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Dating minority women? 2016-08-28 20:34:35 Post No.17506951
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I feel as if the typical laws of dating don't really apply to women who are minorities. For example, I live in Boston.
Dating white women seems the most typical and least head achey.
If you ever wanted to date a puerto rican or hispanic or black woman or something.. you are fucked. It seems as if shit "coffee dates" or "going for a walk" doesn't even interest women who are minorities. I feel as if I have to do really macho shit for them to even consider me.
I am by no means a "real ass nigga" at all. However, I do have a preference for hispanic women but I just find their dating habits really lack luster.
It seems like no minority women want a average guy. They are looking for like those stereotypical turbo thugs or something. I don't know how to describe it.
Am I wrong? Do the laws of standard dating just not apply to minority women?
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My gf is mexican, whereas I am white. You are overthinking it.
I am the first white guy to be included in their family setting, and really the only difference is you are expected to be more masculine. The girl doesn't necessarily expect it, especially if she grew up in America, but the family will.
Also, I am not a macho guy. I'm getting a degree in secondary education and write her poems and short stories and shit. But I do help out with family functions, taking her little brother to practice, etc.
So essentially yes, you are wrong.
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>>17506987
white dudes can date whoever they want though. Try being black.
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>>17507007
What are you talking about? White women love blacks guys
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started a new job three months ago
>Starting to hate it, there is one cunt I have to work along side now and again.
>Don't think I'll be able to handle it much longer
>Need to stay there at least six months to apply for a mortgage, once I get it I can leave
What should I do lads? Just suffer for another 3 or 4 months or cut my losses and get a new job now. It just means three months lost
Help me lads, I like you guys and I do think there's some good advice in there somewhere
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Bumping for answers as I'm desperate
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Grin and bear it and stay you silly cunt
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>>17507040
How though? I panic so much and high anxiety
Can I make friends with urban black people, or is the disconnect too major? I mean black people with secure families and jobs, no "ghetto" shit.
I can hang out with the yuppies if I am willing to spend like 30% of my earnings, mere pocket change to them.
Actually, the statistic says they are only 17% here, but they are the people I see walking around and socializing.
TL;DR: I'm anxious to initiate conversation with black people. Please advise.
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>>17506906
Well they call eachother Monica allot so maybe try that.
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>>17506918
White people are named Monica too. It's just pronounced differently.
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>>17506906
It can go either way.
On one end, some are ratchet or americans with deep african traditions so if you act proper because you grew well(dont ever say fucking acting white) bitches WILL call you out on it.
On the other, theres other regular black people who are SURROUNDED by ignorant ghetto black people. They would appreciate you so much, cause all they ever want in life is to express their feelings and ideas. The people around them would tell "Maneee shut yo ass up, ma nigga, why you soundin white", in the most extreme scenario
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Alright I have a question after I explain my situation.
>beginning of school year
>12th grade should be graduated but fucked up some credits
>in alternative school to catch up
>ex gf is in there with me and a few random who also need to catch up
>ex was first girl I ever loved, split about a year and a half ago
>current gf there with me too
>ever since this year started ex us acting strange
>never once tried talking to me, hated my guts actually and made me swear to never talk to her again.
>since school started she's been taking any chance to talk to me
>"hey anon I see you texting over there haha"
>"Hey anon your handwriting sucks haha fix it"
>"remember that time when we were dating and blah blah blah happened"
>then she started wearing the things I bought her when we dated.
>even wearing the pants I thought her ass looked good in
>talks to me a lot more when gf isn't around
>looks over at me constantly
>confused as hell about wtf she is doing.
>brings up our past alot.
So my question is what do you guys think she's doing?? Does she miss me? Is she just being friendly? I don't know what I'd do if she wanted me back. I just want answers guys. Also she has a kid with some ugly ass dude she seems to not even like. Always complaining about him. So what do you guys think?? What should I do?
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>>17506890
>Also she has a kid
lol are you black ?
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>>17506939
No thankfully, but her bf is. Lmfao, no wonder she hates him right??
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>>17506890
lol she wants you now because you represent a good time in her life before she made shitty decisions and wants to rewind the clock because you would probs make a better dad and husband than that dude.
Don't do it though. You got your shit handled, don't be dragging thst shitpile into your life. besides, she broke up with you, and this ho ain't gonna be loyal to her man she won't be loyal to you.
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First-time poster here.
Do any of you feel as though your lives are going nowhere right now? I feel that way.
I have this constant churning in my stomach that something isn't right in my life. I feel paranoid as if something terrible will happen. I do suffer with anxiety so I was wondering if anybody had some tips on how to deal with recurring thoughts of impending doom.
Thanks.
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I used to have that a lot. It's the body's way of coping with complacency. The only way it can feel alive is in a perpetual state of anxiety.
Gotta keep busy. Keep doing new things.
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>>17506861
Thanks for the response. I'm currently a student but I feel as though I should be doing more by getting a job. Do you know if it is possible to juggle University and work?
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>>17506865
Plenty of people juggle school and work. I can't give any personal experience with it as I haven't had to do it myself.
