me, I don't even notice it until after the fact because it doesn't phase me.

I think this is because when I was younger my older brother would bully me both mentally and physically. He was too big for me to fight back, and my parents never did much to stop him. This meant that the only option I had was to become numb to it and not react, hoping that I don't provoke him to continue further. Now that I'm an adult this is an issue, where people can make fun of me or disrespect me and I don't notice it so it continues.

An example is when I was an RA at my University, I was locked out of my dorm at 10pm at night and so messaged the group chat with the other RAs to let me in. We had all just gotten back from dinner together, for which I had driven five of them to and from. No one came after 10 minutes so I sent a second message. Still no one came for another 20 minutes so I sent a third message saying I was still locked out and one of them finally came to let me in. They let me stand out there at night for 30 minutes ignoring my messages that I was out there, and I didn't even get mad. Not even the people I had driven to dinner helped me, and I didn't have much of an emotional reaction to it nor realize how much of assholes they were to do that. I only noticed how douchy that was after the fact upon reflection.
I have many stories that are similar or worse.

Does anyone else have this problem, and how could I go about turning this around?
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>>18281494
Also when I was an RA, I had a resident who kept tearing down my posters, telling me to fuck off, and rubbed his dick on my door knob and another resident who had thrown empty 5 gallon water jugs at my door at night. None of this really got to me, and so I remember later my boss told me to report any residents who didn't show up to our final wing meeting at the end of the year. Those two residents didn't show up, and I didn't report them. I wasn't annoyed that they ditched the meeting they knew about in advance, and I had forgotten about the prior times they were assholes to me. This led to me not reporting them despite what my boss said, because their asshole behavior didn't register in my mind. And I look back thinking why the hell did I let them get away with that shit?
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>>18281529
I remember whenever I would walk past those residents I would still smile and say hi, and then about ten steps later think "wait a minute, I forgot that guy is a fucking dick why was I so nice to him just now?"
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I'm in high school, and I would not call it a problem. This is the first time I saw someone similar to me post this, so I'm just gonna say thanks... I guess. I am a little different. When someone insults me (only happened twice last year, none this year) the only thing I do is stare them in the eye. I have no feeling for it because I generally do not care. Same thing goes with friends. I generally do not care about them at all, and I've known them for more than 5 years but we only share interests so that's why I'm still with them. Anon you should see it as a good trait because so far only good came out of it for me. The only time you should really care, is when something is physical. I personally haven't had that happen to me yet... Though I admit I secretly hoping that it does. I've had the same situation, but my parents having jobs and being busy I was always around my brother. We lived in a large house, so he would chase me and do horrible things so I became numb to it as well. Anon I think this is sociopathy. It is a good trait for getting ahead. I have a question for you as well. Do you care about your family? I'm going to be honest and say that I realized I do not really. I accidentally broke my brothers leg (not the one who used to chase me etc. I have 2 brothers) but I didn't feel sorry. That's when I realized I didn't care. Answer this and you'll know whether you're a sociopath or not. Also first time posting since 4 years.

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Hello, so I am a 20 year old fresher student in a big student filled city in the UK, and I got on tinder cause I'm interested in going on a few dates. I'm down for hook ups, down for more serious stuff. Thing is after swiping right more times than I can count for 2 weeks and not getting any matches, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Desperately need help/advice. Bio and photos (from last to first, where my profile one is the solo photo of me in a suit) :http://imgur.com/a/XaPxn
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>>18281402
hi i'm a fag so i'll be your tinder appraiser today (23/m)

bio:
take out the line about sexual favours
just put comp sci
the way you phrased that section makes you look autistic
change the ryan reynolds shit, it makes you look gay

pic 1 (suit)
this picture sucks for a dating profile, it looks like you have no chill, it's not that flattering, it looks like something you put on an acapella group application BIN IT

pic 2 (lads out drinking?)
it looks like you photobombed people because none of them are with you in the picture, they're just doing their own shit
again it's not flattering

pic 3 (beach?)
Too much squinting, but better.

