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Are you actually asking if someone needs a passport to fly out of the country?

>>17505401
Do you even know what a passport is?

Passport is something I paid $180 on at the post office.

As an exact definition, no. I don't know what a passport actually is or why I need one to go to India.

Does my fiance need her own or can we skate by with just mine after we are married?

You stop.

Get ice cream you autistic homosex. There's a good chance the gas station attendant doesn't give a fuck

t. Gas station attendant

ice cream sounds p good right now

wonder if casey's is open yet

anyway OP you overthink things, I know what that's like and I know it's hard to stop

but when you catch yourself doing this, you need to just pause the thought train for a minute and make a decision even if it means just flipping a coin. again, much easier said than done, but keep working at it

>>17505310
>hurt broken
I meant heart lmao

No, the minute I get into a relationship, I get the insatiable urge to go out and fuck other guys. I just can't help it, OP, I just can't. I just want to fuck every guy I can.

>>17505314
Damn... Really makes you think.........

I would like to add that I have no actual trauma and it's not a single experience that keeps popping up in my head.

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I would prefer a solution that does not involve substance abuse by the way.

>>17505297
Some people are just able to forget their 'mistakes in hindsight'. But others not so much - you just have to accept that at the time, you acted perhaps too emotionally or in an ignorant fashion. You have to make peace with what you did and if you can take away some sort of lesson from it - you've done really well. As long as you have made an effort to change for the better, anyone who wants to hold your previous 'mistakes' over you are, quite frankly, cunts - so dont' worry about it.

I look back and think of all the dumb shit I've done, but I'm at peace with it because I think I did the best I could given the circumstances - I try to take an improvement away from it too (e.g. don't be so rash or emotional next time)

Give her a ton of money

>>17505303
That can't be all there is to it?

>>17505332
What, you think she's camming because it's fun? Every camgirl has her price

>>17505285
If you really loved your girlfriend, you wouldn't put her through whatever is about to happen. You would cut contact with this crush and just focus on your current relationship. You're clearly not happy with this girl, you're just comfortable.

>>17505285
If you have more interest in your crush then dump your current gf after you talked with your crush

>>17505289
>>17505302
OP here.
The thought star when she was on a trip and then come back and start a new job. We see us like once per month. And sex is like twice per month. I'm always there for her, and don't complain about this change on our lifestyle bc I know it's for better.
I'm not saying that sex is the most important thing on a relationship, just giving more info.
And I was totally unsure if I need to talk with oldcrush. I mean, can talk just like friends because we are friends and never be on a serious plan or pretending to be anything.
And all of this starts with a little weird dream. My gf make me happy. I'll try to adjust to this change quickly

You're a coward for wanting to kill yourself, not because you can't. Suicide is the easy way out, something cowards choose. Strength is improving your situation.

>>17505276
wow thanks for saying the thing everyone does. so helpful.

that's not what i asked for.

>>17505263
If you have to build courage, you don't want to kill yourself hard enough.

I'm pretty sure this is a common experience. Many of us have had sex with someone and regretted it or looked back on it with a feeling along the lines of 'what was I thinking?'.

I'm sure I've given others the same air with my one minute man shenanigans. Nothing to do about it.

As long as you didn't get an STD it's okay.

My one friend banged an uggo once and he got genital warts. Now THAT would be awful.

So look on the bright side.

Hopefully I didn't get a STD.

Also if the girl can walk normally, talk normally, and constantly says she is fine and everything is cool

Also there are still some things she consciously refuses to do and you don't push it

y/n

I wouldn't risk it.

Forget all that social crap and focus 100% on your studies

>>17505201
Can agree to this! OP stay away from parties, I heard big companys hire "fake" students to record any bad behavior. My brother ended up not getting a job at a software company because one of the empolyees gave the manager a recorded video of him drinking beer while wearing a diaper. Just don't go to parties and you'll be safe

>>17505201
>>17505244
Ah ok, I'll watch out about that.