Just remember to take it a moment at a time.
So I'm a socially retarded 23yo khv who's not going to get any better so I'm ending it before I go Elliot Rodgers on everyone's ass.
I'm too much of a pussy to jump or shoot myself so I was thinking of strangling myself with a large zip tie. Is that possible? Can I feasibly slam that shit shut that it cuts off the blood supply to my brain enough for me to pass out and die?
Before you ask, yes I hate myself, so the pain doesn't really matter.
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It will only go half way and youcwill pass out before it is enough to kill you
Anyway existence is allot better than non existence even if you hate yourself. Best suicide method is old age and many vices
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Like industrial strength zip tie? How thick are we talking?
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>>17506854
But if I pass out and remain like this with the lock around my neck I'll die eventually, right?
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my girlfriend tried to commit suicide because i canceled our plans, and during the time we were supposed to hang out, there was a picture of my good female friend on snapchat (i was at a party).
what the fuck do I do
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>>17506807
Did you cancel plans with your gf so you could go to a party?
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>>17506807
Tell her family that she needs help. Drop her and move on. This shit is toxic and if you have any sense you'll follow my advice.
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>>17506807
sounds like a keeper
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Feel ill but probably am not 2016-08-28 19:42:20 Post No.17506765
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Feel ill but probably am not
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2016-08-28 19:42:20
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Hi I feel really ill sometimes, extremely lethargic and the back of my neck by the base of my skull aches badly, also there is insomnia. It has been going on for a while. Caffeine helps allot but keeps me up through the night.
I dont think i have an illness so how am I supposed to tret these symptomes?
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It feels like sleep deprivation really but even if i sleep ok it only feels worse the day after. And i wake up really suddenly now and never feel like i had any deep sleep or dreams like i used to. I just sort of wake up and start walking around and realize i feel detached form reality sonrtimes. Sorry for the spelling and grammar i am tired and on my phone
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>>17506765
Make sure you have good sleeping posture, and ffs stop drinking coffee, sleep is important.
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Get some blood tests just in case. Otherwise, get a regular sleep schedule and eat adequately. Make sure you're not hypoglicemic or something. Meditation may also help.
This 9/5 until you die life is not for me, I'm starting a second job soon and just planning to save £10,200 for 5 years in one account and 2,400 in another. After 5 years I'll have a £51,000 nest egg and £12,000 extra in savings, £63,000 in total.
After that 5 year period I'll just buy a sailboat using the second savings fund and sail away. I've always been drawn to the outdoors and exploring, I never had the tendancy to stay indoors for large periods of time.
I'm here just wanting to ask, should I follow my heart and take the leap? I'm not VERY educated in terms of academia, my highest qualification is half of a BTEC Level 3.
Should I just stick my middle fingers in the air and just take the leap? Better to die living the life you enjoy then slaving away, right? This is legitimately the biggest decision I have ever had to make.
Help /adv/
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>>17506638
There is another thread on this. Basically, you are going to run out of money within a year and kill yourself or get another shit job. You can't run away from drone life on 50k.
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>>17506638
It's extremely costly to maintain a sailboat. That amount of cash you plan on saving isn't going to go very far. If you really want to get away look into backpacking. More bang for your buck.
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>>17506646
I'll make the escape, just watch me.
>>17506651
I have heard from the experiences of other couples or individuals who sailboat around the world, that the cheap labour in some parts of the world allows them to have excellent upkeep on those boats.
Not only that, having the general knowledge on how to maintain the boat themselves also, anything from engine fixing to reparations needed from possible reef damage.
My ex gf cheated on me to come back with her ex... but one month ago she told me she loved me .... over the phone.
She also told me she loves him too ... (She is with him now, not with me)
Should I fight for or let it go ?
I have a feeling she's the one and if I let her go I will regret it forever. She seems to be lost ... I'm new to relationships so i'll take any advice or experience.
Share your story, ask me any questions ... thank you all.
Thank you all
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>>17506627
>Should I fight for or let it go ?
Let it go. These hoes ain't loyal.
I guarantee she'll come back to him when you'll have an argument.
Wanna know how we call a mexican cheater ?
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A cheeto ... !
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I once fell for a girl whom i thought it was THE ONE.
She did the same thing... Got back with her ex and after they broke once more, came back.
As the King Fool of the Dumbest Decisions, i accepted her. All went down, it was a great mess, never meant to be some romantic good story.
DONT DO THIS!
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>>17506627
how are you not getting new pussy ...
that's what I would do if my current gf cheats on me.
It'll help take your mind off the toxic exgf
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How big a red flag is no dating experience? 2016-08-28 18:52:43 Post No.17506618
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How big a red flag is no dating experience?
