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Three months ago, while playing DOTA 2, I met this girl online, at the time, I was in a relationship with another girl, which was complicated and had issues and problems.. I talked with the dota girl about these issues and problems, we sort of had a natural connection, and as time went on, she helped a lot, she's my \adv\ board, and she never disappoints.. time passed and I eventually left my former girlfriend, I couldn't stand being with her anymore... and she stepped in, we both knew we were into eachother, but the long distance thing was a bit of a turn down for both... although what we had was weird and magical, unlike anything I had before, me and her we're smart people, spiritual people, sometimes borderline sociopaths because we forget to listen to our feelings, even if they're there, sometimes unhappy and we don't know why because of that, but we always find our way because I like to think that we're great in that regard.. so back to the distance.. she decided to take a bus and come to italy (she lives in germany) just to meet me and at least say we'd do this experience. well I took the chance and it was a wonderful week... we were together and we made love, we had romantic evenings we laughed everywhere, it was like we never met on a nerdy videogame, we were classy funny, witty, I feel inlove, if there's ever such a thing, she truly makes me a better man, I feel like I can be a better man when she's around, like my life is on track, like we can really have a great life together, I didn't ask for this, but it was the greatest gift life could give me... a companion to share my road with... and she feels in the same way.. we learn from eachother... it's gorgeous. Time went on, and I went to germany to repay the favour, another quite amazing week, and now it's over. She isn't too open about sex.. I opened her up quite a lot (no puns ffs) and we were doing it daily, but frankly it was mostly because she hadn't met the right person
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Be yourself be romantic,make her laugh be honest all this things i have heard is gonna help you with girls but im starting to believe this all bullshit

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My dog died yesterday. I saw how car hit her in front of me, I saw her lying on the road, making her last sound and dying couple of seconds later. It's the first time I felt so depressed and It's very rare for me to be emotional.
It's my mistake that she died, the worst part is that my second dog saw it and now he is walking around looking for the other one but they'll never play together again. He seems so lost and I can't help him.
I've never felt this bad even when my grandfather died.
This made me think that there is no actual reason to live.
Sorry dog I wasn't better for you, I miss you and I can't overcome the fact that you're not here.

Bear with me /adv/, I had to write it here, don't want to talk about it with anyone I know irl. How can I live with it?

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So, I'm gonna try to condense this as best I can.

Back in April, I had been hearing from some of my other buddies that my best friends girlfriend has been sleeping around with someone else. Initially, I tried to ignore it and and chalked it up to rumors, but at one point I decided to finally tell him. He, of course, didn't believe me but decided to check his gf's phone and found a bunch of shady shit.

Turned out, she'd been sleeping with this other guy for 4 years. Even though he'd been in a relationship with this girl for 5. They fought etc etc and he took time off from everyone.

I gave him space, but still let him know that I'd be there if he wants to go out bar hopping or whatever. About three weeks after going ghost, he finally texts me saying he decided to get back together with his gf because it'd be "easier just to give up"

Since then, I haven't really heard from him. I haven't seen him in almost 5 months and I work at the same place as his gf, so I can obviously tell she isn't my biggest fan.

I dropped communication with him for over a month in June and did my own thing because I was getting tired of reaching out and getting pushed aside.

in July, I confronted him about his bullshit and he didn't give me much of an answer and got defensive. Dropped communication with him again for a month. Decided yesterday to shoot him a text and resolve everything since I honestly have no idea what his issue is and this is childish. No response. Waited a day and called him. No response.

At this point, I'm more livid than anything. He sold out his friends for his manipulative succubus girl friend and I'm at a loss for what to do. Where should I go from here?

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My girlfriend of 2 years took me off her Instagram bio.

I don't post on Instagram but I use it to see photos from people I follow. My girlfriend used to post lots of photos of us early in our relationship, but stopped after a few months. To be fair though, she slowed down on posting altogether, as she didn't post anything for months.

Recently she has gotten back to Instagram and started posting a lot, mostly selfies. This morning I woke up to check her profile and noticed that my name was gone from her bio (which she had on there ever since we started dating). She left everything else in there, and just took off my name.

Our relationship is still going very strong, so I don't understand why she'd do that. Maybe I'm just overreacting, but I feel awkward asking her about it.

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How does an inactive sex life affect the human body?

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28 weeks pregnant - I started feeling weird sensations and worried about premature labor. Last baby was a month early and she was born in a few hours after my husband was banging me out. The doctor said banging isnt safe for 8 more weeks if I am already feeling like this...


Now what do you do to get through 8 weeks without banging?? We have a small child and busy work life so its already a dry sex life lately... We really wanted to deepen our romantic life before the new baby but I don't want him to bang out a premature baby...

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I was at the gym, a full 15 minutes before closing, I went to the bathroom and as I returned to the bench I had my water bottle at, the guy who was in the room, came up to me and told me that the closing employee at the gym had thrown away my shitty little plastic water bottle.