Nothing you can do about it, people are suffering the world over. Welcome

>>17505186
Remember that she probably doesn't give a shit about you OP. Hard,but true. That's how I got through things. I'm young,but I'll share some of my experiences;


So,I went out with this lady I liked,and I mean really liked for a few months. Turns out she wasn't as great as I painted her out to be; insecure (First massive warning),inadvertently rude and somewhat ditzy. I convinced myself that she didn't have these qualities,even though I'd spent a while getting to know her beforehand. Others told me the same things,and I ignored them,like the idiot I once was. I'm still an idiot now; it's just I'm not a deluded one anymore. So we go out,and it all goes well for a few months...Until things started to fall apart. She starts distancing herself from me,making it out like I apparently made her choose between her,and her friends. It only escalated from there,with her friends even having their say in her life (aka ruling over it because she put their opinions above herself and all else). Then things got shittier. She started to like her ex again,some guy who treated her like shit a few years back. She tried damn hard to get his attention: pretending to like his hobbies,wearing contact lenses to make herself seem more attractive,etc. This all piled on me,over the space of a few months,because I loved this lady more than I'd ever loved anyone in my life at that point. My stomach killed too,I cried for the first time in a long while over her. Tried talking to her later on,and she just didn't want any of it. Fully decided on the fact that I was the worst person on Earth,even though she'd flushed things down the metaphorical toilet herself. She just...Stopped loving me. Said I loved her too much,which at the time I believed. Looking back,it probably was just an attempt at an easy exit,because I didn't matter to her at all. I just kept telling myself that she didn't give a shit about me,because she didn't; and I found new people to talk to,to fill the hole.

>>17506326
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You can do it OP. Show your smile. Remember that there are more fish in the sea,and that it's down to you to find them.

Show her that whilst you may be history, you're history to be remembered; not forgotten. Don't let her kick you whilst you're down,even if it doesn't seem that way. Don't expect anything,sympathy,empathy from anyone; It's only you and you alone out there.

you have a job?

>>17505141


I did but I'm currently too ill to work

you need to post where you live, like state/province/whatever level

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(2/2) ...but trying to get it together financially seems pretty futile too. I mean, I'm almost 30, at this point even if I do start seriously saving and investing now, I'll probably be in my 80s/90s before I can consider retiring, if ever.

Basically it seems that no matter what I do, I can never experience the kind of happiness of someone who just had a good start.

Now, all of this is so brutally cynical that of course it doesn't hold factually. It's easy to come up with counterexamples to everything I've said just from my personal experience and the people who've been in my life - but it's so goddamn hard to FEEL that way.

I need someone to really drill into me how wrong all these lines of thinking are.

It's not enough to know it from a logical standpoint, I have to get through to my heart. I don't know how.

bump, since this is still here in the morning

Why not live for a purpose?

If you've never travelled, i suggest you do it RIGHT after you graduate. Just gtfo of America, see how esstern philosophy looks at life. Meet strange and new people.

Im 23, and i know that eventually, once i lived out my youth thrills (dont feel so bad, ive never had a gf til college and i still dont have a car), i plan to adopt if i havnt impregnated a women yet and live my life for THAT child.

Ive learned to NEVER rely on women for happiness. It never works my man. Its this weird zone where you guys LOVE each to death, to the very next scene HATING each other, trying to hurt one another. Fuck that. It takes a very special partner, and who knows if she even exists

Someone took a kiss-greeting the wrong way? Tell me what you did fagget

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>>17505144

Okay.

So, I just back from an exchange. I had been having lots of fun but also I experienced many hardships as well that eventually came to effect my attitude.

When I had moved to my fourth and last host family, they seemed really cool. My last host father was the guy who got me there and was very happy to have me after seeing how much I studied the language by myself and used it amongst them. I was very fond of him and his family which consisted of him, the mother, and two boys around my age, however one of them was on an exchange as well.

When I had started to realize how abusive the father was, I started to get uneasy.

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>>17505166

I started to realize how forcefully desensitized the family was to his abuse, but the most harrowing of it all was how they had all at once would attack the mother and think of nothing of it. She would simply take it, and if and only if sometimes would say, "stop." I realized that they had mistreated simply because she turned out to be the bitch of the family (I started to use that word loosely after learning more about them).

Eventually, when the mom would want to go on walks with the dog who hated men because she got beaten whenever she did something wrong, she asked me to go with because the father wouldn't allow her to walk when it got dark. I was reluctant at first, but then I remembered the Yes-man attitude my exchange group had encouraged constantly and thought that I should go.

shut the fuck up and go for a walk if you want a "nightly existence alone in that city" asshole, this isn't your blog

>>17505107
how old are you OP? Genuinely asking because I feel the same in some respects

Have you tried getting a new fedora? Or maybe see if there are any new trenchcoats in your price range at Goodwill?