pic 4 (girls having fun)
this is alright as an extra photo

pic 5 (surgery fun)
this is is alright as an extra photo

so ye, with the suit and profile i'd think you were a sperg and decline you, work on the front parts of your tinder
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You look ugly and very boring in that picture

You honestly look like a middle aged dude trying to find love again after your wife left you

Girls are only going to want to hook up with the top 20% of guys, so if you're not exhibiting Chad qualities, you're wasting your time
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>>18281419
>You look ugly and very boring in that picture
true
>You honestly look like a middle aged dude trying to find love again after your wife left you
true
>Girls are only going to want to hook up with the top 20% of guys, so if you're not exhibiting Chad qualities, you're wasting your time
beta male bullshit
look like you can have fun, you will get swipes

Finally found a qt 3.14 waifu who isn't on a pillow or porn site, problem is she is thousands of miles away in Romania and I have no clue how to get there.

Any Advice

From 'murika
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Gypsy scam.
Avoid.
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No she is an orthodox Christian, My Romanian friend is the one who introduced us.
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haha what, you're getting scammed

stop being retarded

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Okay, so there's this gay dude at my UNI that I kinda like. Should I ask him out? He's kinda cute. I feel like I might make things awkward if he rejects me.
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im gonna say ask him out in the hopes that you're talking about me
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>>18281289
Is he in your class?
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>>18281297
No, I don't know him very well if I'm being honest.
>>18281296
In another life buddy.

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Hey, I just turned twenty and life isn't like I'd hope. I masturbate constantly. I really want to stop but with me being at work and doing homework all the time, there's no time to find ladies. I am overweight but kinda attractive. I can be smooth sometimes when I talk to the ladies, but once again my tight schedule gives me little to no time to hit the gym. and when I do eat, I usually just eat something around. I am not a virgin, but I can't seem to hold down a relationship. Plus I can never stay erect when I do have sex.I want to quit my addiction and change my life around. I want a full life. Like this weekend I took off for my birthday, and spent time with friends from school. I have never felt more alive.I partied, had fun, and was able to actually flirt with girls, get some numbers, and have sex. And now, after the fact, I relize how much in life I'm missing out on. Those few days, I felt so confident, It felt like its supposed to be that way... I need help. I want to change.
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>>18281274
Eat healthy, lose weight, improve erection problems (since the cholesterol gets deposited inside the blood vessels and make the blood flow slower) you'll also feel more fresh and attract more people around you
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>>18281301
i mean fat*
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Kill yourself you fat degenerate faggot.

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I guess the combination of having a desk job, art, and writing a shitton of notes for anatomy screwed up my right hand. I am in a lot of pain and haven't had a chance to see a physical therapist yet but i have set up an appointment. This happened around finals week. My art professor is generally a nice person, but he won't let me skip the art final (I emailed him Sunday night). I finished the art projects I've had, but he never said anything about letting me skip it. If he refuses to let me skip it, who can I contact to prevent it from screwing up my GPA? I liked the class but I can't risk it fucking up my hand even more. As much as I want to power through it, I can't. He saw me in a wrist bracenter and elbow brace, but I guess he doesn't care.
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>>18281244
You knew you had a problem. You should have told him sooner than a few days ago. A doctor's note is required for situations like this. You need to ask him if he will let you take an alternative final (such as a research paper) if you can provide a doctor's note tomorrow. If he says yes, then you need to get your ass to the doctor and get that note. An urgent care, ER or some other doctor that can take you same day.

Sorry dude but that's the price you gotta pay. He's in the right in this case. You should have addressed this a lot sooner.
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>>18281244
How is your hand involved?
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>>18281249
I actually could not because I didn't realize the extent of the damage until last Wednesday and figured a few days of rest would have fixed it. I was concerned about my gums until last week because they're fucked up (and had to spend my "off" days to get treatment). I only have one day off (even then it's used for studying). I'm not going to visit an e.r. for an overuse injury. I don't know where you live but a strep-throat induced headache cost me 500 after my insurance paid 2500 (it was to the point where I couldn't do anything for hours).