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To briefly sum up my sexual history: I've always been shy/defensive, so never had a girlfriend at school. Thanks to the social lubricant of alcohol I managed to lose my virginity fairly quickly at university, and had a few similar one-night stands. Then I had a semi-relationship with a girl - we were doing everything a boyfriend and girlfriend would do but never defined what we were, we were close friends and I trusted her completely, but then she ended it in a bit of a shitty way to be with someone else. This 'relationship' only lasted a couple of months (although we'd been friends for 2 years), but I reacted very badly to the breakup and went way further into my shell. It was 3 years ago, and I've not had sex since. I told myself that I wouldn't have one-night stands anymore and that I'd only sleep with a girl again when I had genuine feelings for her and, while this is true, it's also true that I've not been actively looking to meet girls, because of what happened last time.
I'd love to put it all behind me and have a real and fulfilling relationship, but I worry that my lack of experience will be a red flag. I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend, and I fear that if I admit that, the girl will think there's something wrong with me (and, to be fair, maybe there is). At the same time though, even though my bad experiences have been a result of the choices I've made, I do think I've been unlucky in the past and it's not completely my fault that I've never had a relationship.
So girls, just how big of a red flag is a complete lack of dating experience? What would you think/do if you met a guy you liked and he told you that he'd never had a girlfriend?
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>>17506618
I'm a guy, but here goes:
>defensive
Big red flag, it shows insecurity. Women like secure, confident men. Shit, I don't like defensive people one bit either, male or female.
> I worry that my lack of experience will be a red flag.
You've had more than many others had. Just act normal, like you're as experienced as anyone else. You don't have to either deny or admit to anything unless you're asked about it. If the subject comes up, act like you don't think anything of how experienced you are.
>I do think I've been unlucky in the past and it's not completely my fault that I've never had a relationship.
You don't need to excuse yourself about these things. Act like you're over your ex(es) and don't try to blame them. No one cares about them. Make yourself look good by not bitching about how you've been wronged. See: being defensive.
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>>17506683
Just for clarification, by defensive I don't mean I'm really oversensitive and prickly, I mean I just don't volunteer information or get close to people easily. Guarded is maybe a better word. But I do take your point.
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>>17506719
You do come across as defensive when saying stuff like this though:
> it's not completely my fault that I've never had a relationship.
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I've been talking to this girl I met on Tinder for almost a month, she's an international student from Vietnam attending the a local community college with plans to transfer to the local university (the same school I'm currently attending) after getting her associate's degree.
I asked her out about two weeks ago, but she gave an excuse, and then she put it off once more when I brought it up again last week.
What are the chances that she's kind of interested but nervous about meeting up with people she met online?
I'm kind of hoping she's just planning on meeting me in school once classes start this week, since I told her I was taking some classes at her school this semester...
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She's adjusting to a new country.
Maybe she's not looking for any serious attachments right now, and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings but, she also values your friendship.
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>>17506612
sounds like she's considering her options
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>>17506612
Sounds like she is using you to practice English.
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Anxious about studying 2016-08-28 18:46:23 Post No.17506592
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Past 3 years I was following a maritime study and once I got to my internship I realised I absolutely hated the lifestyle and it made me very unhappy. So I decided to quit and start over at age 22.
Now I will start an IT study, it starts tomorrow and I am very anxious. All kinds of questions arrive in my mind. What if I don't like the study, or the work later, what are the people like, etc.
I guess I feel anxious about a lot of things and I keep trying to flee and move my mind to other fields, even though I am naturally drawn to IT. I just don't want to be seen as the nerd either I suppose.
What to do? Another four years of study seem so long..
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>>17506592
Commit. This is it. This is your second chance. You are unlikely to get a third.
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>>17506592
>I just don't want to be seen as the nerd either I suppose.
Bill Gates probably got mad pussy and was laughing all the way to the bank at anyone who called him a nerd
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>>17506623
>Bill Gates was arrested for speeding in Albuquerque. He frequently was caught speeding in his Porsche 911. That day he was driving along with Paul Allen. The bail was set at a thousand dollars. Bill Gates, although only 21, was very successful in his early years at Microsoft, and was immediately able to post bail from his wallet full of cash.
His mommy got him mad connections though.
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How do you keep yourself productive and organised?
How do you plan your meals efficiently and keep them healthy and cheap?
How do you keep your house clean?
>inb4 I don't
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>>17506564
I know this is shitty advice, but just do it for some time and you'll get used to it. Worked for me
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>>17506564
All these questions have literal books written about them.
All I can tell you, universally, is "You take the time to do it and condition good habits."
Eating right is a matter of knowing the basics of what "right" is, which most people have at least a vague idea of, and then doing that.
With keeping shit clean - as far as I am concerned, having the minimum amount of shit and not letting crap pile up (if you eat at your desk, immediately take the dishes out and wash them when you get up, etc).
Anyway, answering this is kind of pointless.
Talk about your problem areas if you want.
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>>17506573
>shitty advice
No. That's exactly what OP needs to do.
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are relationships based on manipulation?
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some
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>>17506577
how do you differentiate relationships that are based on manipulation and those that are not?
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They shouldn't be. The ones that are, are the toxic ones.
Having said that, there is much middle ground, subtelity and graduality. For example, wanting your partner to change for better and making him/her do that would be considered by some as manipulation but I think everyone thinking straight would say that it is possitive.