Normally I wouldn't care, but the guy also told me that he told the employee that it was mine and that I'd be returning (wasn't even gone 5 minutes).

I find that extremely disrespectful. I would have confronted him, but it's a warehouse sized gym and I was in just as much a rush as the employee, so by the time I was finished, all the lights were off, everyone was gone, and the lone employee was no where to be found.

I am at this gym nearly every day, hopefully he is there tomorrow afternoon so I can confront him, as I'd much rather talk to him than the owner about it.

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Considering trying out a PE exercise routine because gaining some girth would be fun, but I don't want to waste my time. All this shit seems kinda weird and gimmicky.

For those with experience, has it worked at all?

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What the fuck am I doing wrong?
I'm in ROTC and we have this group chat for the MS1's (first years) and I was allowed into it. I asked if anyone wanted to run and no one replied to it. I eat all of my meals by myself and my roommate is this mute who just leaves the room without saying anything and only really responds with "okay" and "yeah". Some other chick at a table I was sitting at was saying she needed help carrying gear to her dorm and I said I was free literally twice in a row and then she says" I wonder if X can do it". I'm not ugly or a manlet, I trying to make an effort to be friends with people but I'm invited to go nowhere, no one initiates conversation with me, and I literally just go to the gym alone and then go back to my dorm and sit in the dark. I fucking hate university life. Someone please provide words of wisdom.

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Is there anywhere appropriate to go looking for friends or (I'm too modest to ever expect his to happen, even though it does) a girlfriend?

I'm going to volunteer several places and I will go to every meetup I can stand/afford, but I'm still in a very high level of desperation. I don't care if a an old guy with a wife, say, invites me to drink beer with him; any human interaction is appreciated. I'm not made for sports, but I'm thinking of suffering chess at the rec center in order to meet people. I don't have money, so that is maybe the biggest difficulty.

It feels kind of silly, leaving my friends for the stuff they were getting involved in. This existence is more sobering, more realistic, but perhaps worse in some ways.

Does anyone have additional ideas? I know that sitting in a café or wandering a park rarely works, although I guess it depends. As a somewhat asocial person, living alone has introducted me to this new hell where I can go months without conversing to anyone and it's driving me completely nuts.

This will be bumped occasionally, many times, to keep it from being deleted. Thanks for understanding.

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So I have an option to go be a cook in an Arctic village.
They want someone to make like hamburgers and shit and they'll fly them up to stay during the winter.

How does that sound?

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21 straight male here. I'm ashamed of my sexual thoughts. Not for any religious reasons, I've became this way just through observation and life.

It doesn't feel right to be close to someone so much that you're touching genitals with each other. Society and media shuns any sexuality or nudity. People are labeled as perverts if they like it too much. Guys are called creeps, girls are called sluts. People refer to their parts as their nether regions. Most things people consider gross comes from those parts - shit, piss, blood, cum, etc. On top of that, sex exposes you to danger of pregnancy and STDs, two things I'm deathly afraid of happening to me. Then there's the risk of false rape accusations, tarnishing relationships with others, people judging you, etc. all because you had sex with someone.

I'm too scared to date anyone for these reasons. I find it inherently disgusting to approach people. I think I'm a creep for even thinking about girls I know in a sexual way, and I'm sure many girls would be creeped out if they knew I thought of them that way. You never are allowed to straight up say you want to have sex to anyone, despite sex being the most human thing one can want. Even if I could get over asking someone out, that opens a whole new can of worms. Dating alone is a whole ordeal. It's an absolutely huge time and money sink.

If I didn't have sexual thoughts I could focus and spend time on things that could lead to a successful career. I could look at women objectively and not be scared of talking to them. I wouldn't be so insecure about my self-image and virginity.

I wish I didn't want romance. These desires have brought nothing but misery in my life. My life went downhill the minute I started getting invested in dating and sex.

My question is how do I get rid of these desires?

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I desperately need your help /adv

I never lasted very long in bed but usually long enough so I would not have to feel embarrassed afterwards. 8-10 minutes tops. But lately I cum after 1-2 minutes. I really don't know what to do about it and I'm already way too self-conscious about my sexual performance even though my girl tells me it's all fine. I wish I could believe her but I can't. What do?

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I NEED YOUR HELP /ADV/

I go pet a cat every evening, in the street just outside my home. it is not a stray cat - it is well fed, has a collar, is clean, and smells pretty nice (like if it slept on a freshly washed bed) everytime I see it. it's definitely not stay.

lately, I've seen that the cat has a lump on the cheek. I didn't pay too much attention to it, but yesterday as I was looking away while being with it, it suddenly meowed, and I saw it bleeding where the lump was. it was almost translucent blood (like if mixed with water) and very liquid, so I assumed it was nothing bad. I went to see it again today and it is still bleeding and it looks infected.

NOW, what I need help with, should I go talk to the owners about it? isn't it weird for one of their neighbors to talk of their cats and question them on why they haven't taken it to the vet yet?

pic related is the cat, before it had the lump