>>18281250
Because I have to draw with my hands. I've actually tried using my left but I don't have enough dexterity

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I got my first girlfriend. I'm 25 and her 18. We both lost our virginity together and both times it was magical. We had wild sex; she's a masochist and she was just soaking wet... she came both times. Afterward we laid together naked and talked for hours. I feel like I'm on molly every moment I'm with her. It was probably one of the best experiences of my life the second time. I've never felt so close to another human being.

Her dad wants to murder me and tries to keep us apart. This is definitely my first love. I don't know if what I have is special or if I'm just mesmerized my being in love for the first time. It's just chaos. I don't know what to do or if this is special or not. Help!
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>her dad wants to murder me and tries to keep us apart
she still believed in santa when you finished highschool

let that sink in

you're at fundamentally different points of your life, i mean w.e enjoy the sex i'm not gonna morally parade you, but every guy hates the thought of his daughter shagging, esp. older guys
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idk seems fine too me.

im a 22 year old female dating a 32 year old man, my dad doesn't like it, is this also normal?
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>>18281259
>my dad cares about me and doesn't want me to potentially be taken advantage of by guys who are way older than me

Nope, not normal at all for a dad to feel that way.

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I'm having some sort of crisis lads and it's got me really down. People don't seem to want to talk to me, and for some reason I end up deterring people. I have an intimidating face, I think and I can't help it much. I've become very frightened of approaching people to talk, even if I know them really well. I know I'm attractive, and I workout twice every 6/7 days of the week. I just don't have many friends, and girls don't stick around me very long. How do I stop being so spineless and just walk up and talk to people? I'm so lonely I want to die.

19 year-old in college btw
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Please?
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>>18281100
Hey an, join a club or start a hobby and go out and do it. Eventually like minded ppl will be attracted to you. Law of Attraction. Its one thing to sit inside all day and wish and dream. Its another to take inspired action on those wishes and dreams. Put yourself out there. You got this, anon, I believe in ya!
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>>18281164
That's what I thought to do too, I'm in two clubs and that's basically where I get any social interaction. They basically formed their own friend groups and I was left out of it, no matter how many times I tried to keep up with them. Because they did this I just feel annoying and am afraid to talk to anyone now

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How do I stop being scared of the sea?

I live on basically an island (there's a bridge over a narrow channel) surrounded by the sea. I can go swimming at the beach no problem, but the problems come in deeper water, big waves or when the water is turbid and I can't see the bottom.

I sail a small boat that involves capsizing sometimes. Whenever I sail I fear falling into the water. It's starting to be a problem. I already stopped surfing because of this.

I don't even know what I fear. It's not drowning, it's not getting knocked out against the seabed by the waves. It's the little nasty things, like getting stung by jellyfish, touching a dead body, seeing a huge shark, seeing a wreck, fish swimming all around me etc. Just small stupid things.

Most of all I have an irrational fear of encountering a wreck, a submarine or some other huge object. Pic related really freaks me out. Nothing like that ever happens here though. There are hardly any jellyfish even.

So how do I stop being scared of the sea?
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>>18281005
So any standard psychology textbook will state that ALL fears are irrational. I agree to a certain point. Any psychologist will tell you that to overcome any fear is to confront it.
So to do this, go diving/snorkeling in the area you are scared of. You will see nothing there and the fear should subside. If there did happen to be a shipwreck of some kind, you should explore it as hard is it may be for you. Otherwise this won't stop for you. Good luck!
Personally, my fear of the ocean is the deep ocean because I think some big ass never before discovered beast is lurking below. I don't consider THAT irrational.
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>>18281033
Megalodon
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>>18281005
No one gets over it until they've been dragged underwater into the depths but somehow wriggle free just as the water is about to claim them forever.

It's only then that you're okay.

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